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Living alone for the newly initiated
December 13 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
I applaud your sense of self control (or knowing yourself and preemptively limiting yourself by buying a small tub) - I have a bucket of Maltesers that I just cracked the seal on... they may or may not survive the night ;-) What sort of tips are you after? It's not like you're a kid so you already know that life is nicer with proper appliances and not "oh we can wash dishes in the sink, it's no big deal" screw that, dishwashers are awesome. Maybe you should have an RHP housewarming party and then we'll know your setup and can provide practical suggestions? ;-) Know how your electricity panel works, get breakers installed instead of fuses. Then when you put on the heater, iron, kettle and toaster all at the same time and your lights go out you can just turn a few things off and go flip it back on. Is your shower's water pressure and heat good? Get the plumber to remove the stupid temperature limiter on it, and get a full flow shower head - they're soooo much nicer than running around the shower trying to get hit with water. Do you have cake forks? Cake tastes better with the right fork.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My wicked indulgence, food wise, is chocolate and I eat a LOT of chocolate. So if icecream does it for you, go for it. Life's little pleasures. Living alone is also new for me this year and i've found you move or change how you feel about it, it ebbs and flows - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry, so yeah I was excited about privacy the most, i think most of us crave privacy, having company or just walking around naked, touching myself lol i've turned into quite a nudist I realised just today actually. The second I walk in, off come the clothes, so I love the freedom to be able to be free that way, also doing weird things like dancing in the bathroom in the middle of the night lol I get lonely sometimes but not really if that makes sense. I'd love a partner but not so much for life stuff, for sex mostly, or life stuff with a good side order of sex! But it'll take time for you to find yourself, no need to rush that or have any expectations. You wake up in the morning and only have yourself to get ready or think about. You'll go through different stages, I have, right now i'm completely comfortable. My routine of choice is the beach and incorporating exercise into that, but just because I enjoy it, that's the highlight of every day, so the things you love, you'll find you have more time for them. Good luck with it. Enjoy your new freedom 👌 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
This way,it's only really a part time living alone because you have children.But for the first time ever you get to create your own space which reflects who you are..if you don't like something you can move it or get rid of it..it's uniquely your space filled with your spirit,your energy.Light your favourite scented candles ,fill your space with the scents and sounds you love.....,......... Of course you can cry,eat buckets of icecream,packets of Lindt balls,you are mourning a loss and celebrating a birth..,the birth of single you..and that can be scary,it's like taking all your clothes off and running down the street feeling utterly exposed,because now everyone is just seeing you...but what an amazing you it is,an exciting time to discover you...to discover the difference between loneliness and solitude..To discover joyful quiet spaces,..fill the quiet with the music you love ,make plans have something to look forward to maybe a trip to visit a place you love ....;have a small dinner party,invite friends to come to your new home to celebrate with you ,the new you..trust me this will get easier ,and soon you will be relishing your time alone,it will become precious...😘xxFrya
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Thank you. That's perfect. xoxo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not sharing the TV means you get to bingewatch all those shows the other people in your house didn't like. Sex and the city anyone?
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RHP User
9 years ago
it's about now realising that you have the reigns to steer that boat(your life) throughout the waters of singledom celebrating all that is you... Take it one day at a time until you get your feet...then just run with it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
To me empowered by the life change or be lonely. Somehow I think you'll revell in it and find/create new ways to enjoy yourself. The hardest part of living on your own is motivating yourself to cook meals rather than snack or graze. I came up with lots of easy one person meals I could cook in 10-15 minutes. Use this as an opportunity to indulge and reward yourself for all the selfless things you've been doing for the family for years. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Living alone is great! I love it. Of course it's scary at first., because you've never been lived alone-it's a new journey and experience... For me, It's about giving myself the freedom to get to know me, make decisions and choices by myself... It will give you so much independence and empowerment. Allow yourself time for that freedom to feel free. Ms Foxy
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OkeyDoke45
9 years ago
Sorry to reference the disgustingly corny song but the lead chorus line is rather apt. The only advice I have for you, and I believe all good things follow from this, is to learn to be friends with yourself. So many people in the world cannot stand their own company. Learning to enjoy your own company can be a big leap for some, but so very worth it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...you get to buy the food that only you like. Your allowed to be selfish...you don't have to think of other tastes 😁
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lovman8
9 years ago
You seem very positive and intelligent and resourceful so I'm sure you'll figure whats best for you. I just say be gentle with yourself and start slowly discovering where you want to go. And enjoy just being you and be comfortable with you own skin and thoughts and enjoy the solitude. And then let your wild woman out and party hard on occasions.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Eat the whole damn tub. Living alone gives you so much freedom to be and act exactly as you wish. Get naked dance around sing at the top of your lungs or for the ultimate fun strike up a quirky conversation with yourself. I think there are many advantages to living alone but there are also many hangups. I have lived by myself basically since I was fifteen so for me the strange, weird thing would be to share a house (pretty scary if you ask me). There is a definite completeness and peace one finds living alone as everything is up to you and you alone. Hope it all goes well.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I loved living alone, towards the end of kid week I looked forward to my own space to date and play and towards the end of "me" week I looked forward to the return of my children. And you can see change in even a week ! The hardest thing I found about living alone is cooking for one, so if you cook buy lots of take away containers or Tupperware and cook normally and stock the freezer. Also try all those exotic meats you have always found too expensive like squab and venison and crocodile ! Of course the computer and the TV are a trap to avoid, bike riding for me and a veggie patch ! Good luck and enjoy !
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Hell I've done it...be warned tho - it can be addictive. I think I have turned into an ice-cream slut. When you want a good threesome try Ben and Jerry's - you'll never go back. Ms Foxy
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Now that is the kind of threesome I can really get behind! Stirry - reigns on a boat? Mixed metaphors there, honey - but I appreciate the sentiment. :-) I survived night one. Tonight I will need to feed myself a proper meal. This adults get thing is highly over-rated! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
just how I roll!!! I'm like a unprotected orgy....you never what you're gonna get lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're never really alone. You always have your children , family and friends, even if they're not there with you right now. The first night anywhere is always the most lonely because of the sudden solitude, specially when it's a first. Everything becomes magnified, even the clock sounds louder. But this pass'es and you'll either start to enjoy your own company or look for someone to fill the void.. Give it time...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Oh, I was in a similar situation as you find yourself in. I'm a few years into the experience now and totally love it. My recommendation - cook large meals when you have family with you - so you can freeze them, so you don't have to cook for one. Save all your favourite shows and books for the time you're alone. Start a new hobby. I bet you'd be able to turn out a decent book. Purchase an awesome sex toy. Womanizer has my vote. Most importantly though: Burnt Fig, Honeycomb & Caramel Ice Cream - Maggie Beer. Or when you need a indulgence - since you're in Sydney Cow and Moon's almond affogato - it's the world's best (according to the Italian's) Relish getting to know you
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RHP User
9 years ago
1. you cannot delegate chores like "take out the trash, will ya?" cos you have to do them.. 2, you cannot blame stuff on others such "oh...why did you left the trash to overflow?" cos there is no one to accept blame 3, cooking - most receipes cook for 4...who wants to eat the same meal for 4days?? 4, chores - something needs fixing around the house (something more complex than changing of a lightbulb) you have to call for help...somehow 5, health - can be cumbersome when it comes to stuff like recovery from a surgery...you have to do everything on your own or organize help but in return - one can do whaterver they want when living on their on - that is FREEDOM sooo many people envy :) priceless :)
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Sontheloose, I only had a small tub because I couldn't decide what flavours I wanted, so I got three small ones - I have the Maggie Beer burnt fig for tonight, pepper rose, it's amazing! And as for a new sex toy, I rewarded myself last night by playing with a beautiful new piece of glass. I think meals are going to be a challenge for me - it seems like it's almost not worth it to cook just for one, but I'm going shopping this afternoon and buying all the foods that I usually avoid because no one else in my house ate them. Great idea! KrissySYD, I realised last night that garbage night is on an alone night - sigh. I'll have to set an alarm on my phone so I don't forget to take the bins out. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
living on my own....the housework I enjoy doing. I love keeping busy around the house...on the weekend just gone I was outside cleaning the exterior glass....this coming weekend after a catchup with my lover, I'm spraying for spiders again as I'm noticing cobwebs are returning a little earlier than expected, followed by a scrubbing brush on the tiles as the grout I haven't been happy with since I moved in... It's an awesome reward when people come around and they comment how clean the place is, how fresh it smells...so call stirs property management today on 1800ilovebragging and get your free no obligation measure and quote...lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I'm sure I'll get there - right now I'm still missing the kids! I have loved thinking about redrafting my home into a place for me, but I'm still surrounded by so much moving debris that it's hard to focus on the positives. I am looking forward to a sport free tv though! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
you never stop missing them....it just gets easier to do stuff without thinking about them - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' living on my own....the housework I enjoy doing. I have windows that need cleaning there is also a shower screen if you -or anyone else- has some spare time and this rocks your boat
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RHP User
9 years ago
bring my uniform?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' bring my uniform?? - Posted from rhpmobile If you're going to come and do my housework, you can wear anything you like!
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RHP User
9 years ago
As soon as I moved out from home in NSW, I went to share housing (in Canberra). But since 2008 and moving back to Vic, I've lived alone. However, not quite alone, as I've now had my beautiful dog for over 5 years. I agree it does have it's challenges, such as sharing tasks and the general socialising which I found beneficial when sharehousing. Apart from getting a pet I can't add to anyone else's suggestions.
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Patrem
9 years ago
Yes, it's incredibly scary, and your emotions will go on a roller coaster to start with. Huge elation surges, plummeting drops, but keep your head upright and facing forward and you will survive, and become a better person for the changes. Just think of all the filled bookshelves in your future, the craft spaces, the collections, the excellent coffees !!!! You're a truly wonderful person, and about to realise you are so much stronger than you've ever thought. Time to fly.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PatchworkGirl' Quoting 'Stirry' bring my uniform?? - Posted from rhpmobile If you're going to come and do my housework, you can wear anything you like! mmmmm....cleaning a shower screen is best done with the least amount of clothes on...it will get wet anyway :)
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Countrytouch, a lovely fluffy feline is filling that role for me. And Patrem, filled bookshelves will ALWAYS be a part of my life - although I do now have one extra shelf to fill. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
You'll probably never want to live with anyone ever again, except your children of course. I've been living alone for so long, I struggle to spend 2 consecutive nights with someone. My space, my rules, my time and I love it....💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
Its a big change and your role in life has become focused on yourself. It did take time for me to adjust not being a fulltime parent anymore. Normally you have time to make changes slowely when the family is together. Best thing is stop and think about what havent you done and would you like to do now you have the time. What did you used to do before having kids? whatever that maybe go and do it and have some fun. Friends are very important and there plenty of people out there just like you. Have a social life you deserve it, its now time for you. Embrace it, rejoice it but dont feel guilty about creating a new life for yourself. xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
It can be really lonely and isolating if you let yourself hide away. People won't come knocking your door down unless you put yourself out there. Stay connected with people and you'll be just fine :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
NOW is the time to write that book, jot down that poem, or paint that picture. We all know you have it in you. Hugs. Obi1
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RHP User
9 years ago
Now ya talkin ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
...If I feel like a roast now or then, I just cook a small one with all the extras I want...then freeze the rest. Your freezer becomes your best friend...and that doesn't mean living on cardboard dinners!I felt like pork meatballs one day...so I froze the rest in portions. Another time I felt like homemade pumpkin bread...see where I'm going here?My freezer usually has a few interesting selections for when I don't feel like making the effort.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If I want to stay up late watching a movie or whatever, I don't have to worry about making too much noise...and I ALWAYS get to watch what I want. And if I want to listen to music early in the morning...I can and do! Enough said..?
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Now THAT is an idea that has caught my attention! Thank you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' Now ya talkin ;) practicality and who knows...someone might put their hand up for the task so that I don't have to do it own my own...
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deal4
9 years ago
Patch, lovely lady... Balance your inward and outward focus during this time. I was in a very similar situation to you just over 5 years ago and I nearly tore myself apart. I had almost always been surrounded by people every moment of my life, and all of a sudden the only sound was my own heartbeat. I chose to stay at "home" as much as possible, even working from home until wee hours. I turned down invites to go out or over friends places. Not quite a recluse, but not far from it. So I didn't develop a balanced view of myself during this time, I only developed my own thoughts about myself. They're valuable, but not in isolation, and can begin a downward spiral. So. Balance. Allow your friends to support you. Make sure you have plans for at least some days/nights, so that you don't end up sitting there with nothing to do and no desire to do anything. Take yourself out for dinner. Remember things that make you smile. You'll find things change. You'll do more/less facebook/youtube/RHP/chat/drinking/eating/sleeping/knitting/walking. Be balanced. Good luck :)
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I need to get myself a bigger freezer, but that's a great idea, thanks! And I do totally love not having to share the TV, or having to argue over what we are watching on Netflix. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
lol no I in team right?? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I'm having a decadent Sunday night alone, despite the fact that I'm slogging away on a uni assignment. Candles are burning, in my favourite fragrance, which the ex used to hate so I hardly ever lit them. A bottle of bubbly is chilling ready for me to celebrate me reaching my word limit. There's no noise, apart from the gentle purring of the cat who has finally given up her attempt to sleep on the keyboard. And I'm wearing some lovely new black satin lingerie, for no other reason than I can. I think I'm getting quite used to this "nights to myself" thing!
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Dinner was couscous, which I love - but no-one else in my family really does. Yay for cooking for myself - and an even greater yay for not having to share dessert!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Congratulations Patchwork. That's what it's all about....do what you want, eat what you want, wear what you want. Granted, I remember it was pretty nice cuddling up to someone in the early hours of the morning too...but this living alone thing feels super free.Wake up and feel like a drink of water? Who needs clothes...just stroll down to the fridge as god intended .
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RHP User
9 years ago
Living alone can be a great way to re-establish that independence you may have lost over the years. There are a number of great things you can do, and plenty of things you can decide upon. My advice?Take the time to reflect on what YOU love to do - yoga, dancing, cooking, TV, whatever it may be. Reflect on these things and help setup your space to accomodate your passions. Start with a minimalist approach to decorating - too much clutter and you may feel overwhelmed (perhaps you won't!). Play good music often, this is one of the greatest joys. Invest in a turntable if you haven't already, and relax to some vinyl classics! Design fun spaces for your kids too - dependant upon age, it could be a fantastic way to engage them in your new life! Then for the cliches;- Fill your house with fun,- Dance like no-one is watching, and- Invite some good company around :P
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Congratulations Patchwork. That's what it's all about....do what you want, eat what you want, wear what you want. Granted, I remember it was pretty nice cuddling up to someone in the early hours of the morning too...but this living alone thing feels super free.Wake up and feel like a drink of water? Who needs clothes...just stroll down to the fridge as god intended . I do miss the closeness of having someone to snuggle with - but the reality is, it had been a very long time since that had happened even before the separation!
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Quoting 'Eudaimon'Start with a minimalist approach to decorating - too much clutter and you may feel overwhelmed (perhaps you won't!). Design fun spaces for your kids too - dependant upon age, it could be a fantastic way to engage them in your new life! Thanks Eudaimon, that's great advice. It's been wonderful to be able to make choices about furniture and decorations based on what I want, and I enjoyed shopping for my new linen and kitchenware. My kids are teenagers, so we had a lot of fun working with them to design their new bedrooms at both homes, so they can really feel like they have been a part of making their mark on it all.
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Sometimes I can't wait till they leave to get in and clean! I really don't like sharing my bathroom sometimes. The toothpaste in the basin, wet towels (well, ok 2 were my fault 😇), the hair ring in the basin. GRRRR! I wipe the basin every time I use it- so it's clean next time I go there. I know it's s small thing and I must sound mean, but I love a clean bathroom. I won't even mention the kitchen sink. ☺️ Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Sometimes I can't wait till they leave to get in and clean! I really don't like sharing my bathroom sometimes. The toothpaste in the basin, wet towels (well, ok 2 were my fault 😇), the hair ring in the basin. GRRRR! I wipe the basin every time I use it- so it's clean next time I go there. I know it's s small thing and I must sound mean, but I love a clean bathroom. I won't even mention the kitchen sink. ☺️ Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Sometimes I can't wait till they leave to get in and clean! I really don't like sharing my bathroom sometimes. The toothpaste in the basin, wet towels (well, ok 2 were my fault 😇), the hair ring in the basin. GRRRR! I wipe the basin every time I use it- so it's clean next time I go there. I know it's s small thing and I must sound mean, but I love a clean bathroom. I won't even mention the kitchen sink. ☺️ Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Sometimes I can't wait till they leave to get in and clean! I really don't like sharing my bathroom sometimes. The toothpaste in the basin, wet towels (well, ok 2 were my fault 😇), the hair ring in the basin. GRRRR! I wipe the basin every time I use it- so it's clean next time I go there. I know it's s small thing and I must sound mean, but I love a clean bathroom. I won't even mention the kitchen sink. ☺️ Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
You seem to have taken to this being alone thing like a duck to water. Isn't it great?
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' You seem to have taken to this being alone thing like a duck to water. Isn't it great? Except for having to lug all the groceries in by myself today - and having no-one to help me when my back seized up as I was getting some of the heavier stuff out!
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RHP User
9 years ago
That's why Coles and Woollies deliver.
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I wish I'd thought of that yesterday!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I order all the heavy things (dog food, drinks, frozen goods) online once a month. Worth the delivery fee!
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lovman8
9 years ago
Done a few double posts in my time on the forums but I think you've got the record. I agree with you by the way......much nicer if people clean basins and toilets immediately after use.Easier too!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wiping the basin. Wiping the basin. Wiping the basin. Wiping the basin. Kidding!
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Haha Thanks 😊. I agree, Yes it's much easier...as for the toilet- I can put the paper anyway I want too, over instead of under. 😉 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Considering your delightful new profile pic, I think the new lifestyle is agreeing with you! Delish
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RHP User
9 years ago
Stunning pic!
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RHP User
9 years ago
... hoping that you survived Christmas ... I gets better from here .. .... I'm enjoying the blog hugs Uly
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I bought myself some "newly single" lingerie, as a present to myself - totally loving it. And thanks Uly. Christmas wasn't as bad as I was expecting. I'm about to have my first extended holiday prod by myself, and am very much looking forward to travelling and catching up with some friends, old and new.
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
"Holiday prod"? I wonder what that entails?
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
"Holiday prod"? I wonder what that entails?
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RHP User
9 years ago
It s obviously important because you said it twice😂😂xxFreya
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Maybe I'm in search of a DP - a double prod!
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RHP User
9 years ago
.... holiday prod ? ....... you were right with 'entails'
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
So, I'm discovering the joys of travelling alone. Hanging out in the airport without having to entertain anyone else whilst waiting for a flight. Just being able to go with the flow, and not have to have things organised to suit anyone else's schedule. I'm loving it.
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Only being in charge of yourself and your own luggage is a revelation! Solo travel has so many benefits. It also means you have time to start reliving all those scrumptious holiday memories without anyone interrupting. I love seeing the private smiles on people's faces and trying to imagine what they are thinking about.
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PL1963
9 years ago
Living alone does have benefits. Walking round naked when you want, sleeping in, cooking what you want, when you invite a friend over for some intimacy, you can do what you like, when and where you like. You were lucky your split was amicable, I lost 95% of my friends, relo's and my son in court. My boy is now 20, and we are good, but he has his own gig now, so I don't see him that often, but really enjoy it when I do. You have time now to "develop" your single life, you still have the kids and have your privacy/life as well. You need a circle of single friends, cpl's often want you to settle down again, don't do that till you're ready. The kids will slowly drift away to do their own things, but if you know that is coming, you will be ready. Mine was quite sudden 3yrs ago and started off amicable, but rapidly turned nasty after 30yrs together. I'm now reasonably comfortable on my own, but go thru patches when I don't have an FWB to chat and meet with etc, that gets lonely. I won't be settling down for at least 5yrs, as I think that is how long it will take me to find a soulmate. I concerntrate a lot on my son's wellbeing. I hope this may help, it's just my observations over the last 3yrs. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PatchworkGirl' So, I'm discovering the joys of travelling alone. Hanging out in the airport without having to entertain anyone else whilst waiting for a flight. Just being able to go with the flow, and not have to have things organised to suit anyone else's schedule. I'm loving it. my schedule my ideas..my trip :) :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
About travelling alone is meeting strangers,you can be whomever you want to be..there is no-one else there to reflect back to you who they think you are...I have had some amazing conversations,almost short friendships that I will never forget,sitting next to strangers on trains and planes etc..or if you cherish your privacy a book is always your friend when the lights are on 😝xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
I love these group trips where it is primarly either single people or couple from all around the world and all walks of life..on my last trip there was a lady from Japan with OCD, a biologist researcher guy from Ireland, a nuclear scientist from the UK, 2 hippies from Canada, 3 Germans etc etc... yes the trips are organized so there is a schedule to follow but one still has their own time...can even request a single -or couple room so that you don't have to share with strangers.. i love the freedom being single means - in terms of travelling and experiences now if only I had a group of tradies on call to help fix stuff around the house :) :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Walk into a hotel bar cafe or just sit down somewhere and people will come and say hi ! Introduce themselves etc.When you have company that happens far less, as you already have company. I used to do epic hitch hiking journeys up and down the east coast in my 20's. Townsville to Melbs being the longest, learn't how backpackers scam lunch from 2 Germans, visited a marijuanna farm (with samples). Got a tour of Kings Cross from a resident who picked me up by in Coffs in a '56 Chevy. (saved from the cops by seconds apparently). This sleaze in Brissy picked me up on Storey Bridge and tried to hypnotise me ! Hilarious ! Yep traveling alone is awesome.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I cherish the times I get to have the house to myself. Like so many with adult children, they say they are leaving yet inevitably come back home again. So I go from freedom in all its glory to having to compromise again. I occasionally have time where I'm living alone for a few months. When it first happened I realised how much of myself I gave to others all the time. I felt lost and alone and thought "what do I do now"? It became a time to grow, and learn and become whole. My confidence grew and that empowered me to be me. You will find your way and start the see the world as somewhere exciting to explore. Oh and having a friend on stand by when you need a laugh or a hug is the best source of strength you can find. Love your friends they are wonderful LG
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
... there are the inevitable "downs". The nights where the bed feels cavernous and oh so empty, and when the comfort of a pair of accepting arms wrapped around me is all I'm craving. It's 4am, and I'm resisting the urge to get up and do some housework, because I just can't sleep. Thank God not every night is like this huh? I'm sure tomorrow night I'll be enjoying the space and freedom in my bed again. Tonight it just feels oppressive. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
PG,it's 4am..can't sleep ..It's difficult to adjust the biological clock circadian rhythms and all that.But soon you will adjust and actually enjoy sleeping alone..Or you could find a cuddle buddy,a non sexual friend..hugs xxFreya
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I had a hard hour of repeated dreams with differing contexts, but always the same depressing outcome. I woke to feeling like I'd been steamrolled into the mattress, and my body aches. A cuddle buddy sound amazing - off to search eBay. ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
There is a website called Cuddlecomfort...they offer to find you a cuddle buddy😝xxFreya
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
That is awesome! I also love that there is a section for professional cuddlers. Gold! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well I too have recently traveled this path and I am very happy to share that I have made sure I have a few things that I now do to look after me..... 1. Eat well and enjoy that you can now choose what, when and where you eat 2. Keep some naughty but nice stuff in the cupboard just for you ...... Might be food or might be for the body - either way enjoy it when you want it! 3. Love the nudity that you can have at any time - I noticed someone else commented that this is extremely satisfying to be able to do this and for me liberating that I can be comfortable with me without any comments 4. Enjoy the company you keep when you decide to keep it - alone is great but to have friends and encounters when you want to enjoy others company is sensational 5. Enjoy your own company - we are beautiful people and we should never forget this! Have fun and live it to the fullest from now on......
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
That's a timely reminder that's really need to do some grocery shopping, and spoilt myself a bit! I have tended to only do a decent shop before my kids come over so I can be a mature responsible adult and feed them properly, but then just eat whatever I can find floating around when I'm by myself. I need to get into the habit of proper meals on my own - this adulting stuff is hard sometimes! - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Nachos anyone? For the past 20 years I've been eating corn chips that were everyone else's favourite, and without guacamole because no-one else in my house liked it. Tonight I had the corn chips I love, and the best guacamole in the history of guacamole. Sen-fucking-sational.
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MrMechanic
9 years ago
Its been going a while now.Glad to see its working out. Ive been a Bachelor for my lifetime and only had short periods of domestic bliss with partners (few years) so my advice likely isn't much use. I shop for fresh food daily and avoid storing foods, it gets costly as they go off.No bulk perishables.I usually decide what I'm having for dinner was I'm standing in the aisle of the supermarket and have had a look around to see what takes my fancy for diner that night. Resist OCD. Toilet seat is parked in upright position. Cavorting around the house nekid.And laying on couch with cock jutting while listening to music.Freedom to do it. Get a cleaner once a week to do the majority of cleaning. 50 bucks well spent. Front load washing machine is a must have. Beds too big then get a single and put the bigger one in a spare room, make it a sex room to host in with associated mood décor and equipment provisions. You've probably got it all sussed by now. Good luck, and may your toilet seat always be down.
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MrMechanic
9 years ago
Beds too big.No soft touchAnd a song I listen to again and again. "I nearly forgot my broken heart"Chris Cornell Every time I stare into the sun Trying to find a reason to go on All I ever get is burned and blind, Until the sky bleeds the pouring rain When you came along the time was right Pulled me like an apple red and ripe Wasn't very long you took a bite And did me wrong, and it serves me right And I nearly forgot my broken heart It's taking me miles away, From the memory of how we broke apart Here we go round again, again Every little key unlocks the door, Every little secret has a lie Trying to take a picture of the sun It won't help you to see the light Every little word upon your lips Makes a little cut where blood pours out Every little drop of blood a kiss that I won't miss Not for anything And I nearly forgot my broken heart It's taking me miles away, From the memory of how we broke apart Here we go round again Every single feeling tells me this is leading to a heart In broken little pieces and you know I need this Like a hole in the head
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