Maintaining long lasting friendships

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  Mrs_Deep_Love

  4 years ago

  Perhaps polyamoury may be more your style? I expect to develop feelings for most of my sexual partners. Some were lovers for a time and have remained great friends. My husband is the same. And happy to chat to you in private message if you would like to.

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  2EssesExploring

  4 years ago

  Hi guys, we feel the same as you. We would love a longer term friendship with people we explore with. As yet this hasn’t been the norm as we have found most people tend to either want a little taste or want many new conquests. We have connected with a few that we have formed a more lasting acquaintance but alas these all live far away so very limited ongoing physical contact. As far as unhealthy bonds, this can happen especially if one or more of the participants are not completely bonded to their respective partner and your not both completely into it. It’s also being honest, doing this does challenge your resolve. I have some personal insights I’d also love to share with you but would prefer to do in private if you like?

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  teamaj2

  4 years ago

  S & P We are all different and the boundaries , what you seek and how you two negotiate this is 100% up to you both . It’s great to listen to advice from others but this is about the two of you . No two relationships are the same . Some people have insecurities- even tho they dabble in play with others . In that case it’s often best to keep meet ups to once only or people you meet at parties / events . It seems you two seek a long term friendship with another couple , that’s of course okay . I would think , if you are at all concerned about lines being crossed , it’s best keeping all communications between the four of you in a group chat . No meet ups unless all four of you are present . I feel you want connections where both of you are involved. You want to take the risk of someone having deep feelings for another out of the picture . Write your own rule book , be open about your feelings with each other ( without fear of reproach ) and remember your number one priority is each other . Good luck Ax

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  funtimescouple1

  4 years ago

  When looking for ongoing couple friends we believe number one you need to be very secure in your relationship, communicate well and be into the lifestyle for the right reasons and you need to be sure the other couple is too, i.e. not in it to try and mend a fractured relationship. Always playing together also mitigates risk. For us we long fantasised together about being appealing not just to each other and since getting into the lifestyle we've been able to realise that. We get a real boost from seeing each other with other people. We have a few ongoing friend couples and as time has gone we've tended to play less and socialise more. We do cuddle and kiss a lot. Nothing deliberate, it's just what's happened. For us it's never been just about the sex. Don't get us wrong the sex has been great but so has sharing the love. It's a pity there's not more of it in the world!

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Hello from Fiji Islands mate 😊, i probably be only user from the island... Lol

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  This lifestyle requires immense trust between partners. Some do this for the wrong reasons and you can usually tell which couples are having problems. Unfortunately you'll waste a date on these. We've seen many marriages disintegrate. Having said that we have some lasting friendships from it and wish more couples just chose to be friends rather than one nighters. It's been 2 years since our last encounter mostly due to work and family commitments and we miss the house parties that kept us in touch. Be choosy with your dates. Don't have high expectations and if your antenna twitches, trust it. Have fun and relax be yourselves and communicate with each other. Nothing worse than not knowing what each other is thinking.

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