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Jealousy and trust when swinging
March 01 2018
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Your time trying to convince. Some people wish not to learn new tricks or look at things differently. Even the most open person can not control their emotion and look at the big picture at times and scenarios. It may be that some people are not meant to be into those things and have other agendas in being in and enjoying a moment or experience. It is like people without manners. If their parents did not teach them early on to say please and thank you it is prob not your job to do so. Manners can be a foreign subject to sum. Jealousy can be a massive sickness that may spread to others. Hard to share fruit when others do not wish to share. How do you like them apples! Also when talking to people about apples, some bananas may respond. At the end of the day we have to respect those folks who are jealous and perhaps one day they will look at things differently. Somethings(issues) have to be dealt with first.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Too true sometimes not in our nature to share. I don't think I am a sharer. Would probably be jealous sharing with another woman. Depends on the situation and how much trust is there. Wouldn't really know unless the situation presented itself?? Ms M
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
If the decision to include a 3rd person is made genuinely and with consultation of the partner, then why would there be an environment that breeds the jealousy to begin with?? I’ve got a theory, that it was NOT a decision made genuinely or with integrity....or the process involved was administered lacking the same.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some People are possessive Some People believe possessiveness equals love Some People believe someone showing jealousy shows they love you Monogamy is nirvana and we are all taught that this is what everyone should want. From books, from movies, social expectations, etc. To some, swinging must mean you don’t really love each other? I’m guessing here?
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madotara69
7 years ago
We tossed the idea a bout for a while, all around how well we were enjoying sex, each others company not only in love, as best friends and spent best part of 28 years maintaining it all rolled up into a relationship, married because Tara wanted to ride a horse drawn chariot, to a crowd of a couple hundred folk we knew 12, ha ha. Agree with the possessiveness, Although in other respects, there is other emotions than jealousy protecting our love, Trust, honesty, faithful, respectful and If any of these which are met with principals, if anyone were to treat Tara with less than respects, every second after, If I were to let it fly would be disrespecting her and failing those values, our bond, letting her down as the friend she means, stronger and more meaningful emotions than if it were by the actions of thinking I own her, I've spent my life protecting the rites she is entitled as her own person, I think that is why she wants to be my friend, always have, only ever asked her with anything, respect her choices. We have reckoned with all types of emotions, some confronting, some hurt, hurt for reason and better understood wins hands down than the curse of the green eyed monster. A lady would often tell us, once upon a time, she saw a connection in couples when attending the sex clubs, she saw things many would miss, made her kind of special and of caring in nature :) Mado Mado Tara xx
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
Talk, talk and talk some more about it with your partner or significant other. We’ve found that even the closest of couples have identified their insecurities and developed ways of still indulging together with others but without jealousy interfering. They have rules, boundaries and lines they do not cross. But the point is, they’ve talked about it at length and agreed on what they’re willing to share with others. Some people will never be ok with sharing. These people should probably forget about swinging altogether. Or at least til they iron out the their personal insecurities. - Posted from rhpmobile
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mango69er
7 years ago
Agree with antichrist. Think in some cases, one person wants it more than the other. And that can cause a problem. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Ive known many swingers and not one of them are jealous. Whilst they are swinging with eachother they know their partner wont betray them and cheat hence they do it together. Some of these same couples have fwb's on the side that they meet alone and often the wives find a woman or atleast try to for their husbands because the women dont have problems finding anyone. I however couldnt do this if I had a partner. I wish I could but I couldnt. Im just glad I never want to have a relationship because I love the variety lmfao
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Don't try and convince anyone. It will never be for everyone. And no one will really know how they will handle their emotions until they experience it first hand. I surprised myself by having no issues with my gf with our first experience On the other hand, jealousy and trust issues can be warranted due to the predatory nature of both men and women, so it's hard to comprehend others attitude if you havn't experienced what they have in their life. Also not a single person can be 100% solid in their relationship if the right person is introduced into the mix. Present company included.
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
On anyone that says they do not have any emotions of jealousy or ever felt the emotion before. It's a very complex emotion, on a sliding scale. It can strike anyone, at anytime. The person/s who experience/s these emotions does have a choice what to do and how to deal with. It's about taking responsibility, being vunerable. It also takes courage to speak up. Not many people can expose themselves like that. If these emotions are not delt with, it can cause trust issues and can destroy beautiful relationships. If dealt with, it can enhance stronger bonds between people to have healthy relationships. Ms Foxy
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
If you don't trust each other - Posted from rhpmobile
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Have to disagree here. Jealousy is a perfectly natural emotional reaction. It can vary from a little tiny coldness in the pit of your belly when you watch your beloved go off excitedly on a date to full blown Banshee Mode. If people here say they've NEVER even felt a little pang of jealousy then its an outright lie. It does not by any means dictate that you should or shouldnt share your partner or that you dont embrace and become enlivened by the multitude of positive emotions that come with sharing/swinging. Peoples journeys and experiences are all individual and if theyre both (when all is said and done) mutually enjoying the journey then why overanalyze. - Posted from rhpmobile
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intheswing
7 years ago
Talking to each other is the most important thing how your feeling what you want and this changes all the time so you have to keep communicating but in all honesty there is probably less jealousy in this lifestyle than out of it I don’t have to worry about my partner having an affair which then often starts to involve feelings for each other etc If she wants to sleep with someone else we do that together lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
Sometimes being a little jealous and seeing them get off so much with someone else can make you want them more - Posted from rhpmobile
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Kentia
7 years ago
I really want to see Ms Kentia being banged by another dude, it doesn't make me jealous. However, I'll not consider not being there with them, either watching or playing along. I'd feel bad and jealous if I wasn't included in some ways. - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
7 years ago
Can help you out with the delicate situation with your wife. Caring is sharing!😉🍌🌮
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nightingale8
7 years ago
Jealousy like every other emotion is your own emotion to manage, not someone else's responsibility. The only time I've been properly jealous was during a time when my emotional needs were not being met. Solved that issue, no longer jealous. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
7 years ago
Absolute Chaos. But noBased on having a jealous emotion on the sliding scale of a little tiny coldness, to full blown Banshee mode, complex and not dealt with destroy, if dealt with enhance stronger bonds, relationships. Common traits including jealousy (insecurities)Manipulative control of motivations, control of intensions possessive, control of narcissistic and anti social behavioural disorders, then all the way to the bottom tiny little jealousy on the sliding scale. On the sliding scale jealousy delivers Trauma, once passed off as Co Dependant little care for partners well being, today long term psychology therapy in treatment Diagnosed psychiatric disorders and symptoms such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), generalised anxiety. I'm not particularly fond of being told how to behave, or that anyone exercise control over any of my emotions full stop ! in suiting self reflection, or defending self, or excuse, or enlisting cooperation and support' In which these claims of bullshit and lie's does not support..... 'Taking joy in your partner's pleasure sounds like exactly what a good lover does'. Compersion. ... “the opposite of jealousy.” Calm, Content, Undoubting, Unresentful, Unworried, Confident, Satisfied, Trusting This is where I choose to be found and feels naturally familiar, as opposed to the feelings I don't naturally get a grasp on, nor posses any urge to jump the fence, the grass does not look greener, just bullshit and lies that hurts people, treated as trauma a soldier bares from wartime and fighting for freedom of loved ones when dictatorship threatens and that ain't jealousy for the trauma, quite the contrary.
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69tattoorob
6 years ago
Talking more about how far to allow others to go during partner swapping my wife and i wanted another couple only single men answered our add so she had five replies picking one to meet deal was no passionate kissing or tongue swapping definitely no anal condoms a must it was a good experience for first time but something was missing we decided inviting another we took turns with her for a couple hours he was a bit reluctant to try different things only wanting to fuck her hard still not what we wanted she again invites another same thing they only wanted a quick fuck and suck then left our last one out of five he said he was experienced in MMF i agreed for one on one time with her to start they got into a 69 to start he was good at licking her pussie watching her orgasm several times she sucked him till he cum in her mouth he got her on her back lifting her legs over his shoulders and pushed his unprotected cock straight into her i tried to stop him but she said it's okay watching them both fuck so hard then it happened they began kissing swapping tongues again swapping now licking her pussie she told me to look where his fingers were seeing three deep in her arse he was slapping her arse so hard leaving hand marks on her asking her if she was okay she said just watch us for four hours i witnessed her been controlled by him allowing him anything he wanted ignoring me as i tried to join them turning away from me she was finally forced fucked up her near virgin arse watching as she spread her cheeks wide open for him for deeper penetration fucking each other for thirty more minutes before they both cum hard together i could see his cum dripping from her well used arse he got dressed thanked me kissing her deeply then said see you on friday in there heat of passion they arranged another meeting without me he left she was like fuck that was good sorry it went longer than expected why didn't you join us i tried can't you remember and how about the rules we set breaking all of them with him we are still together years later but haven't shared again but a friend told me he seen her with two men coming out of a motel room he had the room next door and heard all of the fucking for many hours seems she still enjoys others
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RHP User
6 years ago
I love odds and have had the weirdest timings sooo many times in my life. I won't go on today but I totally relate to those movies based on synchrocities that all tie together in the end. Peachy
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