shaven

shaven

M54

Married and Bi

August 07 2020

Been a member on here for a while and never posted but I am curious if there are others out there in the same boat as me.I'm male & been married for 25 years and sex life literally stopped dead in its tracks 16 years ago after last child was born.I tried to revive things but it was a case of not in the mood, girl issues etc etc and after about 2 years I gave up trying to revive my home sex life. Never wanting to break up my family I continued on the solitude path of being frustrated for 2 years when it got to the point that I needed physical contact so explored the world of mm. So in the past 11 years I've discretely been with 3 guys over long terms each and admit I love mm sex, the I suppose taboo feeling of doing what is not accepted. Yet I still feel more of a physical and emotional connection to women and dont get me wrong I love women and would love to find a discrete female partner in same position, yet they seem so very rare. Curious to know if anyone has or is in similar situation for your thoughts. Genuine please

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Hi Shaven, I know several guys in this situation, you’re not alone. It sounds like you’re bisexual, whether you want to attach a sexuality / identity to it or not. Sexuality is a spectrum, and you can like sex with some, and sex/romance with others. There’s a meetup group for bi folk over 40 and many of us are in the same boat, married and exploring either officially in an open or poly capacity or unofficially. Some guys have come out to their wives and been accepted. And others not so. I’m personally not keen on it being a discreet side thing, and don’t know many women in this situation who are but I’m sure they exist. Good luck in your search.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    “Married and bi”, Apart from the being with guys long term, yes your post describes my life to a tee! I am a passionate guy that likes intimacy. I have tried to revive things so often and for so long. I seem to have given up now and am wanting to begin again exploring the mm side. I have had patchy experiences and would to have experiences again. I like you love women, some of my best friends are women, friends of over 35 years. I would be very interested in funfitcurio’s meet up group for bi folk over 40? Thank you for your post, there are others like myself.