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April 01 2013

I'm assumiing that your presence on RHP means you are into more than just straight Vanilla sex. Even straight partner swapping is a little outside the mainstream for most.   I wonder how members of this site, and others like it, would feel about having a partner that is totally vanilla?   Could you enjoy a relationship with someone who wasn't into the kinky fuckery? How important to you is it? Is it a part of your personality it's imperative that you express?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    my last name is Slice

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I don't think I could ever be with someone who is very conservative and straight when it comes to sex. I know just from this forum how irrated I get when I read comments that are conservative and closed minded. I could never be with anyone like that & no doubt they would not want to be with me either. And just from experience I know that I am usually attracted to certain types of people... The ones with very very naughty glints in their eyes. A friend of mine regularly asks me what will happen when I meet someone or fall in love. How will I give up all the naughty stuff? And I always say... Why do I have to give it up? :P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Is a relative term as well right? I was surprised to find out that lots of couples (40 +) don't regularly have oral sex and that a lot of people have never even tried being tied up or blindfolded. I was flabbergasted at that. Can it really be true?

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    12 years ago

    Everything is relative.I might consider I have some kinks...... yet, may meet someone who'd consider ME vanilla.... or visa versa.DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I guess any plain vanilla ice-cream/slice/cake/drink is off the menu ?? I'm exploring and want to try a range of kinky stuff for ME.. finding that person who feels the same...now that's hard work!! It's important to me, finding that "special" person who is open to express...verbally and nonverbally. Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I've forgotten what vanilla is... apart from a flavour of ice cream.   After all these years nothing has dulled the kink and I think I would fall asleep during the missionary unless she was slapping me silly and calling me names (or at least trying to do something nasty to me).

  • ruby_blossum

    ruby_blossum

    12 years ago

    wow, didnt realise that.I think your assumption is incorrect.(really dislike blanket assumptions....or any tye of assumption)Even Vanilla comes in different flavours, I would like to think if I was in a relationship with someone who truely loved me, they would be happy to try a different brand of vanilla.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Is a relative term as well right? I was surprised to find out that lots of couples (40 +) don't regularly have oral sex and that a lot of people have never even tried being tied up or blindfolded. I was flabbergasted at that. Can it really be true? Oh yes Very true!! My past 2 serious relationships (one marriage) were VERY vanilla! I could count on one hand the amount of oral sex that happened over years...one wouldnt even talk a bit dirty, though i converted him over time. Very boring indeed...perhaps that why it didnt work....:/

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    But did you not give oral either? I don't really get that. I would have thought some oral sex would be considered part of play. Okay not all the time, but often? I don't know why I just thought that when a couple wanted to spice things up tying each other up or blindfolds would be one of the first things they would try. It's easy to do and you don't have to buy anything or go anywhere. But I think lots of people would find this risqué?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Where else would you put vanilla ice cream in? I prefer neopolitan myself.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ... involves a heavy amount of trust. It saddens me to think that one of the reasons some couples don't try it, is trust. I mean, if you are a couple, surely you have that..?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Couldn't do it nowadays. I think the definition of vanilla would be different for each person. For us vanilla is synonymous with monogamy in the sexual sense. We wouldn't play separately as we aren't interested, but we couldn't imagine only having sex with each other for the rest of our lives when partner swapping and FF action is so damn much fun. We have both been in relationships with vanilla people in the past and it's so oppressive to not be able to even talk about that stuff with your partner. I think that kink or vanilla is part of the person's personality inasmuch as it relates to the person's concept of sexuality. The more open ideas we are introduced to, I think there will be those of us who will go for it, and those who will be turned off. There's nothing necessarily wrong with being either a vanilla or a kinkster, but it's a bad deal if one tries to enforce their views of sexuality on the other. It's equally bad being with someone who doesn't want ANY kink as it is engaging in the kink when you are a vanilla, just to please your partner.Meeka, no regular oral sex would be a definite deal breaker for us. I wouldn't consider oral anything other than vanilla but it is a necessary part of sex, not a treat to be had on occasion. Blind folds and tying up is just another aspect of fun, neither vanilla nor kink in my book, as long as you trust each other.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I think we shouldn't label anything.We are all here to do things we have not done before and to explore sides we have been hiding for a long time.Its already outside the NORM to be here for most of us. When this is not kinky, then I don't know what is.Each of us can find the people we are looking for sexually when we write and portray what we are into, so how better can it get.For me being on here is already soooooo KINKY. But then maybe I am vanilla with a hint of cream.

  • discreet_liasons

    discreet_liasons

    12 years ago

    I absolutely know for sure I couldn't sustain a relationship with someone who is totally vanilla and not just in the bedroom. Life is about getting out and experiencing everything it has to offer within your means to sample. There are people out there who haven't even tried foreign and exotic foods, never drank any alcohol aside from beer or chardonnay and never been to a lebanese restaurant to eat and watch belly dancing. I find that people who enjoy a more outgoing and varied sex life are more often than not more interesting people all round.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    My first encounter felched and kissed me. He triggered something that makes me love kinks and dirty sex. Although no felching anymore. Safe sex only. I have a list and hope to try a bit of EVERYTHING. Sounds like fun - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Playful2looking

    Playful2looking

    12 years ago

    I dont think I could have a good sex life with someone that wasn't willing to experiment .So far I have been able to corrupt my partners. well talk them around to trying things. Although when you have your tongues between their legs. Their hands are turning white from gripping the sheets you can turn them away from vanila. Walk towards the dark side

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I'm with Meeka on this one.....why would i need to give it up.   For me, my sexuality is an important aspect of who i am, denying that would be like suggesting i not breath for the next few years.   It's also true that Vanilla is a sliding scale, i joined here thinking i was pretty vanilla, but perhaps only because i was comparing myself with the other end of the scale!   I imagine that any man i enter into a relationship with would hold similar values and views on the world, including sexuality. This would likely mean that he's going to be experimental, sensual and excited by life   Having said this, there is nothing more beautiful than making love with someone you have strong feelings for, curling up in bed together and holding each other while you chat.......sometimes vanilla is perfect.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Sometimes I don't feel like being a sexual athlete and just make love instead of doing loop d loop. A recent encounter happened that way.. Soft kisses, caressing each others bodies til she laid back motioning me to move on top and inside her. She reached down and swirled the head of my manhood around her swollen lips before guiding me inside her. The feel and the sensation were fantastic and we moved to the rhythm of the moment.. As her wetness increased, I started to feel the first signs of her building tensions. Her breathing became deep and her back began to arch as she allowed herself to flow into her orgasm . This signalled my own release . It was intense with no turning back, we both enjoyed the moment before slowing in unison to every movement. Then with me still inside , fell into a light sleep, to the feeling of our still pulsating bodies... Vanilla... ? I guess so, but at times it is quite nice....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    now I think I am more of a zuppa Inglese

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I think that there's always room for a bit of vanilla! We don't consider ourselves vanilla broadly speaking but then we're by no means anywhere near the upper levels of (whatever the opposite of vanilla is). We've been together 19 years in June and our partnership has seen a range of levels of sexuality. Even now, when we're the most 'un-vanilla' we've ever been, some days, all we want is a quick bit of married sex before sleep! Very vanilla - and we're okay with that. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'Is a relative term as well right? I was surprised to find out that lots of couples (40 +) don't regularly have oral sex and that a lot of people have never even tried being tied up or blindfolded. I was flabbergasted at that. Can it really be true? and women who are married for a long long time and never have an orgasm no oral but that’s the way it was and still is sometimes when you fall in love and make a commitment. And there is the problem when people realise that their sexuality can squished or they go exploring. I love my very vanilla hubby but if he said to me, no you cannot have lovers I would have to re think my relationship. I do not mind vanilla, I just happen to like it with strangers

  • lovman8

    lovman8

    12 years ago

    Vanilla can be very hot. The are many stories of shearers cooks getting very messy on vanilla essence. The occasional vanilla encounter can be nice and provides a nice counter point to the next time your swing from the chandelier with a clamp on your balls and electrodes on your nipples. Oh and Freya you a very nice slice , but I don't think its vanilla.??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    If Vanilla is a label for positions such as Missionary then I think there's HomeBrand Vanilla but there's also The Vanilla Bean itself! Missionary Position , when performed Slowly & with Intent , moving in & out but also strokes to left & right , up & down combined with some pounding & Clit Play can be Fantastic . The Slippery , Sliding Scale that is Vanilla is a somewhat derogatory term for Sex without Intent or bad Sex . Any sort of Sex is good if you apply yourself . As to the question , if I meet someone who is sexually reserved, I think I may be able to gently expand them ;) GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    can someone help me and my female partner we want to try with another woman or a swingers club in melb - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    No way could I go back. I am what I am now and it would be like removing a limb!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I'm the Guy you're looking for . I can help you find what you're looking for ... ... Go directly to DateFinder... & next time , Stay On Topic ! Happy Hunting . GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    It is amazing how many people here are automatically thinking that vanilla is just kissing, a quick fumble under the sheets followed by just fucking. There is so very much more. Take the touching in itself, gentle caresses, soft gentle blowing on heated skin, licking sensitive nipples and watching them pucker from the moisture cooling when they are blown on, gentle circles on the inner thighs, getting closer and closer but not quite touching..., oh yeah. How boring is vanilla? No I would not allow anyone to tie me up. Not blindfold me. I don't need that to heighten my enjoyment. I have tried the majority of kinks and fetishes 30 years ago, found them lacking then as I do today. I don't equate vanilla with boring at all. It can be quite inventive. I hope my sexual palette never ever becomes that jaded that MY brand of vanilla no longer does it For me or the man I am with.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Nothing wrong with vanilla at all. In fact really quality vanilla is the best. I guess the point I was trying to make is that I like to play around and experiment with different things just because I like too, it is a bit of fun, but being with someone that you love or have a deep connection with is the best sex you can have regardless of whether it is vanilla or hot chilli spice. Overall I don't consider myself to be a huge kinkster at all. The tying up and blindfolding, well it's just a bit of fun every now and then. Something different, and to me is vanilla or common place. I can't explain it but I guess some people like to experiment to supplement their sex life. Not to replace the vanilla but just something to add to it every now and then. I doubt everyone is swinging off the chandeliers every night, and if they are how exhausting! Can I also say some swingers I have met or know from these forums are very conservative and rigid in their views! Just because you are a swinger or like group sex means absolutely nothing. You can still just fuck in missionary position in the dark. lolzPersonally, I like experimenting, I enjoy going to new places and new countries and trying different things in and out of the bedroom and I know I would get frustrated with someone who has absolutely no interest in that themselves. So vanilla is lovely and I don't want to do without it but for me part of life is doing something different every now and then. Just because I can. Does that make sense?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    At the end of the day you either like to be slutty or kinky or dirty every now and then or you don't. The same way Handmaiden that you couldn't probably be with a real kinkster person... they wouldn't satisfy you or you them. Just different people.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I'm looking forward to introducing (!) my inner kinkster to the right people ... Goodness knows my ex husband wash't ready for it!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    So you want a variety if toppings on that vanilla. It may surprise you that most do- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    leaning more and more to it just being us two, as we grow tired of the game players and users that abound in this lifestyle...vanilla might just be the way of our future...we'll see.......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    with sprinkles. Or just a vanilla man from Naples. And possibly his wife too.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    No doesn't surprise me. It's more the people who are not interested in sprinkles, don't even want to know about the sprinkles and are not even willing to try a sprinkle to see if they may like it and are even scared of sprinkles that have me shaking my head in puzzlement. And I have friends like this! They can barely mention sex without almost blushing. I suppose over the years they have had to get used to my openness about sex. I have had girlfriends tell me in a hushed voice how sorry they feel for a female friend because her husband watches porn *gasp shock horror* and is therefore a deranged pervert. Oops not sure she liked my explanation that most people watch porn or have at least watched at least once. And that I like porn. Other friends of mine consider oral sex a treat, wouldn't even know what to do with a toy, etc. Friends who are shocked that people have affairs and when I say you don't know maybe they have an open marriage, the look I get is of complete stunned amazement. Things like that don't exist except in the movies... surely. Don't even get me started on the girlfriends I have who insist their husbands are perfectly content to have missionary sex & no oral twice a year.... Once at Christmas time and once on his birthday. If she remembers.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I know that I have a lot more sprinkles than most. :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'mikeandshel' leaning more and more to it just being us two, as we grow tired of the game players and users that abound in this lifestyle...vanilla might just be the way of our future...we'll see....... There must be a thing in the Queensland water?? LOL maybe from the latest floods? Fingers crossed the "game players and users" get washed away.I hear what your saying...awww Don't give up - keep posting your awesome posts.They aren't VANILLA :)FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I love Neapolitan,I met a sexy Neapolitan poet in Florence....he wrote beautiful poetry...I know it was beautiful even though I spoke no Neapolitan...and he was definitely not vanilla

  • smo669

    smo669

    12 years ago

    Vanilla and exotic tastes can live together, or more likely alongside each other, in separate compartments. Both can be delightful to sample and taste, as long as you know what to expect and enjoy the experience at its own level