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Is there a double standard for men with much younger women,is it socially unacceptable?
August 17 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have two daughters and one really does need a man that’s older to get her off her high horse. Plus I do not think a young man can handle some women, they do not have the subtle seduction chip in them This is not all men of course. Just that the addiction to porn and learning about sex from porn is epidemic in males today. The capacity to be intimate with women is getting lost in translation. As a matter of fact men are becoming impotent earlier than they used to as they are so over stimulated that normal loving sex no longer does it for them. I am the same I think, lack the capacity to be intimate but can fuck my brains out with impunity. But I want my girls to learn from an experienced man who will show them how to get pleasure and give pleasure. Younger women are really getting pushed into sex by guys these days, I went to a lecture the other night and there were young girls there and they said that the guys had put so much pressure on them and one even got date rapped at 17. Nice start to your sexual life, I know because my first was the same, a friend of a guy was dating, who offered me a ride home. I had just turned 18 , yes late starter. What was worse he bragged about it and I was the slut and my boyfriend kicked me to the curb. I was no longer the virgin he wanted to marry..dahhhh So yes for me, for older, wiser, kinder men.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes undoubtedly.....thats life, I could scaresly care less any more. There is little to be gained by getting hung up about it.I have no daughters....just sons. So I don't know.Personally I'm not agesist, so it depends on the person as an individual rather thantheir biological age.Although my range says 18 to 99, and I would be a hypocrite if it was anything else.It would also be accurate to say that the chances of finding common ground and a connection gets more remote the younger/older they are, by the time they get to 18 or 99I reckon that would be some kinda miracle for both sides.A 20 year age gap is not to much of a stretch, as far as I'm concerned, once youran adult with a bit of experience then age is not so relevant, at 30 a female reallyshould have her shit together, if she didn't I wouldn't be interested for very long.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
My daughter's 8 so if there were a man, twenty years her senior showing an interest, I'd hide the body when I was finished.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is not fair lady H I would love to meet someone in their 30s who was interested, and since I have no kids its not something I would be familiar with worying about. If I thought about how a father would feel I suppose I could use my imagination amd say I would be a little taken aback that my daughter would choose someone my age to be having sex with. But as she would be an adult and would probably tell me to mind my own business I am relatively sanguine about this question. Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is on this site as many already know. I do not care if she has a relationship with someone twenty years older than her at all. What ever makes her happy....because at 35 I assume she is adult enough to know her own mind. Age is a relevant thing though and in saying that.....I dont think I would like an 18 year old to be going out with a 38 year old. The life experience is too different at that age. But as we mature, the lines blur a little.
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Hesione,Interesting post and there are so many stereo types and pressures in society that it makes it difficult to be and find yourself. There will be plenty of people who will have a whinge etc at older / younger scenario. I have 2 daughters and baring anything illegal and they are at an age and emotional maturity to be able to make proper life decisions then at the end of the day only thing that matters its that both in the couple are happy.
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
Interesting post. My daughter is 22 & i can't imagine dating anyone her age or close to.Dating someone 20 years younger throws up some thoughts. Do they want kids, i don't want kids,when there 20 i'll be 72.Thats a grandfather age not a father age.Interesting in theory,in practice throws up some problems not faced by older woman,younger man situation
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have 2 daughters and feel both have been ripped off in the romance and love department. The young guys their age just don't understand subtle flirting and the gentler side of things. Its all or nothing and they want it NOW! Someone with a stable outlook on life would be a blessing. There's a lot to be said for the experienced man, who is both a protector and lover. SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Definately a double standard.. but I can understand people feeling uncomfortable about this..I never purposely go looking for younger girls. But if I happen to meet someone and the chemistry is right I only ever see her as person.. I always think girls 25 yrs and up are OK even though there was a girl last year who told me she was 22 after earlier telling me she was 26.. As far as a commited relationship goes.. No' I would never lead any younger girl on ... I dont think that is fair to either...Enjoing each others company is one thing.. continuing that onto a relationship is another... Too many variations to consider.. But live and let live... as long as no one is getting hurt.. all's good... Jay.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
My mother was younger then my father by 8 years and even at that age difference there is a worry. Young people need to realise having a younger lover can be good but what happens when the older partener need to be cared for and they are at their prime of their life. They become miserable,it is not easy looking after an older person. Good luck for the few that make it happily through a vast age difference.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do have a son. I think that if he had found a woman 20 years older, I probably would have been at least mildly shocked and indignant about it. Though I think my husband may have been amused! Having said that, my life experiences as a very young teenager caused me to pursue much older men, to me boys were not to be played with in any other manner than as kids played together as friends. Now it is very much different, as I thoroughly enjoy playing with men 20 years younger.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My parents would have been utterly outraged. I know for a fact my father would have attempted to shoot them if he had known, my mother would have wept for me. How my world has changed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Anyone my age who thinks they can have a serious relationship with a much younger woman, especially one who may still want children is a fool.But this is RHP not RSVPSo its about sex, and in that context age doesn't mean shit, both parties will have their reasons to desire the other and they will be as diverse as this site can provide, typically he is seen as the predator and she the victim ! Believe me the roles can be very easily reversed !I have been with a much younger woman who was intellectually stimulating, emotionally aware and fantastic in bed, Equally I have been the tick the old guy box with fuck all to talk about and me me all about me sex.And so what has age got to do with that ? Not much, that can happen just as easily in a closer age bracket. It's about the people. Yes it can be an ego buzz being with someone much younger, but it can also be a buzz dating an artist a doctor an athlete or an actress, we date different people for a host of reasons vivre la difference ! hmmm it's late and I ramble oh well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of some of the posters here that older men have so much to offer in terms of the depth of their sexual and sensual experience and their ability to truly create intimate connection with a woman. I haven't found a younger man yet that makes my heart flutter the way the self-assured, confident and very knowing words and touch of an older man do. Even then, I have limits. I'm open to a man up to around 10 years older, and I'm happy to keep an open mind about younger men, also 10 years or so. Regardless of age, I have to say that the trend in here of men bragging about their sexual talents is just yuk, in my mind. I've always been of the belief that if you do good work, the work will speak for itself :) So if I stumbled across a man who had that air of quiet confidence, some real depth and sincerity to his character and a sharp intellect, I don't know that age would matter after all. Some of the best messages I've ever received in here have been from lovely young men in their early 20s ... oh so tempting :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
A relationship doesn't necessarily have to progress to marriage. Most relationships end as do many marriages. I feel a relationship with a 20 year age difference is more a learning experience and not necessarily a life commitment. As others have mentioned, I can see problems with such a big age gap if married. When I was in my twenties and married to my then husband, his best mate had a relationship with a woman nearly 20years older than him. She did have trouble fitting in with our social group and the other girls always viewed her with suspicion. I would imagine that if the roles were reversed the older man may not fit in socially with her friends. I don't think she would be taken seriously by his friends either. SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seriously good post Hesione thank you !And really good quality thoughtful contributions from everyone else, what these forums are about !Love youse all !
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RHP User
12 years ago
...maybe not if he's my husband tho
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think that age is not a real problem. It doesn't matter if Woman / Younger Guy or Man / Younger Girl. It is foundamental how we feel toghether...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good post and good responses here. My father was married four times, each to women much younger than him though the gap closed as he got older. He was a charmer but then turned into a controlling person to each wife once he married them. Its a question of power in some cases. Note the overseas brides who marry guys wayyyyyyyyyyyyy older. I have seen some very bad mistakes with that kind of marriage and its caused a whole lot of grief for everyone in it. Your right in the social setting, I have two women friends. One is married to a guy twenty five years younger, they have been married 10 years and he adores her still, but she is getting a tad tied of the attention. Exhausted at times. The other her husband is 15 years younger and we never see him, she always goes to social functions without him. The problem is the judgements of others. In the first marriage as she was to old to have kids , she had one from her previous marriage. His family would say when are you going to get rid of the old woman and give me some grandchildren. The second , he just wants her and she is happy doing what he likes she does not have to drag him to places he feels uncomfortable with others making judgements about him. My husband was seven years younger than me, it worked just fine it was not age but other things that got us a divorce but we are still great mates and we mix well with all our old friends and new ones. Attitude of others causes most of the problems. I think most men when they are out with an younger woman, people say. Older men with younger women can get away with it if they are rich.
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RHP User
12 years ago
everyone,great thoughtful responses.Interestingly different to most older women younger men threads.It is always so easy to judge when we see couples with a big age difference ,my view tends to be similar to Tuscans,my father was 16 years older than my mother and they were happily married for 35 years On the other hand I have usually had partners who were either a similar age to me,or in one case much younger.x Hugs H ps 50zcool,I am dying to know,what do you have on your head?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Been there tried that, gave it up as a bad experience. Dated a lady 15 years my junior and although she was mature, we just had nothing in common. She still wanted to do things I had checked off my bucket list a decade ago. Lets face it, how many of you have a quiet laugh when you see some old guy arm in arm with a much younger woman, especially if the guy is desperately trying to look younger with the bad hair dye, clothes too young and driving a sports car lol Nope give me a woman around(ish) my own age, just makes things so much easier
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im in a serious relationship with a guy 14yrs my senior. All I can say is its the happiest Ive ever been! The guys that I had been involved with that were closer to my age group never satisfied me mentally or sexually and I have a tendancy of low tollerance to "men" who take far longer to get ready than me, check their hair/look in the mirror constantly or tear up at the slightest provocation. In short I like my men to be manly not the soft and in touch with their feminine side that are abound now. The other positive side is that he is accepting of my bi sexuallity, experiences with girls in the past and present and has not ever pressured to be involved in any way in that department, a point I believe guys closer to my own age wouldnt accept or tollerate. Its all part of the maturity and accepting part of his personality and understanding of who I am. As far as my parents point of view, they accept and dare I say adore him. Neither questioned my choice, im a grown adult and they have supported us as a couple from the minute they met him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Hesione' everyone,great thoughtful responses.Interestingly different to most older women younger men threads.It is always so easy to judge when we see couples with a big age difference ,my view tends to be similar to Tuscans,my father was 16 years older than my mother and they were happily married for 35 years On the other hand I have usually had partners who were either a similar age to me,or in one case much younger.x Hugs H ps 50zcool,I am dying to know,what do you have on your head? Body shop moisturiser and sunshine ! Must just be the light ? xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe I'm walking around with blinkers on, but let me, yet again, count the ways older women have it all over younger versions.....1. No more cycling (and I'm not talking pushbikes here!)2. Commonality of life experiences - something to laugh and cry over together.3. A softer, less angular body, which certainly does it for me (and I suspect for far more men than we realise).4. An appreciation for the shades of grey in decisions (and I'm not talking the 50 Shades either LOL).5. A tendency to cut to the chase - clearer expression of intent and appreciation of kindness.6. A less vain approach to potentially embarrassing situations - viz. dancing. Basically, who gives a toss about who is watching.7. Most importantly, they have (mostly) finally let go of chasing the bad boys. They married 'em, suffered 'em and divorced 'em. Glad I was patient (although my teenage years were tortured, as I refused to play the male "hanging around until the women were so drunk they would be anybody's", as I considered it utterly immoral then. I guess the "shades of grey" opinion would be that drunken women did that to deliberately reduce inhibtions, but I still can't play that game, to my own sexual notch detriment, just as in my teenage years.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ahhhh just your halox Hugs H
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm 26 and have had to hide an intimate relationship with a man 30 years my senior. Firstly, I am NOT ashamed of it, whatsoever, but the looks we got the ONE time we went out were mortifying... for both of us. He older than my dad and younger than my grandpa but he fucks like a champ and knows his shit!!! It's purely a sexual relationship and he mentioned if I were 15 years older things might be different. Definitley a standard set by society, not sure if it's a double standard or not because I know older women with younger men who get given the same shit as me... I just think society is a frigid bitch and needs a big fat dicking!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Age difference between MrF and myself is almost that. Our families on both sides are very happy for us because they see we are happy with eachother, end of story. The age in our case is irrelevant.I have been with younger, and older, my own age etc etc, MrF is the same. At the end of the day i guess its about the individuals :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's funny, when I was in school I always thought I was a lesbian as I had almost no interest in the guys our age. That was, until I met an older man, and it turned my supposed sexuality upside-down. The preference has still remained the same (for now) as when I compare my age group to older, the sex and intimacy has ALWAYS been better with older men. It seems that no matter how "pretty" or even how smart my uni boys are, they always seem to fall short of my expectations...and it all boils down to experience. Regarding a relationship, though, I would have to set a limit at 10 years my senior because like others have said having common age-specific experiences are pretty important for a balanced, egalitarian relationship. I do know a few couples and some of my friends' parents with a 10-15 year age gap who are in fantastic, long-lasting relationships, and one of my best friends is 30 and we have a crazy amount of things in common, aside from the aforementioned age-specific experiences.The attitudes towards younger women- older men relationships reminds me of a Friends episode, where one of the main characters is in a relationship with her father's friend. At a family gathering, she gets called a twinkie by the women and he gets called a champ by the guys.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Great post Hesione! I have altered my views on ages in recent years ... it's been gradual though. It's still rare that I am attracted to someone younger than me, although there are exceptions to that. There was a time when I would not have even considered someone 10 years older - that has definitely changed though and now I can see definite appeal to older men than myself. I acknowledge that as you get older and gain a greater 'sense of self', age discrepancies seem to matter less. Are the double standards shifting? Perhaps ... ..Where I surprised myself whilst reading this, was when I found myself agreeing with those mothers here with daughters who would prefer their children found an older man. After thinking about this, I do agree with what they say and why they believe it and yes, I would probably prefer my daughters also (when their time came, as they are still young), found men of substance and if society these days is any indicator, they are more likely to find one of those if he is older. Quite a bit older *shudder*.Flirty x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'beachbelle' Quoting 'honeybee0086' I'm 26 and have had to hide an intimate relationship with a man 30 years my senior. Firstly, I am NOT ashamed of it, whatsoever, but the looks we got the ONE time we went out were mortifying... for both of us. He older than my dad and younger than my grandpa but he fucks like a champ and knows his shit!!! It's purely a sexual relationship and he mentioned if I were 15 years older things might be different. Definitley a standard set by society, not sure if it's a double standard or not because I know older women with younger men who get given the same shit as me... I just think society is a frigid bitch and needs a big fat dicking! Happens to me too only the opposite way where the boys are 30 years younger than me. Ive been on various dates and dont find the mortifying looks that you do but I know how you feel. Having to hide it from my family just pisses me off no end but the boys are in the same boat too. Lifes a bitch hey? Yep :( in the mean time we can continue to have amaaaaazing sex and all those sheltered ppl can stick with vanilla mundane missionary. xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree - walking HJ, blah blah - stupid ppl discriminate us based on nothing other than jealousy, curiosity and a fear to step ouside the norm. idiots, i have amazing sex. give a rats about his age!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Fairs comments from all, nothing is really that big a problem with a 20 yr age gap ! Most issues can be over come. Except " I want a baby " That's the potential deal breaker for most large age gap relationships. That's the elephant in the room !
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have a son and a daughter and I'd be the same with both of them, but it would depend on their ages. My daughter's 15 at the moment. Let's say, by the time her next birthday rolls around, she starts dating a guy 20 years older. As much as girls like to think they'ree all grown up at 16, they're still kids and have a lot of living and developing (emotionally and maturity). I realise a lot of boys at that age are ruled by their hormones, but I'm lucky enough that my daughter still comes to me for advice and guidance. If she were to come to me about this guy, I'd be advising her to give it a few years and if she still wants to give it a go with an older man, then try it. I'd then be asking him what exactly makes him interested in a girl who, just months ago, was still legally considered a minor and a child. If she was 20, I may not like it, but hey, there are times when a parent needs to step back and let their kids make their own decisions.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The old saying Age is just a Number!...As long as nothing Illegal is going on and no one is getting Hurt and both Parties are Happy!...Then no one is too Judge!...:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
read through the threads and there appears to be no clear winner.Some one said to me the other day half your age plus 5 years was fine, but that makes the minimum age around 35 - and my eldest daughter is 32. seems to be a bit young. I think I could accept 40 as a minimum.I guess the question is are they compatible - and if they are - to heel with what every one else thinks
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boots_69
12 years ago
As a parent of two daughters 18 and 16, this topic may actually strike close to home.As long as its legal and no ones getting hurt (they are happy) who am I to judge. Harm them and the gloves come off!
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Splicey
12 years ago
I'm guessing the TS has never heard of Hugh Hefner?MrsSplicey
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RHP User
12 years ago
i have read this book a while back, called "The Chemistry Of Love"...it talks about many things...most have to do, with hormones in the female/male body...and how they effect us....the point, the writer makes....is that, from a sexual point of view, it makes perfect sense, for a younger woman, to hook up, with an older man...and for an older woman, to play with a much younger one...a young woman is still learning...and an older man, is much more likely, to appreciate her, and her body...to take his time...to savour the moment for as long as he's able...he'd likely to be more experienced..not a "wham bam thank you m'aam", that young guys could be..plus younger women often (even if only sub-consciously ) looking for a father figure...on the other hand, more mature ladies, usually know, what they want...have had time, to discover, their sexuality, their wants/needs....and also, due to declining oestrogen levels, and more highlighted testosterone levels...they get to the stage, in their sexuality, where they no longer interested only, in the slow, tender love making...they also want to F***K!!!they become more sexually aggressive, dominant, open to get a little more wild...so they need a man with a hard body, and stamina...it doesn't really matter, if they are not sure, what they're doing...as long as they are willing and eager to learn...!!!they are, like a blank canvas....ready to draw on...and it doesn't matter, if they cum in 10 minutes...as usually ready , to go again, in another 5...i thought, it was very interesting point of view...and definitely food for thought..obviously, if we are talking about, proper relationships...this may very well not work...being in different stages , in their lives...one wants to go, to the theatre, to watch a play....the other wants to go to a rave...but as far as sex goes....apparently it makes perfect sense...
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RHP User
12 years ago
My DH is 17 years my senior. (I am 25, he is 42). We have been together for 4 years now, and while there are differences that show, On a whole, we have alot in common and are on the same wave length. I see no issue in older partners, so long as you are mentally compatible, and its a relationship built on love for the person, not their money, security or shock and awe value.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My opinion, once my daughter hits 25ish the age doesn't mean a thing to me. But between say 16-24ish I think interaction with people the same age is more important, having said all this, my girl is going to be my only child, coz I had the snip at 26. So I'm going so be so protective yet definately more open and onset so I hope it all works out (how do you do crossed fingers smiley face)???
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RHP User
12 years ago
All of this is pretty interesting to read and it kind of helps to put things in perspective for me.I'm currently with a man nine years older than myself and we are both very much happy with our relationship, our families are content (well, my mother is at least... still gotta tip-toe around my dad...) and we have friends who are just happy that we are happy. All in all, it's a great situation, we love each other and the only way things can get better is if we move in together, as we can't at the moment due to work and University commitments. Reading that other people are in relationships with men or women with a large age gap between the two makes me feel like I'm not unique and uniquely strange in my choice of lover. I have felt that what we had was wrong because of what people would think of us, but the longer we are together the less I care of what people think. I've had acquaintances gasp in shock when I told them how old my partner is, and other people too, and it made me think that what we had between us was somehow messed up. Now, I have just learned to ignore other's opinions and stick with what my gut tells me.In my opinion, if both parties are happy and no one is getting hurt, what's the problem? I am only young so I don't know how things will go down the track (in regards to people talking about looking after an older partner in old age etc) but I live in the moment and at the moment everything is sweet :)Chicks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For me? Most deifnately. The thing for me is I dont want kids and most men my age are still in that wanting children thing - no thanks. Older men, I have found, if they dont have them already they dont want them. If they do have them, the children are usually at an age where theyre able to hold a decent conversation lol. Also, I crossed most of my sexual bucket list off years ago and so am looking more for partners who (and this would need to be in a long term aspect also) have got the experience, arent looking to constantly try seomthing new because theyve never done that before. Im not looking for someone who is boring and only wanting to fuck in one way, but I know for me I need a long term partner to be someone who is sexually explorative just not needing a teacher. (and Im not making sense again) Kisses Focus
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flimac
12 years ago
So Im going to comment here a wellI dont have children but I work with 10-21 year olds, and for me its not about social acceptability when it comes to 18-21 or thereabouts. The girls I work with are often with older men, not necessarily relationships just sex and there is a certain "type" of person that seems to seek these girls out. Im in welfare and these girls are incredibly vulnerable, and more often than not they are taken advantage of. This is why I judge older men who sleep with girls so young because for me most "healthy" girls of that age are not going to sleep with men 20 years there senior. I don't apologize for this because its part of my morals and beliefs and experiences, as well as education, BUT I do also wonder if it is just my job turning me cynical! are there women that young who have what one would consider a "normal" upbringing that are attracted to significantly older men? or just my general cynicism towards men
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think bigger age gaps become less important as the young one whether m/f gets older. 18 and 48 yuk 30-60 pfft whatever.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When I was younger I always preferred older men, they had money and knew how to treat a lady, whereas the young guys just wanted wham bam thank you mam. Now as I get older I find the younger guys are better in bed, however, the older guys are just as charming as they have always been, they just dont have the stamina. Although Viagara has its place.
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
And we met on the site, despite people commenting about this being RHP, not RSVP. Neither of us was chasing a relationship but we just clicked instantly and the age was a non-issue. Obviously I don't think either of us started this with a view to a relationship but if something works, why should age stand in the way of that? Yes, saying it is just a number oversimplifies things, but if you have a bit of a browse of some couples profiles on here (particularly ones that we tend to receive messages on through our couple's profile) the older man/younger woman scenario is quite common. People's perceptions about why younger women would date older men and vice versa are what causes the issues!! Dida xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think like all relationships it depends on the 2 people in question. Whether they have a suitable connection with each other or not. Ive always dated older men 30+ since i was 18. For me because of the maturity level. My hubby now is 11 yrs older than me. You wouldnt realise there is an age gap between us. People always joke hes as old as he 'feels' LOLI have 2 kids (very young) but when they are 18+ i wouldnt judge if they dated older persons ASLONG as that person was suitable for them (mature, responsible etc).Maybe im not fussed because it runs in my family ;) my parents are 20 yrs apart. My grandfather married a woman 30 years younger than him. Tho none of those marriages survived. Id be quite happy to be with someone more than 20 years older than me to be honest. I have an attraction to the older gents ;) ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
philsopically nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so . what's the difference between swinging couples , same sex relationships , older man younger woman or vice-versa , married or single who are we to impose our values morals ethics on others . Historical example , cultures where men had many wives , some still exist to day . Playing devils advocate , gays and lesbians have come out and shown their lifestyle and shouted out I am what I am , is it not time then that swinging couples did the same and men or woman who wanted several sexual partners and not be monogamous . just putting it out there . Why are we as humans so quick to moralise about people's different sexual practices , choices to what ours are ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
being a younger guy i guess i should be concerned about it all but im not. i think if an older guy is with a younger woman it would look very successful. for both of them. i say good on em... and goodluck to everyone :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Kudos to you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im very interested to hear men's views on this. As a 23 year old girl I really only prefer to date men over 28 and up to 40. I have in the past dates a man who was 38, even brought him to a family and relatives get together. I was nervous as all hell about how they would respond, particularly my parents(I still live with them), but surprisingly he was a hit and all went great with my grandma even stating to him in front of all the family and relatives "you'll fit into the family nicely!" with a wide genuine smile. Admittedly he did receive a few death stares off my dad lol, but all in all they were very accepting. Said boyfriend at the time did however tell me that when dad had him alone he said to him "look after her and treat my kid well because I have a shotgun, a shovel and 10acres out the back." not to mention the not-so-subtle hints from my male relatives about their jail story's... Shit, I hope I haven't scared off any 'future mates' with my post. Although if it did, then u probably weren't my type anyway :p don't ask why i prefer older men, I haven't figured it out myself yet. Just something about them..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well it seems everyone has different views regarding this topic, personally I was in a sexual relationship with a girl last year who was 21 at the time and me being 35. While most guys would around my age were saying well done, some of my female friends were judgemental and surprised that I was with a girl that young. I think it comes down to the personalities of two people involved. There is mutual attraction between the individuals involved, between myself and my young lady, our sexual rleationship grew because she was curious about my life experiences, where she had a much more shelter life. It gave her the thoughts of what is out there, that life has so much to offer. The biggest issue was acceptance by her family, particularly her father. Ultimately if two people are on the same page, age shouldn't be a factor. The only thing to realise particular being older, is that we were at different stages of our lives. I was at the time wanting something casual on going exclusively, she wanted to lead a more promiscuous life style, because she didn't want any regrets in life. As a consequence, we both agreed to go our separate ways, as it would cause resentment, which was the last thing I wanted. Some people have said that young girls with older guys have 'daddy issues'. I tend to think that is to much of a general statement. Everyone is different and how can someone judge without knowing what the particular girl's life story is. It would seem to me to be arrogance and to assume. Wonder what others think?
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