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Is swinging only for size 12 and under at the end?

July 03 2017

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As I'm new to all this I do have a couple of questions. Me and my hubby had a couple of experiences at the past but t was all random (we were out for and a drink and we just clicked and it happened). We are both really keen on trying new things and want to experiment but... all the events I'm looking have only an hour with clothes on and then it's no clothes. What if I still want to find out if the whole game is for me but I'm not quite ready yet? We are both not really fit but not fat people. For sure I'm not a size 12 that is required for most of these events (I don't think I can fit a DD in a size 12 dress anyway!). So I was thinking, what if I feel sexy, I want to play, or at least find out what it is that me and my partner want, but not feeling comfortable and welcomed at these events? Does that mean that if you do not have the body of a model you are not welcomed? I thought of meeting with another couple first for drinks but what if that is even more awkward? After all there's no chemistry with everyone! I'm looking for it for over a year now and so far I'm only looking and not touching because I'm afraid of showing up on a club and being rejected at the door!

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  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    7 years ago

    Well actually all the clubs I have been to world wide you will see different sizes. And what you are thinking it is not! The advantage that you guys have is that you are a couple. So you are in the door. Once inside you will truely see what is really sexy. You will see all types of body types inside who are comfortable with themselves and ooze sexyness. And the rest of the night you have to talk and mingle. Remember everyone has someone who finds you sexy. Just have to find them in the club once ur in

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    they'd reject you at the door. If they did, they'd need to be called out over that. Who are they to say who will appeal to others? Size isn't the only factor that may make people uncomfortable removing all their clothes once entering a club. It's a turn off for many people, you're not on your own there. I believe partly dressed, in that situation, is way sexier than fully naked. The seduction still needs to be there, time to allow people to mingle, see if they hit it off with someone/more than one, then get naked when and if appropriate, when and ONLY you are comfortable. So long as people are dressed nicely, I think the decision to remove clothing or not, depending on how your night pans out, should be entirely at your discretion. Just my thoughts but don't let your size put you off. Have you contacted any clubs to ask them about their requirements?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I had similar concerns because of my age, all the events and club age 'suggestions' seemed to be up to 45. I soon realized that was a preferred age range but will most times go well outside that. All else fails, arrange your own group meets Start off with just a few until you're comfortable withore 😃

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    with more

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Sorry hogging 😊 asking larger people to strip down to lingerie can be, not for all but can be, just as uncomfortable as being completely naked, and not always defined by size, lots of people are uncomfortable with that

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  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    7 years ago

    We have been to several swinger clubs (19 times to the one ) and private swingers parties, over the past 4 1/2 years. None of these made any mention that only size 12 or under could attend. At none of them were you forced/encouraged to dress down / undress. In our experience, at the above mentioned clubs / parties , slimmer / thinner / athletic / petite women (single & coupled) were by far in the minority and rare to find, as were younger women. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Most parties and some clubs do encourage people to dress down. But they are sex parties not meet & greet nights which can be different. I would often ring the organizer where possible and ask about the rules and clientele before going, if the organizer sounded welcoming, friendly, organized, etc then I felt more comfortable in going. If you don't like it you can always leave. In my experience private parties or organizers that hold the smaller parties will have quite a mix of people. Ages and size.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I do know of parties where all people are required to get naked pretty much straight away. These are quite fun and wild parties and only people who are comfortable with that attend. Every other club or party I have been too with a dress down policy usually means dress down to underwear or sexy lingerie, it doesn't mean fully naked. But like I said - check first. :)

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  • megz85g

    megz85g

    7 years ago

    A size 12, or 14 or 16 even. I regularly go to swingers clubs and have never had any negative comments, I've actually had more from people on sites such as this. It's all about being confident , and rocking what you have got. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Freaky_Fun

    Freaky_Fun

    7 years ago

    Since when has a size 12 or under been a requirement, if that was that case most clubs would be empty. I love the fact that people of all shapes and sizes attend and no one gives a fuck. All women are gorgeous regardless of size and it's about time they realised that.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Really guys checking for events, yes mostly clubs, it says on the requirements that you have to be size 12 or under and after the first hour have a dress down policy( sorry if I misled you to nudity). So I was wondering. I do feel comfortable with my body and my sexuality but to be honest After I've received a good vibe from my surroundings! But if you say that it is not an issue I feel really relieved! Now I might finally get the decision to actually go to an event!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I'm seeing a larger woman ATM and we did discuss going to one these parties together.Im really looking forward to it so I hope size or age will be an issue! I.T.M.2 please read your messages

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    It's definitely not a requirement - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • cat_n_the_hatter

    cat_n_the_hatter

    7 years ago

    Yes, some places ask people to undress almost straight away and we don not like it either. I do not feel comfortable with the whole idea of someone's body being the representative of who they are. We would like to go and visit places, but not necessarily play or be on display...but it seems they keep those places for people who want to play, not just observe. I prefer M&G but there are not that many. I am wondering why do you think people size 12 or under would feel comfortable with that request? (Ms)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'cat_n_the_hatter' I am wondering why do you think people size 12 or under would feel comfortable with that request? (Ms) Oh I'm definitely don't think that anyone should feel comfortable with that request! That is why it really ticked me in a bad way seeing it on many events. Again I'm not talking about private house parties but for clubs, which for us it feels like something easier to start with. We are both really excited about the idea and our previous experiences were quite fan, but as I said we were out just for drinks and it just happened. This is the feeling that I'm looking for and how I want it to happen again, at least for the beginning, so I though going to a swingers club would be a great way to push/help my luck a little bit! :)

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  • swingalingson

    swingalingson

    7 years ago

    Wat size you are... To me you are a size YUM! I would give ya one with that inviting rocking sexy smile at any club. Just saying.. Sorry was thinkin out loud😔

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    What clubs say you have to be a size 12 or smaller? I've never heard of something that stupid. As for clubs stating that guests have to dress down, well that's their call. Some encourage it, others like "Sensationz" in Perth, claim to be a nudist/swingers club so guests have to strip off. Personally, I will never go to a club like that. I'm not a nudist and I find it very off putting to ask guests to strip off. But then again, it says it's a nudist club, so I guess that's the audience they are targeting. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I prefer slimmer guys and girls but I am military so train lots and am quite fit Love curves on a woman but not a huge butt lol Now don't get cranky or upset it is my preference I like guys that are trim and six pack is great but very rare and the guys with them on here seem to think they define who they are! I have smallish breasts so absolutely adore a lady with ample breasts

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  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    7 years ago

    I've only seen a size requirement advertised twice and both times it was on a private party invite. I'm a size 16 at the moment and went to a club last week, wasn't the biggest, wasn't the smallest...all sizes and shapes were there. go along and see what you think. great thing is you can always leave if you don't like it.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    or when at the party you are stunning and young ,with the best undies and heels and nobody want even have a chat with you?

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  • totally_normal

    totally_normal

    7 years ago

    We braved this club with trepidation at the dress down or nude recommendation. I chose my attire with care and once there felt no obligation to undress. Being SOR it was closest to home and being over 50 it seemed the most approachable. We were pleasantly surprised it was casual and laid back and like all clubs the consent rules are firm. We look forward to exploring the other clubs and meeting more couples. No pressure no expectations except to meet other awesome people irrelevant of size and age. - Posted from rhpmobile

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