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Is it the right thing
July 26 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
My belief is that if you are romantically interested in this woman, no matter what the age gap, then the hell with what other people think. Not always easy to live it though. I remember after being separated for a few months (knowing the marriage was well and truly over), somehow I still felt strange being on a date, in my own mind it felt like I imagine cheating would. It was an adjustment I had to make, all in my head. The phrase "young at heart" springs to mind. At times I can be playful, silly even and I don't want that to change. Make the most of everything you can. Even the possibility of love is always worth pursuing, so I say pursue the relationship and find out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Isnt she 35.....thats not young shes a woman. I was speaking to a friend the other day who told me of another friends 22 year old marrying a man 20 years older than her.....That is wrong, because I dont care what you say a 22 year old has a lot more living to do and in a different generation style that a 40+ year old. I know my ex was 10 years older than I and I missed out on so much.Chev its all in your head...........enjoy this while you can it may not last. And dont be paying for that shopping otherwise shes only there for one reason $$$$
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RHP User
11 years ago
you may need someone to push your wheelchair for you later in life and the younger the pusher the better.
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Curious1965
11 years ago
You ask a very good question. At 47 I am on the same side as you so I also wonder but I think you should enjoy the moment. Your freind can make her own decisions- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
... and never will be. There will always be girls who are attracted to older than themself and vice versa. If you respond to and the attraction is mutual, to hell with what others may think. Its got nothing to do with anyone else but the 2 of you. Im one of them guys who is fortunate enough to attract younger over the years and dont regret a thing. These days I prefer 30 + and really dont care much what others think. If they have a problem with that , that really is their problem, and need to deal with it the best they know how. As I always say. I look at a girl as a person first of all , not as a potential bed partner. If nature kicks in and both are consenting , so be it..
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RHP User
11 years ago
God she is only 15 years younger than you, get over it! If it worries you that much, it just means you aren't happy in the relationship so end it. If you are after pats on the back, tell us about the relationship in yet another thread! The only time I think poorly of a couple with a diverse age difference is when one (normally the older of the couple) dress and act, often badly and embarrassingly, way younger than they should be. I have a friend (from here) who is around 20 years older than her husband (40's and 20's) and they are a wonderful couple so it does work - but then they don't care what people think or say. They are happy and to them, that is all they care about.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi.... I know plenty of couples , some married some not, who are in long term relationships that motor along very nicely.Age differences are, +9 + 11 + 17 and + 21 all except 1 are very happy in their life choice . So we cant really judge everyone by our own life experiences .Of course I know nothing of your personal experience as every relationship varies. But I dont find your age difference of 10 years all that wrong. If you do things together and share the same interests, it can go well, but if the opposites happen, its all over rover.Im not being critical btw. It takes all sorts to make this world go around. The high divorce rate attests to that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What happens when you have been naughty and she faces your wheelchair away from the duck pond
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I'm not at all sure why you're asking whether RHPers think it's the right thing.... ....you're already doing it, and you're unlikely to stop if anyone in here says to..... Your conscience is obviously uneasy, but the volume of other topics and comments you've made all point to the fact that you choose to be with younger women. So I wonder.... why are you really asking?! DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why ask us? Why not ask her? Or better yet, just enjoy what you have and if it works out, it works out! Just enjoy it and stop analysing it.And are you really still carrying on like you are 20???
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RHP User
11 years ago
You were you still looking for someone?? Man I'm confused... 😕- Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
I ask here because we here ,have a wider outlook on life and are not squares or prudes. Very true the opinions here will not affect how I think or feel I am just asking so I have a wider range of thoughts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'So I wonder.... why are you really asking?! Chev, it does sound like your just bragging to me. And if this really is about the 35 year-old (I hope she doesn't mind you saying some people here know who you're referring to), she is hardly a "younger gal "you should feel "weird" about dating.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' I ask here because we here ,have a wider outlook on life and are not squares or prudes. Very true the opinions here will not affect how I think or feel I am just asking so I have a wider range of thoughts. Referring to your statement in red: so you start a thread to ask a question that you have previously asked before yet admit that whatever we, as the community say, you will take no heed of anyway. We get it, you are shagging a younger woman, well done. Now just shut the fuck up about it or some here will think the entire thing is a made up fantasy of yours.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' I ask here because we here ,have a wider outlook on life and are not squares or prudes. Very true the opinions here will not affect how I think or feel I am just asking so I have a wider range of thoughts. Referring to your statement in red: so you start a thread to ask a question that you have previously asked before yet admit that whatever we, as the community say, you will take no heed of anyway. We get it, you are shagging a younger woman, well done. Now just shut the fuck up about it or some here will think the entire thing is a made up fantasy of yours.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... for the double post, no idea what happened there (and I wish the RHP GOD or GODESS in charge) would implement a way to edit or delete a damn post for occasions like this .....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh , Chevy , Chevy , Chevy .. It appears that you you have The Golden Goose right in front of you! & you can't see it !!! GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Having a younger chick by your side was a status symbol. I'm going to reevaluate my priorities.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I said love,I said pet,I said dear...drop that youngster at once and do as you're told and get down to the C.W.A...the old dears are awaitingNellie x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go for it chev - dont worry what people think, it's your journey not theirs! I've dated an older woman (35) - and know how you feel (only reversed).You'll get over the slight uncomfortable feeling you get in public quickly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of course you're going to get some strange looks taking your 1970's blow up doll to the shops to buy clothes! What's got us confused is how it wasn't an issue while dining and dancing?
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I was inferring Jay is at their ages there shouldnt be a difference as she has done her partying and teenage stuff. I was very young and missed out a lot.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good to see you back on the forums Mooka
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RHP User
11 years ago
is to stop bragging about it..... mooke and Mesmerised have pretty much summed up my case...hope you get to read this Chev, my last message to you was deleted bu RHP staff lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Quoting 'chevtrek' I ask here because we here ,have a wider outlook on life and are not squares or prudes. Very true the opinions here will not affect how I think or feel I am just asking so I have a wider range of thoughts. Referring to your statement in red: so you start a thread to ask a question that you have previously asked before yet admit that whatever we, as the community say, you will take no heed of anyway. We get it, you are shagging a younger woman, well done. Now just shut the fuck up about it or some here will think the entire thing is a made up fantasy of yours.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I'm not at all sure why you're asking whether RHPers think it's the right thing.... ....you're already doing it, and you're unlikely to stop if anyone in here says to..... Your conscience is obviously uneasy, but the volume of other topics and comments you've made all point to the fact that you choose to be with younger women. So I wonder.... why are you really asking?! DG- Posted from rhpmobile ummm ..... errrr ..... *scratches head*
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love the "some of you know who" bit. Show of hands anyone?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Too much oxygen !
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RHP User
11 years ago
And Chev, really did you care what anyone thought about you when you were in your twenties? So why worry now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm going to throw a different slant on it. Are you just in it for a few fun times, NSA??? OR are you thinking that you could get serious with this girl-because it DOES matter. Whilst 15 years isnt a HUGE age gap-it is a different generation. Has she been married yet? Had kids? if not does she want to? what if you two get serious and she gets clucky? if you intend to keep seeing this girl and the potential is there to get serious long term, I think you need to address these issues sooner rather than later. You may be at totally different times in your lives, at 35 shes probably still going out most weekends, at 50 plus will you still be wanting to do all that? you've mentioned before that you are already retired, and want to lie on the beach fishing etc...is this going to fit into her lifestyle too? Its not JUST about being compatible, there are many things to consider. My parents had a 20 yr age gap, and it didnt work, Dad was 50 when i was born, and had died by the time i was 19. If you have negated these tricky conversations and are on the same page-then go ahead, but if you havent yet, and you are thinking long term, then forego dinner and dancing for a romantic heart to heart.
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sweetgem
11 years ago
"Don't say anything if you don't have anything good to say", and make this comment! Honestly, I don't believe a thing that Chev says and has said in many Forums threads, which were created by the OP! Why? Because all the things that he had said so far didn't sound realistic at all! Yes there are some young or younger age women out there whom like to interact and/or hook up with a lot older age men, but not so many trust me! Even if they did, they were mainly in it for a non-sensual, non-emotional, but short term monetary purposes anyway given the way Chev had met them! Yes I sound judgmental here, but hey I'm a 34 year old and I absolutely have no interest in chatting to a man who is in my uncle's age, let alone to be genuinely dating one! Hence, Chev's been making up stories to seek attention! By the way, Chev didn't say how old was his date, so she might not be that 35 years old woman he mentioned before. She might be a lot younger and could possibly be in similar age to his children (if he had any), that's why he's so concerned! *eyes rolling*!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
CHEV..................... sounds like the path so far hit's the spot's and mate........ as long as those you encounter can count on your respect and open fun nature to shine...i honestly wish i could say the same when/if i reach 50......... the only advice that ive found to be 100% true is in some way or another we all seem to get what we ask for in life..... yet often find once we get it maybe we wished we hadnt........ hehehe...... your topic rang out loud at me and i said out loud.....FUCK YEAH....... so in the general sense i say keep living loving and enjoying ya life the best ya can ay matey......... CHEERZ....... INKEE
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RHP User
11 years ago
HEHE.....the funny thing is that we aint here to investigate whether a certain profile always seems unrealistic........ so fukking what if its only existence is to ruffle some feather's that seem so easily ruffled......hehehe..... read the post and either contribute to it in a way that doesnt imply the obvious quirky and mindless nay saying and negative connotation's.... im certainly no rhode's scholar but i could read through some and without picking on the person's angle it's blatantly obvious from their own word's where it belong's....... im normally in the chat room'z being silly so im very aware my poor replacement of said place is turning to absolute dribble if not already from start to end...... cheerz
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RHP User
11 years ago
And your problem is what chev? We have move way beyond the 18th century draconian moral issues/lifestyle. Yep there are some people who will frown and quietly whisper in each others ear in public about look at that man with the younger woman oh no its not his daughter, so bloody what they are just the jealous prudes that are secretly wishing they were in your shoes. Mate if it feels right just go with the flow, I have a very very good FWB that is 13 yrs younger than me we go out on dinner dates ect ect, stuff what other people. She knows my feelings for her and that in a heart beat I would love for it to go beyond the FWB if it wouldn't cause way to much grief in her life.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Chev - ask yourself "Does this make me happy?".Who are we to judge people, if they are happy.Just do what you want to do..However don't brag about it.Bragging is not a very nice trait.Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ding26'I'm going to throw a different slant on it. Are you just in it for a few fun times, NSA??? OR are you thinking that you could get serious with this girl-because it DOES matter. Whilst 15 years isnt a HUGE age gap-it is a different generation. Nicely done.
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Last year at 50 I did skydiving and skiing for the first time in Victoria. Yes I still go clubbing and enjoy crowds and this includes the music festival. But I am still adult enough to give a serious answer to a persons questions and would never give childish answers like blow up dolls. Some of your replies back up why I have trouble dating my own age its because my own age act to old or boring. If your life is dull it is because you choose to be dull or money prevents you from doing things my motto is you have one life so hell live it. So if you cant give a serious adult answer to a serious question then like the song ----say nothing at all--Rowan Keating. DJs rule...LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are you advertising this fact or are you truly uncomfortable with the thought?If you are happy with this person why ask us? It should not matter to anyone else but yourselves, unless it is actually affecting or hurting anyone else why worry?
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RHP User
11 years ago
The line in Ronan Keating's song is: "You say it best when you say nothing at all." Sound advice.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well honestly if you don't want to read people answers - then don't ask!!! You should know by now that some people just don't take you seriously in here. Pusscat
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Inkee yumyum thank you and enjoy the fruits of life--live it. Mesmerised----yes I do know the whole title of the song The fact I go out and do it and not just talk about it might be bragging or that I choose to still enjoy life and party weekends with the younger crowd. Well then as Doctor Phil says there is no normal be you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like Cristal_1990 answer the best. LOL!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
is consistent,he has been here for yonks and I always find his posts entertaining....at the very least. The moral high ground is always a slippery slope peeps ....interesting I think, that such broadminded people can be so judgemental....sure sometimes Chev invokes the cringe factor ,but ask yourself why.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Half your luck m8, don't for a moment think I look it but I'm over the "35 y/o" age bracket myself, which most seem to pick as a random number so little hope a younger woman's going to storm my doors.If she is ok with it and she is mature so should you be, some women like an older male's outlook on life and find it appeals to them dating an older bloke.Relax with it, if she changes her mind and the interest wanes, she'll let you know.jas
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RHP User
11 years ago
you are 1 weird looking dude!
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madotara69
11 years ago
Fuck the money, it is not worth the time. Sorry chev, but money is not so important for what really is so important. You can't buy passion, you can't buy lust, you can buy some attention if you must. But don't blame lov'n a good woman is needed by money, fuck them right and they will live with 10 cents for your worth. Treat them proper and see what you can get for a dollar. Be there and make a cup of tea in the morning and some toast, it is priceless.But money ain't love.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Feelings are fickle and can change in a heartbeat If the possibility of love exists then isnt it worth pursuit ? They say love conquers all it is the brightest spark of all things, love is the true voice of the heart ~ lead with your head but never forget to listen to your heart ~ I reckon fuck what the others think and go with what is right for you age only means something if you make of it something otherwise it is never a issue Happiness isnt that worth more then anything else in the world and if you have found it isnt it fighting your all to keep it? Fuck thier opinions haha :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have 17 Years between us and we have a ball! Mr D doesn't worry about the gap, after 11yrs it just isn't an issue. We have both learned a lot in that time, me how to grow up, and him how to stay young.... Like the old saying goes "you're only as old as the woman you feel" ;-) So, chevtrek, all I'm trying to say is enjoy the moment... live, laugh, learn to go with it! Ms D xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Me 47, my lovely wife 33 married over 15years nothing more to say except we water our relationship garden everyday and don't give a rats arse what others think. Did we miss out on anything........yep we should have met earlier.Plenty of people gave us no chance of staying together let alone raising 6 great kids, so glad we chose Shania Twain "your still the one" for our wedding song because it still rings true. Just for you baby xoxox
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do what makes you happy, don't worry about what people think, life's to short to be worried about what people think of you. I've been it that situation a few times and honestly If your happy and she's happy then go with it. If she is 35 she knows the deals and if she wasn't she wouldn't be doing this type of thing with you. Just don't ruin a good thing because of your doubts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good day ime 51 and yes i hear you i think people put to much on the age gap I believe if you realy like some one go for it after all at the end of the day its what you to want nothing else if people have a problem with that well they should get a life hapiness is based on feelings not age so good on ya.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' Last year at 50 I did skydiving and skiing for the first time in Victoria. Yes I still go clubbing and enjoy crowds and this includes the music festival. But I am still adult enough to give a serious answer to a persons questions and would never give childish answers like blow up dolls. Some of your replies back up why I have trouble dating my own age its because my own age act to old or boring. If your life is dull it is because you choose to be dull or money prevents you from doing things my motto is you have one life so hell live it. So if you cant give a serious adult answer to a serious question then like the song ----say nothing at all--Rowan Keating. DJs rule...LOL You're dating 20 somethings and you're telling us to grow up???
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm a romantic and when I hear people speak negatively just because of the age gap I cringe. Our brains stop developing at what, the age of 25? Sure there are life experiences that make us mature and mold us into who we are - but as long as you dont give power to the insecurities derived from your age gap, I can't see it being an obstacle to your pursuit of happiness. If there is something there chev dont hold back. Maybe she is the love of your life - or maybe she is just a part of your journey. Either way it is within your power to make it constructive. Keep in mind it is your journey, noone elses. It was mentioned someone had a similar experience with their parents. It is sad your father died when you were such a young age - but does that mean your mother and father were never in love, or shared happiness together? For myself I had two parents who did not love each other. They had a conventional age difference. I personally think age difference is one of those over rated things. I have seen older women - and I can say I have become a much better person as a result. What you can gain and learn from younger/older generations is priceless and should be encouraged as opposed to dismissed. Imo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Has anyone read or seen benjamin button? I think this book/film adds an interesting perspective on this taboo of a subject.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Say no to double posting...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey, check our profile.. We work and eventually you will learn to get a kick out of people's reactions.. More often then not, they are the ones who feel awkward because they don't know what to say or where to look.. Just look them in the eye and smile.. I love to show my man off.. Good luck River x- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
While this appears to be an open minded and accepting society… To live in freedom is to not ask the questions… but to lead by an example… But to live in reality is to be moralistic and yet bald enough to ask the questions… As long we keep empowering each other, age difference should never matter and realisations will come forward based on our abilities to draw them… and that is when we part into more happier life. In such case (yours) good for you and good for her… money is not an object but she isn’t one either…
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RHP User
11 years ago
The young are easy to impress with the wisdom of an older Person, luring their keen minds..(BTW - was it Candy the 3hole wonder doll with 6 horny phrases and real horses hair?)
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RHP User
11 years ago
In our opinion anyway.. We have had some amazing experiences with people older by a fair bit and also some fantastic times with people quite a bit younger than ourselves. We have at times wanted people in a certain age bracket, but it was our fantasy and wish for that. Ade is not the reason we meet with people, in fact it really has no bearing on who we meet. Younger, older or a mix of both has no relevance. Relax, enjoy and have fun. S & M
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RHP User
11 years ago
There's a simple formula to use as a socially acceptable age gap. Get the age of the oldest person. Divide it in half. Add seven. That's the socially acceptable age for the youngest. So for you being 50. You can date anyone above 32.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Azza1992' There's a simple formula to use as a socially acceptable age gap. Get the age of the oldest person. Divide it in half. Add seven. That's the socially acceptable age for the youngest. So for you being 50. You can date anyone above 32. thats the thing Azza, he openly admits to dating/sleeping with 20 somethings.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'ding26'I'm going to throw a different slant on it. Are you just in it for a few fun times, NSA??? OR are you thinking that you could get serious with this girl-because it DOES matter. Whilst 15 years isnt a HUGE age gap-it is a different generation. Nicely done. Thank you....a little too close to home
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RHP User
11 years ago
Chev. Did you ask the girl if it was Ok to show a pic with you. Mee well. Mods look at your screerning process It SUCKS
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss'I think it's 'euroPEAN' Unless you mean 'eurOpian', as in, rhymes with 'fallopian'.)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Silentlust' Quoting 'EuropianBliss'I think it's 'euroPEAN' Unless you mean 'eurOpian', as in, rhymes with 'fallopian'.) Check out my Usernames forum, and you'll see EuropianBliss does not make mistakes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'Silentlust' Quoting 'EuropianBliss'I think it's 'euroPEAN' Unless you mean 'eurOpian', as in, rhymes with 'fallopian'.) Check out my Usernames forum, and you'll see EuropianBliss does not make mistakes. All the better not to get into too much tribble
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to be the typo queen and the idea of having 'sex tribbling down my leg' is perfect, love it! Google tribbling/tribbing :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
:)
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