M47

Married men and affairs

March 18 2012

I have found the last few months quite interesting. Prior to RHP, I used to a single male member (no pun intended) of another popular adult site. I met my now wife off that site. What I find most interesting is the difference in attention, and response between then and now. As a single male, it was quite difficult, and sometimes disillusioning to try and find a partner. The only success in that period was to attend site hosted get-togethers, such as drinks nights, and special events. Networking, and befriending the usual swingers seemed to be the only method of successfully gaining trust, and forming relationships. Luckily for me, I had befriended the right people and married a beautiful woman, who was strictly a girls only girl. Nowadays, as a married man, (in brief, I am allowed the privilege of playing, as my wife has kept in touch with a special girlfriend of hers), I am finding it a fair amount easier to chat to people, and also organise meeting up. Personally, I have only met up for coffee, and some social non-adult fun. Great times :) and thank-you to those I've met thus far! I would like to ask the married men out there, (who are in the same situation as myself), what their views on this variation are. Are we easier targets? Do we provide more mature and reliable activities to potential "friends", or is it just simply the allure of a taken man?

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RHP User

13 years ago

Errr... I think it depends on the man more than the marital status. If there is a difference, the difference is that even though maried men can be just as creepy... they're less likely to be non committal and less likely to be stalkers.... so... if you had a choice in potential between two evils would you choose the potential of meeting a creepy non committal guy.. or the creepy stalker guy?hehe. HugsStalky

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RHP User

13 years ago

1. Married men are so grateful for any bit of affection or sex! So treat a women extra nicely or 2. A woman can have the best and fun parts of a man without all the mundane boring bits. Such as putting up with their moods or having to wash their shorts!! Or maybe it's a combination of the two? :p xx Meeka

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RHP User

13 years ago

Interesting comments... I've found the total opposite on this site! Many women have hurled venom and abuse at me - despite being VERY polite in my approach, and perhaps overcompensating in my manners due to my marital status. As a result, I left the site for a while and have removed much of my profile - which obviously doesn't help either. Despite being a sex site for supposedly open-minded people, from the abusive responses and reading some of the forums in here, many women are hostile to married men on rhp. Alternatively, it may just be conservative Western Australia... Alternatively, if I had a dollar for all of the women who DO respond, telling me that I'm exactly what they're after but have a 'no-married-guy' policy.... Enzo... what's your secret??

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erotictouch4u

13 years ago

Quoting 'PerthNerd' Enzo... what's your secret?? Age ... most here want younger regardless of how good you look for your age. ET xox

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RHP User

13 years ago

Truth is married men, particularly ones who play behind their wife's back, usually want to meet up in the day time. I mean FFS. Who ever heard of fucking in the daylight after the age of 35!!! It's ridiculous! :p

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RHP User

13 years ago

Men and women who are married often have more than one reason for wanting sex outside of marriage and each person is different....I dont judge, but have found quite often that married men who want the 'discreet' relationship are hard work. They only want to meet 'at yours'...only during the day....have to be careful in public.....must wear a disguise....dark glasses and baseball cap...as if that works....and can only spend an hour !!! now I dont mind the odd quickie but really....!!! And that is why I rarely see married men

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RHP User

13 years ago

Hard work...the sneaking around, only meeting for sex, no fun outings, no dinners - unless you cook at home, no phone contact unless initiated by them, that last minute text to say they can't come after you have organised yourself to be home...yes, hard work... But, as Enzo has stated that he is allowed out to play, have that freedom to meet up anytime (I am assuming here) I can see why that would be a totally different situation. The potential for a woman to have a FWB arrangement with a man that has his own life but can still have the flexibility to meet up when mutually agreeable and to be able to enjoy the friendship openly, well that would be tempting...

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RHP User

13 years ago

Only 5 more years of day sex F@*K! it's when I am free and horny- kids at school/kindy......and at night that feeling inside of where they had been/ penetrated makes for extra tingling and urges! Makes me want more when I can still feel it afterwardsCass xxxQuoting 'Meeka100' Truth is married men, particularly ones who play behind their wife's back, usually want to meet up in the day time. I mean FFS. Who ever heard of fucking in the daylight after the age of 35!!! It's ridiculous! :p

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RHP User

13 years ago

Quoting 'Stalky'Errr... I think it depends on the man more than the marital status. If there is a difference, the difference is that even though maried men can be just as creepy... they're less likely to be non committal and less likely to be stalkers.... so... if you had a choice in potential between two evils would you choose the potential of meeting a creepy non committal guy.. or the creepy stalker guy?hehe. HugsStalky I'd go the creepy stalker guy - mainly because we'd have heaps in common...

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RHP User

13 years ago

Quoting 'Stalky'Errr... I think it depends on the man more than the marital status. If there is a difference, the difference is that even though maried men can be just as creepy... they're less likely to be non committal and less likely to be stalkers.... so... if you had a choice in potential between two evils would you choose the potential of meeting a creepy non committal guy.. or the creepy stalker guy?hehe. HugsStalky in our experience...as a couple, remember...its absolutely the married guys who are the ones most likely to be the 'stalker',and who are the 'creepiest'... its a married guy who have followed Shel at the shops.....after us having met them here...on RHP....it was another married guy I discovered sitting outside our house....who had thought it appropriate that he should sit and wait for my wife to arrive home from work, so he could 'visit' with her......it was a married guy who sent us a series of abusive and explicit texts on our phone after we 'rejected' him.....it was a married guy who rang and rang and rang our mobile at all hours day and night....until i changed the phone number... we meet singles....because so far...theyve been the ones who conduct themselves with dignity and respect, and who understand what 'no' means, and who seem to be much less 'desperate' to meet... single guys are glad to meet with us...and show it...by being open and mature about where and when we meet, by being comfortable being seen in public with us, and by being available when we are, and by being happy to host...at their place of residence...oh, and who dont watch the clock, their watch, or their phone, the whole time you are with them.....

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RHP User

13 years ago

Quoting 'PerthNerd' Despite being a sex site for supposedly open-minded people, from the abusive responses and reading some of the forums in here, many women are hostile to married men on rhp. Alternatively, it may just be conservative Western Australia... .. Sorry PerthNerd, unfortunately, you are not 'hanging out' in a free lovin', open-minded, non-judgemental place. I often say RHP is merely a cross-sample of the outside world. All of the actors, for want of a better term, are the same that you would find in any other community setting. It's sad, but it is true. To expect any different sets you up for disappointment. . I agree with Caitsidhe in that, should a woman not have any 'moral' objection to seeing a married man and cares little for the practicalities that Hesione and Kinky above mention, the absence of deception will appeal to many women when presented with the alternative. . Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, a statement ever fresh in the minds of every woman who chooses to play that game. For the record, I don't judge. There was a time when I did but I learnt a valuable lesson along the way and now I choose not to judge. However, in the pecking order of preference, give me a strong man who doesn't have a pissed off wife lurking behind him somewhere anyday! Your profile could do with the re-insertion of the details you say you removed. So maybe consider doing that and then be patient. Quality over quantity, right? I definitely believe there is somebody for everybody around here. Good luck! . Flirty x . As an afterthought, Ive often considered that there may be some kind of sisterhood, or female solidarity thing at work here. I cannot otherwise explain why it often seems that men are far more willing to sleep with a married woman, than the other way around. . .

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