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Leering or looking is there a difference?
June 23 2015
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
The legal time is 7 seconds. Longer than that it is considered sexual harassment. Not sure if you glance away if you are up for another 7 seconds....... Maybe if you need more than 7 seconds, you need to take a photo
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RHP User
9 years ago
Agree wholeheartedly to look is to admire and to leer is lust and verging on disrespectful to that lass, though I do know some who love that. So ladies is it up to you to differentiate the two for us mere males
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
.....the definition is generally subjective....... and in the eye of the leer'ee IE If the person leering is acceptable to your personal attraction preferences..... you'll let them leer all they want. PSThis comment is non-gender specific... just to keep the bunched undies brigade (also non gender specific lol) at bay. DG
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RHP User
9 years ago
you lot are giving a fuck; I'm off to settle out of court 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think there's a difference. Being leered at makes me feel uncomfortable, and instead of going into the definition of leering vs looking/gazing/staring/glaring/etc. I'll quote Justice Potter Stewart and simply say "I know it when I see it". p.s. Annie: The saying goes that if someone looks at you for six seconds, they either want to fuck or murder you.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I look all the time. But i love to people watch. Most times its nothing to do with sex or how lovely a lady looks. Just looking and wondering, what this persons life is like. What would it be like to live in there shoes. There good times, there bad times, what they are up to. It dose get me into troubble at times. But ladies when we do look, its not always about sex or undressing you with our eyes - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Yes dont know how they came up with 7 seconds. But it has been stated in inductions at a few work places. One was the childrens hospital. 7 seconds seem a tad long.
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Missb4u
9 years ago
there is a huge difference. But even being scanned head to toe is not necessarily leering it really is for me a feeling radiated more than the act and perhaps why is read in their eyes when you do make eye contact. A man can appreciate a woman and vice verses without it being creepy. I often do the slow scan up men's bodies and love to find them looking when I get to their face, a wink, a smile, a cocked eyebrow says it all then I go on my way. It's pure appreciation of a good view. wow does that sound really awful?
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RHP User
9 years ago
You'll know as soon as she looks back wether it's appreciated or not. That's when you pretend to be taking in the architecture 😜
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Single_Guy4U
9 years ago
What about analysing / people watching. You can look at someone briefly and be either attracted or not. But after an initial attraction it is amazing how much extra you can learn by how they walk, talk, dance, interact with other people, and even drive. (Can say huge amounts about someone). I wouldn't put it down a leering, more analysing. I can't see anything wrong with it ? (mind you I am single so maybe things can be over analysed) ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Once busted I do offer a smile
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RHP User
9 years ago
...but I'm not sure its a timeframe thing. It's all in the attitude, and what you're projecting when you look. I guess the best thing to remember, is if there's drool starting to come out of your mouth, you're probably leering, and it might be time to stop...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I always just assume if someone is staring at me I must be having a bad hair day 😳xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
creates a feeling of discomfort as mentioned by Mea and MissB. I believe defining the difference is subjective because if, as DG says, the other person is attractive to you, you don't mind them looking. Also, our moods vary and what is ok one day, might not be ok if we are feeling sensitive or upset. 7 seconds seems a long time to me though in saying that I have been transfixed by some people, especially performers and have been known to barely blink through their performances. Aren't we humans complex? Its intriguing and maddening both that nothing is simple about us.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
I look (not leer)....... until she looks away.Its dominant. Its masculine. She always looks back again.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'mangocouple' I look all the time. But i love to people watch. Most times its nothing to do with sex or how lovely a lady looks. Just looking and wondering, what this persons life is like. What would it be like to live in there shoes. There good times, there bad times, what they are up to. It dose get me into troubble at times. But ladies when we do look, its not always about sex or undressing you with our eyes - Posted from rhpmobile The difference is that when we are people watching we don't usually have that lusty look in our eyes that makes them feel uncomfortable. I enjoy people watching too. LG
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
the look up and down women give other women. Bitchiness can be worse than the looks men can give a woman. If looks could kill......
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RHP User
9 years ago
55 year old ample, unshaven, dirty clothing, brown paper bag and hands in his pockets, always leers.30 year old well spoken, well built, well dressed, gorgeous smile, never leers. It is who is being looked at that makes the difference. If they don't like the person looking then its leering, if they think that person is hot, then it appreciation (looking). I know this because I am often accused of leering. But I am not even looking, not undressing, not picturing perfect skin, perfect tits, with firm perfect nipples, round arse, lovely little mound, or imagining bending them over and sliding my hard fat man meat in. I am usually completely unaware there is someone there, staring blankly while working on something nerdy in my head.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
I refer to that as the "Bitch Look"...... its a subconscious evaluation women (more than men) do... to evaluate the competition. And yes I fully expect grief for using the word competition....... but women for the most part aren't even aware ether doing it. Other subconscious behavioural patters are also interesting to observe when you know what to look for
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RHP User
9 years ago
Annie and DG,that look is OMG,where did you buy that ..dress,jacket.those killer heels ..I WANT them 😘xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
We know it: A leer is when we are seen as an object for sex: attractive enough to give them that rise they love. Appreciation is gentle and loving and seeing us as a person rather than an object. Unfortunately 'internet sites' promote the former in my experience. A real set back for women and our long history of being demeaned because of the body we were born into with no choice in the matter. Blahhh. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We know it: A leer is when we are seen as an object for sex: attractive enough to give them that rise they love. Appreciation is gentle and loving and seeing us as a person rather than an object. Unfortunately 'internet sites' promote the former in my experience. A real set back for women and our long history of being demeaned because of the body we were born into with no choice in the matter. Blahhh. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My mind is generally made up within 2 seconds. By 3-5 seconds you'll know which it has been perceived as and if you're in doubt as to which by 7, best get you some shades
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