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MFM
June 15 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
A fmf first. 😜
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justforthefun44
10 years ago
I never thought my man would ever do it. I asked him if he would like to try it as it was a fanaticise of mine. After some month ewe tryed it have never looked back. We both have lots of fun together I get the best of both worlds 2 cocks mmmmmmm being bi he gets the fun when we find a woman to play with as well.
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mack401
10 years ago
simply tell him what you would like to tryfind out what he thinks before you go any further once you sort that out arrange a nutral place eg hotel room and go have some fun
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JohnAnn2227
10 years ago
Hi, Talk with your partner. Reassure him that there is nothing wrong with the sex you share, this is just extras for you to enjoy together. Talk about fantasies, use toys and fantasise out loud that it is an extra partner. Basically communicate!Good luck!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not sure 'convince' is the right word. If you have to convince, it means he's not sure, and that could lead to bad news later. He has got to 'want' this too... I mean, how would this sound to you in the reverse - "Oh come on honey! It'll be a blast! It would turn me on to no end...and you want to see me pleased right?! And...and...you like boobs right?! Well ok, yes, YOUR boobs. But we'll find someone with boobs like yours, and then it'll be like you've got 4! That'll be fun right?! And you don't have to do anything with her if you don't want to...but it would be soooooo hot if you did...like MMMMM!!! Oh it will drive me wild..." Communication is key. Have you spoken to him about your fantasy? He may love the idea. Whoo hoo. He may be dead against it, in which case I don't see it happening (with him anyway). Or he may be open to the idea, but apprehensive. In which case I would take JohnAnn's advice and talk about it...fantasise WITH him...make him feel a part of it all. Gently push his boundaries, and you never know, he may just end up more excited about the idea than even you...
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compressor
10 years ago
just be straight up and talk to him and find out what you both want and go from there
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RHP User
10 years ago
What makes sure it will be a good idea? The word "convince" in posts like this always raises a red flag for me. I personally love MFM's, but I don't think it's something to be entered into lightly. Have you had a threesome before together or at least discussed it at length? I'd suggest bringing up the idea carefully and getting a clear answer from your husband about how he would feel sharing you with another man.If the idea appeals to him, I think it's important to talk about the details and ask the "hard questions". How would your husband feel watching you being in ecstasy when being pleasured by another man? Would he be jealous, or possible concerned the other guy is doing a better job? How would he feel about you being penetrated by someone else? How about watching you kiss the other man passionately? Would that be crossing a line for him? How would he feel about crossing swords with/touching another man's cock? I think this will only work if you are completely on the same page with what you both want, your expectations and your rules. If you go ahead with the threesome, consider having a safe word to use when one of you is uncomfortable and wants to slow down or stop. Communication and looking out for each other is key. Having a threesome is great when it adds to the passion and closeness between you two, but if there is a risk of it causing complications, don't do it. It's not a solution if you're bored or unsatisfied with your sex life, in my opinion, and in that case it will just cause more problems. (Not suggesting this is the case in your relationship.) Remember this is meant to be about mutual fun. I had some amazing threesomes and foursomes with a close FWB, whom I trusted explicitly. We would always check in with each other throughout, and he would not have let anyone near me without a condom. I could really let myself go in a DP as I knew he completely had my back (no pun intended), and genuinely got off on watching me go wild.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If the idea does not appeal to your husband at all and he turns you down, respect that. My 2cts.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I should have said partner, not husband. I misread, sorry.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think there are a couple things holding a lot of guys back in the MFM department. 1) The idea that MFM is gay. Some guys just freak out at the idea of there being another cock in the room.2) Jealousy is the other big issue. We are sort of conditioned to monogamous; some people can't break through this ideology. If you are trying to convince your partner/hubby to participate in MFM you will need to gage just how stuck he is with 1) & 2).
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' If the idea does not appeal to your husband at all and he turns you down, respect that. My 2cts. ^ and this
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thicklonghard
10 years ago
I have noted one thing which I am sure every lady and single guys wud agree, many men in couple are swinging coz they want to fuck more chicks with the consent of female partners. They totally ignore the need of female that she also have fantasy of two cocks at one time. Any profile of couples that say strictly no single males are mostly the one I m talking about or the one that happy to take a chick or another couple but no single male. That's my observation. I may be right or wrong :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As stated above, I don't think you should convince him of anything. Tell him what you would like to do, explain the limits. then let him think on on and share his thoughts and fears. In a committed relationship its a scary thing to do to add someone else. So he needs to be 120% positive you are into it together. If it happens, don't get lost in all the attention, pay attention to him, make him matter you will be the focus and you will get everything you desire and if he feels included, and important it might even work for both of you. good luck, the best place to start is talking with him. I would also recommend you give him control over contact with the guys and veto power, he needs to know he has some control. Good luck!
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UnclaimedPants
10 years ago
Basing that on your personal experience right, hahahaha thanks for the good laugh!!!!! Perhaps there just trying to avoid ignorant know it all's like yourself - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
MFM is so vanilla these days. But there is some joy in watching two guys do there best not to touch each other while they fumble about trying to get as close as possible to the woman MMF has so much more appeal and so many more positions. Convincing a male partner its a good idea? I would have to wonder where one could find a guy that would not think its a good idea MFM, For MMF for the straight guys this may be hard to do, but that's why blindfolds were invented, and once a guy gets a blow job from another guy he will be coming back for more. He may even skip the F part of the team The positives. Twice as much skin to kiss, lick, suck. More mouths, more tongues, more entry points, more cock. The negatives. Less room on the bed and a bigger wet spot. Have I done it? No I am still a virgin.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Though his pic might suggest otherwise, I don't think it's thickhard who's being the dick here. (That's my observation. I may be right or wrong.)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'UnclaimedPants' Basing that on your personal experience right, hahahaha thanks for the good laugh!!!!! Perhaps there just trying to avoid ignorant know it all's like yourself - Posted from rhpmobile Yes completely agree. He has no understanding of what swinging is all about. Not only that but belittles the women in these couples. Painting them as nothing more than pandering sycophants to the male's selfish needs. I do not think he has much of an understanding as to why many couples make the point of avoiding the endless hordes or horny single men that pester them daily for a chance to have an awkward fumble at the very same women. Though I will give the thick hard one tiny little cop out. Considering the title of his post, Selfishness he could indeed be giving an example of selfish behavior as his post, or as you and I believe a post explaining what he believes is selfish behavior in couples not wanting single men (strangely including himself) and clearly labeling himself as concerned only by his needs without the regard of other's wants and needs while expressing clear frustration.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is what we would both like but only for the female side of things. The male is not interested in any MM play. We still love the FMF and couples but would love to do the threesome of the MFM ah one day..
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UnclaimedPants
9 years ago
We have a single male accusing the male half of couples who are not looking for single males to play with as being selfish because they refuse to let the woman in their life enjoy two men!!!! Seriously I mean seriously!!!! Thats self serving clap trap of the highest level, swinging couples come in all forms, shapes and desires to paint them all with that broad sweeping generalization is just ignorance. Or do you have another take on his post
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'UnclaimedPants' We have a single male accusing the male half of couples who are not looking for single males to play with as being selfish because they refuse to let the woman in their life enjoy two men!!!! Seriously I mean seriously!!!! Thats self serving clap trap of the highest level, swinging couples come in all forms, shapes and desires to paint them all with that broad sweeping generalization is just ignorance. Or do you have another take on his post he said "many" - not "all", not even "the majority". The only thing he was wrong was in thinking everyone would agree. Clearly there is one person who does not agree - though maybe you'd have agreed if you'd more fully understood what he said. "seriously I mean seriously" (that just made me think of Foghorn Leghorn) :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
What S said.
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UnclaimedPants
9 years ago
Nice one defo made me chuckle, I still think it was an ignorant comment, however happy to agree to disagree tho
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just say you have already done it in past relationships and act like it's normal for you ideally early on in relationship that's what I did hehe - Posted from rhpmobile
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ReyandJean
9 years ago
Get to a party. Cuddle together gently on a bed among six other people in the throes of sex. Almost guaranteed you will be the centre of attention for more than one male...and neither may be your partner because he's busy snaffling away in another corner of the bed. Not everyone's cup of tea, but sure helps melt inhibitions.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just watch some porn together that has some MFM, and use it to break the ice saying that is a fantasy. But I guess no means no if he's not into it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'ReyandJean' Get to a party. Cuddle together gently on a bed among six other people in the throes of sex. Almost guaranteed you will be the centre of attention for more than one male...and neither may be your partner because he's busy snaffling away in another corner of the bed. Not everyone's cup of tea, but sure helps melt inhibitions. sometimes you may have to be subtle and plant some seeds along the way... if there is no taking of the bait then full blown convincing is likely to backfire
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blkcapricornday
9 years ago
Quoting 'suggestsomething' Just say you have already done it in past relationships and act like it's normal for you ideally early on in relationship that's what I did hehe - Posted from rhpmobile Did it work SS? lol ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wife is interested in 3way says ffme to start but I think two cocks is the teal goal any tips for usa other thank post?
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makoman22
9 years ago
Meander 100%right but from a males point,be honest and don't try to compete,if you want her to enjoy herself then don't be intimidated.accept it for what it is and know that it is differerent for her and she's supposed to enjoy it.
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goldcoastcple69
9 years ago
Try telling him its every womans fantasy to have two men at once...One doing the cooking the other doing the cleaning lol
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jedi_knight
9 years ago
Love a good MFM .....great to see the lady enjoy herself and letting go...and that excitement on her face ...walking back to a hotel room with two guys in tow.....:)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Negatives- In most cases the guys are straight so won't touch each other. Unlike a FFM where everyone is touching all of the time. No one gets left out ever, if you do it right. Positives- Obv for a girl to have two guys giving her attention is fantastic. Multi tasking is key. And can do DP if you're up for it. As for convincing him, say for every MFM you do you'll do a FFM. Makes it all fair, good incentive too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
What can I say ..they are fantastic :)
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cougar4fun
9 years ago
I would think you would just tell him it interests you and ask if its something he would consider doing. If he says flat out no, you need to respect that decision and move on. If he's not sure, discuss it, watch some MMF porn to get ideas and discuss what things you both want to do or things you want to avoid. And on the feedback side of things.... Done it, loved it. Up side, two cocks are more fun to play with, you get two guys attention all on you and it's all round a great experience. Downside....haven't found one yet..
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RHP User
9 years ago
Me and my wife never swapped partners. But yes when we start this adult fun it was only fmf fantasy as it starts from my end(husband). But she is not "convinced". We always love role play.before it was fmf role play then it turns to swapping partner role play. And now a days it is mfm role play. We find out both of us get aroused a lot on swapping role play and mfm role play. But still she does not want to do it in real. You just need a friend with whom you both can be more open up step by step.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Done one with a married couple would love to do another MFM - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'thickhard' I have noted one thing which I am sure every lady and single guys wud agree, many men in couple are swinging coz they want to fuck more chicks with the consent of female partners. They totally ignore the need of female that she also have fantasy of two cocks at one time. Any profile of couples that say strictly no single males are mostly the one I m talking about or the one that happy to take a chick or another couple but no single male. That's my observation. I may be right or wrong :) - Posted from rhpmobile While you may be correct on some counts please don't paint everyone with the same brush. The reason many couples have no single males on their profiles is cos they get bombarded by single men when they don't. Another reason could be the woman is bi and is happy with the man she has at home but likes the idea of sharing a woman with her lover. In our case, MMF is not high on our list due to past experiences not being so great. This hasn't stopped us from going there every once in a while, but we find other experiences more fun and fulfilling.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I never thought it would be something I would be interested in, but I have found myself thinking about the idea. We've talked about how she would prefer it if we had a MMF and she has said she'd try double penetration as she prefers the idea of one cock in ass and one in her pussy than having one in the mouth and one in the pussy. I actually wouldn't mind trying this as I know she would enjoy it and I love the idea of her getting so much pleasure.
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NewVicCpl
9 years ago
Really enjoyed our experiences in this space, no Bi play but plenty of great times
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Dimeshreds
9 years ago
Positives: they are hot fun when you all feel comfortable. Negatives: getting to that comfortable level. It is very nerve racking the first time. My advice is if he is a little uncomfortable, pick someone who is not similar to him but hot enough for you to get your fun out of it too. When I have met couples for the first time they always have a good chat first to sniff out the crazy then go for the fun stuff. Discuss boundaries at the start so you are all clear.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Every fantasy has a build up, evolution and reality. The benefit of taking that journey with a living partner; is that you are both there for the other to process the experiences. It's rare that "the first approach" towards a scenario either of you want to play out will meet your expectations.... Heightened sexual adventures, come gradually and improve when we feel rewarded in some way. With a couple; that has to be some sort of mutual satisfaction; or the experiment will be cut short, and the hurt from the neglect of the primary relationship will need attention. It's basic psychology. Sexual gratification is no satisfaction if it compromises the bond of love. So whatever your approach, let the sponsoring intention of nurturing the relationship be your guide. MFM and any of the combinations imaginable are wonderful- for those who are there to give and observe and share, each step of the way. Happy playing people. X From the Ms. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Loving.... Not living .... That's a whole different forum topic I think!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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BiPlay69
9 years ago
Perhaps try to start with a more balanced situation first, as the jealousy and homophobia issue can arise.It really comes down to both of you being confident in your relationship first, and taking things easy, wit lots of communication with each other, and if you do decide to go forward, then finding the right people, non pushy and respectful of your dynamic.Wish you all the best and hope it works out for you.
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biguy4funinmelb
9 years ago
I have helped introduce a few couples to both bi mmf and straight mfm. I suggest you talk out you fantasies and fears with you partner beforehand and set your limits and rules beforehand so everybody has fun. Then you can set out on you hunt for your extra with a clear idea of what you are looking for. There is a lot of fun to be had with mmf :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
interesting need to try somehow
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RHP User
9 years ago
If your partners not into it, get someone who has the same interest, otherwise you will be always hunting that other 3 way secretly , let's face it fastasy's are what we all want, fantasy is a dream. If you dream it you want it , and you won't be happy till you get it - Posted from rhpmobile
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