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Looks to me like Many People these days shy away from Relationships
May 08 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
want to grow old single i have no idea what I want, it changes every day I live it one day at a time,and I live it in the now
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RHP User
12 years ago
But I'd be happier growing old with someone. But here's the catch, it needs to be someone who get and is interested in me. I've had relationships with women who only wanted my company.. Let's just say being single is preferable to that arrangement.
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sweetgem
12 years ago
I know what I want ultimately and certainly don't want to die lonely emotionally But for now, I do not fancy of having a fully committed relationship just yet because of several reasons. I guess I am still enjoying my single life very much and the freedom of doing what I have wanted to do but didn't get a chance to do in the past, fulfilling my fantasies, and achieving goals before I cannot physically work again (that would be when I am 80+ years old I guess, if I live that long a life lol). So, a companionship would work for me at this time of my life :-)How do we define companionship is a whole new different topic and everyone's interpretation is not the same :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
That are hard work, mean that it's not equal. So many people in my view, are scared more of not receiving from a relationship than they are about growing old single....and why wouldn't you be?? Given the amount of messy break ups that result in massive financial losses for both party's in some cases who would want to sign up for the potential dramas that can occur; so I think it's more about protecting ones own life as is. Especially as its easy to find sex, it's just hard to find something more substantial. I myself, wild love to find someone to be with, however I won't just settle for the sake of it....besides I'm enjoying where my life is right now, and, as it is. There are no complications, no dramas, and I can bask in my independence. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mmmm its a each way bet. Would be happy to grow old with someone but I am not going to settle for just anyone guess I am getting fussy in my old age lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
If things change, then things change. At the moment, I'm finding my wings and enjoying exploring lots of different relationships. As for growing old single? Single maybe but I know I won't be lonely! I've got the best friends in the world!!! (and I will build the hippie commune and they will come)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was happily married now I am happily singlenow I would chose a happy relationship again.Every stage was wonderful, with big learning steps, every stage was challenging and exciting and boring.But every stage in my life, the single or married one, made me feel a life and wonderful.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I'll take a tent spot PaintMe!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you happen to find that special someone that you can be completely yourself around (no matter how much of an idiot you are being), then yes, a relationship is worth it, and it's not even that hard work. Problem is, those people are few and far between. I'd think I'd rather grow old single than with someone who didn't let me be me and vice versa. I think Mr Otori would feel the same. - Ms Otori
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' want to grow old single i have no idea what I want, it changes every day I live it one day at a time,and I live it in the now "no one wants to grow old single"And the alternative is????!!! Growing old having been ripped asunder. Why would anyone go down the relationship path again with a 61% chance of it happening again??!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
The awesome man has not found me yet...I know he's looking for me and when he finds me....We're going to grow old, be filthy and very erotic together in a nursing home! He's sure as hell is going to need PRN Viagra to keep up with me.Yep he's going to love all my wrinkles, cellulite, and false teeth.I'm going to love that he wears his slippers, dressing grown and that he thinks he going to be Hugh Hefner all day long.I might lose my memory by then...who knows?FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
And it's not hard work at all. I can be who I am, happy or sad, crazy and mad, but he loves and likes me regardless, crazy fool ;-) And I'm the same for him. Corny as it sounds, he's my best friend, my confidant and my lover (well, one of them). I think that makes me pretty lucky! Mrsxx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why do it again??? Because that's what living is all about, hurting, loving, laughing, but the most important thing is LEARNING. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are relationships/marriages really meant to be hard work? If you are in the right relationship with the right person does it really feel like hard work? (this is a genuine question - yes my marriage often felt like hard work, but is that always the case?) Can anyone add any insight into this?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have heard those old people's homes are full of swingers and bed hopping!! Dirty buggers. And no I am not looking forward to being the unicorn in an old persons home. Although I hear the drugs are good. ^_^ Gummy blowjobs. Woo Hoo!
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jensta
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I have heard those old people's homes are full of swingers and bed hopping!! Dirty buggers. And no I am not looking forward to being the unicorn in an old persons home. Although I hear the drugs are good. ^_^ Gummy blowjobs. Woo Hoo! Good Drugs are not enough ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm Relationship material.Love everything about it,knowing my lover ,what sets her off,makes her go off,what she enjoys ,everything.Caring for her when she is sick,enjoying her smile,the way she flicks her hair,how she likes her eggs.EVERYTHING about it i love!
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inspirit
12 years ago
My sediments exactly.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'karynb' Are relationships/marriages really meant to be hard work? If you are in the right relationship with the right person does it really feel like hard work? (this is a genuine question - yes my marriage often felt like hard work, but is that always the case?) Can anyone add any insight into this? Hurting? Hurts like hell when you put your hand on a very hot surface but I'm not doing that again. Learning? yep I learned..... never go down the relationship path again.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Two very different things.
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RHP User
12 years ago
we have found the one we both want to grow old with....took a long time, and 2 failed relationships...each...but we got there, and surprisingly enough....we knew each other the whole time... relationships aren't hard at all, if you find the one you 'sync' with... and sync we have.... finally a true 'partnership' that's equal. we look to the future and plan our happiness, long term, setting goals and marking milestones, and we are crazy happy dizzily in love...woohoo...just fell off m chair...lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are the worst! I much prefer someone to keep me warm. I do agree with paintme's idea and acceptance for change, but most of all I agree with RHP's resident knight and the reasons for getting into another relationship. I love the learning about a person, and experiencing things with them. I have learnt many things in intimate relationships that have changed my own views and how I view others. To have that one exclusive partner, you best friend, who knows you inside and out and loves you no matter what, I think is one of the most beautiful things. Having said that, ms_d does make a very valid point, single and alone are two very different things...I for one do not want to be alone, it's far more fun to play with someone else :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
It would be nice to matter to somebody.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I WONDER WHY ?
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' Why do it again??? Because that's what living is all about, hurting, loving, laughing, but the most important thing is LEARNING. - Posted from rhpmobile Like button...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would hate to grow old alone I've been in a relationship with the same guy since I was 15 the guy has cheated on me more times then there is days in a week I hope some day ill find someone who won't leave me hurt like this and I can trust and grow old with. - Posted from rhpmobile
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jensta
12 years ago
But not always I love ... LOVE ... I Love Passion I love to Know my Partner Inside & Out To have a Best Friend to Explore all aspects of Life Yeah I have some great Best Friends in my Life but I don't have Sex with them or live with them So when I talk about Lonely ... I mean a Man to snuggle up with make plans with to share our lives ... And of course Explore our Sexuality together
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have just recently separated from a 30 year relationship married for the last 18 years. The last 8 years of that there was no intimacy or affection what so ever. Since the split I have rediscovered how much I love the companionship of a man, the hugs and kisses and of course the sex!! I went without all that for so long I don't want to go without again and I don't want to grow old alone But at the same time I'm still quite raw from the last relationship. It's too hard and I honestly don't know if I could do it again :(- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'karynb' Are relationships/marriages really meant to be hard work? If you are in the right relationship with the right person does it really feel like hard work? (this is a genuine question - yes my marriage often felt like hard work, but is that always the case?) Can anyone add any insight into this? My mum and dad recently had there 60th wedding aniversary, and i can honestly say i have never seen them have an argument or fight. From the out side looking in it does not look like hard work, but they both work at it 200 percent. And both there "idea of what a relationship should be" are mighty similar. I have had a few goes.......... like mbrider said "hurts like hell" Think i'll book a spot to roll out the swag in paintme's comune aswell.
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Baby steps.....time heals most everything
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RHP User
12 years ago
and am, growing old single,but as Ms.D says,single and alone are too different things. I think the coupling gene has definitely passed me by.I have emotional claustrophobia me thinks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
are many different permutations of relationship Meeks,being part of a couple is only one....and you gorgeous ,funny sexy thing ...you matter to heaps of people
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wanting an eventual ultimate outcome, leaves you with the experience of ....wanting..Being attached to an outcome, doing whats required and having the experience of your desire is what we are deliberating here?.Sometime in the future...salvation is not now, but future based, you'll get it right by then. Now is not the time to worry about who's going to pick up the bits as they fall off of you when elderly..Relationships require work, hard or otherwise, If the 'Now Partner' is not a part of your next highest vision, ponder your choices....For those who are battle weary or damaged goods - what happens when you procrastinate?.You just get older..Choose a future...and live into it..Thanks for reading.
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