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Life Lessons
December 09 2016
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unicorn_bubbles
8 years ago
My mum always had a few good ones. The best I remember are: It hurts to be beautiful ( as she was yanking the hair brush through my hair) - this always comes to mind when I'm getting waxed! When picking subjects at school she told me to do history, because it's handy for crosswords! Damm it mum, you were right! - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
8 years ago
That I was given are: • Talk to the hand. • What other people say or think of you is none of your business. • Asking for help is not a weak act or being a loser! • If you can see it, others can too.......(I thank Summer sincerely for this value piece of advice 🙏🏼 as it has helped me to remain calm and take a step back from wanting to react in the moment of heat! Thank you Summer 👍🏼🙏🏼) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Life sucks: the end
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RHP User
8 years ago
is perfect.
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Wildgal4u
8 years ago
People treat you the way you let them....dont EVER settle for second best 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
.....my mates father put his arm around my shoulder and said , son ' this is the best advice you'll ever get... be like a sparrow... hop on , hop off and fly away... Should have listened... My ex footy coach ... If you get hurt ' don't get angry, that's what they want. Just wait and at some time during the game the culprit will somehow manage to throw his chin onto your fist. Very diplomatic my coach...
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madotara69
8 years ago
You are not measured by your deeds alone, it's your actions as well. If you go to bed with an itchy bum, you will wake with a smelly finger. Unkind words and thoughtless snubs, are but the echoes of a small and frightened person. This came with a promise to now and true. When you find the woman you will fall in love with, keep her in the centre of your life always, to begin and maintain this, make regular reminders, diary, calendar, etc, until it becomes second nature.But what does it mean ?What one makes of it, I suppose.For me, I took to self hypnosis and went down to relax in my conscious and ask for the truth, meanings, etc ?I found some principles that have helped for these twenty some years, and she is still my best friend, centre of my/our life, as always.Her name is Tara, she is her own person, I respect her we are equal, I support her choices and see them through, vise-versa, if she chooses, I can't tell her what to do, or think, or say, I can ask her to consider my feelings expressed if she were to, or not to, and why for any meanings, but can't tell her like a rule or something demanding.Be honest, loyal and faithful, listen, care and communicate with an open mind. I can tell you and it's true, fucking awesome actually... you can be best friends, in love and together centred with all and everything else this life entails, the adventures, the up's and the downs and everything. Tara I wake to see her dreamingEyes closed peaceful smile Is it me and our miles? Is it her and me the meanings Or of adventures in other time Someone, another, not of me? A pleasant feeling wells with rhyme She is free, she is not mine I love her dreaming all the time Peaceful smile, her heart defined Humble to me it is us Our time the adventures Rough lumps and bumps Comfort, cares and lust She lay there dreaming in love With me the man Who sees her as one Her own, her self, her fun Yes special she I love Dreaming fine no not enough Life for her I must Dreams not just dreams Dreams are just She lay next to me Peaceful and smiles Eyes closed peaceful and free Oh it is, clear and precise Tara she is and means to me Everything so it just seems I lay there awake with a smile To see the dreams showing our miles Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
You choose to do,do it with passion,follow your bliss.There is nothing worse than wasting your life doing what you don't want to do.Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
The best advice is advice I've given myself. Pretty bloody happy with the results actually 😉 the best piece of advice I gave myself was to live life, live and appreciate every second, make it count. We only get one shot at this 😃
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hotwife4fun71
8 years ago
I got told when we started our own business by a good friends father Remember you can go out in a gold coffin and have everyone wanting to piss on it or you can go out in a chipboard coffin and everyone lining up to carry it - Posted from rhpmobile
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MrPlayful
8 years ago
If something is annoying you and you can do something about it, then stop worrying about it and go and do it. If you can't do anything about it then accept that's the way it is, work out the best way to live with it and make the most of things the way they are. And... People do things and make decisions for their own reasons, which generally aren't just to piss you off! Thinking about what those reasons might have been for them allows you to accept why they do/did whatever it is/was. For example... When you're in a hurry and some old bastard is driving 20km under the speed limit, he's not doing it to piss me off, he probably just feels safer doing it. Calm down and give him some room.
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RHP User
8 years ago
comparison is the thief of joy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Could you elaborate on "when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time"? - does this apply to aspects of a person that you couldn't accept but you've known for a long time and still keep in touch? The reason why I ask is if you can give someone a compelling enough reason to change and give them a second shot, they can be so willing to change if they see a path and never look back. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Worry about your character and not your reputation. Because your character is who you truly are, your reputation is just what others think of you. You can't control others shitty behaviour, but you can control how long you participate in it. Just breathe Always leave the house in clean underwear
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RHP User
8 years ago
Keep them coming - really loving some of them! If you can sum up the advice into a one liner - that's most effective! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Did I mention the comments were awesome? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bazingal
8 years ago
That first one Soft listed is a fave of mine. Others: When a person tells you that you have hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't. Sorry is not enough. Sometimes, you have to actually change. Always carry dental floss 😆 random I know. But it comes in handy.
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RHP User
8 years ago
One of God's gifts is the inability to see the future.
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On_Safari
8 years ago
1. Tomorrow is a whole new day with no mistakes in it (Dad) 2. Life isn't fair and neither is a black fella's bum (Mum) 3. Not everyone's going to like you, some people are just assholes (My Sunshine Katie) 4. Time may be a great healer but it's a lousy beautician. Brain cells may come and go but fat cells live forever (Dorothy Parker) 5. You're sexy because of the way you are not the way you look (My railway family) 6. You can't please everyone.....some people are just miserable cunts. (Ma)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Now these are actually quotes but have been said to me and I've said them to others in return. Quotes are great to read sure, but the reason they are great quotes is because they resonate. Being delivered to you by someone at the right point in life however is the icing on the cake. A flower doesn't think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms. Sometimes you've just got to talk to a 4 year old and an 84 year old to understand life again. If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams, and you will always look lovely.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...I watched a doco on SBS one night about free hand rock climbers.I always remember one of them grinning and saying to the interviewer :"You've got to do the first things first. Cos if you do the second things first, your fucked..!"
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lovman8
8 years ago
What a pity I'm a stubbon arrogant arsehole who refuses to take advice!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not using it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Every single one of you, including myself!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always have found your responses so deep and captivating. I swing from fun to deep and you go deep. It's interesting. Very much like you, I do give second chances when the person/connection is too valuable to toss away. "When someone treats you badly - it is their karma, how you deal with it is your karma". Everyone fucks up in life, it's a given. Yes we all hope to support one another to change for the better. Like you also, I try to see what the other person is feeling or going through and if they understand the magnitude of the situation from my POV, what went wrong and where and how to fix it next time. This is how you can say what you need to say for them to understand. It does wear on your heart to give chances. I please too, but I also enough is enough... I know my true value and remind myself when I feel down and out. "Stand guard at the door of your mind" - Tony Robbins... amazing guy. The bad memories serve as a lesson. The situation was the test. Take the lesson, the situation is in the past. The emotions it gives you does burn into your memory and has a negative effect if you don't seek support or counteract it. That's what I love about forums... just when you might think you know it all, people challenge and support your thoughts :) it's so colourful :) I've realised we don't appreciate the sunshine without darkness. Use the darkness to serve you do more good in the world and connect with others - you can't be the only one out there feeling that way. Look at Ellen, Oprah and all the greats... their voice is only in recent years/decade being internationally accepted and efforts rewarded. Let the burden go. You are still holding on...why? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can counteract your negative thoughts with positive ones... you teach your children well from your words, why can you not learn yourself? As a parent you protect them, but you must also protect yourself. When you say you did not wish for it ask for... in actual fact, you did and still do. You choose to carry the burden. You feel guilt, anger, sadness and that is force not power. If you don't know this already: Google image - Omega Power vs. force chart. The hardest thing is letting go and forgiving whatever it was that brought your mind to think this. The longer you wait, the harder it gets because it because an emotional home and cerebral pattern. Admitting to yourself your deepest fears, is the biggest risk but reaps the biggest rewards. You are capable of digging deep, you just won't. It's scary for everyone. When you are sick of these thoughts controlling you, you will then make the decision for the transition to a better life. When the decision is made, it is done and you tell those close to you about your commitment and they will support you all the way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I was a toy boy for an incredible single mum, we were having a kitchen court whinging about the opposite sex, my beef was about women suckering men with the "buy me a drink" scam. Her comment was "well if you didn't think with your dick it wouldn't work would it ?" Big lesson. And another. One of the girls in the house was a nurse, we lived less than a kilometre from the hospital yet she drove to work, I had a light hearted go at her about how "slack" that was and received my first lesson in life in our society as a female. She drove because creepy scumbags staked out the hospital to molest the staff when they finished work. As any female reading would know, those are great truths with much wider and broader implications, but those two events were and are indelible lessons for me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
@that50zguy A friend just told me that exact same scenario!! It made me laugh!! Cougars having their way with an innocent, vulnerable toy boy. (Omg I'm almost 40... I might have to try this trick hahaha jk LOL) Husband checking out the boy and then going to the other room to watch the footy. He was so nervous. After I composed myself from laughing, all I said in response was - the couple must get a kick out of your reaction! Yeah safety should be number one for sure. Learning self defence martial arts is definitely a good thing too! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sincere apologies. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wouldn't take too much on from what you read here at times, we are none of us perfect and emotions usually run high. Same as others... I do hope you'll return to full colour and attitude sooner rather than later. Hoping you're reading... I have been wanting to answer this since I first saw it and have not for the life of me been able to think of a solid example, lol. Total mental blank. After some thought, I can offer... Ah yes. Hugs. They're awesome! Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is only magic when you believe. If you don't believe, nobody can tell you what you read or hear is right. I don't believe that I will get much more value out of RHP. The magic is gone, maybe just for now, maybe forever. But I've realised I have more important things to take care of. My being blunt and naive was my way of escape and expressing my confusion, even to myself. Know yourself better than anyone in this world and you will be your own best friend even if you have nothing else in the world. Nobody can take that from you and even if you give it away with the hope that people will be better themselves, then that will be the legacy that you live your life by and be happy spiritually with that decision. No regrets. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm really sorry to think we may not see more of you. These forums can be harsh and judgemental. RHP is not the open and accepting place one might expect but is really quite restricted at times. I was appreciating your breath of fresh air. In a similar vein to yourself. I heartily support the idea and can offer it as a life lesson that the one person always there for us is ourselves. So look after yourself, Im sorry you've been disenchanted so soon. Peachy 😙
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RHP User
8 years ago
I now realise why I felt so uneasy when you cyber hugged me. I push affection away because it's addictive. I don't want to crumble more. When I try to hug my Mum, she pushes me away and I hold on tight. I have to choose my moments. She watches all those dumb Korean/Chinese drama and feeds her brain with romanticism and fantasy as her escapism and has done for at least 20yrs. Us kids can't give you what those Prince Charming give their princesses. (Dad was consumed by a gambling addiction), she is alone. But when she's angry, I want to hug her but I don't know how she will hurt me emotionally, not physically. If I can't hug the person I care about the most, how can I feel comfortable hugging others? I don't normally in real life unless they are really good friends but even then sometimes there's a twinge of uneasiness. I don't like to offend people but I do give my love and admiration from afar. I don't ask for help either even if people want to help, I instinctively turn it away because I don't know how to give back. I don't want to become my mother!! >:( giving people close to her emotional grief. Ive always known her to be so generous from her garden when we were younger. She gives things but she never takes anything materialistic back. We are having serious uncommunicative problems at the moment. My birthday lunch with turned into a nag session and an argument. I told her I want to go travelling again and I think I broke her heart again. But it was just for holidays. Money is really important to her because it was so scarce, but she is rich in ways she doesn't know. My neighbour is such a soft, generous person and she knows my harshness. I couldn't explain it to her until we went and saw Tony Robbins together as a getaway. (I'm not a die hard fan, but his research and teachings are so valuable to me. I'm so glad I felt his presence in case he passed suddenly. That'd be a sad day for me.) Now I know she gets me. We both believed it would better ourselves and our friendship. I also disciplined her rescue dashchunds when she couldn't control them. They were such scared little puppies. She believed love is all it took, but the female dog needed direction through strong guidance and approval. I gave her that and she listens to me. I didn't want to use fear as a tactic, but it's the only way she responds and learns. Haha When I love her, she loves it so much more. I never forget to say she's a beautiful girl every time I see her. We have our little love affair haha The boy dog... he needs a harem, seriously!! Maybe my neighbour could help me but she will be leaving soon too. Thank you for being so kind :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Has provided me an abundance of realisations! :O I'm projecting my mother habits and also struggling to fight them at the same time. I never meant to make anything personal on here. Please don't take my comments too personally. The intentions come from a good place :) I came to forums seemingly due to boredom, but unbeknown to myself, I was searching for something deepe - answers which I found. Thanks for fighting for me and sharing your stories. I even thank the harshness counteracting my own. The resistance is some undeniable force and energy. My intuition kicked in and I felt it to the core. I cried and thought about forums over the last few days. I wrote, re-wrote, deleted my comments before posting and realised how much it affected me. I re-read and analysed what I wrote and how it sounded. It was undeniable. The problem was a lot deeper. It wanted to come out. Sorry for the unleash :( I know sometimes an apology isn't enough, but I'm touched and feel more free :) I now see why my Mum is upset and closed herself off to me. I know how to approach the conversation. She is worried for me. I'm not even worried, but excited at the prospect and I just want her to be happy again :D one issue at a time...decompartmentalise... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
... I was hanging with my Granddad, and he glanced over at me as he poured himself a brandy at 2 in the afternoon and said "every man should have one vice". Sage.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm glad you've found a deeper understanding and can be so open about your process, I admire you for it. It's taken a long while for me to reveal much of myself here. I thought you might like to know hugs are a big thing for me, something that was forced on me for a long time that I refused to lose the enjoyment of because of that. I do understand someone not wanting to accept a hug has nothing to do with me. I called my self PeachyPi for a while, lol. I do like to muck around with my name at times. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's ok too Peachy! Sometimes, it does open and soften people up. My neighbour hugs me more than I'm used to and now I offer her hugs because I know I can be strong for her in times of need, even when I'm crying too hahaha ;P Only light can drive out darkness. Peachy, be yourself, unapologetically :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I believe everythinf in moderation is healthy :) aim to restore the balance in life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Remember to be kind to yourself, so that you can be kind to others. If and when everything seems too overwhelming, remember to be kind to yourself - first and foremost, one step at a time. Even one positive thought a day, no matter how small it may seem, can grow with belief and intention. It is impossible for our minds to constantly think negatively, somewhere in there, there is a positive force, use it and nurture it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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