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Long distance relationship
May 26 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wasted 3 yrs of my life on someone who was always coming back and never did. I was in love and held out because I am loyal and then it just got to a point that I was sick of the excuses, sick of sleeping alone, sick of no intimacy, sick of having someone on the other side of the monitor but not with me. I would never recommend it to anyone, ever!
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
I think if it is a RL relationship it can be difficult but not impossible. In Australia, that distance really is not that far. I think it needs commitment from both parties to travel - every weekend even in the case of standard RL relationship. The travel has to be equally shared as resentment can set in if one person ends up doing the majority of travel and they are consistently away from their home environment. If it is a more casual FWB/BF situation then it too can work, but I would suggest 'exclusive rules' shouldn't be in play.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I guess it just depends on how much both parties want or are willing for it to work, but there will come a time when one of the two parties has to make the decision to move closer to be with the other. Relationships no matter the distance are hard work and something that has to be worked at as a team......💋
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Would be absolute perfect perfection for me! Ooooooooh I dream for a FIFO man. I can dream can't I?? Would I be loyal...you bet ya. Would they be loyal.........hummmm ?? I hope it work out for you OP - there are positives and there are negatives to long distance relationships. If it's meant to be, it will be. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Would be absolute perfect perfection for me! Ooooooooh I dream for a FIFO man. I can dream can't I?? Would I be loyal...you bet ya. Would they be loyal.........hummmm ?? I hope it work out for you OP - there are positives and there are negatives to long distance relationships. If it's meant to be, it will be. Foxy Well my decision has pretty much been a "no thanks", was right from the beginning because I have tried it before and it crashed and burned spectacularly. It definitely doesn't suit me. It would be fine if I had gotten to know someone a lot better in close proximity beforehand but to be doing it long distance from the start isn't attractive to me
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Missb4u
11 years ago
To maintain a long distance relationship. I think kissk really nailed it all there. For a fwb relationship it would have to be with someone that regularly traveled to the area. Also agree with foxxxy FIFO = perfection or military men 😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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jenniecruising
11 years ago
We have done the LDR while Cruising worked overseas generally 3 months away one month a home. Occasionally he would do an extra month away to help out a mate. Ten years on and with the last 15 months him being home full-time has all been worth it. Jennie.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was a FIFO for three years, every weekend 8 hours traveling then when I got home. family life ...no real rest, busy busy then pack it up and move on again back to work... it's gets to be too much, but i gave it a red hot go for three years but.
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
It reminds me of the quote from Theodore Roosevelt. Its not the journalist or the spectator its the doer of deeds, the one that tries. If you think it would be hard work, your right, if you question whether you could or its worth it then you couldn't. If the person is the one then you can. If you didn't try then do you think, what if?
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
Mr & I met on RHP as singles & had a long distance relationship for 2 years where he was living on the Gold Coast & I was living in Hervey Bay. This is roughly 400km away from each other & we only got to see each other maybe once or twice a month if we were lucky. We made it work and honestly it made our relationship a hell of a lot stronger because of it. Before I met Mr I always said hell no to long distance but I suppose it just takes meeting the right person to make it work & actually loving someone enough to want it to work. We both found COMMUNICATION & TRUST are big factors in making it work & if you can't trust the other person not to stray or have jealous issues then most likely its not going to work cause you will be wondering every day if the other person is going behind your back or not. We have also found having a long distance relationship made our swinging relationship stronger because we already had the trust & communication thing down pat. If you can have a long distance relationship for 2 years there is nothing the swinging scene can throw at your that can rock your relationship. lol We finally look the next step & I moved to the Gold Coast to live with Mr in February & honestly our relationship really hasn't changed all that much. I'd say we are a RHP & a long distance success story :) Taby xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
and we thought it was worthwhile.... 2 kids later, it was.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Has never worked well for me. one or the other loses heart, gets too lonely and stuffs up royally.
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precious142
11 years ago
for over 5 yrs, LDR worked well for me.Had a good job that I loved and was lucky enough to get some time off when he was home - quantity not quality worked well for me.As Taby pointed out, trust and communication play a huge part in making it work, same as keeping occupied and out of trouble!!!!And BTW - the sex was non stop while he was home.....making up for lost time is a treat!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Dacougar, trust is not just hoping that the other person will be honest with you, but that both of you can trust each other to communicate without recriminations... It can work... Spectacularly, sadly my long distance relationship collapsed when the distance was removed... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
is what they say, but in my opinion especially if you have never met in person. One or both of you will end up looking elsewhere. How knows though there are always the exemptions if you are willing to take the chance
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems to me that the past is where you're looking... The future needs to be where you're going. While you may have tried long distance before, was it you that couldn't do long distance or the other party?? If it's the other party I'd question if it would've worked at a closer proximity. But.. If it was you, then well, that's something you need to work on for yourself if it's something you wish to change. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Yes for a short period of time and for when things are still new and casual, no commitment whatsoever. But certainly NO when feelings develop and you want to be exclusive! I cannot handle open relationship, so the trust would be difficult to build! But that's just me and I only speak from experience :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
its almost getting to the point where you have no choice I have several girlfriend who have bf that work away 4 on 2 off I also have a gf who is at least 10 min walk away ... it works
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't do it I've never heard of any good end results ? I gave it a great shot for 4 years but sadly due to the distance we simply lost us... Miss her still to this day but...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never - Posted from rhpmobile
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passion8_l
11 years ago
If you see each other regularly but if the intention is for the relationship to become permanent then I don't see it working unless one of you is prepared to re-locate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's like the question asked at a philosophy lecture - "Will there be money in Communist society?" The answer came: "Some people will have them, some people won't."
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RHP User
11 years ago
We will have to agree to disagree on this.
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Mr_MrsAraps
11 years ago
Between Newcastle and blue mountains but it is hard and there has to be some clear boundaries or long term plan at the start of how long you are doing it for. Lucky at the time that everything fell into place but if it goes of the boundary time then you have to start makin choices if the person is making excuses or little effort to be together. - Posted from rhpmobile
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