Long distance relationships.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  You formed a somewhat relationship? What does a somewhat relationship consist of? l Watch me get cricified for this....... l Personally I dont think it is natural nor healthy to go without sex for that length of time. Yes it happens when there is something mentally or physically wrong but in a normal, healthy man of your age....it is going to drive you absolutely crazy and it wont be long before the desire to feel the skin of another will all but take over your thinking and masturbation will almost stop working. It will be a ten minute ease only. Something to help you sleep nights. I dont think you are wrong to be on this site. Do you think you are wrong? Would she think you are wrong? I dont think it is a sensible choice to have a long distance relationship with someone. Shop around a bit and then see how you feel in a years time.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ........Personally I think that if you are already having doubts about being on this site (and have to get advice off strangers!! lol) then I don't think it's REALLY what you want to be doing......how would you feel if your girlfriend turned around and said "Oh BTW I am shagging a guy while I'm in Europe but I'm still your girlfriend"?....would you be able to deal with that?As for Fionabee's comment re: long periods of sex is not natural and unhealthy, I have to disagree. I have gone 18 months without sex and I survived just fine .......well except for that terrible tic I sometimes get now , but otherwise it was no big deal to go without sex......

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Maaaate, it's great you had a travel romance but the cold hard facts are that it's likely to end up just that. Of course there's always the exception to the rule and if you are it then you'll have no problem working out what is the right thing to do. My suggestion would be to communicate with her that you both can date and meet up in a year and see where you're at. If something is right and meant to be then it will happen. I once met a girl who planned to go overseas after a year, we dated for the year and I nearly tied her up and forced her on the plane even though i loved her as I knew if it was right she'd be back. Was kinda lucky she knew it was right and refused to go so I did the only honorable thing and married her. I also had a few travel romances in my time, one lasted around 6 hours at a beachside bar on a rainy day. Escaping the rain I met a girl and we chatted for the whole day, nothing else existed. We drank each other in all day until my local mate finished work and picked me up so I bid her goodbye and left. Over the coming weeks it hit me that she was my soul mate, someone I could have spent the rest of my life absorbing her essence. Well there's a beautiful DMB song that sums up the experience. Well I was gone, never to return. I think of her every now and then and it is the fondest of memories but I have learned there is no such thing as A soul mate, there are soul mateS!! Enjoy the loves in your life, give yourself to them but also be true to your self and you'll find one of them you might never want to let get away.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Ha! Nobody should be celibate for a year. It's insane. Completely insane. Plus, really... does she have to know all about it? Don't put your life on hold. I'm sure she won't be.HUgsStalky

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  communication is the key... what is acceptable behaviour for you both? What extra curricular acttivites are discussed and both parties are happy. Personally, I think that 12 months is a long time to not have any physcial contact. These days, there is skype msn etc which may assist. Nothing nicer than seeing their face as you chat. What is going to happen when the 12 months are up? Was it a holiday fling? Giving someone such a length of time of your life is a huge sacrifice if there is not a happy ending... In the meantime perhaps not close yourself off to other opportunites... and why do you have to wait the 12 months?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  People can go without sex for extended periods of time, just look at our Armed Forces and their deployment time. However, you;re in a tricky situation where you may feel like you are cheating on her because you crave sex and are looking for sex. . Look,in my opinion what you feel is normal, in an unusual situation. The best way not to "cheat" is to be up front from the beginning....it saves a whole lot of guilt and hurt later. . Live your life now.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Thankyou all for the feedback, it's much appreciated.I think it's just the satisfaction I used to get after all them crazy nights I used to have, I think I just miss it and would like to go back to my old life style, but I don't know if I do, what I will lose in the end.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  thank you for the reply threads, I have taken every reply in consideration...

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  xFunlovingx

  14 years ago

  You don't have sex for a year...and then buy your ticket to Europe just to find out that she has met someone new but didn't know how to tell you? You would feel ripped off and a right ol' git and could end up bitter towards women! You are only 24...I say bonk your brains out...but always be safe! xFunlovingx

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  inspirit

  14 years ago

  why dont you ask her? or do you not have the conviction of a honest man to ask her for the fear........... communication the success to any relationship

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  fuck me are you serious ... she will getting her arse banged off 12 months and your 24 for fuck sake man go fuck something

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Gee I know this is a site for oversexed people but really I have to object!!!! Anything exceptional in life takes hard work to get, well for most of us anyway! Not having sex for one whole year!!!! - Is it really going to ruin anyone's life (ok maybe Stalky's)? Johhny, only you know if she's got a shot at being "the one" that you want. Yep worst case scenario is that you hold out for a year then go meet her and the sparks are gone - so you've missed out on some rooting, but you've gained more soul, you've lost a love, which although painful is a part of life that makes you more human.Yep this is a sex site and we really should only be encouraging you to fuck yourself silly but really there ARE more important things in life than just getting your rocks off.I lost a love when I was in my early 20's and was a born again virgin for over 2 years. It was a time I focused on other things, on myself and growing to love myself without having to have a hot girl to shag every weekend. Funny thing was that when I finally re-entered the game I seemed to be much more attractive to the girls I really liked so I made up for lost time well and truly and bumped into "the one" for me too!Hey I have a solution: if you choose the year of celibacy and your foreign love doesn't work out then you can make a B-line to the Puppies kennel and Mrs Pup will make you forget all about a year without sex!!!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Gee I know this is a site for oversexed people but really I have to object!!!! Anything exceptional in life takes hard work to get, well for most of us anyway! Not having sex for one whole year!!!! - Is it really going to ruin anyone's life (ok maybe Stalky's)? Johhny, only you know if she's got a shot at being "the one" that you want. Yep worst case scenario is that you hold out for a year then go meet her and the sparks are gone - so you've missed out on some rooting, but you've gained more soul, you've lost a love, which although painful is a part of life that makes you more human.Yep this is a sex site and we really should only be encouraging you to fuck yourself silly but really there ARE more important things in life than just getting your rocks off.I lost a love when I was in my early 20's and was a born again virgin for over 2 years. It was a time I focused on other things, on myself and growing to love myself without having to have a hot girl to shag every weekend. Funny thing was that when I finally re-entered the game I seemed to be much more attractive to the girls I really liked so I made up for lost time well and truly and bumped into "the one" for me too!Hey I have a solution: if you choose the year of celibacy and your foreign love doesn't work out then you can make a B-line to the Puppies kennel and Mrs Pup will make you forget all about a year without sex!!!

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