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Is it rude to ask to see private galleries?
October 09 2017
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RHP User
7 years ago
Not all attraction is physical, some find a cerebral attraction a higher priority in which case your request may well get you the boot. Further there are lots of wankers here who just spend their time requesting photos and are really a single guy behind a couples profile, for that reason many expect a bit of conversation to establish a connection before opening up the photo gallery. A final tip, it would serve your credibility well to put up photos of both of you. Have fun.
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RHP User
7 years ago
No. Might as well not waste each others time. However if they have public photos showing themselves then I don't think it's good to ask to see private in a first message. Just my preference - Posted from rhpmobile
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
"Why waste each other's time sending numerous messages getting to know someone" Are you fucking serious? It's called a conversation. THE very FIRST message you sent me you asked for my pg. Yet l had no idea who the hell l was talking to. It certainly wasn't numerous messages as you keep stating. One fucking message. You also stated in your second message that all the other people you ask don't have an issue with it. And yet now you saying your new. Make up your mind. Some of us women are not pushovers and people wonder why we give up replying. Wtaf.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
I'm really over couples with only one shown. Reap what you sow
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Who, very early on, (when making contact) want (and sometimes demand) to see ones private galleries. There are others that send you an unsolicited first message, which leaves very little to the imagination, in which their private galleries (generally containing mainly penis photos) have already been opened. As they have opened theirs, they then demand that you open yours (the nude private pics) and when you refuse or say that you are only prepared to open your face photos, well, the shit hits the fan, and they either throw their toys out of the cot and or block you. It’s always a good test of character ( in our opinion and based on our experience on this site ) to withhold something, for a while, that someone really wants (nude pics) . If they get all aggro then one knows that they have shown their true colours, and so one can avoid them. So is it rude to ask to see private galleries very early on after making contact with someone ? It would depend on the person and of course how one asks. For us, if it is clear that they are only after photos (generally nude ones) and get straight to the point about asking (demanding) to see our PG, then yes we feel that it’s rude. We generally only ever open our nude pics to people we have met in real life . As far as our face photos go, these we generally only open to verified profiles and after we have exchanged a few messages so as to gauge their character and our compatibility. We keep our face photos and our nude photos in two separate galleries. We are certain that some may think that we are rude, for not opening our PG’s at the drop of a hat. But then we are not here to satisfy the photo hunters ( who are a dime a dozen in here) and we make mention of this within our profile wording. This detest many, but not all. Does it bother us? Nope. We simply don’t give a damn. We are not prepared to compromise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I can understand people wanting to exchange a couple of emails just to get a feel of the other person before opening their private galleries. But I think that is totally fine, if you have opened your gallery you can ask to see the other person's.
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Tara72
7 years ago
I'm here to meet people, not the warm body they inhabit... whilst physical attraction is important it's not everything. Private galleries (for me) make up part of a "phased unveiling" as you open yourself up to a person you are getting to know. Asking up-front is classic picture-troll behavior... if you don't want to be mistaken for a picture troll, best not to imitate them :)
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
If I want to show you mine..... I damn well will...... and a couple of messages to ascertain if you're worth sharing them with is non negotiable. That's up to you to share your gallery but never expect others to wabt to share with you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
To give them immediate access to your PG with your first message, thats your choice. They have a choice as to when to give you access to yours. Personally I don't give immediate access, prefering instead to have some get to know each other messages first, because cerebral connection is just as important to me as physical connection.
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MissRedFox
7 years ago
And put enough pics in public so it was easy to determine if someone found me attractive enough to consider meeting me. I was sick of being asked to see it, people disappearing once they did (I used to hide my face) I still get asked to see my pg though and usually this will result in me losing interest quickly XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
7 years ago
Same as MsJonesy ... if I give someone access to my PG pics, it’s because we have made enough of a connection that I would be happy to meet up with them for a coffee or a drink.
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
Imagine you're a woman in a bar..... which is also an adult site. A long line of guys march right up to you and proceeds to say... "You look hot I wanna blow all over your tits, you'll love it" "I'm staying in xyz hotel room, all alone, I'll pay" "I'm so hard right now, I want to fuck" "I leave s blindfold at reception for you to wear, I knock on your door, you answer wearing the blindfold and a see through robe.... etc etc" "Hi I'm ABC..... plus long speech about myself" "I'm hung, thick and have stamina to go for hours..... like all the other guys in here" "You look good, here's half a dozen photos of me and my cock in the bathroom, I'm sure you want it, right?" "Do you have kik?" (See above for reason they want it) Or.... and this one is the most relevant one here .... Can I see your naked photos of you? Now, how do you feel? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for the opinions guys, all valid points that we will take into consideration from now on. To Freaky-Fun - grow up. There is no need to go on a rant like that in a public forum We never mentioned your name on this thread and as soon as we got your message response and realised you were not too happy we actually apologised and merely explained our opinion on why we asked first up and left it at that. Yes we are new here but in our first week we have sent and received a lot of messages so when I said 'we havnt had an issue with others sharing' that's what we were referring to. So your comment 'make your mind up' is not called for. Anyway don't waste your time coming back with another rude public post as we won't respond to anything else you have to say. We are a drama free couple and intend on keeping it that way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Yep!! You hit the nail on the head, yet again - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
MissRedFox - yeh that's a good move to save all the bullshit and time wasters and if that's the case with profiles then we don't ask. For us putting any sort of identifying photo in our public gallery is out of the question, as outgoing as we are when it comes to sex/kink and this lifestyle we are very private that's why we have 2 galleries like dynamic duo, one for face/g rated pics and one for X/R rated ones :) our profile is verified and I think from now on we will only chat/message/flirt with other verified profiles as well - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
But I think it’s rude if those that ask can’t accept a polite no as a response.... Not that this really affects me, all of my pics are public and I don’t have cock shots or anything else that requires them to be hidden - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Phoenix
7 years ago
Respect is earned. You won't get my private galleries unless we have chemistry, some decent conversation and mutual needs from our profiles. If a woman allows me access without a few messages first your not my type, more so if there overtly sexual. Lingerie, sexy cheeky photos I can handle. i have though shared my pics to some regulars on the forum so I'm not just a keyboard warrior. Of all the women With whom I've shared conversation and sexy chat very few have seen my 2gallery. Probably more in person than Pics. I'm sure there's a few with me on that point alone. Mystery... mmmm Maybe more girls might come my way if I'd share my raunchy ones. But I wouldnt be true to myself, so I don't. BB - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Totally agree the_antichrist and we would never be rude to anyone who declined to open their private album - it's their choice - that being said if people can't give a polite 'no' (or hell even just ignore us) but rather they choose to be unjustly rude to us then yeh I'd prolly have something to say about that :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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hotdelights
7 years ago
We didn't mind but why put them there in the first place to get a connection besides u find most r over 5 yrs old we updated ours but decided to take them off as we ended up being guest so NEXT time u ask for pic ask r they recent
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
You might want to re-read the messages you sent.
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
On this and other sites, if it is me making the approach I first give them a basic ''hello'' spiel, then wait to see if I get a response. If they do respond and request to see my private gallery, I open it up for them no worries. If someone approaches me and wants to see my private gallery, it's always a ''you first, then I'll go''. I've never opened them on a first message though, regardless. This usually sorts the pic hunters, impatient little shits that they are, out straight away. Like another here, I have had people actually demand that I open my private gallery. Not on this site though.
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
Your photos don't do you justice, you looked gorgeous on Saturday night 😘
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RHP User
7 years ago
Depends on how much vision is available, whether I trust that vision, and I don't usually if it's all hidden in pg or the male is, and if they replied after seeing your pics and the context of their reply message. So many variables. Because I usually have plenty of vision in public, yes I need to see them before I will even talk to them. I agree it's a waste of time, or actually not even safe, to be talking to people you haven't checked out/verified properly. I won't engage in conversation until I'm sure I'm not dealing with a fake. My profile, my life, my choice. Just do what you're comfortable with and accept rejection graciously. The lack of pictures of the two of you together and the Mr in your public gallery is more of a problem IMO
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RHP User
7 years ago
I really don't understand why people would put old photos of themselves up. I mean really who hasn't had at least 1 photo taken in the last couple of months? If you don't think you have any nice ones how hard is it these days with all the technology to just take some until you find one you like :) Having old photos that don't look like you do nothing but set people up for disappointment. If we agreed to meet a couple and then they looked nothing like their photos I would probably be really blunt, tell them how it is and leave. Some may say that's rude but deceiving people and wasting people's time is also rude so if you play that game thems the consequences in our opinion - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I_touch_myself_2 - Mr banks is not in the public gallery because he has 2 large very identifiable tattoos on both forearms and so far my photo editing skills have not been great - but comment taken aboard will work on getting one of him in there :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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smo669
7 years ago
I have no issue with showing my pics to anyone I'm chatting with. I understand there must be some physical attraction. You can always turn off the access if the favour is not returned.
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
Perfectly acceptable to have a pic of both together....with clothes on. Long sleeve will cover his tatts. Crop heads if anonymity in your public gallery is desired, thats perfectly fine. Give your viewers some idea of who you are...and that you are indeed a couple (sooo many fake couples profiles around here 😕)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes, what MsJonesy said, clothed is fine, just shows you are a couple and gives an overall picture of you. More individual pics could be added as well, always helps building initial trust I think 👍
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BrightBubbly
7 years ago
If a couple send me a message I expect that they have a picture of both of them in their profile. They are ok to open their private gallery if they prefer but as I have numerous face photos of me then I will not open my gallery for them to look at. The same goes with single guys. I love that flirt "I think you are hot, what do you think of me" and they have no photos at all. I do love to reply "OMG, you are so hot, we should hook up and have babies together..."
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megz85g
7 years ago
Is not even a hello, it's just 'can I see your pics?' That is a definite no. I also have enough to see what I look like without needing to see my tits and more to know if you are attracted. The extra bits are just a bonus 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
But personality we would rather get to know people first. If the first or second message from someone asks us to grant gallery access that is a sign they may not be genuine. - Posted from rhpmobile
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71Camaro
7 years ago
We have to stipulate "face pics" because we have learnt that if we don't, we get pics of genitals. Which is fine if we met "naked". We are quite happy to share face pics after we've established that we all want the same thing. Dont get us wrong, we have been "rejected" and replied with "no worries, happy hunting". Mrs replied to 1 male ( which is stated in our profile we aren't looking for ), a polite "no thanks " to which he replied with "I don't want time wasters". Seriously mate, can u not read ?? I guess it comes down to making sure u like the profile u read, establish a conversation base and maybe then ask for pics. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Isacruising
7 years ago
Photo hunters Or those who quickly ask for access then nothing Blocked very quickly after Small town is a big problem as well
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RHP User
7 years ago
If its their first question then we don't grant access. If we've been chatting a while then we give them access. We've only had one couple who then weren't happy because we didn't have nudes and stopped talking. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Freaky_Fun' "Why waste each other's time sending numerous messages getting to know someone" Are you fucking serious? It's called a conversation. THE very FIRST message you sent me you asked for my pg. Yet l had no idea who the hell l was talking to. It certainly wasn't numerous messages as you keep stating. One fucking message. You also stated in your second message that all the other people you ask don't have an issue with it. And yet now you saying your new. Make up your mind. Some of us women are not pushovers and people wonder why we give up replying. Wtaf. This is gold!! So OP has been caught out. Go hard Freaky x
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RHP User
7 years ago
I originally was on RHP with my husband who used to "screen" for us. When I joined on my own well lets just say I learned pretty fast about giving access to my private gallery straight off. Apart from the perves who just wanted access for whatever reason which I am sure you can guess, I now only give access to guys who I have had a few messages from and chatted to a bit. Lets say I have done a lot of blocking and withdrew a lot of access. Now I am RHP savvy and pretty happy with the journey so far. Goodluck guys and I hope you enjoy this journey as well
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