M39
Looking for some help
January 19 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can't see anything wrong with your profile that I could say would discourage women from chatting. You have mentioned, however, that you were hoping this site would build your confidence up. So that has me wondering if your confidence was already at a low before you joined RHP. Which brings me to my next question: when you chat to women, do messages from you reflect a lack of confidence? Overflowing confidence is not always a good thing, but neither is lack of confidence when it's visible early on in chat. The other thing may be that you're just choosing the wrong type of women to chat with. Maybe you're just picking women who are looking for something different and, where I'm sure you're a nice person, but you may not be what they're looking for. Try not to take it too seriously. Relax a little and maybe have fun posting in forums while you're looking for the ones you truly click with properly.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My wife and I both have profiles....she finds a new guy every week, Im talking decent respectful guys. I have chatted to a total of 2 females - both VERY mixed up people with a LOT of problems. I now treat this site with a pinch of salt and have taken my energy to real life at clubs and nice pubs - - for me, much better responses and actual fun. - Posted from rhpmobile
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
Open relationship would have been a deal breaker when I was single and looking for guys, even if you had the best write-up ever and looked like Ryan Gosling. And 1 slightly blurry photo isn't really enough either. Your profile write-up is fine although fairly short. Miss Little xx
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
Open relationship would have been a deal breaker when I was single and looking for guys, even if you had the best write-up ever and looked like Ryan Gosling. And 1 slightly blurry photo isn't really enough either. Your profile write-up is fine although fairly short. Miss Little xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
It is very much a womans world here mate. If you came here to build your confidence and get your share of women I'm sorry but you've come to the wrong place. Unless you have the body of a god the chances of you getting past the initial meeting phase is pretty much gone. Then you'll have to deal with the question of your height, staying power, conversational skills, earning capacity, length and width of your penis and ability to run the 100m sprint in under 10 seconds. Then, and only then, you may be granted an audience. Only an audience mind you. In the meantime your wife/partner will undoutbedly have been ravaged by a football team of perfectly proportioned hunks the likes of which only appear in a Mills and Boon cover shot, all with the ability to last 5 days without water satisfying her every sexual desire. When you learn to live with this fact, you'll probably realise you're better off just going to the pub with your friends and enjoying life rather letting a bunch of people behind a computer screen with an inflated sense of worth dictate how you feel about yourself. And that about somes up the RHP experience for the male halves of an open relationship. Enjoy ;)
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MnauMnau
9 years ago
Quoting 'GenGuy73' My wife and I both have profiles....she finds a new guy every week, Im talking decent respectful guys. I have chatted to a total of 2 females - both VERY mixed up people with a LOT of problems. I now treat this site with a pinch of salt and have taken my energy to real life at clubs and nice pubs - - for me, much better responses and actual fun. - Posted from rhpmobile When I did search and the ratio for Men seeking Woman and Woman seeking Man, oi... QLD only W>M, 35-45, with photos, verified = 308 profiles M>W, 35-45, with photos, verified = 1319 profiles and that is not filtered more in depth - status, height, body, interests etc At the end of every search and perving and checking, you end up with handful or two of the same profiles over and over again. Of course you can get more results (not going to test this option), when you start pushing your "limits" and preferences further. Or just simply lying that you have 8+ instead of 6-, or clean and healthy and non-smoker. ect There must be a lots of gang bangs somewhere. 4 to 1... Still have 5,5 months of membership :) Might see you in a pub.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hubby and I are in an 'open relationship'. Men seem to love that I am, while women seem to hate that hubby is...its a strange world :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Justright..... to me, Im hearing what your essaying, and It reads to me like the issue isn't so much with the other three people.... but that perhaps you chose three poor people. Any conversation begins with deciding who to talk to.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Mate you need to get a better profile shot.....nice shirt, and a better background. Also, you absolutely need more than one photo, you need at least 2 or 3 of your face, and a couple of body shots ( no bathroom selfies....they are so passé ). SS will be online to give you loads of great advice......just be patient, shes the best in the business....
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RHP User
9 years ago
There is a huge disparity in the ration of men to women on here. Even most single guys struggle and often hugely underestimate how difficult it can be for them. Being attached, the odds are really not in your favour. Many of the single women here are just not interested in attached men, even if they do have permission to play with others as you do. When there are so many single men contacting these women, it is very difficult for an attached guy to get a look in. As Miss Little noted, the written part of your profile is ok but it's quite short on info and your pic is, to be honest, not great. In short, your profile is really not going to grab anyone's attention and for most women it will just get lumped in with the masses of other rather boring men's profiles they see everyday on here. If you want to revamp your profile then really try to let your personality, your quirks, and unique points show through...what makes you stand out from the crowd? Something else to consider is that you may have better luck contacting women who are also in open relationships and play solo. Also - if you are open to it - attending meet and greets, swinger's events etc. is another good way of meeting like minded people, even if it's just social at first things can always develop from there. Being in Melbourne you have quite a lot of options for getting out and meeting people face to face.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Something else to consider is that you may have better luck contacting women who are also in open relationships and play solo. Also - if you are open to it - attending meet and greets, swinger's events etc. is another good way of meeting like minded people, even if it's just social at first things can always develop from there. Being in Melbourne you have quite a lot of options for getting out and meeting people face to face. Agreed. You'll have much, much more luck attending clubs with friends or your significant other or even meet n greets (though most of the women there will be of the same opinion as those in here). Don't pin your hopes on RHP as a guy in an open relationship. Use it as a tool to get to know people of a like mind and meet fellow couples...you won't have much luck with anything else.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' There is a huge disparity in the ration of men to women on here. Yeah, the women are being rationed men like it's an all-you-can-eat buffet....whilst the men are on war time rations.The ladies will be be plump and well fed on this diet. Sounds like a recipe for Revolution...
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Justdoingstuff
9 years ago
Quoting 'LittleGiant' Open relationship would have been a deal breaker when I was single and looking for guys We are curious as to why that is the case? Might also help OP understand. Sorry being nosy buggers, lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've seen many men become jaded and bitter when things don't go as they expected on here. I've seen it both here on the forums and in the profiles I read. They start blaming the women for exercising their rights of choice and autonomy, they throw out every insult in the book, they trot out the old 'if I had a 6 pack and earned 6 figures my life would be different' line. Basically they blame everyone and everything else for the fact that they didn't get what they wanted and felt they were entitled to. It's quite tedious, it shows a distinct lack of self-insight, and in the end it's a self-fulfilling prophecy because do you think that women want to be anywhere near someone who acts like that? Yes, men have it hard on here. But just about everyone has it hard on here for some reason. Men seem to think that because I'm a single woman I'm receiving hundreds of messages a day and am rolling in cock. Well nope, unfortunately it ain't like that at all for me...faaaaar from it. If you find yourself becoming bitter and it's really affecting your self esteem, just delete your profile and refresh your head. It's not worth it and it's only one avenue for you to explore. You already have what a lot of people on here want, so don't get too caught up in something that in the big scheme of things just isn't that important.
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
I would have wanted someone that is more available than I imagine someone in an open relationship would be. Why would I pick someone that (presumably) has less free time and is less available to catch up, particularly last minute whims? I'd also be sceptical that it might be a one-sided open relationship unless it was confirmed by the female half, and even then i'd be worried i'd be stepping on someone's toes or cutting their grass. Seems more trouble than it's worth when there is an abundance of hot, available single men on here! Miss Littlexx
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
Love the new profile photo by the way! Gorgeous! Miss Little xx
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
I have 2 profiles. This one which of course in the scheme of things sits a fair way above a single male. The other is a bog standard male profile that was used with a female fwb for swinging purposes. Neither profiles are used to actively search or message for hookups. The male profile gets between 20-40 views per month and 10% of those are flirts or messages. My profile(Annie's) gets anywhere between 450 -2500 per month depending what photos i have up. About 15 % flirts or messages. And im not even close to being a sexy woman. So glad im not a single male on here. Use that to have a reality check in case you think you are being unlucky. Annie
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was curious and had a look at your profile. Your a chef, are you..? I don't really know anything, of course...but I think that your problem is because your selling this Open-Relationship thing.I don't think there's much demand for it from average bloke. Sorry...you need to be aware of that. Anyway, now that's out of the way... Why don't you start with some fresh pics...something colourful and outdoors, not the usual bathroom or kitchen ones...most thumbnails are shades of grey, a splash of green or blue sky stands out when skimming through them. And re-do your profile stuff...give LOTS of details...it's like selling a car( or bike )...people like details, even seemingly irrelevant ones. And be open about everything...it puts people at ease when you invite them in. After that, it's up to the gods.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not feeling jaded or anything, just facing the reality of how things work on here. I have already started actively posting on forums. I'll definitely get some more pictures up soon as well! Glad I wrote my profile ok, I am always tinkering and adding to it. Thanks for the tips guys and gals!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am pretty new to this scene and I am now awate of the learning curve lol! This is the first time in my life I am actually actively pursuing women. In the past I just let my personality do the work. My partner was on this site for a little while and got a bit overwhelmed so her experience taught me the kinds of messages not to send! When it come to what I was saying about confidence its not that I'm not a confident person, its that as I said I am building confidence when it comes to openly flirting and meeting new women outside my relationship is a new thing to ger used to. Again I appeeciate all the constructive advice!
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