M45
Married men
March 20 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Personally - absolutely not. Complete turn off. Perhaps because I'm a single woman, with lots of married friends - so married men flirting with me irks me out. Also I've seen the effects of cheating and marriage break downs to find it abhorrent. BUT - I understand why, conceptually, this can happen. People unconsciously put a value on things that are harder to achieve. So, Friday night at the pub; easy enough to get a single guy to go home with you, but to get a married guy is 'harder' therefore more 'valuable'.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd also have to agree that it's a complete turn off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
LOL, its just in the mind. Its like buying an umbrella and then it never rains, leave it at home and it pours. The thing is that it still rains the same amount but the umbrella changes your perception of rain. Same goes with marriage, it changes the way you see the world and people in it. If it really made women want you then a simple ring would do the trick for any desperate guy, would it not? But it has nothing to do with that. Want women to like you, get your self a woman umbrella and set your mind to wanting to stay dry, you will suddenly become more aware of all women that want to soak you. Unfortunately it only works if you really want to stay dry.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I may find some of them attractive to look at , but never to actually go out with. A little fun to them can cause a lot of heartache in some cases. There are plenty of lovely single guys. In Perth, anyway.....
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I'm sure it could be the same for married women. Attractive?? unattractive if it's planned deceitful. There was a forum (I think? or someone posted in one) where a man had stated when it goes out, he looks for wedding rings on women...saw them as a challenge and easy...Boy did he cop a mouthful for that statement. I think it was more about his ego and the chase more than anything and a planned action, not the person for who they are. I think some people forget the consequences and the cause and effect it can have on some. When people are not open and honest - that to me causes more pain and hurt than anything. I am also friends with a married couple, who each have their own lovers and go on "date nights". To me that's great they are able to do that. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are the women flirting with him more or are they just less guarded? Suggesting married people are more of a challenge is only one reason they may get more attention, and I refuse to believe it's the main one. Personally I feel more relaxed around men who are taken and therefore I'll act more outgoing. Probably because I'm not concerned about my friendliness and directness being mistaken for flirting. I can also imagine that because your friend is a newlywed he exudes happiness and fun, making him very appealing just to be around.Don't they say that people who are in love are a lot more likely to attract others? All of you cynics.
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RHP User
10 years ago
make themselves too available..... Married men go about their lives.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
..... Yes yes yes I know....it's a rather a broad generalisation so suck it up all you precious petals 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think meander us right. You can iften flirt in a nice safe fun way. But I did find when I was single that it was a problem as a few started to flirt back and a few just happen to be dropping by me house thing. That ring can attract women because they know they get the fun part of a guy and not the hard yards that the wife had to put in. So yes there is that but mostly no as women know a shit load of pain can come their way by going with a married man. There are lot if married men on here pretending to be single. So that would indicate that women are not wanting married men. Perhaps your mate is less guarded he got his gal now he can cast his eye around... Give him Time it will soon be his seed 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find married men or men in relationships a turn off. As soon as I realise the man is married or has a girlfriend/fiancée/partner, it's like a switch is thrown in my mind and they're instantly relegated to the 'sexually unattractive' zone. But I think Meander and LadyTuscan have a valid point, in that I am definitely more open, relaxed, and outgoing toward partnered up guys, because I know it's going nowhere and therefore I'm not so concerned about whether I'm making a good impression, saying the right things etc. Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Married men anymore..I used to but I found they were neither physically or emotionally available ,and or were "overcome"with guilt,...so no,married men,for me xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
He thought it was just women being comfortable around him. but he has been given 3 phone numbers. got rid of them as if his wife found out he got a phone number she'd probably laugh and then never let him out with the boys again. lol. he does find it amusing and a bit flattering. I understand the letting the guard down around married men, same goes for married woman around some guys. just surprised at the blatant woman around married guys at times.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' ... I am also friends with a married couple, who each have their own lovers and go on "date nights". To me that's great they are able to do that. Wow - that is such a different attitude. I wonder how much flak you would cop if you posted it as a topic :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well , lets see , as the saying goes all the good ones are married, I hear you scoff ? Then why are so many ladies single ? Take a look at yourselves before judging. Why do married people stray , because its life circumstances change , in most cases the love is still there and due to physical issues or Life in general , needs are not met .By nature women preen to attract a mate , Males look and there programming teaches them to mate to find the ones capable of bearing children , we are not different to animals.Its all about natural attraction , hence flirting bby both sides of the married spectrum!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was married once and didn't go in search of stray sex. Been single for awhile now but not searching for a replacement bride more a great friend an honest friend I can shag when the need cums up for us both...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not looking for anyone to keep or become emotionally connected to, it's a pure and simple physical attraction, therefore their personal status is no business of mine.... If however I were single and looking, an attached or married person wouldn't appeal to me, I agree with Freya, they aren't emotionally available, and ultimately that's what I would be seeking....
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Violetincredible
10 years ago
I kind of remember an episode where he decided this was the only way he could pick up women :/ but he also thought being an architect was attractive lol Xxviolet
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madotara69
10 years ago
It's only been a couple of months, I'd say your mate might be seeing to much into friendly, I make friends of women that know we are married but they know us and we are happy, I think that is more where women seem to enjoy the atmosphere, maybe seeing Tara happy as cute or something because I romance her and I tell them how sexy I find her, they like that, but I've been doing that for twenty years Bruce. Plus usually for a long time, not lately, there has been a bunch of them about, because we jammed every week and had a house full of people and to be honest with you, if there was anything more than friendly It would fly straight over me anyway, I like the energy of the women more so they are fun when they're happy and have not met many women that are not happy around music. I think the only time as far back remembered the only women that don't like me so much is some in here, most of them at the moment, not much I can do about that, just a passing phase. bahahahaha. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
mistake friendliness for flirting. I think LadyT said it when guys are having to pretend they are not married, then being married is not desired.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why do so many get caught up only to find they become lepers once they do ? Just because a man or woman find each other desirable in the early stages of dating and then marriage , doesnt mean it stays like that forever. Not saying they no longer love each other, they do , but as nature has it their desires change. Seems saying " I do" is like saying we are now infected with this incurable disease forever.. which other people will judge us on ? They are not diseased, they have feelings just like you and enjoy the same interactions like you.. The smart one's dont get themselves caught up. they just have friends who happen to like the same benefits... and live a happy healthy life..
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
The hungry dog doesn't get to eat. Your mate no longer has the air of eagerness (dare I say on occasion it presents as desperation) that affects his behaviour. As a result of his attitude and behaviour, women are likely more comfortable around him and their automatic defence/rejection mechanism is on "safety". DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Single women aren't single because we can't get a man..Most of us at one point in our lives have been married and most of us prefer it that way..We don't want to look after you.wash your socks.clean your house or cook your meals..But we do want to spend time with you.Laugh.cry.eat,drink and make mad passionate love with you..just not if you are married.attached and unavailable xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'luveaturpussy' Well , lets see , as the saying goes all the good ones are married, I hear you scoff ? Then why are so many ladies single ? Take a look at yourselves before judging. I'm not married, never have been and I am amazing. Your point?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bonobos and dolphins are two animals who have sex for reasons other than procreation..Humans have sex for reasons other than procreation,otherwise I certainly wouldn't be having sex anymore..Humans have sex for pleasure,some of us are choosy as to who we have sex with...some of us just don't care..I care ...I don't care to have sex with married men..when I look at myself ,the person who looks back is not perfect...but I can live with her flaws xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Madotara69, Rocking out in the studio, recording demos with my band. Ok, so before this gets nasty. I think the answer lies in the fact that woman are more comfortable and unguarded around married men. but sometimes these married guys misinterpret the friendliness as being hit on. Same goes for guys, married woman are off the radar and are easy to be around. I see that the numbers he got were probably from some women who basically don't care about his marriage. some guys do the same to woman.it seems to me (just my opinion) that the ladies and gents that do this are more so trophy hunters.
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RHP User
10 years ago
DG is right. He no longer has that "desperation" thing going on. He is appears happy and is oozing sex (assuming as a newly married guy he is getting lots), and is smiling a lot. All very attractive things. When I get sex a lot I feel sexy and I walk with a wiggle and I seem to attract more men. Same same.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brucewayne35' Madotara69, Rocking out in the studio, recording demos with my band. Ok, so before this gets nasty. I think the answer lies in the fact that woman are more comfortable and unguarded around married men. but sometimes these married guys misinterpret the friendliness as being hit on. Same goes for guys, married woman are off the radar and are easy to be around. I see that the numbers he got were probably from some women who basically don't care about his marriage. some guys do the same to woman.it seems to me (just my opinion) that the ladies and gents that do this are more so trophy hunters. Some women are touchy hands on sort of friendly Tara is like that, if she is sitting with a bloke chatting to him, she could easily rest her hands on his legs, on his arms or his hand, she moves about a fair bit too, can't sit still. Her sister is the same. It's funny how many blokes have said they want to root her sister because she is so touchy with them. So I know they want to root Tara too, some of them have told me they would like to root her. Trophy hunters Yeah, I'd agree with Meeka and DG Wouldn't quite call it nasty One other thing though, New wed couples are fucking each other every moment they can, and I remember a mate and his missus meeting up with us, we were in the car park about to go on a harbour cruise, and fair dinkum Bruce, he well both of them wreaked of you know that real fresh cum, all mixed up cum too, both of them on both of them must have been fucking in the car as we walked past them in the car park and off onto the lawn and it was only a few minutes later wandered over. Tell you what, a whiff of all that passion, it's an alluring smell, it wasn't too long into the cruise we whipped into a cosy little nook for a quickie. And I remember seeing on TV, something about blokes when they are early into relationships, they have a confidence thing and say they walk into some room and sit at a table, the first thing they do is all the bits and pieces, keys, change in the pockets etc, they place them out on the table top, like a little collection, apparently it's an attraction to women, part with the primal instinctive mating nature a show of display and the woman supposedly would see him as the most well to do a provider sort of thing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Bonobos and dolphins are two animals who have sex for reasons other than procreation..Humans have sex for reasons other than procreation,otherwise I certainly wouldn't be having sex anymore..Humans have sex for pleasure,some of us are choosy as to who we have sex with...some of us just don't care..I care ...I don't care to have sex with married men..when I look at myself ,the person who looks back is not perfect...but I can live with her flaws xxFreya An interesting study that asked people all over the world why they have sex and gave them 8 options, one option being to procreate. Procreation was the least favorite reason to have sex across the world. Sorry can not remember the other reasons or what came first. I will add that procreational sex is listed in my personal best sex I have had list. Though it was luckily, due to eventual circumstance, not successful, it was awesome sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's a bit like the fake orgasm scene in When Harry met Sally....I want what she's having 😜xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yeah this is something a lot of mates talk about but its not actually being picked up, they are flirting safely, its very different than flirting with a single guy who has expectations. If the girls actually ask to go home with him then he is in new territory but most are just playful stuff. Also If your married mates actually tried anything they would get a very different result I expect than that of funny flirting. Its the idea that they could take the girls home without actually trying which makes them feel like they could have. If they tried well maybe they could have but more often than not, it would end poorly imho.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its all about perception as Blindman said. Women feel a little more relaxed knowing a guy is married and shouldn't hit on them. Guys feel secure knowing they have a bird in the hand. James Bond hit on married women so he didn't need to keep them for ever ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Would never go there. I too have seen the effect of adultery. - Posted from rhpmobile
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