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It's not gay if you are practicing for chicks.......

February 28 2012

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My friend had a sticker on his car saying "It's not gay if you are practicing for chicks......."HI all and I am sure I am gonna get completely hammered for this, because I am a straight guy asking this question, but if thats the case so be it. For the past few weeks, I have been approached, either in person, email etc by guys, who say they are completely straight not gay in any way, but they love sucking dick, or love having their dick sucked by another guy.....again they assure me they are completely straight. I have also been invited to go to a guys house, have sex with his misses and then the big finale is the guy jerks me off on her.....again he states he is completely straight. I have no problems with a person being gay bi or anything. It is so odd that bi woman are completely accepted and of course admired on sites here, but why do guys have to feel so ashamed of being gay or bi? Their sexuality should not make them any less of a man. What are your thoughts?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Yep. It seems anomolous doesnt it. But there's obviously a difference between how people identify there sexuality and their innate sexual desires. There's no need to struggle with it if you accept that a person who identifies as straight "prefers to have sex with women". Of course, putting it that way, you can see that a bit of quick getting off with a bloke is just practicing... there's nothing in it, it doesn't change their sexual identity. That fits their self image. Being bisexual is something else. It means that you've accepted that you're sexually attracted to men and women, that either will do fine, and by extension, that you could have a relationship with either a man or a woman.. I. E. "Love" a man or a woman.... and that fits with your self image. Identifying as gay means that you accept that you have a preference for a same sex relationship. It doesn't mean, as a man, that you can't root women. In any case, some guys are just horny, comfortable getting off, and not worried what you think of them if they play with your dick... and identify as straight because they prefer to root women, and see themselves only ever having a loving relationship with women. I have no problem with that. Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Thanks stalky it is very interesting that you put love into the equation as I think this opens up another can of worms entirely. So in your experience if you don't mind me asking what type of men do you usually come across along the lines of your description? Do you think it is still hard for men to openly say that they like to fool around with guys? As again this points out the imbalance between woman and men, as it seems to be more acceptable for woman than men.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    There's definitely discrimination. Basically all couples clubs provide evidence of this. M/m contact is discouraged while f/f contact is encouraged. For sure though, being "bi" is almost considered trendy for females... and often sneered at for bi guys.. who more often are said to be gay but in denial. Being bisexual is a legitimate sexuality.... but it has less acceptance amongst men, than being gay! I've met all sorts of guys over the years. Plenty of guys who are obviously straight and feeling a little awkward... but horny.... I'm always saying "who hasn't woken up the next morning thinking wtf was I doing".... Lolz. At the time, it obviously seemed like a good idea. Another common thought is that the only real difference between a straight guy and a curious one, is four beers and a discrete opportunity! Lolz. Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Thanks Stalky for your openness, I agree with your statement on being bi is trendy for the ladies, and sneered at for bi guys and find it funny how people cannot think outside their sexuality and comprehend anothers'. I was surprised to hear that you reckon that bisexual men are less accepted than gay men, its funny how closed minded we can be.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    In answer to the big question, first I agree, here in the 21st century we are still carrying baggage from the 17th century. lets all just drop the stupid facades we have been wearing all our lives and accept that, on a scale of 0 to 100 75% of the population would indulge in homo erotic fantasies if it was put to them?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    *chuckles* AND it doubles your chances of sex on the weekend   Oh.. and my profile states I am straight

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I see it a lot these days, guys who just like to get the pleasure of sex no matter who gives it. Fair enough,why cut out half the population. I have watched guys suck each other off and so did another female friend of mine and yes we were surprised how gentle this guy was.   She goes down like a seagull on a bloody chip at times!   One guy said he was not bi or gay but he let men such his cock but could not look at them while they did it. Bit of the guilty crap that’s shoved into peoples brains by the moral police.   Another guy said he and his mates have a guys watching the foot ball game and he sucks of his mates. The wives think its a boys only day and they are doing manly things like watching football.   If I had a dick or my clit was as sensitive and gave me the same amount of orgasms and pleasure as it seems to give men, I would fuck anything and every thing. Man that thing is like a heat seeking missile, a force of nature that’s been tied up by convention. PS my dog just farted and I am afraid I have to clear the building, if I do not post again it means I never made it past the front door!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Personally I think bi guys are very sexy and they have the best of both worlds. Good luck to them! Straight or not, fun is fun and the curiously minded horny guys should be rewarded for their efforts to further their experiences.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    So as it goes, I have a little knowledge on this...I actually did my undergrad thesis on the social acceptability of gay, lesbian and bi sexual identity and how men and women see themselves in that regard. I won't bore you with the details but suffice it to say that men generally were less open to same sex encounters but found it perfectly acceptable in girls. Women were much more open minded and considered sex between girls to be just as acceptable as sex between boys or 'traditional' boy and girl.Interestingly, a whopping 73% of girls admitted fantasising about girl-girl action, but less girls fantasised about watching boy-boy action (around the late 40's from recollection...it was a long time ago) and only 22% of men admitted ever thinking about another penis! But that was relevant some 15 years ago and I'm sure it would be a bit different today.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Of course its not Bi or gay or even curious if two guys suck each other off OR play with each others cock.Don't worry guys you are still straight.LMFAO

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Of course you get to keep your straight card. Now get down there and suck my cock damn it before they change the rules! Besides, it's only gay sex if you tell someone about it. Hugs Stalky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    And due to this I wont list as bi-curious though I am. And i've only ever discussed it here and with my wife.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'InAdditionTo' So as it goes, I have a little knowledge on this...I actually did my undergrad thesis on the social acceptability of gay, lesbian and bi sexual identity and how men and women see themselves in that regard. I won't bore you with the details but suffice it to say that men generally were less open to same sex encounters but found it perfectly acceptable in girls. Women were much more open minded and considered sex between girls to be just as acceptable as sex between boys or 'traditional' boy and girl.Interestingly, a whopping 73% of girls admitted fantasising about girl-girl action, but less girls fantasised about watching boy-boy action (around the late 40's from recollection...it was a long time ago) and only 22% of men admitted ever thinking about another penis! But that was relevant some 15 years ago and I'm sure it would be a bit different today.Hey thanks for your response. I am studying in a similar field. Was your thesis based on a self report measure or was it attained in another form? I agree that it would be very different these days, but I still believe that there is a massive amount of men who are not comfortable with their sexuality enough to say that they were bi-curious/sexual, and I am sure on RHP there would be a few guys that would say they were just to get to the next level of the meeting process, even though it would all come out later on....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Stalky' Of course you get to keep your straight card. Now get down there and suck my cock damn it before they change the rules! Besides, it's only gay sex if you tell someone about it. Hugs StalkyReminds me of a joke.....A guy gets arrested and put in prison and his cell mate , a giant of a man asks him if he wants to play mummy or daddy. The guy knowing that he has no choice in playing if he wants to stay alive, thinks and decides that at least if he was the dad he would be giving it instead of receiving it if he was the mother. So he says "yeah I will play your game. I would like to be the daddy thanks." The giant grins and says "great now come suck mummy's cock"

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting '1moretime' If it looks like a duck and it quacks like a duck.. it must be a duck.. Any guy who claims to be straight but wanders over the other side for whatever reason is in denial ... Having your mouth, hand or whatever on another man's dick is not the actions of a straight man.As a 100% straight guy, I dont give a buggar what a persons persuasions are or their reasons are to wander over for whatever reason.. But accept your curiosity for what it is and just move on.... If that means you are Bi, thats just the way it is. No big deal..Agreed

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Men are necrotic over sexed ego driven fuck ups. Put a sexy girl on stage, any peer, or audience before them and they will conform to social male conformity before the play is considered. Truly who cares.... Thank someone we are not all the same......... :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Sick of hearing the why don't people like bi and gay men winge. Your liked but just not accepted into some peoples bedrooms as it's just not thier thing. The percentage of straight men exceeds that of bi and gay men so it's a given that society has preferences so if your waiting for the same acceptance of man on man action then your wasting your time. Look to yourself for acceptance of your wants and needs and stop asking others for thier thoughts as a way of validating your desires. Just go for it and entertain your needs so long as you don't do it at others expense. Every time someone says no Bi men on thier profile or if it's not thier thing they are accused of being homophobic or anti bi men. Personally I don't give a shit what other's do or don't do. Knock yourself out and just enjoy yourself with those that have similar interests to you and accept that you won't convince the world to think the way you do as we are all individuals and entitled to think our own thoughts. We engage in things that give us pleasure and get pleasure from the things that turn us on. It's just a matter of preference that's all. Man on man action is not a turn on for us so we avoid it. If you suck cock or wank off another man even if for the gratification of your lady then to do it in the first place it must be something you want to do and therefore a turn on so you are either bi or gay if you do it. If you just fantasise about it then you will never know if Straight, bi or gay will you. No big deal, just enjoy yourself and stop worrying about what others may think. Do as you please and that which pleases you.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Now my man is straight not interested at all. I had,to laugh a couple of weeks ago. I was getting dp from him and our friend.i was on top of his friend as my mans the only one who goes in my bum. My man was putting it in my bum and the other guy popped out and his cock hit my mans hand. All cool at the time but in bed after he was gone he told me about it and we had a good laugh. He wasn't going to help,touch nothing with his cock. If you want a cock in your mouth or hand or want your cock in a mans mouth you are NOT straight. Each to there own but your not.

  • QLDtwo4fun

    QLDtwo4fun

    12 years ago

    As long as everyone is having fun who cares. We all change our sexual behavior to suit our partners needs, and our own thrills

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I think it's true. Men know how to suck cock better than women and their deep throating skills are amazing! :(