M38
Longers Drought?
August 22 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
hmmm title was suppose to be LONGEST
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RHP User
11 years ago
16 months, before I joined RHP. Never again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
8 years before RHP!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have don't for years and years before.
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Beachlover1999
11 years ago
Was nearly admitted to a psych unit!!!!!! NEVER again!!!! NLOL......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Put 20kgs on too during my drought which wouldn't have helped!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
17 years
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was my longers drought
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
18 months of marriage imposed celibacy.I deserved better...... and now....I live that way. But staples..... why?! DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ask myself why all the time, just seems no ones keen lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Take heart.. I am on here after a 16 year abstinence lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Holy shit Batman!!!!! Im floored at some of your answers!! Im stressing after a couple of weeks!!! lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
After my divorce...then I joined RHP
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captainkaos
11 years ago
Quoting 'ding26'Holy shit Batman!!!!! Im floored at some of your answers!! Im stressing after a couple of weeks!!! lol Bloody hell people. How can you do it? I admire you in some ways but.......... My longest would be about a month when I was married and my wife at the time went overseas.
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lovman8
11 years ago
Didn't lose my virginity until 24
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RHP User
11 years ago
and like most things its a habit that you get into when you don't even know it.for me was 6 mths
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RHP User
11 years ago
after loosing a husband...just no time, just kids work and home, making a living thats all what you think of. Happens and the years go bye.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I assume you mean adult life as there was some years between 15 and 21 that were dry, do they count, is oral sex?Since then.. 2 minutes 13 second and 120 milliseconds. Oh you mean not including my self. I don't play games I can't win unless its for charity.Gosh I am actually ashamed to say less then a month. There is something very wrong with me I should be able to do better.I know, what about how long with the same person and no one else. 12 years but she did so love sex. Also not because i did not want to try the field, I was just held on a very short leash.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I had my knee replacement. Mmmmmm. A little hard to maneuver. 😜 Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Staples. I'm sure things will turn around soon for you!!! Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sex just isn't much of a priority for me these days and I'm up to about 4 months now......- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Now, I'm only asking this because you asked the forum members. What does 'no ones keen' mean?! And don't give me any BS excuses about this site being tough, because rhp is a small fraction of yourblife behobd tjis asylum. I also wint accept excuses like "it's hard to meet people" etc etc You're young, I have to assume healthy, active and interesting. Being social, and sexual is a natural part of life..... So where are you failing to hit the target?! Lose any "getting sex" from a woman mentality. Don't get sex.....BE sex.( but not creepy) Happy to help.... but you're going to have to open and expose your honesty nerve DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'staples4335' Ask myself why all the time, just seems no ones keen lol hellooooo darlink ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
2 years at the end of my first marriage, 6 months at the end of my second marriage. What did I learn? No sex is a HUGE symptom of more complex problems. Not THE problem.
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casanovastudd
11 years ago
Im going through my longest one now...Its been a long few days :/
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RHP User
11 years ago
again, 6 years. Catching up is hard work !I often wonder if I should have used the internet to find a lover, I found porn !But not my style, besides it's history, onwards ! Love youse all ! x
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RHP User
11 years ago
like a Buddhist none for over 20 years...much of that time I was celibate..well I did love myself a lot
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RHP User
11 years ago
Same as DG, matrimonially imposed celibacy.never again for me too.
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Plain
11 years ago
I could not get an erection as my blood pressure medication was over powering, it was a frustrating time, especially when the specialists did not believe me, took a lot of experimenting, time and an understanding GP to get me back to normal.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Two years here and I thought I was the longest!!!!! Perhaps I should have quit whinging :-) I suppose its a very long time when you are attached:-(
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Coops27M
11 years ago
Apart from the again around 17-18 yrs development drought (smart arse slickz :) ) , 2.5 yrs maybe. A long time for a guy my age. Who's supposed to be running around jack rabbiting (looks at jayjay) :D- Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
3 months or just over but it was after x and I split
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me, 12 months as of the end of the first week in September... and not from lack of trying, more from overly strong Moral Compass and being too nice... note that I have burnt the rule book so there is one less impediment!Can empathize with the depression... I was married to an overly sexed person so going from at least 2 times every other day (often painfully more...) to NONE/ NADDA / F-ALL-MATIE... it is a bit of a shock to the system.Wonder if the depression is also attributed to the lack of hormones that sex (or at least heavy petting) releases... hmm.Tried replacing sex with fitness (regular gym junkie now days) but that hasn't helped.And to add insult to injury... last Monday I turned 38 and for the first time in 20 years I haven't had my special Birthday treat So keep your chin up and eyes open... someone good will come your way am sure.
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RHP User
11 years ago
CasanovastuddLMAO......
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RHP User
11 years ago
3years now n sadly still in it lol but thank god for my hand :) Been 6 years since last couple play as well but this is what happens with age I guess :) besides I'd rather laugh n chat before I lick n fuk
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it was three in the marraige possible adding another year till I was ready...I had this conversation the other day with a nice gent about the fact that Marraige induced celibacy could be a reason why people are fearful of relationships.....Do they fear that once in a relationship/marraige they again will experiece this common phenomenom??
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RHP User
11 years ago
Happy belated birthday, Amicus! I'll buy you a drink on the 6th of October.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Now, I'm only asking this because you asked the forum members. What does 'no ones keen' mean?! And don't give me any BS excuses about this site being tough, because rhp is a small fraction of yourblife behobd tjis asylum. I also wint accept excuses like "it's hard to meet people" etc etc You're young, I have to assume healthy, active and interesting. Being social, and sexual is a natural part of life..... So where are you failing to hit the target?! Lose any "getting sex" from a woman mentality. Don't get sex.....BE sex.( but not creepy) Happy to help.... but you're going to have to open and expose your honesty nerve DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
While married. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
So...... The REAL question to address is...... .....how do you think you can overcome these 'social anxiety issues'? Because unless you meet, engage and attract a stranger.... This drought isn't gonna break without money changing hands. Talking to strangers isn't so tough. Most people are more than happy to talk to a polite and interesting stranger. DG
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inspirit
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
would happily wait for a awesome mind blowing erotic encounter over a quick rocks off meeting anytime. Have gone 18 months is past.....while recovering in hospital.....damm those nurses would drive me crazy!
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RHP User
11 years ago
*quality over quantity any day
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RHP User
11 years ago
9 months (after 3 1/2 year relationship), I guess it depends on your situation, I've been surrounded by women and it turns into a buffet. It also depends on friends as well and availability. I had met some friends they were much younger than me and I had met her sister, we hit it off and made up for that lost time. For 5 months all I did was sex, eat, little sleep and work. I made up for it
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RHP User
11 years ago
6 months and still counting , Ive put on 15 kilos. Which dont help. Gosh after reading the stories , my drought is nothing compared to some. Thank god ive got my grandson thats keeps me busy I babysit him while his parents r at work., Cheer up evetyone it will happen when u least expect it. ..- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
is absolutely correct,talking to strangers is an art,it doesn't come naturally to most of us.Many people think that I am an extrovert when the opposite is true,I am still terrified of a room full of strangers but can engage most people in conversation one on one. Ask the right questions,talk a little about yourself,pay attention to what the other person says and reflect that back to them.Give some eye contact but don't stare at them. Women are not such hard work if you know how to be a little bit engaging Staples. Invite someone just for coffee,relax,what is the worst thing that can happen really? The worst thing is only that there is no connection and that you have wasted an hour of your life..coffee is never a waste
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Staples....... further to mine and the lovely miss Freyas comments.... you seem like a decent, sincere guy who isnt out to self promote in here... so Id like to offer some assistance.Here is an exercise for you that will really help with the foundation stone of your confidence.It will require you to challenge yourself at first, but once youve done it for a week, you'll wonder why you ever had anxiety about talking to other human beings and it wont seem like a challenge at all.Because women... while seemingly alien.... actually are just human beings, like you, with their own anxieties, doubts and confidence issues.... as well as hopes plans and dreams Every day for a week, I want you to walk up to at least 5 different people, preferably someone who catches your eye..... and just engage in light conversation......About anything.Ask for directions.Ask where a great cafe nearby is locatedAsk where the nearest Coles isetc whateverDont expect anything. The point of this is just to see a stranger who looks attractive to you, and talk to them with no expectation of a set outcome.And In Week 2, Im going to get you to do the same but instead, Im going to get you to give random compliments to total strangers - for no reason other than to give the compliment.(And something amazing is going to happen..... you have my word on it ) DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
6 &1/2 yrs before RHP- Posted from rhpmobile
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spaparty
11 years ago
6 months
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RHP User
11 years ago
We once went without for a week.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't understand the no sex while married business, can someone tell me why married people are not having sex? It has me stumped. I was with a guy for 7 years who was always too tired or not in the mood for sex, made me depressed and think that it was me that was the problem, it took me ages to realise it was not my problem but his. When we did on occasion have sex it was over so quickly I gave up trying to orgasm. Now I am single I never have problems getting orgasm. staples I would talk to your friends and maybe they can introduce you to other people or maybe just share some of their tips. Good luck.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well for me it's been almost 10years for sex I didn't have to pay for, been a couple of years since I last engaged the services of a professional. Go out to a pub, meet a lady, have sex that night..... never. Go to a private party, meet a lady, have sex that night..... never. Go to a swingers party, have sex that night..... never. To be fair it's been about 10 years since I've been out for a "Date" as such so there is a bit of you never never no if you never never go happening so I'm not bitter towards the ladies. It just appears that treating women with respect and a genuine interest in there life, combined with little sexual innuendo in your conversation and a complete inability to pick up the signs leads them to think that you are gay.
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RHP User
11 years ago
DG's advice is gold.Totes do that!
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RHP User
11 years ago
After having my first child. 6 lb baby tore me... the dr had to sew me back together.... Think she put an extra stitch in for my husband because I couldn't even take his "fireman s helmet" without pain for 12 months.... Was not fun but now I am glad about the extra stitch lol....
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RHP User
11 years ago
DG i think i will try your advice and i hope you are correct.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And here's me crying about 6 months... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Awesome.... You've decided to invest in yourself. Good man!!! Come report back on this after those two weeks of exercises.... I know what you're going to say ;-) Although i want you to have no set outcome in talking with these women you will be approaching, be awsre of your body language. Stall, be confident (even if you have to fake it at first) be unapologetic for asking for interrupting and for their time talking to you, and project the image that you can take care of your shit... ..... because a woman inherently knows if you can't handle your shit, you won't be able to help her handle hers when it hits the fan and she needs you to man up and take charge. Got it?!!! Now go have fun :-)
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