It is all about building arousal

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  the build up is always key!But it depends if the other is doing or saying things that 'I ' want to hear, feel and experience during that build up phase.As long as the attention is authentic, personal and in no way contrived!(Oh! and 50 txt messages in the space of 4 hours just doesn't cut it for me! In fact I have found that sms, as a form of foreplay, can have the opposite affect and just be downright annoying if done to excess!)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I might watch a few minutes of erotica before he arrives

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Its so nice to hear that happens between a couple...that's special!! *green eyed monster out here* I miss that..... :-( Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile

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  Mischeviouslad

  12 years ago

  Arousal can be built in many ways... and over varying durations.I go a little further and say..... INTENSITY of arousal... can be a bigger factor than arousal alone.But, they are inherently linked.DG

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  stroking in certain ways and giving your intimate even a little of something they want as opposed to a whole lot of what they don't want (or nothing at all) is a great virtue. It shows a lot of consideration. A lot of people fail in that department or just can't be bothered, they don't see intimacy as a continuum and then when it's all off that night they feel 'crest fallen'. They think they are entitled? And all because they told their woman that she smelled nice about 3 and a half weeks ago! Lol! Anyway...If think if you know what your partners currency is, what turns them on, and then consistently deal some of it there way, then as far as I am aware (forget just one night), you can write your own cheques!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Well said deepblue. :)As far as I am concerned it is my duty as a male to make the lady feel as sexy and wanted as she can, so she can reach and maintain a certain level of arousal. That idle state of arousal not only makes the girl feel good but it can easily be enhanced and increased on demand since she is more receptive and sensitive than she would normally be. To quote from my native tongue, that is what gives a lady a "Je ne sais quoi" special feel about her.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  it so is about building arousal , some people just wanna go straight into which totally misses the pleasure point, its the journey the build up that makes a great intimate experience,it goes both ways aswell cause even thou most man of more easily aroused then women,but it takes something to get them hyperaroused to the point where each delicate touch is bliss, when everyone involved is fully aroused it becomes such a beatiful thing and so intimate.

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  Mischeviouslad

  12 years ago

  Quoting 't00sexy' Well said deepblue. :)As far as I am concerned it is my duty as a male to make the lady feel as sexy and wanted as she can, so she can reach and maintain a certain level of arousal. That idle state of arousal not only makes the girl feel good but it can easily be enhanced and increased on demand since she is more receptive and sensitive than she would normally be. To quote from my native tongue, that is what gives a lady a "Je ne sais quoi" special feel about her. Mr t00I see what youre saying..... I like it........ I have learned it snot about 'making' a woman feel sexy though........but creating an environment of masculinity, reliability, confidence and security that permit her to express her femininity and sexuality.I dont have to look at her, touch her or say anything of a sexual nature to a woman to incite her arousal..... but I firmly believe that my masculine nature encourages her to open up her inherent inner sexuality to me.... and become aroused.This arousal is then confirmed and enhanced through talk, touch, and then sexual touch to escalate it to a point where I seek to take it, and her.DG

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I totally hear where you are coming from there. You need to have the foundation with her to begin with. Which has nothing to do with how long you have known a woman. It can be there in the space of a few minutes. Some men have that innately or have acquired it through inwardly working on themselves. I think Mr (& Mrs) Op would agree that there are a lot of men who just don't know what that even is and that it's really their role to energetically provide the container or safe space for the woman so she 'can' come into this space, open up and expand her feminine (and by provide a container I am not saying he has to own his own home, lol.) I am talking about the way he supports and holds her in the energy that builds and sustains genuine arousal and it is purely psycho-sexual in nature. When a man walks past me who has it I can feel it. It's like someone is walking over my grave and I get that energetic tap on the shoulder turn and look and there it is. There he is. He could have a mug on him like a robbers dog and live in a tent. But he's got 'it'. 'It' doesn't discriminate.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I especially like the concepts of knowing your partners currency and being hyper-aroused to the point where each delicate touch is bliss.We all get hyper-aroused by different things or thoughts, I would be interested in hearing what arouses each of you the most. Let us make a start and see where this goes:For me, Mr t00sexy, I get very turned on when I give pleasure, the more intense the pleasure is, the more I get aroused . Mrs t00sexy gets hyper aroused when Mr t00sexy suggests that he will show a particular FWB what to do to give her the same level of pleasure that Mrs t00 is currently receiving.

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  madotara69

  12 years ago

  If it wasn't for the time we spend together passing thoughts, and sharing our feelings for the idea, we would not be trying new things. Together getting aroused with the whole idea makes the actual moment great. But what we share is awesome.Mado, Tara xx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Let me add that to the definition of having a good time I have been putting together :)having fun and being in the moment, being gentle, being comfortable, enjoying what we are doing, building arousal, taking our time, sharing thoughts and feelings

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