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It's Complicated

January 23 2021

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I noticed that RHP recently added the "complicated" relationship status option. Although available on other sites, RHP did not have that option until lately. In your opinion, what are the variety of situations that a person might tick this particular box for? Is it mainly regarding where there is a connection with feelings involved but not sure how far it will go (yet)? Or for other types of arrangements not suitable for single or attached etc. On another, seperate but related question, when (after how long) does one go from listing as "divorced" to being simply "single" again? Cheers, CT

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  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    4 years ago

    I'd always taken it to mean, "I'm married, expect to be fucked around!" 😬 In all seriousness though we've had someone use it on another site and explain it as, we're seperated, but still live in the same house because of the kids. Either way, too much effort for us

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  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    4 years ago

    Complicated means just that, COMPLICATED. IMO The person/partner isn't sure what they want, does not want to share their relationship status therefore will be a MESSY outcome for all involved. RED FLAG! One is single when they are no longer in a coupled committed relationship. In other words, when filling out GOV forms, it let's other people know your status. An easy pick up for those behind the counter who receive those forms and are also single too. Lol! Ms Foxy

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  • Kokoflamingo

    Kokoflamingo

    4 years ago

    Sees " complicated".....moves on. Its a cloak for married, attached, happy to cheat. It gives people an alternative to actually lying and putting " single" on their profile.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    I always take it as code for “ I’m cheating “

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  • Phoenix_Rising

    Phoenix_Rising

    4 years ago

    Reading this makes me curious as to what kind of people someone with “it’s complicated” might attract. I might have to start calling myself Sydney University and doing some social experimenting, haha. Obviously you attract different people depending on your relationship status which I’ve already noticed, so now I’m curious....my guess would be that you’d attract more narcissistic people though for some reason, the kind to prey on weakness.

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  • Phoenix_Rising

    Phoenix_Rising

    4 years ago

    And that’s because (to answer your question) when I see “it’s complicated” I usually assume one person in the relationship is stringing on the other. Either they’re being used and abused by their partner or they’re the one doing the using and abusing.

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  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    4 years ago

    To be honest I don’t ponder about it too much.... I see complicated, and I see drama. If I see drama, I see exit stage left...

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  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    4 years ago

    Complicated equals pass

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  • KindaOldButNew

    KindaOldButNew

    4 years ago

    Here's another take on it. I met a lady several years ago on another site that had selected complicated. Turns out her partner had been involved in a motorbike accident and had suffered extensive brain damage. With no other family around and having young children, she was his primary carer. She was only able to meet when her partner was placed in respite care. Is that complicated enough....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Ive been divorced 7yrs officially, so think i can happliy use single. But maybe for poly or open relationships who arent married. This maybe a good choice.

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  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    4 years ago

    Most on here could use the term. It seems plenty on here try to complicate the simple art of meeting up with their rules and conditions

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  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    4 years ago

    Its not that its complicated Its just that being honest is

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  • Firefly4735

    Firefly4735

    4 years ago

    I have a boyfriend, but he is married. Its all ethical and open and his wife is one of my closest friends. I guess that would be a complicated situation 🤷‍♀️

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  • Cumdownunder

    Cumdownunder

    4 years ago

    Complicated could mean I have 10 kids from 10 different fathers im time poor but I'm cashed up.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Most on here fit that category

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    I interpret "It's complicated" to equate to "It will end in tears". I steer clear of people with this status. It can mean many things, but it usually means that they are in relationship purgatory. They are either living with someone they're no longer into and want to venture out, but are risk averse, want to have their cake and eat it too, but expect their prospective lovers to put up with a lot of rubbish and the relationship (because let's face it, relationships don't have to be all about commitment, the word refers to an ongoing interaction) is all on their terms. I don't think people who categorise their status as 'complicated' are emotionally available because they have already drawn that line, and essentially mislead prospective lovers. They're not capable of forming a connection. It's all about the sex. As far as I'm concerned, being qualified to say it, being divorced is not a continuous state. So once a person gets divorced or a divorce order, they're solo, i.e. single.

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  • Fucitol

    Fucitol

    3 years ago

    My relationship is "complicated". The reason why I call it "complicated" is because I would rather be talking about stuff that matters in the present. Delving back in time to talk about a relationship that has ended, wasn't all that great. A complicated relationship is one that's no longer relevant. Discussing "complicated" issues relating to my circumstances, means discussing a relationship that you know will drain the life out of anyone privy to the conversation, which to me is a pointless, irrelevant activity, a waste of time, that could be put to better use. "Complicated" means unpleasant, that ball and chain that was removed coinciding with a purposeful movement away from the past, towards the freedom and happiness of a singleton interested in "something casual". My mind doesn't want the painstaking task of conjuring up the unpleasantness of past daily drudgeries that constituted life while toiling the daily grind of a failed prior cahoot I don't want to re-experience past boredom or be reminded that the chances of experiencing anything exciting or fun, as is the case now, is as likely as locating and communicating with a leprechaun or other mystical, fantastical smurf creature.. I suppose "complicated" is describing issues that could be considered not presently relevant or a waste of time. The subject matter is about relationship status and looking for a relationship is not the reason I signed up to this site. Everyone to their own, and how you judge myself and people like myself is a matter for you. However, I hope my explanation illustrates a different perspective of "complicated" relationship scenario which does not involve lying, cheating or other clandestine activity :D

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