RHP

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Male submission and initiative

February 05 2017

Question: (duh!) Anecdotally, women generally seek in men things like showing confidence, taking the initiative, coming up with suggestions, taking the lead, etc etc However, in the case that a male may be submissive in nature (or at least at times), how does one show those qualities during (but not limited to) a play session, where the female may be taking the role of the dominant? Apart from being confident in what you do (when submissive), the other attributes (initiative etc) are normally played out by the other person. So how does one show these supposedly "manly" qualities when NOT in the position of the dominant?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I know somalian women are dominant by nature even their voice lol more then their men hah - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Submissive in the bedroom only? A confident manly man can easily switch to being sexually submissive. All he has to do is say,"tell me exactly what you want me to do.Take the lead" Its amazing how a woman can instantly switch into Dominant mode, when she blindfolds and restrains her man, and she whispers in his ear what she is going to do to him while he is at her mercy :) when he has given her the gift of his control. Can be a very powerful experience for both. No need to be a dominant personality to top someone. Same as you dont have to be an shy and mousy person to submit. Role play and try it with someone you trust.

  • cat_n_the_hatter

    cat_n_the_hatter

    8 years ago

    Sensuality, subtlety and timing. It's about getting to know that other person and not knowing what to expect. It's all about not knowing. Most people are switches and it can change often.There is no right recipe. We give out signals, but even if you don't notice it at first it's no big deal. Mistakes are part of the adventure. It's also about you wanting. Taking pleasure is also giving pleasure. Raw desire is usually related with dominance, and that's why it can be hard for those on the opposite side to know how to show it...but you can incite it. Whispers, moans and touch from your side can tell a lot. If you are submissive it doesn't mean you are not in control. You are. Is starfish submissive? I don't think so. To hesitate is not the same as being submissive.(Ms)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Submission isnt a sign of weakness. Its a gift of trust in/to your partner