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Marriage is not for you!

July 08 2013

Reading an article on SMH online and was stunned by the reader comments. The article was about the launch of an incredibly lamely titled new book that explores "negotiated fidelity".Now I thought the fanatics and fundamentalists were all for man and woman to marry and live happily ever after. Turns out many of us don't qualify.Of the dozens of comments on the story, 90% were along these lines:"if you can't stay faithful then don't get married""it's cheating even if you both agree on it""they can't possibly love each other so don't get married""you can't call that marriage, marriage is for people like us"Seems swingers and open relationships are just as evil as two dudes in love, and our 13yrs of blissfully honest, monogamish marriage is a sham that will likely see us both burn in hell.I'm not worried about myself, I carry the Catholic get out of jail free card, just need to apologise on my deathbed and everything will be forgiven. However Mrs C was born an atheist, which is bad enough, but living this life of marital sin is surely going to condemn her.Not sure we want to give it up just yet though. What can we do?Mr C

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    marriage is not a construct of ''God'' Mr.Chic....it's a construct of the patriarchy....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Keep calm & carry on is my advice.   "Marriage is for people like us?" Sounds like you've been lumped in with some very narrow minded peeps. Perhaps if you get divorced it will be perfectly acceptable behaviour, but I doubt it after what my neighbour called me last weekend. But I'm not still shagging my ex. Maybe that would be more acceptable in your circumstances.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Just ridiculous. I feel sorry for some people... Just too boring. However, I don't feel sorry for you!! MrsC is absolutely hot!!! And I don't mean down there in hell either. Lol. I shall see you all nuded up at CC next time shall I? ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    When it's right go for it, when it's not, like any partnership, dissolve it.Not a biggie really.Someone else can have the hangup, I don't.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Nobody tells me what to do or think! The answer is obviously to convert to Mormonism, duh. *stomps off in search of a husband* (And SMH online, OP? Really?)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya73' marriage is not a construct of ''God'' Mr.Chic....it's a construct of the patriarchy.... Yes it is, and both marriage and patriarchy existed long before the modern religions came along. They sure have embraced both as their own though haven't they.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mesmerised' Nobody tells me what to do or think! The answer is obviously to convert to Mormonism, duh. *stomps off in search of a husband* (And SMH online, OP? Really?) Not sure Mormonism is going to work for a girl that likes variety, it's really set up for the man. But good luck in the search.(can't remember where I saw the link, but it mentioned sex and I felt compelled to follow)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Enough said, losers

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    All you dirty fuckers will be there with me!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'chickcara'both marriage and patriarchy existed long before the modern religions came along. They sure have embraced both as their own though haven't they. I'm a huge fan of a handfasting ceremony... With a belt, preferably.

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    11 years ago

    Won't SOMEBODY think of the children!!!!   Clearly we are all delusional and have no respect for our partners, ourselves or marriage...   And yes, your wife is superhot... not sure if that's going to help or hinder your chances of salvation.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    But so was Alcatraz was it not?? I'm with paint me....if I'm going to hell, at least I will have some people to talk to :p- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    Marriage is alot of different things to alot of different people.... When you are given that piece of paper to say that you are now married - it doesnt automatically mean that you need to change who you are...There are people to are in a marriage of convenience, arranged marriages, marrying in for money, for a green card, or married because they actually do want to spend the rest of their life together.If someone is going to be sent to hell because of sex with other people, or being on a sex site.... then where are the people going who murder, rape, rob, etc etc...Just live your life the way you want too

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    we were watching a program on History the other week about just when humans started this BS about rules in sexuality.   It seems the Time Team types have found a grave in outer Mongolia West or some where that is a ritualized, sexualized burial with 3 yes 3 bodies in it. All around 17 years old 1 female and you guessed it 2 males, from the way the bodies were placed in the grave they have deduced, god knows how, that it was a couple where the female was playing with another male and all were punished for this horrendous offence. The grave was dated around 4000 BC, kind of makes the 32 years that we have been together look trifling don't you think.   As for religion have a look at the Raelian Movement, they believe the human body is designed for fun ie sex so you should enjoy it. Raelian is NOT a religion more a way of life.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    When I recollect and this goes back centuries. Wasn't marriage a contract of assets and making one family get richer or more powerful?I don't think it had anything to do with faithfulness and love or any religion.It was always a contract to keep the wealth in the family.Even kings and queen married because it was good for the Country. Both rooted around and who knows from whom the offspring was.I think we forget why it was such a big deal. Poor people did not invent marriage, rich powerful people did.And now the religion is so powerful in denying as the rights to go to "HEAVEN" because we are "unfaithful, or cant marry whom we want. Bullshit, priest know very well its bullshit, they break everything all the time and are not frightened of Hell. So what do they know and not telling us? lolGetting married is not legal when you only sign a certificate through your Church, so what the fuck is it?I think we romanticize marriage. I was married, and I liked the partnership, and now I am not, as the saying goes until death do u part, as in my case.Getting older and living life more with my eyes open, I believe in a good partnership but this doesn't mean you own the other, you have to be free and be your own person. As some said there comes the openness in a relationship, you need to talk and don't lie to each other.Everything what you do behind someones back is hurtful. And when you start lying to each other, get out of this relationship it doesn't work anymore, married or not.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You make a very good point, and I agree totally with you. The piece of paper doesn't change who we are as people, and not should it. What it should be is simply an extension of what is shared already. A bit like love itself really- Posted from rhpmobile