M51
Just tell me the truth
February 22 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Shy, This is not our first encounter in Forum and I hope it won't be our last. Not sure whether you have noticed, but you are not alone. Many posts relate to the issues you raise. Just as many reply threads concur with the degree of difficulty in attracting responses to ones profile and messages. From a female perspective, I noted an increase in flirts & emails from men and women as soon as I placed pics in the public profile. 93% are from ppl who do not take the time to read my profile and are simply trolling for sex. Hence, the majority of my time is taken in replying with a polite 'thanks but no thanks' To answer your question/s No, I do not think you are ugly. Desperately unhappy and frustrated yes but not unattractive, superficially at least. What do women want? Whoa! Ever so complex....NOT. I don't believe a lot of blokes are as interested in what women want as they are in what THEY want. Case in point, you are asking the question AFTER lack of sex for an extended period of time. When you are ready and genuinely interested in the answer.... Read the numerous posts women have supplied right here in our very own backyard.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I checked your profile to see what might be stopping women. Yep its there.....can you figure it out???? As a woman who reads the profiles of people who contact me (I know you didnt but wanted to see what you had there) the first thing I notice is no drinking and no smoking. No smoking is OK but when it's no to both...not even a social drink I think boring or whoops this guys a saint and I aint. Also you have specified a certain nationality as your favorite so a lot of women arent going to bother with you anyway. Just my thoughts...............dont get angry with me for giving my opion. I wish you luck
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Mynameonurlips' Hi Shy, This is not our first encounter in Forum and I hope it won't be our last. Not sure whether you have noticed, but you are not alone. Many posts relate to the issues you raise. Just as many reply threads concur with the degree of difficulty in attracting responses to ones profile and messages. From a female perspective, I noted an increase in flirts & emails from men and women as soon as I placed pics in the public profile. 93% are from ppl who do not take the time to read my profile and are simply trolling for sex. Hence, the majority of my time is taken in replying with a polite 'thanks but no thanks' To answer your question/s No, I do not think you are ugly. Desperately unhappy and frustrated yes but not unattractive, superficially at least. What do women want? Whoa! Ever so complex....NOT. I don't believe a lot of blokes are as interested in what women want as they are in what THEY want. Case in point, you are asking the question AFTER lack of sex for an extended period of time. When you are ready and genuinely interested in the answer.... Read the numerous posts women have supplied right here in our very own backyard. That's the lips i know and enjoy bantering with. Very well put in a diplomatic manner lips . Great advice you should listen to her shyone. She is a smart cookie and the advice you just got from her should serve you well in your communication with other women
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shybutnaughty88
15 years ago
Quoting 'ChikyGirl' I checked your profile to see what might be stopping women. Yep its there.....can you figure it out???? As a woman who reads the profiles of people who contact me (I know you didnt but wanted to see what you had there) the first thing I notice is no drinking and no smoking. No smoking is OK but when it's no to both...not even a social drink I think boring or whoops this guys a saint and I aint. Also you have specified a certain nationality as your favorite so a lot of women arent going to bother with you anyway. Just my thoughts...............dont get angry with me for giving my opion. I wish you luck NO I CANT FIGURE IT OUT< PLEASE TELL ME. as for drinking i can drink most under the table i enjoy partying hard, i have been ina f ew bands and music and guitar is a big part of my life. i am very ougoing etc... if i have a crap profile then please tell me what to write. thank you
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RHP User
15 years ago
I certainly take note of how a person's online behaviors (e.g., answering questions, posing questions, online profiles, etc.) relate to their personality characteristics. In My opinion you can tell a lot about a person from the way they answer or construct their personal space. Personality type, of course, can't never be determined by this information alone...Personality is a very complex collection of characteristics and can never be interpreted from one factor. In any case, one's style of expressing does reveal personal features to some degree. Profile Names Avatars etc , as well as public vs hidden profiles, preference for asking vs answering also communicate something about the person.First impressions are highly influential, despite the well-worn admonition not to judge a book by its cover. Within a tenth of a second of seeing an unfamiliar face we have already made a judgment about its owner's character - caring, trustworthy, aggressive, extrovert, competent and so on Once that snap judgment has formed, it is surprisingly hard to budge. As for looks i recently read of a theory that recalls the old parental warning not to pull faces, because they might freeze that way. According to this theory, our personality molds the way our faces look. It is supported by a study two decades ago which found that angry old people tend to look cross even when asked to strike a neutral expression. A lifetime of scowling, grumpiness and grimaces seemed to have left its mark.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Shybutnaughty, I think if anything the problem maybe that you note that you prefer "Asian women", perhaps some lovely ladies have been interested in you on here but because you say you prefer asian ladies they they do not contact you as they feel they are not your type? just a thought anyway.... With regards to looks...... to be really honest as a woman i feel personality and confidence go a really long way, looks are not the whole part of attraction, there is more to it than that. You really need to not foucus on what you deem to be the negatives but focus on the positives that you have.....positivity is key, this will help you to appear and be more confident! I also read in another forum that you had never been to a sex shop and perhaps you are not very experienced with the oppisitie sex....maybe you should go and start to explore that part of yourself, again i think if you explore this side of yourself and get to know the sexual being inside you will again become more confident........learn to love yourself, physically and emotionally! Hope this helps...... Miss Fun
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RHP User
15 years ago
I tried to message you but you must be updating your profile.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ive just read a few of your posts..... yes you are ugly and it has nothing to do with asthetics... you are bitter and angry and it shows... no woman in her right mind would go near you.. for goodness sake ... Sex is playtime for adults ... you sure as hell can't play when you are so angry with women .... just my opinion ... as asked for !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
All I've seen of you has been your responses to forum posts, and from those alone you come across as not really very pleasant. Just because you're on a sex site doesn't mean you're entitled to it. It doesn't matter if you call yourself a nice guy, you don't come across as one. You come across as having poor self-esteem and as having a chip on your shoulder regarding women and their lack of interest in you.Plenty of ordinary looking people manage to get laid and also have relationships. Personality goes a very long way.And your comments about prostitutes - from someone who wouldn't even contemplate seeing one you are hardly in a position to make ANY comment about hookers, I know several and they are lovely girls, not diseased nor drug addicts (or even drug takers for that matter).It's not your profile that needs work.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personality will win me over every time. Sure there has to be 'something' there on the outside that one is initially attracted to but personality will win every time. You seem to be a very sad sort of bloke, and people want to be surrounded by happy people, and this rubs off on those around them. So if given a choice, most people would choose to be around a happy person. Take Earl for instance (sorry earl) ... He doesnt have a clean cut look about him, but he does have a bit of the "X" factor thing going on. He has a sense of humour second to none and makes me laugh everytime he writes on the forums. I havent looked at your profile nor earls either for that matter, but your replies in the forums seem sooo depressive! Its a dog eat dog world out there! Maybe you could change your way of thinking? or try a change of attitude? ,or even put some humour in your posts ?? It might just change people's first impressions of you ??? I remember an old saying that went like this... ...."YOU DONT GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION" ... but you can prove them wrong!! ....and please dont think that i am picking on you, just trying to help! good luck!, think positive! - maple -
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RHP User
15 years ago
Shy Shy Shy..You have an agressive , negative nature to your answers ..We arent the ones to make you feel better about yourself man..Only you can do that..Ugly , handsome , fat or skinny.we all suffer some from something we dont see as beautiful within ourselves... We are judged all the time by people which i am sure through your 36 yrs you have experienced.. My tip, laugh and be positive in is infectious..People will see beauty in that ..Take it easy mate..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hmm. Is this really worth a response!! Well there ya go... I see your prob straight away.. And you've added to your drama queen side in your forum replies.. It's just a shame you had to ruin someone else's post beforehand with your whining... In future don't pass your bs onto others... And yeah I still think your Whitey reincarnated!!! Pixie xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
SHY - I think you just have to be happy within yourself to start with mate - What's goin on" inside" oneself is often radiated to the outside of us whether we can see it or not. As it also comes across as to how we relate to others and vice-versa. After reading several of your posts, I found that they all have a very similar theme, you're desperately unhappy or at the very least...You're not happy with yourself, which in turn provides you with a "lack of confidence" and "negative thinking" not only about yourself, but to others as well - and this is currently reflected in your attitude and also your questions, replies and your response to others... - We'll at least that seems to be glaringly obvious in some of your posts that I've read personally anyway. Most people even if they like you or make an effort to understand you get sick of whiney, winging poor me I want to kill myself and/or I can't get laid comments all the time bloke!!! You should give that a rest to start with... and then start thinking about yourself in a "more positive light" in all facets of your everyday life, when you can find that, you'll find that many things in your life improve you'll be more confident within yourself and relate to people alot easier too. The old saying rings true here Shy... "Attitude determines your Altitude" - Your "Stinking Thinking" won't do you any favours whatsoever or increase your confidence levels to attract many good and wonderfull things into your life..or even mutliplying the chances of you gettin laid regularly. Women pick up on that shit faster than the rest of us mere mortals...When they can easily see that in you maestro, you probably won't have time to whine as you'll be too fuckin busy getting laid more often!!! Mate, we all hit a purple patch from time to time, you're only human like the rest of us... However, I would definitely suggest that you need to do a little "soul searching" (or maybe even alot) within yourself first and foremost and find out what makes you happy about yourself, what makes you happy when talking or interacting with other people in your life... Which you then can easily "communicate to others" and they in turn will respond far more positively based upon your level of communication towards them both online and in "Real Life! Tough Love - It's Time you had a checkup from the neck up bloke- The TRUTH HURTS... Albeit, only for a short peroid of time, but lies go on forever... HOPE IT HELPS SHY! PEACE, LOVE & MUNG BEANS FOR ALL...
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RHP User
15 years ago
great to see those shades back in the sandpit buddy.i agree with the Taipan shyguy. a little confidence goesa long way.the girl seem to have given you some handy tips also bro.see ya round the pitt buddy.Earl
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is good to be back man..I am glad the shades are on after my weekend of self abuse a couple of weeks back when i was tired and emotional !! I wont hit the keyboard again after a day/night of .... the only pill i will take is a panadol !
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RHP User
15 years ago
NO ONE IS UGLY BUT YOU CAN HAVE AN UGLY HEART FEMALES ON HERE GET HUNDREDS OF MESSAGES AND WE GET OVER IT QUICKLY IF YOU CAN SHOW YOUR SELF AS KIND AND GENTLE AND TREAT A WOMAN RIGHT YOU WILL GO ALONG WAY THIS SITE IS FOR SEX YES BUT YOU CANT THINK THAT 100% THAT BECAUSE YOUR ON HERE YOUR GOING TO GET SEX IF YOU COME ACROSS AS NASTY AND FULL OF YOUR SELF THEN THE GIRLS ARE GOING TO THINK YOUR A PRICKYOU NEED TO CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY AND THINK BEFORE YOU TYPE IF YOU SEND MESSAGES HEY WANT A FUK THEN GIRLS ARE GOING TO LOOK AT IT AND TELL YOU TO GET STUFFED AND BLOCK YOU TRY HI HELLO MY NAME IS AND ASK ABOUT THE GIRL YOUR TALKING TO OR WANTING TO TALK TO ASK ABOUT HER DAY WHAT SHE LIKES TO DO NORMAL STUFFYOU NEED TO LOOSE THE IDEA THAT CAUSE YOUR ON HERE THAT THE WOMEN ARE JUST GOING TO FALL INTO YOUR LAP SORRY DOESNT WORK THAT WAY ALSO YOUR PROFILE IS UGLY I FOUND IT BORING AND NOT INVITING TO ME YOU DONT DRINK YOU DONT SMOKE YOU WANT ORAL WHAT IM SAY IS STICK A FIRE CRACKER UP YOUR ASS AND GIVE IT LIFE WELL HAVE A GOOD ONE BOK
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shybutnaughty88
15 years ago
first reply for pixie, wtf is your problem you are exacly the reason i dont like women like you, seriously do you get off on making people feel bad. and who the hell is whitey stop fukin making up things and calling me someone else MY FUKIN NAME I S JON get it, i live in melb and from adelaide originally, so before ytou jsut deiced to mouth of with you lousy attitude fukin get ya facts straight. and you are keep saying things like " i see the prob straight aaway " but you refuse to actually say what it is..... STOP TROLLING!!!!!!! keep going on like this and i will report you. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF WOMEN LIKE YOU PERIOD!!! As i said before if you dont have anything nice to say dont fukin say it. to all the others, once i calm down after this crap i will post some thank yous for the help and advice you are giving as for PIXIE leave me the fuk alone and go and pick on someone else.
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shybutnaughty88
15 years ago
judging from a few post obviously compassion and understanding is not your strong points. Maybe someone has a reason for who they are , maybe their pasts have affected their lives. But it seems asking a woman to be compassionate towards a guys problem does the complete opposite and for some reason these women see it as a chance to attack them. Im sorry but again if you have nothing nice to say then dont say it. I am not the best for this but trying to write something in a way that is not going to hurt someones feelings but get your point accross in a non threating way, or non abusive way would have more impact than jsut putting soemone down. thanks again all
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Shy , the saddest thing i have heard and read this week is the young girl that was taken up in Qld..I feel sorry for her family and all concerned..Do you think that your pain or conflict is worse thing in the world that can happen? You shouldnt have a crack at the woman giving you the advise you have asked us all to offer you man ! My old man always said dont ask a question if you dont want to know the answer..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'shybutnaughty88' first reply for pixie, wtf is your problem you are exacly the reason i dont like women like you, seriously do you get off on making people feel bad. and who the hell is whitey stop fukin making up things and calling me someone else MY FUKIN NAME I S JON get it, i live in melb and from adelaide originally, so before ytou jsut deiced to mouth of with you lousy attitude fukin get ya facts straight. and you are keep saying things like " i see the prob straight aaway " but you refuse to actually say what it is..... STOP TROLLING!!!!!!! keep going on like this and i will report you. I AM SICK AND TIRED OF WOMEN LIKE YOU PERIOD!!! As i said before if you dont have anything nice to say dont fukin say it. to all the others, once i calm down after this crap i will post some thank yous for the help and advice you are giving as for PIXIE leave me the fuk alone and go and pick on someone else. Pfft... Hows that picking on you?? You asked for it!! Not my fault you seem to be about six beers short of a six pack!! Just telling you what your doing wrong and who's foot steps you seem to be following..Dah.. Swear jar thanks!!! That'll also be a corton of Crownies for every sad, negative post..Princess!! Pixie xxx
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shybutnaughty88
15 years ago
and how did i ask for it? did i single you out and start picking on you, no! did i ever say anything to you to start this , no! did you just decide out of the goodness of your heart to single me out and start picking on me then blaming it all on me for why you are picking on me? you have got to be fukin joking. i will say this one last time, keep your comments to yourself and stop victiminsing me
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RHP User
15 years ago
You really are an aggressive angry sour fuck aren't you! Really man... wtf ?? You have stated a couple of times now that "IF YOU DONT HAVE SOMETHING NICE TO SAY THEN DONT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL".... might be time you take your foot out of your mouth and suck on some of your own advice!! It is your post and your choice of question... if you dont want to here opinions, why ask for them?? My guess is that you dont have any mirrors where you live ?? If you dont like who you are, then how the hell do you expect anyone else to like you ?? Sorry but you sound like you escaped from the psych ward! get some help man!!
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