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Is there such a thing as 'no strings attached'?
November 04 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
heap strings together and attach them to nothing that will give you ? No strings attached ? Does that now give you your answer ? AFRAID-KNOT.!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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beebs
10 years ago
I think the strings that you talk of are ties that don't bind. They can be very elastic.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
No strings at all = fuck n run... which is bordering on sociopathy. IF the sex was good, which encourages you to want to repeat it.... even if its just to blow n go..... then wanting more = a "string". DG
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
that the NSA meaning is in the form of strings being managed in a way of binding (things together). In a NSA arrangement, I think it boils down to there being no ongoing commitment to one another - just the proverbial quick meet and then off to another person. There may be a string at the moment, but I think that comes down to a persons state of mind at the time, and what that particular person believes a 'string' to be. Some will argue black and blue it has one particular meaning, and others will come up with other interpretations. My own interpretation of NSA is the intention of a non committal meeting, and then keeping with that commitment. It may take the form of a number of meetings if both parties are happy to do so, but there is no intention of making the meetings into a more formal, and/or continual relationship. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think (and its only my thoughts) That NSA relates to the complications of a full on relationship. Similar to FWB. Cant imagine having or doing something this intimate as having no strings at all. I mean, you'd have to like them, find them attractive, enjoy their company etc. The term FB i also find puzzling for the same reasons. I can only put it down to "new speak"................I will follow this with interest
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
that if you sleep with someone,(or just have sex), that there is not a little string attached somewhere, (in that was a great night, what happens now for example). However, I do not believe the NSA reference only applies to sex. I am sure that I can meet someone for the first time for a coffee or drink with NSA. (To me that means if one of us don't like the other we can have the coffee or drink & part and never see each other again with no ill feelings or issues or pressure, or perhaps just be friends, who knows, just no pressure or strings. There is a big difference between having sex with no strings attached and meeting someone for the first time or just being friends with NSA, in my opinion anyway.
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RHP User
10 years ago
are that the NSA means, you meet them for fun and thats it...no relationship, no feelings can be developed...Yes of course you must be attracted to them and get to know them prior to meeting but when they meet, its purely for fun hookups and then leave... The FWB is a level higher, you are social with them, you might go for casual drinks or out to a club and then have sex and fun but without being in a relationship, you are friends that can socialize and get on with the sex included. A more intellectual connection but not as far as a relationship or 'feelings'....well thats until one or the other develops feelings...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think people just throw the term around so it is absolutely clear that they have no intention of having any sort of relationship with anyone. They think by stating this they will not attract people who want to sink their claws into them.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Ok I'll give you a little twist...T here is no such thing as "NSA" (NO STRINGS ATTACHED) as there is, always will be some form of attachments. That matter being arrangements of some sort, including...Fermions and gravity. Fermions and gravity is the building block to some matter of arrangements. If you haven't heard of the the String Theory..then check out "Bosonic String Theory" and the "Super String Theory". No Strings Attached is a load of bullocks if you ask me...a simple excuse (poor mans excuse) to a quick easy root/shag what ever you call it... It could be from a 10min shag and run, to an overnight stay. Make it what ever you want it to be. Well that's my theory, has been and always will be. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I think people just throw the term around so it is absolutely clear that they have no intention of having any sort of relationship with anyone. They think by stating this they will not attract people who want to sink their claws into them. smart cookie as always I do not think it has to do with sex , it has to do with what happens after sex. Before that its attraction, chemistry and an implied understanding that two adults can enjoy the moment with some nice sex. It also gives people the out clause, if its not working for either one of them. I get on well with the men I sleep with, and so far they have stayed friends. We may not hook up that often but we keep in touch with texts and calls. My strings as in my emotions are for my husband and that is clear when I meet people. I also believe that married women get attention from single men because there is no danger of that string attachment.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Most people on here will tell you that they need to feel some kind of connection with someone before they can fuck them. Surely feeling that connection/chemistry is already a string? I agree with Ralf, I think a lot of people say NSA because they don't want a relationship.
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
If I invite a woman out for a drink or dinner, or the day, as NSA. Which means to me, yes I am taking you out, but you do not need to have sex with me to say thank you. ie you can enjoy a day or night without any pressure about having sex. or any obligation to repay me. Can someone please explain what could be wrong with that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not interested in the strings that are attached to a yo-yo. It always amazes me how someone will disappear for a few weeks/months, come back and think that you will be happy to carry on with the conversation where you left off. I mean seriously?
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
Lets me know straight away they are generally emotionally stunted to some degree, very poor people skills or married and their partner doesnt know they are on here. Saves a lot of time thats for sure.
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RHP User
10 years ago
but it is amazing how many times someone contacts me that has it on their profile and then I reply with, I am not looking for NSA, they change their tune (bullshit of course) just to get in your pants for NSA sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe tell me your name..I may or may not tell you mine....don't tell me about your family....your work....your day....your friends...I may or maybe not contact you again... even if if the sex was great.....you can lust after me,and I you,but let's not draw a long bow here..that's already toooo long a string.....but we can get nekkid...at least for half an hour.. but then please go....otherwise we would have to have a conversation... See ya xxFreya conductor of the string section
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Of course there is such a thing as NSA, if you're honest about things. People do fuck just for the sake of fucking, they don't have to have a connection or attraction, it's just fucking and if you don't think they do, then get out a little more... People are looking for different things. You get messages from someone, who tells you what you want to hear, messages to and thro for a bit, you think they're wonderful, you meet them, they tell you how wonderful you are, you fall for their bullshit, you fuck them, you think it's going to be a more ongoing thing, then low and behold you never hear from them again or every time you message them they have an excuse not to see you again (sorry spending time with the boys) They wanted a easy fuck, quick root, you gave it to them thinking they were different, but wrong.... I think that is classed as NSA for them. Also pretty sure that a lot of married people aren't wanting strings and don't imagine there would be to many strings at clubs or parties either. The problem is some people can't be honest, they make out that they don't give it out willy nilly, think they god/saint like, prim and proper, but in a actual fact they do give it out for ONS, NAS thinking it going to be more, because they've fallen for the bullshit or they give it out and don't tell anyone got fear of judgement..... Again just my opinion, but it's mine not someone's else, it's honest and it makes sense......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree that people bonk just because they feel like sex. At parties or with random hookups. Although from your post it sounds like you are auggesting that people say NSA when they are after a bonk and go but I always assumed people say NSA when they want more than a one off but they want to make it clear that they do not want to have any emotional attachments & they do not want anyone to have any expectations past the rumpy bumpy. No commitment, no exclusivity and no expectations.
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RHP User
10 years ago
And he's funny
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' I'm not interested in the strings that are attached to a yo-yo. It always amazes me how someone will disappear for a few weeks/months, come back and think that you will be happy to carry on with the conversation where you left off. I mean seriously? Who could forget.....I have a Mr.YoYo in my life...been going on for two years! Seriously, It's a scream! Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why do you find FB confusing? It's possible to have someone on speed dial and you call when you Want sex. There is just not much interaction happening besides that. I mean it is possible to have amazing sexual chemistry with someone but have absolutely nothing in common with them. Actually I am sure you could have sexual chemistry with someone you don't even like much??
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' but it is amazing how many times someone contacts me that has it on their profile and then I reply with, I am not looking for NSA, they change their tune (bullshit of course) just to get in your pants for NSA sex. I had that exact thing happen today over the course of three messages. Him "I'm looking for NSA blah blah blah" Me "I have zero interest in a fuck and go scenario" Him "of course, I'd want to meet up and chat and hang out and stuff"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hmm there's no such thing as an unloaded firearm...or a dead snake
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6exxy
10 years ago
For you ladies who are saying demeaning things YOIU are wrong! A person choice to have this situation does not mean they are uncaring, emotionally stunted or anything else negative. Example YandM's position. If its her choice to have NSA then what does that mean?? Kinda rude to assume. I used to see a lady that was married years ago. Nothing but straight up Booty Call today known as NSA. We liked doing it and she was married. Dont paint this negative without knowing, it may not be your cup of tea but be more accepting instead of condescending. ThrillHunter if that is your thing roll with it gurl!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't see how NSA is possible. Connection will be achieved through interaction and when you are physically playing you will connect and therefore a string will be created... Personally I require a connection it makes everything feel right and very very fun!
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
IMO means I'll respect you but we have no expectations nor should you of us. NSA exists and if you feel it doesn't I would suggest that you are the person holding the expectations and mentally creating some need or desire for strings... It's not necessarily wham, bam, thank you sir.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' IMO means I'll respect you but we have no expectations nor should you of us. NSA exists and if you feel it doesn't I would suggest that you are the person holding the expectations and mentally creating some need or desire for strings... It's not necessarily wham, bam, thank you sir. Isnt respect... an expectation? You are certainly saying you will respect others....which is good..... but do you not respect they will similarly respect you? That suggests a string..... which extends beyond the interaction.... because respect of the experience is ongoing.Anyone who has been disrespected after the event will testify to that. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
i interpret it to mean that two people agree to refrain from developing the kinds of feelings that mean you want to spend more than two nights a week sleeping in the same bed. It's a booty call NOT a relationship. An occasional night of fun on all levels. It doesn't preclude deep communication on all levels. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The term relationship implies a connection of some sort. You could have a NSA encounter - ie a shagg and run situation - one night stand - an anonymous one off Anything more really starts to becomes either a friends with benefits or a business relationship (if you are in some way paying for services). If you see someone regularly then obviously you enjoy their company or what they provide and a string is created. It will be attached until you sever the relationship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It all depends on what a persons definiton of a string is. Some people say they do want an ongoing thing but they don't want any strings... No emotional entanglements or they do not want to give people the wrong impression, they do not want to have an expectation that you will always go out on a certain night. I think you are over reaching to say expecting respect or that sexual chemistry is a string. To me they are not strings at all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I beg your pardon!!!!! That should say aguywithrespect. Stupid fat fingers. :P
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Nsa refers to quite simply "no attachment of the heartstrings" .. hence the term nsa .. no strings attatched . An arrangement that you can leave at anytime without the hassle/repercussion of a normal relationship .. and that is aldo based of a purely sexual nature . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
that was meaning to read *also* but yeh .. you get the point :) . Profiles just stating they want NSA fun .. well , my take is that - they are basically looking fo one nighters and hookups occasionally with whomever and whenever as opposed to an ongoing or fkbuddy type scenario . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Why do you find FB confusing? It's possible to have someone on speed dial and you call when you Want sex. There is just not much interaction happening besides that. I mean it is possible to have amazing sexual chemistry with someone but have absolutely nothing in common with them. Actually I am sure you could have sexual chemistry with someone you don't even like much?? Nothing is impossible, and there's nothing that cant be done. I get that. From my point of view there would still be a string. To pick up a phone and have someone on "speed dial" and call them at any hour would for me remove the spontaneity, excitement etc, and i'd probably not feel too comfortable about using someone for my gratification, even though it might be mutual.Its not just about sexual chemistry. For me there needs to be a little more than sex How about this for an idea , why dont i call a brothel.......I might feel like italian, Hungarian, Greek, Spanish, German etc, choose a body type, height, hair colour etc from the menu and go there for a different "spur of the moment thrill"
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RHP User
10 years ago
But you see many people view RHP as a takeaway menu and others prefer fine dining. although I have to disagree. Hard to find something more spontaneous than being able to ring someone on the spur of the moment for a date. It's the forward planning and making arrangements that imply that there are strings. also, it sounds like you are trying to be insulting with the brothel comment. You know some women are here for some random hook ups but they don't charge money. Nothing wrig with that you know. Look at tindr the fastest growing hook up app in Australia. Are you saying that is like picking a sex worker from a catalogue?
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SacralChakra
10 years ago
I like strings. Sex with no connection doesn't thrill me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
is possible. I have had a lover for years who made it clear from the start that he didn't want a 'relationship'. It was very hard to deal with at first but I decided I would. We have a great connection, REALLY enjoy each other's company, have a fantastic night together every now and then. I smile easily as I leave now and am grateful that I can enjoy what we have and leave. Not easy but I did it. 😌 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Okay so the alternative is what? Single man or woman looking for whoever,,,,,,"for a very secure and long-term relationship".See how many takers you'll get. Anyway your time will already be preoccupied in the kitchen stuffing that bunny into the pot. - Posted from rhpmobile
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
.....and I said I love it when I see it on someones profile. It gives me a very quick (and spookily accurate) glimpse of the person and the freedom of choice to justclick to the next profile. My comments come from a place of truth & fact based on true life experiences in the past. Not condescending or assumptions.
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inspirit
10 years ago
No Offense
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inspirit
10 years ago
Naughty Sex Anally - Just a pain in the ass.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'Paradisepair' IMO means I'll respect you but we have no expectations nor should you of us. NSA exists and if you feel it doesn't I would suggest that you are the person holding the expectations and mentally creating some need or desire for strings... It's not necessarily wham, bam, thank you sir. Isnt respect... an expectation? You are certainly saying you will respect others....which is good..... but do you not respect they will similarly respect you? That suggests a string..... which extends beyond the interaction.... because respect of the experience is ongoing.Anyone who has been disrespected after the event will testify to that. DG Nah, to me respect = politely interfacing and withholding judgement until some colours are shown. I respect everyone I meet first and then let them prove me wrong, without strings. The shop person, the random stranger in queue etc. Doesn't mean I expect anything back. BTW I don't fuck complete strangers, I require interfacing first to see if there's a connection...
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abcplus1
10 years ago
Some light strings lol........ Some attractions and attachments make the contact far better, but for us we don't want anything serious or committed. Something that each party can walk away from, end or change the dynamic of (fwb to platonic friend for example) at their choosing is what we would regard as NSA.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would like to think NSA.. Meaning that there is no mutual emotional investment in each other. That two individuals meeting for sex, would understand that it's not exclusive...if the sex is mind blowing, a repeat performance will occur.. Which could turn into a regular thing...which then becomes a FB scenario, which could lead to a FWB, because as you spend the time together, you get to know each other....you have to set strict boundaries...NSA is nothing emotional invested on a deep level...otherwise you lose all perception...which is fine if it develops beyond that....it's a fine line..of you are both honest and say.. This is a non-exclusive arrangement...remember people intertwine their feelings....you have to notice the changes in behaviour..before it gets out of control..those are my thoughts.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think the biggest mistake people make is that they think because it's called No Strings Attached [NSA] that it must mean that no strings are attached. Everyone has excess baggage of some kind. To think those things will suddenly disappear because 2 people decided to call it a NSA relationship is naivety at it's best !Why can't 2 people just admit they like each other, take it as it comes without putting added pressure on it, instead of always needing to have these titles for everything. And if people would focus more on the sexual side of it, rather than what title it falls under, then you'll find there will naturally be less strings in the way !The moment you call it a NSA relationship, what happens when the strings come ? What is the title then ? Yet remove the titles and is it not just 2 people that are attracted to each other and acting on it ?What was it called before someone decided to label it NSA ? Wasn't it just 2 people hooking up before the title came ?
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Naughty_nature
10 years ago
I dont think there can ever truly be no strings from the first message their created if you want or not. People are saying more no commitment no expectation of anything more IMHO. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My humble opinion is that you can have NSA with couple's if they are tight , it's fun knowing that you can make them both happy and leave with a smile on your face then we can all get back to our own lives. On the other hand you can't have NSA with single men too hard someone always wants more or less , men seem to get caught up in the moment of pleasure and say they want you again , there either to far away or they just can't be bothered to have a FB it's the thrill of the chase for most men then they move on to the next just saying
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' But you see many people view RHP as a takeaway menu and others prefer fine dining. although I have to disagree. Hard to find something more spontaneous than being able to ring someone on the spur of the moment for a date. It's the forward planning and making arrangements that imply that there are strings. also, it sounds like you are trying to be insulting with the brothel comment. You know some women are here for some random hook ups but they don't charge money. Nothing wrig with that you know. Look at tindr the fastest growing hook up app in Australia. Are you saying that is like picking a sex worker from a catalogue? The thread is about strings. My point is i think all relationships have some kind of string attached. Whether that be NSA,FWB, FB, Whatever. Doesn't the term buddy already imply there's a string? If neither go back again, then we have a random My Brothel comment was the only situation at the time that i could think of where there would be no strings. In effect its a random. But wouldn't it Have to be the best random fuck? I mean look at it again, what ever i felt like at the time and providing that its all met = Awesome. To me that would be a more fulfilling/different/spontaneous encounter, and more importantly, NEW Going back to a FB would wear thin for me after the 2nd/3rd time, i know what is waiting, and I'm just going through the motions again for nothing more than sex.. The other side of that coin is aligning schedules, which in itself has the ability to remove all spontaneity. I'll agree it can float some peoples boat, but the dilemma i have is trying to fit this into my personality........It doesn't go. I did say that i dont understand these terms, and will watch with interest in the hope to learn something here. I also know that i haven't been around the block as much as your good self, and look forward to your input, but please read what i write, and not what you think Ive written, you will quickly find out when i'm being insulting without the excuse of making assumptions
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RHP User
10 years ago
lol... someone message me now please for NSA... I have the whole afternoon free
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think people are over analyzing the 'no strings' phrase....so many people on here are obsessed with having a 'mental connection' of some sort they see every little communication or act as a 'string' and that they cant meet someone without there being strings there already..... NSA can simply mean, im bored, lonely, i find you attractive, i want to fulfill a fantasy...lets fuck and then go about our daily lives as normal as if it never happened to the outside world The answer to 'Is there such a thing as No strings attached?' yes of course, but clearly NSA hookups label the woman as a 'slut' and the men as a 'using emotionless pig' which is why so many woman here look for that mental connection and whatnot so they are not labelled as such, when at the end of the day....the end result is sex no matter how many drinks or conversations you have Im not calling anyone a slut or anything by the way! its just pre-conceptions of what NSA hookups are to the general public....ok im ready for the backlash of comments! :)
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blackbig
10 years ago
A lot of assumptions and condense about NSA. Each has different interpretation of what NSA is. NSA is for those looking for no emotional attachment, long term commitments or a serious relationship. I am a NSA bloke and in the process made some good friends. We don't bullshit each other, and when we meet it is purely fun. No baggages😳, no unrealistic expectations or promises that can't be fulfilled.🙉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think NSA is a cheeky abbreviation of the full saying, so some horndogs could get their googlies off. Originaly I think it said, No Sex Until After Marriage. The full boatload of chains and anchors... Whaaat!! keep it all in perspective :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I said, it seems like you are trying to be insulting? It was a question... That is the way people converse I thought. I won't worry about presuming again, Except to say if someone doesn't understand exactly where your mind is at... It's because of the way you have written something, as people can't read your mind.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I disagree. I don't believe women look for a mental connection because they don't want to be perceived as easy or a slut. Please forgive me in advance if I have misunderstood your meaning. To me, women look for a mental connection or some connection because the sex is better. I am not sure how men are but by Christ sex can be so boring when there is no connection. Also men don't make much of an effort to make it great either when they think it will be just a one off. Sure if hooking up with strangers is your fetish it's great, otherwise it's often a bit Zzzzzz.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Aww I promised I wouldn't say "I disagree" in case I offend someone. Bollocks that didn't last long. Lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Would love if a girl message me wanting NSA fun let's meet lady's - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'YandM'I don't believe in no strings, I demand strings, at least some! Strings, or bindings you want ....? Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'YandM' Same here ... preferably silk strings braided into rope ..... attached to my wrists and ankles .....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Means no commitment. However, if someone becomes a regular where the sex becomes amazing.... A friendship forms. Which turns NSA into FWB Therefore distinguishing a one time fling compared to a regular is entirely dependent on your situation - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ha ha that's funny and true
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' Lets me know straight away they are generally emotionally stunted to some degree, very poor people skills or married and their partner doesnt know they are on here. Saves a lot of time thats for sure. CheersLG
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RHP User
10 years ago
... I use and view the expression differently. It's more of a personality thing in terms of having everything to do with no expectations and being free of conditions and/or restrictions. Doing what I can when I can unconditionally with no expectations of a return favour be it friends, family or perfect strangers and is a huge part of who I am as a person. I'd sooner ask the individual/s concerned exactly what they meant by it to avoid both confusion and assuming otherwise.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with that definition. I think people are stretching the term too far really although I would say emotional attachments is a string, along with expectations and conditions. I think lots of men use it when they really mean they just want a random bonk or ONS. Any FWB situation will develop some emotional attachment which I suppose comes with some strings. I don't think strings are the problem... It's more that people seem to have the feeling that they are supposed to lead to something more committed or permanent which is where strings become suffocating. By people, I guess I mean women more so than men, just from listening to friends and reading this forum.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Or...he/she is genuine!
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