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Ladies & Gentleman
October 30 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
it means being thoughtful, considerate and behaving in a way that makes the person they are with feel respected. LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think manners are irrelevant in any day and age. I did go out with someone who insisted they open the car door for me, and any other door for that matter, pulled out the seat at a restaurant. I always thought that was a bit over the top .... but actually when it was done for me it made me feel special. Maybe it was the novelty of it but I didn't mind at all. I am a very independent person and have never expected anyone to treat me in any other way than as an equal. But at the end of the day if someone wants to do something for you and it makes them feel good... why not go with the flow. It certainly beats those that have no manners and dont respect equality in any shape of form. I think respect is sadly lacking in many sectors of society these days. Thumbs up to the Ladies and Gentlemen of Oz. LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
According to the dictionary it simply means a polite or formal was to refer to a woman, but it has become to mean something different over time. The term "behaving like a lady" I believe is viewed by many as behaving in a "proper" manner, which is not necessarily me. I am however polite, considerate and respectful. I also mind my table manners... when not playing with my food. I' don't have anything against the word lady, but I'd much prefer to be called a woman. A kind one, who people like to be around.
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RHP User
10 years ago
..I know I'm one. It's in my nature and how I've grown as a man.Respect is at the heart of it..but referring to what Leo_girl was saying, I don't often open car doors or pull out chairs for a Lady..any woman values her independence, and treating her as a weak piece of fluff isn't going to endear her to me.Treating her with respect and empathy will.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Kindness ,consideration, social intelligence,a degree of selflessness, are qualities I admire in others... some people have the gloss of what we perceive to be ladylike or gentlemanly qualities,but sometimes that is all it is...gloss xxFreya
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I'm a women, I have manners, my polite, respectful and I'm a good person. But I can be a little bit wild, out spoken, opinionated, I swear sometimes and I like to be naughty at times. My children went to a catholic school and a lot of the other mothers used to look down their noses at me, because I wasn't what they considered a lady. (You know barmaid, tattoos, no husband, that kind of small town bullshit.) At a school function one day, these same mothers got that drunk and because it had been raining there was mud everywhere, so they proceed rolling around in the mud, wrestling, screaming, swearing and yes all children were there. I just laughed and thought to myself, well at least I'm not a hypocrite, I didn't embarrass my children that day, I don't pretend to be something I'm not and I know when/where to run a muck.... So am I a lady, no probably not in the sense and I'm ok with that......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
but I feel its a lost art on both sexes these days. Women who never had it or guys who were never shown manners dont really know. Most know the basics but dont really expect to give or receive .. Regardless' I still give a lady right of way with holding a door or seating if she is comfortable with it or not. Unfortunately ' there are some who look at you as something weird is happening.. Twice in one day early this year ' and after watching countless men and women walk by ' I stopped to assist mothers battling with their pram up railway stairs. Both mothers were so grateful with their smile saying it all.. Left me thinking how brain dead some people must be to walk by and not lend a hand..
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am a lady. Until you get me in the sheets, then all bets are off. I do have my image of a bit of a snob at times. I am judgmental and do look down my nose at people if they lack some social skills. I will place people in the bogan basket at times. But sometimes I get that wrong. I like the old school guys. Like to have the door opened for me, chairs pulled out. I am that Lady Chatterley , that likes to get naked and wild with the tradie, then puts her silk slip back on, drags the fuck knots out of the back of my hair with my fingers, and then goes back to sip tea with my little pinkie up like butter would not melt in my mouth. I guess to me it really means being polite , and having a little bit of reserve when you need it. Its more how you behave in public , with out being rough and loud mouthed. One guy just told me he was going to meet a woman, but after talking to her on the phone, her colorful language, her overt graphic talk and then she belched down the line. All of a sudden he thought , hell NO.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe that both Ladies and Gentlemen still exist. My Mother is definitely a Lady and my Father, whilst he has "grumpy old man rough side", treats all Women as Ladies and acts as a Gentleman in their presence. I think LG's opening post succinctly covers the general criteria. I think that her subsequent post reinforces that Manners never go out of date. I have three close platonic Female friends. I share ribald banter with each of them, we swear in our conversations, so none of us are angels. That said, to me they are Ladies, and I treat them as Ladies, behaving thoughtfully, considerately and in a way that makes them feel they are respected (Thanks LG). I open car doors and other doors, I pull out restaurant seats if possible, I walk down stairs holding their hand or in front of them should they trip. I walk on the kerb side of the road, I change sides crossing the road so that I'll always get hit first, I always carry a clean handkerchief. Maybe I'm just old school. I at least hope that if they were asked, they would say "He treats me like a Lady and he acts like a Gentleman". Twice in the last month, I/We have been out with other couples and the conversation dropping the other couple at home has been "Why don't you open the door for me like he does?" Koolgrey = It's not "weak piece of fluff", it's courtesy. Jay_Me = I see Women 35-75 struggling with their trolley at my local shopping centre. I offer to assist them and it's 50/50 whether they look at me like I'm an Axe Murderer or say Thank You. I have three Sons 17-23. Despite what I may have taught them, I don't consider them Gentlemen nor do I consider their Girlfriends Ladies. Likewise, my Platonic Female Friends have Daughters the same age. I don't consider them Ladies nor do I consider their Boyfriends Gentlemen. Bottom Line = A Message / Action by the Sender can be given in the best of intentions, but it is the Receiver who truly determines the outcome.
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RHP User
10 years ago
As one takes on that stature of a gentlemen and one of a lady ,you will find that politeness , manners , thoughtfulness , respect , admiration and appreciation not to mention a unselfish approach to care and make comfortable the Fine lady on thie gentlemans arm as he opens doors , escorts his Lady and firstly tends to her requirements and needs above all else especially his own, and why would nt he with such an elegant lady he is proud and honoured to be alongside her, and my lady melts as she is pampered and treated as she should be my queen :-)) Try it go out as a lady and gentleman and see the changes for yourself its quite astounding :-)) But just remember this the next day when your man is out the shed yelling " honey wheres me fucken keys " And you reply ? " probally where you left them you idiot " for fuck sake !!!! Stop shouting !! Bahahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
is an outdated term, but rather the definition has expanded in the modern day, to take in more qualities of what is expected now. It may be an outdated practice for many people, but I don't believe an outdated term. With respects to being a Gentleman, I believe it still relates to the traditional values, but also recognizing the modern aspects that women value today as well. And as can be noted, it is how I describe myself in my profile too. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey'I don't often open car doors or pull out chairs for a Lady..any woman values her independence, and treating her as a weak piece of fluff isn't going to endear her to me.Treating her with respect and empathy will. I am so glad to finally see a man say this on here!! Whether or not men realise it, the notions that they should do things like open doors, pull out chairs, and hold a woman's arm as they cross the street have their origins in patriarchal, patronising views of women as weak, fragile creatures needing protection and buffering from the world. I mean, come on, I really don't need someone to pull out my damn chair for me (unless for some reason I'm physically unable to do it, then I will be thankful for the assistance whether it comes from a man or a woman). And no, I don't particularly like the terms lady and gentleman because they are closely associated with a long history of limiting, stereotypical gender expectations. In my opinion, the general values of respect and courtesy should apply and be practiced regardless of the gender/s of the person involved; give me a decent human being anyday over a self-proclaimed 'gentleman'.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I appreciate gestures like holding a door, pulling out a chair, helping out with a pram, offering a seat on the bus, etc. But if a man is inclined to do so, I expect him to do it for other men too. The same applies to women doing it for men and women for other women. I do, because I like people to treat each other as equals. (Don't ever grab my arm though, man or woman, unless I'm about to be run over.)
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RHP User
10 years ago
it is hard to appreciate a gentleman now due to not usually being in the company of one. What I mean by this is my Mum's partner is a gentleman and he opens doors when I am used to doing it myself and it usually turns into something ridiculous looking like we are both too polite to go first. It turns into a...you go, no you go thing. He is trying to be a gentleman and I am trying to respect my elders. Or some men are no longer comfortable being one due to fear of being ridiculed for trying to do the nice thing. Personally, I love a gentleman in the right circumstances. I love man's man in the right circumstances. I suppose I also prefer a man who knows how to treat me right in general rather than a man who just pulls out all the stops in public for show. I do appreciate the gestures though that come along with a gentleman and I would feel valued and special rather than feel weak and frail because someone cared to open a door or pull out a chair. I think maybe a gentleman is a sometimes food for me just like me being a lady is.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think some of the most interesting people I have met (male and female), have lots of facets of there personality. (I'm thinking a little wider in context than just 'gentleman' and 'lady'.) For example, I'm a parent, as are some of my RHP friends. These lives don't mix, and when I'm being dad, I'm dad, and when out on a 'play date', well that's a different side of me. Going a little bit further, when I first meet a woman, I do tend to be overtly 'gentlemanly'...I don't think I'm being patronising, or sexist, (my gender and my intellect don't allow me to make these judgements of anybody).... just giving a woman a chance to talk and interact in a very non threatening environment... ( I'm 6 ft 4 100 plus kilos and a face like a startled gorilla, so maybe more important for me!) If the conversation is going well and there chemistry is occurring, then things can develop... And we can explorer our more basic instincts, thoughts and conversations...but I think starting off with some manners is a good way of showing 'I mean you no harm, don't be threatened'. Foreplay to the foreplay maybe? It allows someone to divulge personal thoughts at a pace they are comfortable with. I believe if I was overtly sexual 24/7, it would bore people to death, including myself....it looses it's impact a little because it doesn't stop. That's kind of sleazy? This is how I find it with others by the way... For any maximum impact in music, the arts, literature and in everyday life... A contrasting background/backdrop gives the feature piece more impact!
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RHP User
10 years ago
.....BUT..... and it's a huge but......gentlemanly behaviour CAN be part of a broader sexist attitude.......I do like to open doors, walk a women to their car, and all that kind of stuff.....BUT a woman's right (any persons actually) is to be true to thy own self. In other words, a woman has the right to abstain from sex, be monogamous, be into gang bangs, be into bisexual sex, polyamory, change her mind from time time, and anything else they feel like, AND be honest about it, without patronising misguided colonial outdated sexists BULLSHIT judgement fro some twat of a guy!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Call me old fashioned but I love men doing those small things for me. I do not feel men patronize me in anyway shape or form. I actually feel sorry for men, you see what happens on a packed train when they offer a seat, its fuck off or no thanks or what ever so I do not blame them now for Not doing the small things. men, please line up here.............if you want something soft and fluffy and likes to curl up like a kitten to be stroked the right way. At work I can be a ball breaker like the rest of them with equality in the work place and even then if a guy wants to open a bloody door for me I will say thank you, much appreciated. if a guy wants to pay for my meal, I will say thank you honey much appreciated , same if he pulls my chair out or moves me to the side of the pavement away from traffic. i am a woman, I am different to a man. I love the difference and give me a guy that acts as a gentleman and I will appreciate that very much. if that means some think I am a weak bit of fluff so be it.I think if you piss me off man or woman, you may find there is a little steel in that fluff.
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6exxy
10 years ago
At all times. Yes it still exist but it is an outdated term.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For women such as yourself , you can open your own door. If you feel it makes you inferior because a man treats you with a little bit of respect, that's your problem... I treat women the way I always have, but if I sense a modern Miss who doesn't appreciate being treated that way I could easily reciprocate . Last year' a old old lady was walking in front of me in our local shopping centre. She was unsteady on her feet and about to take a fall I ran to grab her. At least 4 or 5 people closer should have done this , but did SFA.. Chat_ Meet _Touch.. You're right.. It's traditional.. You either have it or not... No fence sitters
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think it's outdated. I wouldn't consider myself a "lady" . I believe in certain manners and being polite, helping elderly,infirm etc.(assistance as LD puts it.) I'd rather be considered a decent human being I think. Last person I considered a "gentleman" was my Father in law who has since past away. Wasn't so much in his behaviour but in his presence and nature
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been to a massive misapprehension that being a gentleman meant you took the dishes out of the sink before taking a piss!!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There's a difference between chivalry/gallantry and politeness. The first is specifically aimed at women, the other is non gender specific. I really appreciate politeness.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Last year' a old old lady was walking in front of me in our local shopping centre. She was unsteady on her feet and about to take a fall I ran to grab her. Would you have done the same if it was a little old man? If yes, it had nothing to do with being a gentleman, is was the kind (and I believe right) thing to do. Yes, we do need more kind people I agree.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Saturn65' I think it's outdated. I wouldn't consider myself a "lady" . I believe in certain manners and being polite, helping elderly,infirm etc.(assistance as LD puts it.) I'd rather be considered a decent human being I think. If you are all of the above, why label it anyway??
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
No one has posted the meaning of both words, yet...so here ya go. :) LADY (Wikipedia) The word lady is a civil term of respect for a woman, specifically the female equivalent to gentleman or lord, and in many contexts a term for any adult woman. Once confined to usage when specifically addressing women of high social class or status; over the last 300 years, the term can now be used to refer to any respectable adult woman. OXFORD DICTIONARY la·dy (ld)n. pl. la·dies 1. A well-mannered and considerate woman with high standards of proper behavior.2. a. A woman regarded as proper and virtuous.b. A well-behaved young girl.3. A woman who is the head of a household.4. A woman, especially when spoken of or to in a polite way.5. a. A woman to whom a man is romantically attached.b. Informal A wife.6. Lady Chiefly British A general feminine title of nobility and other rank, specifically:a. Used as the title for the wife or widow of a knight or baronet.b. Used as a form of address for a marchioness, countess, viscountess, baroness, or baronetess.c. Used as a form of address for the wife or widow of a baron.d. Used as a courtesy title for the daughter of a duke, a marquis, or an earl.e. Used as a courtesy title for the wife of a younger son of a duke or marquis.7. Lady The Virgin Mary. Usually used with Our.8. Slang Cocaine. GENTLEMAN (Wikipedia) n modern speech the term gentleman (from Latin gentilis, belonging to a race or gens, and man, the Italian gentil uomo or gentiluomo, the French gentilhomme and the Portuguese homem gentil) refers to any man of good, courteous conduct. It may also refer to all men collectively, as in indications of gender-separated facilities, or as a sign of the speaker's own courtesy when addressing others. OXFORD DICTIONARY gen·tle·man (jntl-mn)n.1. A man of gentle or noble birth or superior social position: "He's too much a gentleman to be a scholar" (Aphra Behn).2. A well-mannered and considerate man with high standards of proper behavior. See Usage Note at lady.3. A man of independent means who does not need to have a wage-paying job.4. A man: Do you know this gentleman?5. gentlemen (-mn) Used as a form of address for a group of men.6. A manservant; a valet. When ever I hear the word "Lady" I think of Lady Di/Grace Kelly and when I hear gentleman I think of a man of royal family or something. I believe having good etiquette skills, along with emotional and social intelligence plays a huge role. I know a few men in my life, who I would say, are complete gentlemen. :) Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your damned if you doAnd damned if you don't What I don't understand is how being rude and ungrateful makes you more capable and independent ? I think it just makes you a bitch.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' I've been to a massive misapprehension that being a gentleman meant you took the dishes out of the sink before taking a piss!!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile So does that infer you've been taking a piss in the sink while the dishes are still in there ??? S'pose it saves on some hot water. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Nicely said / done with your explanations, and I believe a point well proven. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting Meander.. Mea : Would you have done the same if it was a little old man? Makes no difference. I treat everyone with equal respect , specially the elderly and struggling mothers... Mea : If yes, it had nothing to do with being a gentleman, is was the kind (and I believe right) thing to do. I believe being bought up with a gentlemanly attitude has lots to do with it... Others just looked on.... I once drove a 93 yr old man home who I meet at the supermarket checkout because he was confused.. Kindness, yes' but it still gets back to attitude... Some couldn't care less..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not entirely.... But it does suggest I'm in tune with my immature sense of humour :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Your damned if you doAnd damned if you don't What I don't understand is how being rude and ungrateful makes you more capable and independent ? I think it just makes you a bitch. there is no need to hiss at someone who thinks they are doing the right thing. There are many worse behaviours we have to put up with in society than someone being chivalrous.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...or offering a seat to someone on a bus isn't the criterion of a Gentleman, these are acts of selflessness that any person should do...regardless of age or sex. Were a healthy and fit woman to offer me her seat on a bus..doesn't that make her a Gentleman/Lady by the traditional definitions of the male term? Or does the term not apply when a woman offers chivalry to a man? Incidentally, i would politely refuse the offer of the seat..what point in one fit and able person exchanging seats with another? Assuming there were no other factors, like shopping bags or little kids, etc.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't help you with that, but I have it on good authority that stir is a real gentleman and don's a fireman uniform on occasions and will go to any length to help :) :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
10 years ago
_ highly educated and professionally successful in my life and highly skilled in what I do that gives me the opportunity to travel interstate and overseas every month_ a voracious reader. Ex[posed to many schools of thought and continuously learning. _ well travelled, exposed to diverse cultures and articulate in thoughts and speech._ very sociable and move in different social circles_ physically very strong as a martial arts practitioner for over a decade and train in boxing/thai kickboxing 3-4per week. I have started teaching boxing this week to men. _a great parent to my well mannered and intelligent young men and a good civilized ex-wife_ very socially aware and help the less fortunate (homeless, elderly, etc) anyway I can. I am a strong kind woman and am proud of who I am and my capabilities. However... If a man decides to extend his arm while we walk along the street, I will gracefully take it with a smile and a thank you. (cons of wearing high heels). I will hang on his arm and snuggle myself closer. Obviously, he likes me enough to give it to me and if I like him, I will take it. It does not make me feel inferior because as Ralf puts it, there are worse behaviours than being chivalrous. I don't take offence in this because it is negligible in the bigger scheme of things in life. If a man opens the doors, car doors. help me in and out of my coat or pulls my chair out, I will smile and look at him in the eye than thank him for his kindness and thoughtfulness. Not because I can't do it. Most of the men I go out with will make these little gestures, not over the top. Ditto, if a man struggles with his coat, I will come over help him in it and straighten his collar and tie. Hell, I might even lean forward a bit to get to sniff his cologne while I'm at it. Lol. My brothers still does it for their strong wonderful happy wives (after 30+years of marriage) as a sign of respect and caring. My parents have raised them well. My boys and nephews do the same for their wives and girlfriends they appreciate the little gestures. I don't make it a point to swear in public nor have swear words as part of my vernacular. Nor do I get drunk as a sign of respect to my date, I want to be in his presence and listen to what he has to say and enjoy his company. My gesture. When I am on a date, I dress up and present very well as a sign of respect to my dates. I want them to be proud to be seen with me. I treat people with respect, regardless of age or gender or socio-economic status as we all deserve respect and kindness. I am very open yet observant to the people on the street. I have a ready smile for everybody I meet yet can get guarded to their reactions. I will chat and laugh with strangers. Accepting and demonstrating manners are not demeaning to me. It shouldn't be if you are confident of who you are and your capabilities. If they choose not to do it, does not bother me, either way. These gestures do not take anything away from me nor does it anyway enhance my capabilities or belief in myself. It is just plain nice. To the men who still choose to do it, I say thank you. With grace. But that is just my humble opinion....
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Seachange
10 years ago
I don't subscribe nor limit myself to any strict terminology as I do not fit the mould as I am what I am. And i like what i am..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' No one has posted the meaning of both words, yet...so here ya go. :) LADY (Wikipedia) The word lady is a civil term of respect for a woman, specifically the female equivalent to gentleman or lord, and in many contexts a term for any adult woman. Once confined to usage when specifically addressing women of high social class or status; over the last 300 years, the term can now be used to refer to any respectable adult woman. OXFORD DICTIONARY la·dy (ld)n. pl. la·dies 1. A well-mannered and considerate woman with high standards of proper behavior.2. a. A woman regarded as proper and virtuous.b. A well-behaved young girl.3. A woman who is the head of a household.4. A woman, especially when spoken of or to in a polite way.5. a. A woman to whom a man is romantically attached.b. Informal A wife.6. Lady Chiefly British A general feminine title of nobility and other rank, specifically:a. Used as the title for the wife or widow of a knight or baronet.b. Used as a form of address for a marchioness, countess, viscountess, baroness, or baronetess.c. Used as a form of address for the wife or widow of a baron.d. Used as a courtesy title for the daughter of a duke, a marquis, or an earl.e. Used as a courtesy title for the wife of a younger son of a duke or marquis.7. Lady The Virgin Mary. Usually used with Our.8. Slang Cocaine. GENTLEMAN (Wikipedia) n modern speech the term gentleman (from Latin gentilis, belonging to a race or gens, and man, the Italian gentil uomo or gentiluomo, the French gentilhomme and the Portuguese homem gentil) refers to any man of good, courteous conduct. It may also refer to all men collectively, as in indications of gender-separated facilities, or as a sign of the speaker's own courtesy when addressing others. OXFORD DICTIONARY gen·tle·man (jntl-mn)n.1. A man of gentle or noble birth or superior social position: "He's too much a gentleman to be a scholar" (Aphra Behn).2. A well-mannered and considerate man with high standards of proper behavior. See Usage Note at lady.3. A man of independent means who does not need to have a wage-paying job.4. A man: Do you know this gentleman?5. gentlemen (-mn) Used as a form of address for a group of men.6. A manservant; a valet. When ever I hear the word "Lady" I think of Lady Di/Grace Kelly and when I hear gentleman I think of a man of royal family or something. I believe having good etiquette skills, along with emotional and social intelligence plays a huge role. I know a few men in my life, who I would say, are complete gentlemen. :) Foxy google is NOT your friend.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Not entirely.... But it does suggest I'm in tune with my immature sense of humour :) - Posted from rhpmobile Can't argue with that, brotha !! Amen. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan2' Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' No one has posted the meaning of both words, yet...so here ya go. :) google is NOT your friend. For the record, I did post the definition of the word lady on page 1. The one from the dictionary rather than Wikipedia.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' ...or offering a seat to someone on a bus isn't the criterion of a Gentleman, these are acts of selflessness that any person should do...regardless of age or sex. Were a healthy and fit woman to offer me her seat on a bus..doesn't that make her a Gentleman/Lady by the traditional definitions of the male term? Or does the term not apply when a woman offers chivalry to a man? Incidentally, i would politely refuse the offer of the seat..what point in one fit and able person exchanging seats with another? Assuming there were no other factors, like shopping bags or little kids, etc. Exactly what I meant.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have often offered to help women with a pram but they always say no. I don't no why. Tuscan not sure what happens in WA but in my part of Sydney I often get younger women offering me their seat, sometimes blokes but not so much. Although I would like to think I don't look that old or that I need to sit down, but after asking them if they are sure..... I always gratefully accept. :) Not that long ago and old women ask me directions to a particlar Church which as only 10 min. walk away but she had a walking stick and all, so I offered to drive her there. She accepted... Turned out that she was a nun so I got a blessing for my troubles. :P
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RHP User
10 years ago
At last... A woman who totally gets it... I automatically do the things you mentioned and don't think twice about it... It's not performed for brownie points or accolades , it's just the way it is.. I'm surprised at the amount of ppl who deny or reject such a thoughtful gesture ? BTW". Beautifully worded Lily,
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inspirit
10 years ago
Ladies and Gents........ I think the term Lady (Possibly due to woman's liberation) is out dated and not so much the term Gentleman. We live in a much more diverse age these days. Some men I know are better ladies than woman and some woman I know are better gentleman than men. He is a Gentleman if he lets you cum first and she is a lady if she does
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do you accept credit card, cheque or money order?? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' OXFORD DICTIONARY la·dy (ld)n. pl. la·dies 8. Slang Cocaine.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I almost left that line out.... 😃😃 Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not sure if you read the forum, but I wrote something to you in SWB.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Thanks for the hint. I just checked now after your prompt. I dont get there too often Lol. All fixed!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think shivalry is something which has become tainted perversion which is subtly intriguing yet as a masculine man I like to be accountable for my ability to maintain my control over myself. I feel it is important in a society full of opportunists. It's easy to be that way, our technology allows us to be like that. It's much harder to be centred in ourselves and our truest desire and respectful to the boundaries of others, which I believe is the basis of intimacy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Still exist.....Ive met a few off this site.
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RHP User
10 years ago
are the Meekas:-) xx Freya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Unfortunately .. have never met one from this site . Chivalry .. and just gentleman in general .. whatever happened to those two things things in this day and age ? I adore these things in a potential playmate / partner .. think all the feminists depleted these traits in the men these days .. I'm all for confident strong independent women don't get me wrong .. i am one myself but , some women take things to the ridiculous extremes and i think that pretty much takes away from the male perception of chivalry etc these days . To me someone who is a gentleman , good manners and morals along with chivalry - to me is a sign of just outright good breeding and upbringing .. ! Really .. who wants a pig or douche at the end of the day around themno matter how good looking or good of a lay lol .. ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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abcplus1
10 years ago
Sometimes seems to be a detriment on this site..........
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shag_well
10 years ago
Hi to all here , as a trained mechanic , if I saw a guy on the side of the road with a flat tyre I would just drive past without a thought of stopping to help out ,unless they waved me down or I saw something dangerous about how they were attempting the task at hand, If it was a woman I would stop to ask if they needed help , so is that demeaning to even ask ? Is it wrong for me to even think that way ? I do know both women and men that can easily change a tyre by the way. If I saw an elderly person i would also stop and know that any help would be greatly appreciated . My take on it is that being a gentleman is just showing respect for other people , I hold doors open for other men , stand to shake hands etc . respect for each other is something that is sadly disappearing in general life.
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Naughtydouble
10 years ago
There is always a least one day where one would prefer to be treated like a lady by a gentleman for all of us - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Chivalry isn't dead in my book!love to spoil and enjoy female company! Believe you get what you give in life,ladies are more receptive if treated well! Not just a sex thing ,that's a bonus for good behaviour lol xxx
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Seachange
10 years ago
Yes they do exist in rhp and met so many of them in different age ranges. They are not confined to specific age range from my experience. There arr just as many gentlemen as arseholes in the younger blokes as the older more mature blokes. It all comes down to breeding. As in real life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
being a gentleman meant making sure you don't fart or burp around the womenfolk. Failed at that too.
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zoe69r
10 years ago
I would hope to think im a gentleman , and by that im mean treating a lady like a lady and as a person not as a objectand if you do get the chance to meet up and go out for dinner n drinks dont expect to end up in bed that night , maybe if you both have that chemistry then yes but no I dont go for that angle
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Enjoylifealways
10 years ago
A gentleman is someone who looks after a woman and makes her feel special. I love a man that opens the door or pulls out a chair it shows they are thinking of others . I love the English gentleman that I married ,so glad I found him on my travels .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its interesting that we measure a lady or gentlemen by the way that person makes you feel. That in its self makes the answer to this question so subjective (good question for a topic for discussion JerseyGirl), however the general consensus will inevitably be answered at a social expectation level. That is to say, 'society in general will determine what is a lady or gentleman'. Some say it is chivalry, however 400 hundred years ago the medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code doesn't represent today day's moral and social code. I agree with Leo_girl if it feels good then accept it and say thank you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I digress lol .. just one .. ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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