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Kissing and Cuddling
October 08 2018
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
It's okay, you don't have to kiss and cuddle the other guy if you don't want to :)
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RHP User
6 years ago
We held a similar view. We kept kissing just between us when we started but I personally founf that I didn't enjoy the experience as much. I need to kiss and feel a more personal connection, otherwise for me, sex lacks its appeal. Its one of those things that you need to decide as a couple. Mrs A x - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
I can't do sex without the kisses (pre sex in particular) and cuddles (post sex in particular). Your wife might be similar to me in that she is a tactile person who needs those things to create enough of a bond to have sex in the first place. Sex is personal; I am letting people into my personal space and my body, regardless of kisses and/or cuddles. There are couples who have taken the stance that kissing & cuddling does not happen with people they play with, because it makes it more than sex. It's their right to have rules that suit them. But I always wonder what they are scared of; are those the very things which brought them together in the first place and therefore could be 'dangerous' with others? I don't know the answer to that. ☺ I do however explicitly rule out playing with couples with rules such as those, because they are important things to me and my desires. You may need to chat more to make sure you are on the same page, and are both happy with what you both think or would like to happen with others.
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
What we all think really, its what you guys think that counts. So when push comes to shove..... are you guys going to kiss and cuddle with your guest or not? Whats the compromise? Both my hubby and I would never be able to have an encounter with someone with intimacy and passion, for us that means lots of kissing and cuddling.... enhances everything for us. Without it, would feel quite robotic, why even bother? (For us that is) Communciate some more guys before you play, good luck x - Posted from rhpmobile
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
*Without Sheesh 🙄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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OkeyDoke45
6 years ago
Why some people will take another's pink bits to their mouth, stick their pink bits onto or into others, yet can't kiss? Too personal? I will stick my cock into your vagina, but don't try and kiss?
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RHP User
6 years ago
We both love kisses and cuddles and we both understand each others needs.Sex is personal. We would find it hard to separate the touch/intimacy/sex act...it would be lacking for us and just adds to the pleasure.Are you worried about your partner forming a "bond" with someone? It's a great topic and worth having a long chat with your partner about. Everyone needs to feel comfortable and understand the reasons why.
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
As far as the 2 men kissing.... WOW, so very sexy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotNightsGC
6 years ago
For us it’s an important part of good sex. Whether it’s with each other or other people it’s integral to our overall experience. But that may not be your cup of tea and that’s ok. Perhaps the key here is talking it out with your partner more. There’s nothing wrong with visiting the subject multiple times until you’re both on the same page either way. Ms HNP XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
For us it was just what came naturally. There were rules and boundaries we set and an understanding of what we would do if either of us wasn't comfortable. So we went with the flow and Mrs kissed our guest as that was what made her comfortable and more relaxed. During "intermission" we all laid on the bed, but there was still a level of intimacy.As others have said, you both need to be on the same page.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I love to. It's part of making a connection to make the encounter more intimate and pleasurable. Especially at the start I believe it's an essential part of foreplay.
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Hottie1
6 years ago
My choice is I won’t ever play with anyone who has a no kissing rule. Equally, if the kiss doesn’t really get me wet and tingly, we won’t go any further either. The whole act of sex is intimate ... having someone lick me or me suck their cock, it really can’t get any more intimate than that. In a stable relationship, things like kissing won’t change anything for a couple. They’re just my thoughts. As explained above by other posters, you have stabilise the rules that will help you navigate this scene. I just couldn’t do no kissing 😩 Mary cx
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Connection1981
6 years ago
I for one love the kissing and cuddling side of things almost more than the sex. It can create a deep connection. Especially if you include deep eye contact also during the sex. I have made extremely strong connections in the past with women as a result from that pure intimacy. As a rule of thumb, and perhaps a great middle ground for you both is to allow kissing as it naturally occurs in the heat of the moment, however cuddling can be made off limits and to be shared into between you and your wife. Cuddling in between the rounds of sex is the time things go from physical to more emotional intimacy. The cuddling, the caressing, the ongoing kissing and the conversation is the time when two people can start to grow feelings for each other even if they never attended for it that to happen. Those moments are best kept between you and your wife to minimise and potential danger to your relationship. Nothing wrong with extended foreplay between rounds of sex, such as chatting while still fondling etc but that’s different to full on being wrapped in each other’s arms, her head on his chest caressing as they chat and explore each other’s minds. That is flaunt with possible danger, feelings and jealousy. What’s important is clear communication between you both and agreed boundaries. Don’t compromise your marriage over something that should be enhancing your relationship. If you guys can’t agree on middle ground that appeases you both, your relationship isn’t ready to venture into this lifestyle without the high risk of causing major problems. Hope this helps and good luck to you both. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Connection1981
6 years ago
Oh, and in my opinion, kissing and cuddling is far more intimate than the sex. The kissing and cuddling is what can turn a pure fuck buddy into a passionate lover. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think sometimes we forget that the woman in the partnership is often letting someone into her body. For a lot of women that is a very intimate thing and connection makes that more pleasurable and, in some cases, lessens the feelings of ‘wrongness’ especially if the couple are just finding their feet (newbies) in the lifestyle. Like everyone else has said, you guys need to find what works for you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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curiousgirl35
6 years ago
Im guessing its just thst combo that makes it weird for you?(mfm) how do you feel if it was another couple or a fmf scenario? - Posted from rhpmobile
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NightToRemember
6 years ago
Better to have regrets about what you didn’t do than what you did. There’s always the next time! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bazingal
6 years ago
I could not participate if kissing and cuddling was not on offer. I am very tactile and a sexual encounter without either of those components would feel incomplete and not fulfilling at all. I understand why some couples may restrict these interactions but it's not for me.
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
Women have different “needs” when it comes to sex, than men, we believe. For women is is certainly a more intimate experience that is desired, generally speaking. Whereas for many men it can be purely physical. For some, kissing is very intimate. For others it is not. At the end if the day there is no right nor wrong. It is a personal choice and preference, and no one should be exitcted to compromise nor “take one for the team”. Whilst we certainly enjoy kissing and cuddling (spooning ) one another, we don’t necessarily kiss everyone that we may play with. We kiss those with whom we feel a connection. Obviously oral hygiene / smokers/ non smokers are also factors to consider. Yes, kissing with the right person does certainly add more passion, intimacy and ultimately enjoyment to sex / lovemaking, but, one should never be forced to do something that one does not want to. Nor do it simply for the sake of doing it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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WeMelT
6 years ago
I absolutely need the kissing, touching, flirting!! If I don't enjoy kissing someone, it's safe to say I'm not going to have sex with them. Same goes for seeing my partner enjoying that lead up with another woman. 😈 Cuddling after is just not something I do with my partner so not sure about that one. I tend to want my space. I disagree with CONNECTIONSOR about the eye contact comment. I love having eye contact and seeing the effect I have on someone - isn't that why we're doing this in the first place? There is a connection for that moment yes because that's what the majority of women I've spoken to need, but it's up to you whether you want to continue that connection or not separate from the shared experience. Let your wife decide what SHE needs in the experience, sit back and watch her blossom. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I cannot not do the kissing and cuddling as that is what I need to feel like I want to go further with whomever I am with. I love the kissing and cuddling but it does not mean I want to get a deep and emotional connection with them. I'm married and that's who I love, I'm not looking to replace hubby so that connection is with him not others. But in reality it's what you both feel comfortable with and it's something that needs to be communicated with prospective partners from the get go. Good luck with what you decide to do 🙂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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DonnaBrett
6 years ago
We have encountered a few people over the years that don't kiss and to honest it does take away from the experience. No kissing during sex makes the whole encounter quite clinical and awkward. We don't understand the thought that kissing is too personal or intimate? You can't get more intimate than burying your face in another persons neither regions lol Cuddling...not sure if you mean during sex or after? Quite often after sex with friends we will all lay around chatting and laughing ..there may or may not be some stroking or rubbing going on? It's not really a conscious thing...just what feels good at that time.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks for the comments, we have had 2 encounters where kissing was a big part of the foreplay and during sex, and i think . It was fine, but the first time we were with another couple she was cuddling with the guy while we were having drinks and stuff. I didn't mind the kissing but the cuddling got to me. I love to kiss and cuddle with my wife and sue to our work hours we don't get to cuddle enough nor do we get enough passionate kissing. We have discussed this and have agreed that kissing is fine but cuddling before sex should be kept to a minimum and after sex is only for me and her as the reason we are doing this is for me and her after all - Posted from rhpmobile
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hotdelights
6 years ago
kissing isn't the goal or cuddling something more deeper in arossol don't mine around the neck to kiss but the real feel is u know where and attraction turn on with all
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RHP User
6 years ago
Women prefer that most of the time in my experience. - Posted from rhpmobile
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beebs
6 years ago
..... I have had are mmf and mmff where all are kissing. It ignites the passion.
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LillyandTheFun
6 years ago
Kissing is fine for us. But no cuddling after sex - Posted from rhpmobile
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
My intro line on my profile is, there must be pre & post cuddles! Hope it hasn't been turning people off! Of course, I am talking about more intimate encounters, not other larger group scenarios haha. Apparently there are completely non-sexual "cuddle/hugging parties" going around. A good cuddle is apparently good for many things, if you need one at all, that is. I do cuddle my dog, but his Corgi limbs are far too short to return the favour :P
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azadi1979
6 years ago
I personally find I usually reserve kissing for when I have romantic feelings except for a spontaneous lip lock during sex. I find kissing far more intimate n personal then other sex acts - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree azadi1979, but others don't seem to see it that way. I actually looked up kissing and cuddling in the dictionary and they both state they are for loved ones - Posted from rhpmobile
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swingalingson
6 years ago
That is cool, if you do not want me to cuddle your hotwife, that is okay. I can let you watch us kiss (your wife & I). Caring share ole mate. All jokes aside. Man... no one knows how they will react the first time in the swinger scene. What you think might be maybe not. But the key is talk, discuss, debrief and repeat during the first scenerio and in the future. In the old days swingers had very few people to chat with about these things(prior internet) and could talk at meetups and events or gatherings. Now with the internet things and subjects are open to the communication lines.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I’d sooner have the kisses 👄 and cuddles! And the spa 🛁 ,, and the wine 🍷 and the food 🥘 and the coffee ☕️ , and a good night would be had by all! M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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69tattoorob
6 years ago
I was not to happy when on one occasion my wife and her fuck buddy a complete stranger we had arranged for a MFM encounter started to kiss cuddle swapping tongues she even allowed him anal sex no condoms were used i tried to join them but he took control of her ensuring i could not get to her surprising me as she allowed him didn't matter what i said they acted like i wasn't there total of four hours as he was leaving he reminded her about there plan for a friday night with a few of his mates whats this i said she will tell you then walked out the door sorry but he got me so excited i agreed to meet him on friday night i couldn't say no i said go and fuck all his mates i don't care anymore you have gone to far this time she said your jealous
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ukexpat1981
6 years ago
Never understood the no kissing part myself.
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