Low libidos,why do you think some people have low libidos?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  EVERY relationship i've been in theres been , at times, nothing about our libidos thats matched...its just how it goes, men and women have different cycles, different urges, and different needs....you work with it.. as an adult, and be understanding and accommodating, or you dont, and end up either miserable or single. sex is only one facet of a relationship, and at times, one of the least important, certainly not ever something to argue or be miserable over.......

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I had a thyroid condition which affected my libido. Got that sorted quick smart. Definitely hormoes, stress as well.   K

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Freya, I think the concept of libido is a bit more complex than off/on or low/high. There is also differences in the form a libido takes. In the "sex is your everything" thread, for example, there are lots of different kinds of libido... those that have strong desire, but only at certain times or cycles, or those that prefer a constant trickle of sexuality... it's complicated. MikeShel, I'd love to hear more about your experiences and opinions regarding the ebb and flow.... how you think couples can get through those, particularly if sex is important to either of the parties.- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Just the way some areCan be caused by medicationDepressionThe time of the month (hormones)Relationship issuesTirednessA friend used to say to me, "a problem's not a problem till we make it a problem".Something I picked up while googling that works from that point of view.Couples need not feel they have to have sex a certain number of times a week to have a good sex life. “It’s really about compatibility,” Weston says. She recalls a pair of married scientists who came to see her about the frequency of sex in their marriage because they were afraid they were freaks. “They came in saying, ‘We have sex twice a year, once on Christmas and once on his birthday. Is there something wrong with us?’ We went through it all and found they didn’t really want to change. They were coming in out of cultural pressure. Their true joy lay in doing what they were doing together in the lab. They liked each other; they didn’t fight. Sex was not a high priority for either of them. They were real cerebral types. I think we met twice and then I sent them home. I said, ‘I’m not going to make you guys broken; I think you fit very well together.’'Peachy

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  enduran

  12 years ago

  most of my relationships have been with girls who have lower sex drive than myself. What i found out is that they know and hence dont mind if there is any side business as long as it is discreet and she does not know about it.Therefore the relationship stays healthy. I think a relationship is more than just sex...sex is great by itself and if both sometimes diverge it is not a big deal.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  such as;effects of the pill, hormonal factors, due to illness, post operative, stress, inherited attitudes, psychological issues, unprocessed past emotional pain, new parents, after the birth of a child, experiencing a death, jet-lag or other metabolic dysfunctions such as a thyroid condition, a brain tumour(sounds too far fetched but it does happen), financial worries or loss, mental health problems or post natal depression, relationship problems or breakdown, a poor diet and lack of exercise, a timing thing within your relationship, accident or trauma (which can cover just about anything). Other than these...?I do believe that in some cases people just have not met the right lover for them. I think having the right partner/lover can help raise your libido from what the 'norm' would be for you.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Freya, I think everything you mentioned can contribute to low libido, along with illnesses, stress, level of tiredness, medication and even confidence level. - Posted from rhpmobile

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