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Jumping offsite
April 12 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
Reason I was given today when I asked a new message sender why he wanted to text via kik after 2 messages was that it was easier? I dont think its any different typing here, there or texting.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I prefer it personally , the app for rhp doesn't function well on my device .. using it via a browser on my phone is frustrating so I log in from a computer.. kik allows me to reply quicker as its a direct message to my phone and i always have my phone near by whereas i may only be on here an hour a day or so which can really stretch out getting to know one another. I certainly wont give out my phone number though.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Apps on your phone notify you of message and you can be logged in permanently so it's more convenient, rather than having to log into RHP to check messages all the time. Although I don't use The RHP so it may have the same functionality? Not everyone wants to log into RHP all day every day.
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twowithnolimits
9 years ago
perhaps its privacy? not only do you have the issue of rhp employees and volunteers checking your messages here, but there is much easier access via the web to outsiders whereas with phones there is the "belief" your more private?
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RHP User
9 years ago
For some it seems easier because your kik messages alert you on your phone whereas with rhp you need to be logged in, or checking your email notifications?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im all for taking it offline, after Im 90% sure Im attracted and want to hook up with them. But thats after weve exchanged a bit of info, and deffinately shared face/body pics on here. Just seems pointless to move communication to another similar medium and then say sorry we arent poppin'.
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ruby_blossum
9 years ago
there are some men & women on here that dont know how the message system works.If their membership level is 5 messages a day, they dont realise that is 5 separate messages. I have lost count the amount of times I have explained, that, out of their 5 messages, 1 can go back and forth forever...another with another person etc til they have used up their 5 messages per day. Once they realise that, they are usually more than happy to stay on site.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
That way, when your body is discovered, the police have a one stop shop to solve the mystery. .......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Put my hand up for that same issue when I first joined. Didn't read the fine print. But it also didn't worry me because I wasn't messaging anyone. I like kik because it comes up on my phone - it's a a bit lazy to be frank. But there needs to be something that takes me there first. A few messages so we find out a little about each other, photos etc. and then if that's all good I will happily move. I hate the "Hi I loved your profile, if you would like to chat my kik name is" or the ones that find me on kik and then stalk me instead of sending me flirts or a message.
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225Special
9 years ago
We will do the kik thing after a bit of a chat, we just find it easier and if you want to exchange pics there are usually some on the phone.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It raises red flags for me and that's based on experience. Few possible reasons, not always with an agenda, but quite often, I suspect they either don't want to add those extra pics we might ask for, IG they have old or stolen pictures on here, they only get caught out if the evidence is online. My latest thought though is that some are attached and not revealing that. I've guys disappear after i've given them my phone number, directly following them giving me their kik name or email? That to me says they don't want to be caught out on the phone. Well it's not a definite but why not text, unless you only have a work phone, in which case you can tell the other person that. I get a lot of messages, with their kik or email in the first message, yeah nah, don't even reply usually 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
...adds dimensions to anyone's personality that simply cannot be communicated via messaging, regardless of the source. Intonation, the sound of laughter shared or simple vocal inflection can be intoxicating. I've yet to be able to hear anyone when they... LOL. Conversely, if a woman has a voice that is reminiscent of long fingernails being dragged over a dry chalkboard...colour me gone. All of us will put our best foot forward when we can and I have a great deal of confidence in speaking...I also enjoy listening. As to when, simple rule of thumb is when both parties are comfortable in doing so...and let's face it, sooner or later we will come up for air to talk.
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RHP User
9 years ago
As I'm not a member (yet) just a guest! I find it more so difficult on rhp as said before on mobile device the messaging isn't great so my way (at the moment)is PRAY for a reply from my flirt then once I've got the first message (open season) after a little back n' forth I offer my number. (This is a sign of trust) if I'm keen as. verbal for me is a huge deal then if all's well set a meet. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Gov76' As I'm not a member (yet) just a guest! I find it more so difficult on rhp as said before on mobile device the messaging isn't great so my way (at the moment)is PRAY for a reply from my flirt then once I've got the first message (open season) after a little back n' forth I offer my number. (This is a sign of trust) if I'm keen as. verbal for me is a huge deal then if all's well set a meet. - Posted from rhpmobile I'm similar and like some back and forth on here first before going to the phone. Interesting that I never used to worry about actually talking to them, as in hearing their voice, lots of sexy chat and pictures exchanged. But I then had the occasional one ask if they could call (hate it if they just call without asking) and have been put off by the voice on the other end, either the sound of their voice, in extreme cases, or the tone of the conversation. Some people have baggage for example and it can all come spilling out in a phone call. Phone calls can be VERY revealing, so I usually try to talk to them first before a meet now, not always. In relation to how easy it is to type messages on here versus kik or text, I prefer doing it on here, but I use the classic site, not the mobile app, so can expand the screen to see it better, a big help considering I wear reading glasses, that combined with glare when I'm out in the sun, makes it easier and a lot faster for me to message
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RHP User
9 years ago
So who would take it to kik or phone before seeing face pics?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Deep_Purple' So who would take it to kik or phone before seeing face pics? ...most likely not. That said, if it were one of those 'margin call' situations...the voice could put everything across the line. I've also at times spoken with someone ahead of seeing face pics...nothing is cast in granite. I'm genuinely a 'complete package' person and not at all two dimensional.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I stick with RHP messages until face pics have been exchanged and I've established that I'd like to meet them. Then if they have kik I'll give them my username. I don't give out my number until I've met them and there's interest in meeting up again. Although I haven't had it happen very often, if they want to go immediately to email / texting / kik then I tell them I prefer to stay on RHP initially. If they're not happy with that then I would cease contact, but honestly I can't remember that ever happening.
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RHP User
9 years ago
No, I'd never go off here, in fact I don't even continue messaging on here until I've seen their face. More than that for me though, I like to see their body and face in the same picture. Recent examples of stolen pictures (part body shots) have again highlighted how important that is, at least for me But I'd never go off here without seeing their face, not ever
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thank you I thought it was just me! Well I've sent you the flirt and now you should know what happens next..... I'm praying. Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
9 years ago
I must admit 90%of the time I'm the one that suggests moving to Kik. Im a heavy Kik user though and am a member of a Kik chat group and run a Kik chat group that's a little bit kinky. I find it so much easier as it notifies me and I don't have to log in and out. I'm also a heavy text user though and would be lost without it. I personally hate email as a way to communicate I think that's because I read emails alllllll day.
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lovman8
9 years ago
but I like to exchange messages here on rhp to get a feel for whether we have any "connection" . I also find forum posts a good way to get a feel for some ones personality if they participate. Then I probably would like to actually "talk" ( although exchanging text messages is fine too) on the phone before meeting face to face. That said I have had a couple of meets based purely on rhp message exchange.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Deep_Purple' So who would take it to kik or phone before seeing face pics? no because if they don't have pics in a pg here i assume they have something to hide...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Gov76' Thank you I thought it was just me! Well I've sent you the flirt and now you should know what happens next..... I'm praying. Lol - Posted from rhpmobile Are you a religious man
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RHP User
9 years ago
think I might have jumped off site a bit too quick tonight, me thinks I'll take a step back, think I'd know better by now
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RHP User
9 years ago
Assume,they are scammers😳Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
More food for thought. When they don't want to leave the site at all, along with other signs, like jigsaw puzzle pictures. You know the ones where you have to imagine what the 'complete' person looks like, thank god they're not 1000 pc we'd never get sex or guess if certain pieces are him and current or 10-15 yr old pictures when he used to be a football star, no not Billy Brownless or Gary Lyons, we'll give them a break this time but combine those kind of question mark factors I guess, with not wanting to leave the site, and the complete puzzle perhaps isn't quite so appealing? Always variables, just food for thought. I'm also not judging status on here, but I am judging lying, hate that. I don't mind a puzzle guys but how about one of those kiddie puzzles with 20 large pieces, we'll be in each other's pants soooooo much quicker
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like to chat on RHP for a bit then will go to kik if I think I want to meet up. I use the RHP app on my phone and it is a bit clunky but that's not going to get me to kik straight up - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks op I thought it was just me that had a problem with it! As everytime Ive said no to kik or similiar requests the guy's always come back with "everyone does it!" There has to be a connection for me to message outside of RHP.
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RHP User
9 years ago
does anyone use snapchat and how do you find it? Any issues? Snapchat vs kik ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
as its a direct message and not reliant on logging in to RHP. Rarely do we bother messaging on RHP too much as it just becomes a game of message frisbee and you have to wait on the others answer and who knows when they log in. With Kik you can have a direct conversation. Same with FB messenger which i chat to many RHP friends on instead of on here.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Personally, I prefer email for lengthy messages - I type a lot faster than I can tap on a phone screen (fat fingers). And my email is an old terminal-based program - no strange images popping up on my screen unexpectedly if my children are visiting. But it takes a while to get to lengthy messages, so it's not straight off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Can't say I'm religious but I'm keen as if it gets a result x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
That the quicker someone moves to the seduction, the more wool can be blatantly pulled, or at least attempted to be pulled, over ones eyes.... Much like a magician using "magic" which is usually just misdirection.... Obviously that's not always the case, but it has me flagging them with a yellow card.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You asked if I was religious, well theres only one thing that makes me "go down" on my knees to pray and there ain't much of that going on but it's something thats "right up your ally" but you're gonna think it's a prayer or a rain dance as that's usually the outcum! "Snorkel time" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just between you and me... If the chemistry is mutually there, Ive been known to fly out the door on my way to meet them(ok fuck them 😎), an hr after the initial message. On the flip side of that, I sometimes take a month to organise a time/date to meet. In both cases Ive had some mediocre hookups, and some mind blowing, earth shattering ones. So its not about how fast/slow things take. Personally, I think if ppl focus their initial 1 or 2 messages to getting me onto another social medium, and not focus on getting to know me, then I just feel like they really dont care who I am and if we will connect on various levels. They just want a fuck from any random female who they can get a yes from.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yup...I get ya.... And I agree partly, but every change of environment, I see as a potential for a destabilising technique...much like that of a security guard leading out a patron from a club, quick changes in direction don't allow them to get their feet and prevent the progression to the door... For me, changing messaging mediums are similar.....as each messaging medium will obviously have different features....features that they may be aware of that I don't..... And at the risk of sounding like a complete twat, who's to say it's not about Internet security, or the lack thereof?? Conspiracy theories I know.....but either way, it's a progression of some description for me, and my defenses go off a little if it's suggested we move from a perfectly operational medium to another. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Primarily as per the above, this app is quite painful in the instant messaging department. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If it aint broke, why fix it
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RHP User
9 years ago
Kik is a waste of time,mostly used by fake profiles of single males pretending to be couples/ females while they play with thier small lonely penis. Basically with us If people don't want to swap numbers after a few conversations we move on,it's a pretty easy way to tell who is real or not Why would any of you waste your time going to a meet without talking to the other party?how else do you verify whether they are genuine?the odd time we have kik chatted to people and met without chatting,we don't actually care weather they meet or not and make them come to our location, A lot of people here are only after chat buddies,so kik is probably fine for that And photos?why do people send thier face pix on kik but refuse to put on rhp?duh,hello,you just gave them your photo,to do what they like with,clever! Not!
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surfyboy44
9 years ago
guys ask to go to kick because it cost money to send messages
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RHP User
9 years ago
Really have an issue with moving the convo to another chat platform or phone after a bit of messaging. It's easier. And if they annoy me I can just give em a blocking lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well, here I am joining the forumites! My view is that to me chatting offsite tends to do a couple of things, the other person is genuinely interested and shows an interest in taking things to the next step. Although I understand that people don't want to give out numbers initially, kik is a great way to get instant messages and you have the ability to block the other person if necessary. In saying this, I also respect a woman's decision to chat on RHP for a while, however after swapping 5 or more messages, it would be ideal for me to move offsite as the messages are received instantly. When it comes down to it, it really is a personal choice. I'm all for taking it to kik before seeing face pics and have had a recent amazing experience with a woman after chatting on kik, then a phone call then meeting her, it was truly a highlight of my sexual experiences to date!Jerry x
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well does not matter what pics you see on this site or even if you send pics via whatever ,you maybe are not going to know what people look like unless you have a live video chat ,that way you are seeing what you are maybe wanting to see or not Talking via whatever medium is not the be all for if you click as anyone can say anything via words in messages and easy to put your phone onto private ring the guy or gal and then maybe judge by real instant voice messaging ,advantages of voice talking can be you can instantly ask questions and perhaps gauge the answers you are given ,as has been mentioned you may hate the voice you are hearing , but also in voice they can be as fake as they are in messaging I don't see a diff in voice talking to messaging as some prefer to hear a voice and communicate ,reason some don't like voice talk could be that they are sneaking around and don't want to be caught on the phone or be asked by their partner about numbers they have called or numbers that have called them ? Like to hear about why this is diff to bumping into someone on the street let's say and you start a convo that way ? use to be the norm before the Internet started
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RHP User
9 years ago
Oh one more thing Be very careful when sending a photo as depending on what info is embedded into that photo some people have programs that can identify the location where the photo was taken ,so I would only send photos that are not taken where you frequent a lot and especially not from where you live and never have the location service turned on for photos Remember there is a lot more to the digital age than what most people think there is -:)
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MrandMrsBrady
9 years ago
We primarily use kik, this started early on in our adventures as we felt it easier then A app and B giving out your number to anybody. It also allows much easier group chat so all parties can see in real time the conversations. As we have grown more confident in the site and people using it we have given out our direct number. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We prefer to exchange details quickly as we want to get to know you in person rather than over the internet. In saying that, we do like to see what you look like first to make sure that there is an attraction, if there is we exchange details to arrange a date :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
because we do...and because we arent on this site 24/7.its mobile app is cumbersome and unwieldy and the others are much easier to use...ie texxting/phone calls are better than best anyway
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neapolitan_guy
9 years ago
Probally sounds lame but I go with the flow, I don't ask to go off site, I guess when someones comfortable messaging without having to be on rhp they'll ask ask about or give me their details. I didn't know about kik until asked and set up on it and chated for a while, I liked how quick it is when messaging, I'm technology illiterate and found it easy to use. I'd prefer to call and talk, obviouly checking by message first when the times right.
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RHP User
9 years ago
All possibilities are fine by me. I've gone from 2x RHP messages to mob ph without issue. And 5 - 6 RHP to mob ph or kik then ph And 10 - 12 RHP to kik then ph. Talking on the phone, person to person gives both of us the opportunity to hear a voice with our speech patterns, nuances & cadences and is only surpassed by meeting face to face :) Followed up by F2F in a public place has worked just fine for me, just look for the bloke with the Loudest Hawiian shirt :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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SassnCheek
9 years ago
Messaging by KIK is instant messaging, easier to share photo's that you might not upload to a profile, and a much better mobile experience. No offense to anyone, but the RHP mobile app is terrible. Plus we can all jump into a group chat together rather than possibly one person taking charge of the communications on the website. We do prefer face pics though, I feel too many people are a bit too keen to go from showing enticing headless shots in their profile, to genitalia shots in their private gallery, with still no face pics shown which is disappointing.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Never used KIK until recently. I used it after seeing a face pic and worked well. Very instant and made chatting easier. Didn't go anywhere with the guy but I actually liked KIK. Currently using it with someone after numerous messages on here and face pic swap. However I would never use it with someone I had no intention of meeting or had not seen a face pic of. It is easier to use as mobile site for RHP is slow and hard work and when I get home from work I don't get chance to sit and log on sometimes. Meaning that some people may misconstrue this as lack of interest when it isn't. It also allows me to remain partially private as it isn't my phone number. Therefore don't have to worry about unsolicited calls and subsequent blocking..
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was lamenting on guys who focus on taking it offline before asking any personal questions to get to see if you are compatable. Not about whats a better medium to use. Totes agree that you need to chat and hear a voice, or skype etc, to make a final decision to meet, so its going offline eventually, but thats after an attraction, not before. But Im more curious to know why guys want to get off here initially. And yes its often before they see a face pic. Just dont get it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm sure some people just like to collect phone numbers.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Deep_Purple' I was lamenting on guys who focus on taking it offline before asking any personal questions to get to see if you are compatable. Not about whats a better medium to use. Totes agree that you need to chat and hear a voice, or skype etc, to make a final decision to meet, so its going offline eventually, but thats after an attraction, not before. But Im more curious to know why guys want to get off here initially. And yes its often before they see a face pic. Just dont get it. I've had a lot of messages lately where they ask what I'm up to that day, do I want to meet them the same day which is met with me heading for the back arrow. But even if they throw their phone number at me, they get the same/zero response because it tells me they couldn't care less about me or what I want. I also want to know if I'm going to be compatible with them. I don't want anything other than sex but even still, I need to trust them first and get to know them a little, just enough to get some idea of whether we might 'work' together. One guy sent me a string of messages with his phone number and when I finally told him the problem, he got defensive and buggered off. That's his choice but that just doesn't work for me
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