M57
LIGHTS OUT PARTY
August 18 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
We do things in reverse using this site. Normally you would meet someone and it's the initial attraction that reels you in. We converse for a while on here them meet... I myself, could not take things further if I'm not physically attracted to the person as well. There are a lot of ppl on here who look nothing like their photo. So answering your question...no I couldn't have a fling with someone I find unattractive. I usually have a coffee with them and honestly tell them this is as far as we go.... I'm always a little wiser for each coffee I've had. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some people, for some reason, have a need to present themselves (in photos mainly) as something they are not, even knowing that they will be seen in real life if things do progress. I never could work out why. You have to be honest and be who you are, both physically and personality wise. It only serves to waste people's time, get they're hopes up and also disappoint yourself when they say 'Thanks, but No Thanks" Yes, I have had ladies use photos that (I would hazard a guess) were at least 10 years younger than they really were... On some people 10 years can make a BIG difference and it just makes it harder for everyone. It has had a tendency for people to wonder, worry and even get anxious or nervous about an impending meeting because they NOW have either experienced or have heard of how people do this. Another case of a minority (or maybe more than I think) making things harder for the honest and genuine, who p[resent as they have shown and described themselves.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'playalone' A lot of people seem to look at the skin deep qualities of a person rather than the quality of the person. I'm here to find men I'm completely attracted to in every way. A man can be the nicest guy, but if I'm not attracted to him physically as well, he'll never be more than a platonic friend and that's just not what I'm here for. Welcome and good luck x
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't know why but I am attracted to what I am attracted to and I should never be required to have sex with someone who I am not attracted to I can't think of anyone I WISH I didn't meet. There are people that I am not compatible with but I think anyone can give you something from their presence and even if it is someone I didn't necessarily like, that person has taught me something. For example, if I met someone who has a bad an annoying habit, that has shown me that I could not put up with that behaviour. You cannot unsee what you have already seen so turning off the lights is not going to help the attraction.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have made the decision a few times to sleep with someone even though I didn't feel a particularly strong attraction. I did it with good intentions but it was a complete disaster and a bad judgement call on my part. I learnt my lesson. If you can take it or leave it........... it is better to leave it. Always
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RHP User
10 years ago
I dont find men attractive yet I fuck myself... go figure. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I can't see why you'd do 1 or 3. If you're not attracted to someone for whatever reason, don't sleep with them. That goes for both personality and physicality. It isn't superficial, it's just the rules of attraction. The only reasons I can think of that a person would sleep with someone they're not attracted to are either pity, which is misguided, or because they're desperate for human contact, which is sad.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...that' doesn't automatically mean a drop dead glamour every time. It could mean I like the way the lady comes across, her personality , the way she presents herself. A great sense of humour keeps me interested' as does the lady who takes the time to keep herself fit ... It's important to meet over a coffee first' so we can judge if we want to go any further...
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
Old enough to know that its sometimes best to leave a fantasy as just that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think there are heaps of people here that are different to there pics ? Some are slightly different and others are nothing like there pictures... Some take great pics n others not so... Either way it's bout the inner person
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've noticed in comments over time that some people view it as shallow to bypass someone based on their looks. The theme seems to be that beauty is more than skin deep, someone's personality should count more, etc. Not for me, I'm afraid. I have a strong 'type' and I'm very rarely physically attracted to someone who doesn't fit it. I've made great friends with men who don't, but I've rarely been able to go there sexually. I also have a strong type mentally and emotionally, but usually they have to pass the physical attraction test first. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Something has to catch your eye but we are not all perfect. Jay - me that is what i mean do they have a personality that stands out more than there looks. If that person makes you laugh,happy and safe than that is a quality person. If that person was a glamour with no substance witch would you go for ???.
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
Leanne6825, does that mean the more coffee you drink the wiser you become ? (I better get another cup). I agree though you have to have some "mutual" physical attraction to be able to sleep with someone, although admit a lot of being turned-on is in the mind (hence the need for intellectual stimulation); however, the eyes are connected to the brain and it is hard trying to trick your own brain (unless you have had a few too many drinks), hence the need for some physical attraction (which does not mean you need to be perfect). I am certainly not perfect but you get what you see.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was chatting with someone for months, finally met and he was not at all attractive to me. Yep, I still went ahead and tried to make the best of a BAD situation. WRONG! He proved to be unattractive in every way and by the time he finished harassing me, I sure wished I had never met him. Now, I prefer to meet sooner rather than later and will not meet anyone who refuses to show me a photo. I don't have sex unless there is some chemistry.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'playalone' Something has to catch your eye but we are not all perfect. I am starting to think that you have an issue with your body or looks, you also mention not being perfect as a reason for not having a photo. Seems suspicious to me. You are assuming that people base their physical attraction on conventional beauty or physique but you have totally missed the point. There has to be something about the person that attracts you in person. Whether that be the look in their eye, the way they speak or something you just can't put your finger on. I am attracted to people with a certain cheekiness and cheeky look in their eye........ if they don't have that, well I don't care how nice or lovely they are or even if they look like an Adonis, they are just not for me because I can't feel a connection.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I need to find the man attractive in some way. Be that looks, personality I in the past had sex with someone I was not attracted too. Out of some sort of obligation. It left me cold. Shudder - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My reason for not having a photo is my choice it has nothing to do with my looks, body or not being perfect, never said that. I am very happy in my own skin. I am glad you are starting to think. but what you do think of me thou is none of business. How can i not get the point when you have made it for me, you say you are tired of people not giving quality time when there with you no emotion. I have had sex with lots different people weather you want to judge me on that as well go for it dont hold back. Some of the best times i have had were with people you would not like because they were not on your radar. Skin deep attraction is only that with out personality it means nothing, So maybe if you open your mind a bit and turn of the lights you might find emotion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bollocks! You have misunderstood what I have said and insist that we are only talking about skin deep attraction. Well if you want to believe we are all shallow well that is your choice. I said a long time ago that I wouldn't converse with grey ghosts as I think profiles without pictures should be banned. So I will bid you adieu.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Personally I could think of nothing worse that a man would sleep with me when he isn't physical attracted to me.... because they take no time or care. You know you can tell when people are really not that into you....... and it is not a nice thing you know. You know there was a men's club in Sydney were all the blokes would get into one pitch black room and just fuck each other senseless. No talking just grunting. I don't think women are going to be that interest in the concept. And if you have to tell people turn off the light to fuck me because you might like me. WT??
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'playalone' Something has to catch your eye but we are not all perfect. Quoting 'playalone' How can i not get the point when you have made it for me Going by your responses I think you are really not not getting the point. I'm hearing you say that when you only judge a person by their skindeep looks, you'll never find out what great things are behind the mask. That's not what most of here are saying though! Yes, some have a specific type and may like blond hair or large hands. I prefer tall guys myself.But I'd never sleep with a guy who only has the height and shape I like. Most posters writing about visual aspects they like have described things like charisma, a smile, a naughty twinkle in someone's eye. Are those characteristics part of someone's physical appearance? Yes, but they are so much more and most definitely play a major part in whether I am drawn to someone. If I had sex with someone in the dark, would it not matter what someone looked like? You bet it would. I need to see that wicked smile, the lust in someone's eyes, the way they look at me... It's a major part of sexual attraction to me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I always thought the dark room was so one could fantasise that they were fucking a woman, was that just me darn..... I went to one of those clubs once, whilst the wandering the darkened halls was a powerful aphrodisiac I got sandwiched between bodies in such a room, someone slipped a finger in and I fled (By the way I've still got your rolex,buddy. boy did that hurt) Ok serious and back on point now; For me there needs to be some attraction. That might be the way you look overall or perhaps it's just a smile, the curve of your neck, behind your ear the way your hair falls or the cheeky twinkle in your eye (careful Meeka that hint of a twinkle and smile and cute tush on your profile pic really does it for me)oops off point again... All these things could cause me to want to meet, but if there isn't any connection I'd still go home happy knowing that I met some new friend, maybe not a lover but a friend. Age seems to have taught me some lessons in life just because I hooked the fish doesn't always mean I have to bag it sorry for the "object" metaphors. btw I hide my face in pics because it's already well known, but I'm judged more on my age and situation than my physicality, sad really I have fantasies, wants and needs too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
you can tell a lot about the way a person looks if you know how to read people. Their body language is just as important and you can often detect people's emotional state and approach to life by the way they walk and carry themselves. It is also a part of how they 'look'. I love to people watch because you can see so much without even talking to them.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Confidence and primal instinct. It is natural for men too look at curves, the brain deciphers the curves of a woman as female, the female deciphers the sharp lines (chiselled) that shows a confident fit and healthy male, for breeding instincts (survival of the fittest) As we all come closer together, pheromones take over and we become wild animals. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow so you went to a lights out party. ooh I bet you're the type of guy who has a finger in every pie, eh? Finger lickin good no doubt. Next time you to steal a Rolex ask the bloke to put some lube on it first! Very funny. :-D
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's true. Also people that smile a lot and have a happy demeanor are very attractive as well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' That's true. Also people that smile a lot and have a happy demeanor are very attractive as well. I'm on a vanilla site that demands face pics. I see so many profiles of guys with four or five photos, looking equally sad or angry in all of them. They may be thinking they get shot down every time because of their looks, not because their expressions make them look like they're either going to cry in their date's arms all night or chop her up with a chainsaw.
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madotara69
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
A chainsaw !! Who brings a chainsaw to their first date, a simple switchblade should suffice...... oops did I say that outloud lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To an RHPr since virtually day one, we had met briefly at the Jan meet n greet and whilst at the time I didn't find him the most attractive of men, I absolutely thrived on his mind........... So we kept up our chats........... We finally met up again (nearly 1 1/2 yrs after messaging) and chemistry was off the charts, his mind still gives me shivers :)
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