M36
Jealous much? mmf
August 25 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't do it. Sex play is about having fun. If you don't enjoy an activity, don't participate. Work out between your lady and yourself what you do enjoy and compromise. Personally, I get turned on seeing my woman turned on. It's her sexuality that excites and motivates me. It is always in the back of my mind that she's going to find someone that pleases her more than I do but there is more to a relationship than sex. We are so perfectly matched on all levels and so happy with each other that I'm not too earful of being left for a fuck buddy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But if you were to have a mmf, cheating couldn't come into it if you were involved. Full stop. If you were there and consensual then it ain't cheating lolBut anyway, we do mmf, mff, mfmf and everything which way inbetween. In those situations there's no room for jealousy, leave the shit at the door and if anyone is jealous, then I would advise them not to play because they clearly can't handle it.Takes alot of trust on all sides for playing to work, and if there isn't or you go into playing with unresolved issues, you're only going to run into trouble.But I'm also sick of seeing the double standards going on.. ok for a man and his feelings to deal with a mff, but not be man enough to deal with mmf... same goes for ladies who turn that round too.Sooo the reason I prefer mfmf... win-win all round :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
no its actually about trust....and if you have that, then jealousy can never rear its ugly little head.... we do what we do, and enjoy ourselves, but only together, and always with eyes wide open.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sounds like its all a trust thing. I understand it itsnt cheating when im there and consenting. Thats why i said " feeling that shes cheating on me". The idea of this girl doing these things including mmmmmf or whatever is a huge turn on. Somehow I need to let go of that "shes mine and no one else can have her" caveman mentality and it sounds like trust and a strong relationship is the key.As for double standards - I dont see so black and white. If the woman is ok with an ffm then props to her. If the guy isnt ok with an mmf but the girl is still ok with an ffm then thats between the couple to decide if its fair or not to have one without the other. For all i know there could be plenty of couples who have it the other way around too? Although... I doubt it because girls getting together is more socially acceptable than guys getting together. Im guessing. But would say between jealousy and homophobia most guys wouldnt be ok with an mmf which is why theres a disparity between the number of mmf's and ffm's. Dose that make the guy "not man enough"? Good question.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i thought itd be difficult for the man but considering the amount of adultry goin on these days i guess its a safer way 2 test the couples curiousities & infedalities.the 1st time a close friend asked me to join in was a bit daunting because i wasnt sure of any boundaries or the role they required me for. i caressed her body while he pumped her then he asked me to take over, to all our surprise i was slightly more endowed(which i thought was about 2 complicate things),i gave it 2 her gently until he told me 2 really hammer it home.....they both loved it, this is when i realised how much HE wanted to please HER(i was just an xtra sex toy,not that i minded).it was mind blowing 4 all 3 of us, they even requested my assistance a few times after that. they hav enduerd 10yrs & other guests 2gether sincethen. maybe a couple of my past relationships woulda lasted longer if we'd considered this option & any future 1s id be willing to talk thru rather than bottle up these desires.as i learnt its not about jealousy or competition between the 2 men rather giving her the best sexual enjoyment possible.
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RHP User
12 years ago
In some men jealousy brings out insecurities & invokes anger & physical aggression........then you have men like my hubby where jealousy & angst fuels passion & desire....the better the lover the more passionate my man becomes & the lovemaking we enjoy for the days, weeks after is just so intense.....I bless the day he implanted the hotwife lifestyle seed into my mind ...like Mikeandshel said trust is a must have as you open this door & walk through it hand in handVix
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RHP User
12 years ago
For a girl whos open enough to try this and also serious relationship material. Thanks for the input guys. Really helped me out!
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MissSarahCurious
12 years ago
Quoting 'Look_atMe' For a girl whos open enough to try this and also serious relationship material. Thanks for the input guys. Really helped me out! You're just going to have to see how you feel when you meet someone. As much as I love seeing my FB's get off and hearing their tales with other women, I don't expect to know whether or not I could share someone I considered "mine" unless I was put in that situation. Swinging/swapping/sharing/whatever is about enriching what you have, don't lock yourself into a mindset that you HAVE to be able to do it in order to be a real, strong couple with someone. Wait and work out what it is that makes you happy when you have it.xx Sarah
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RHP User
12 years ago
For me, in the mmf threesomes I have had with a partner I genuinely feel strong emotion for, the key thing that stopped any jealousy was seeing the look on her face! She looked beautiful as she enjoyed the other man. I was very aroused by the simple fact that she was so aroused, I just loved to see her having so much fun! There was also an additional level of intimacy there in a strange kind of way. It was humbling to see her confident enough in herself and in me to really just let go and enjoy. Jealousy didn't enter into it for me, mostly because in that instance it was a shared experience for us and we had so much more than that experience to build on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is a form of insecurity. Be yourself, know yourself, and ACCEPT yourself, and everything will fall into place.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jealousy does not come not it if your are secure in your relationship. I hope my wife has a ball, weather it be mfm,mfmf or whatever and she wishes me the same. We just know we love each other and at the end of the encounter we will be going home to our wonderful lives together
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find it a little strange that you could cope with another woman making your woman cum, but not another man... In my mind, at least you can compete with another man, you can't really compete with another woman can you. I suppose in a word it all comes down to trust... oh and respect for one another. Working out your boundaries and wills and won'ts long before you hit the bedroom. Good luck x
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RHP User
12 years ago
It sounds to me like you are not ready to take the next step, there is a fine line between fantasy and reality. If you are still plagued with doubts and insecurities better not cross the line as it has the potential of backfiring and cause a lot of damage to your relationship.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi ya.. I love nothing more than watching my sexy gal being fucked by another guy..or guys. She totally enjoys MFM play and I'm cool with it. It's all about the connection you have with each other. If you're not ok watching your gal enjoying another guy...you shouldn't be considering MFM play...
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Sounds like a big trust issue..... You may feel that the other guy would be better n your gf/wife would prefer them to you.... If there is trust n honesty in the relationship there should be no need for concern... But you would be happy for a ffm, like you and every man If you don't feel comfortable don't do it!
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RHP User
12 years ago
why do these questions come from closed accounts?
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RHP User
12 years ago
We only play as a couple , and have enjoyed mmf --- to be honest , didnt think i would as much -- the man thing ! ---we perfer ffmm -- where all in playing together and enjoyment. The sexy look on her face while giving me head as he is pumping away --good, --mind you she does love sex and always gives it a real go
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justforthefun44
12 years ago
Takes alot of trust on all sides for playing and if there isn't , you're only going to run into trouble.talk to your parner before you go there I love seeing my other half having the time of her life so sexy mfm cant wait till we get mff see her in all her glory.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As a husband no doubt over thinking about another guy fucking your wife can be a real head spin. A good mate of mine gave me some advise and summed it up by saying " when you play, she isn't your wife , more like your best friend sharing an experience together." My wife loves cock and actually with her encouragement I've began to enjoy sharing a cock with her as well. I know it turns her on seeing me suck a cock and so forth, in someway it's certainly not all about her. Mind you it's fucking hot seeing her from a differant perspective and especially watching her loose her inhibitions as a woman. When your wife can allow herself to be a dirty bitch and knowing her husband will always respect her, that's takes TRUST. In turn it's our deapest LOVE for one another to accept and allow each other to have all the experiences life has to offer. Life's is for living, and loving someone should be unconditional.
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