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Married or a couple swinging is there a difference or is that justified ?
June 25 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
When you swinging you are doing it with your partners knowledge and often you will all play together. A man that is on RHP behind his wife back is cheating because he is lying to his wife. Seriously, it's common sense isn't it. And yes you will be crucified. Oh dear. :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's the lying that people don't like.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'It's the lying that people don't like. What she said ! Get her involved and you will right to go ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your so right Meeks. The acts can be forgiven and possibly forgotten, but the lying cuts deep and lingers forever. These things should be done in the most honest and open of spaces. Want2hearumoan, your not only lying to your wife, but also to all the folks u swing with. Think about it dude... Authenticity.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well said Meeka 100 Play if you have each others consent A little bit of trust in your realaship Would no go a miss ?- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nothing to add. Well said, Meeka.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Staying out of the cheating is "always wrong vs. justified sometimes" debate, the difference would be in the words "behind" and "in front of".
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jensta
11 years ago
I do not agree with it ... at all I hate Lie's ... Your poor Wife ... I'm sure she deserves better
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its only natural for the guy to spread his seed, if his wife does not want to when asked she has to accept the consequences. What right has she to limit her husbands wishes?
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RHP User
11 years ago
looks like I've hit a nerve , I hope sum of u remember what u have said if you ever get married and have the urge to stray.. p.s btw I haven't done it yet
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RHP User
11 years ago
thx for the positive guys..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Want2hearumoan' looks like I've hit a nerve , I hope sum of u remember what u have said if you ever get married and have the urge to stray.. Have a look at all of our ages. None of us are twenty year-olds without life experience. And some of us might actually know what we are talking about.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am married and on here without my wife , but I am not intending on doing anything without her , I purely here to suss the situation out and mabey get her here with me , It's basically a fact finding mission for me , I have already been helped with ideas for female friendly porn , So it's pretty simple there is a huge difference between swinging and cheating , dosent really need an explanation If you do want to cheat and that's your choice then there are ( as far as I am aware ) sites specifically for people that want to cheat
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Cheating = lying, hiding & disrespect... Big difference. For anyone wondering the guts involved in swinging is that one partner needs to open the door, has to be brave enough to open the conversation...
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RHP User
11 years ago
ok l'm married and the sex is crap l need help.... I hate the fact that you have this written on your profile - maybe she thinks the sex is crap with you too! Pusscat
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RHP User
11 years ago
Swinging vs adultery? Open the flood gates shall we? Ther is NO comparison, they are two VERY different ships. *shakes head*. Yeah, um, NOOO. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Look, want 2... you have whatever reasons you do for joining the site, and asking the question you did.But.... heres the line I noticed.behind my wife's back Consider you came home and found she had been doing it "behind your back"... because she thought sex with you was "crap".How do you feel?Truly........DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
it seems like u guys are telling me that men and women who want or cheat on their spouses should not b here .... so I am deleting my membership ciao...
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have a swinging good time together, while cheaters never prosper.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Involves implicit trust, 100% honesty and respect for one another. Cheating entails lying, betrayal and zero respect... Oh, and swinging is only OK if BOTH parties are equally keen, not if one partner is under any duress. That should assist with your apparent confusion:)
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RHP User
11 years ago
i only just read in another thread that you had an affair with a married man after your marriage was it?! A tad hypocritical don't ya think?! Pull your head out of the sand!! Mr S
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RHP User
11 years ago
I feel a bit nostalgic...we haven't had a lying cheating thread for yonks...ta OP
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RHP User
11 years ago
Bye, OP. I hope you having left means you've changed your mind.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its only play sex. We would rather play with a guy in a long term marriage, He is not going to approach your wife, he has his own. He is going to be more discreet He is going to be safer because he is not playing the field He definitely doesn't want to take anything home Weather he has told his wife that's his business. Many on here are too quick to judge others, if his wife does not want to play that's her problem if she over reacts and wants to split the relationship was broken anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Futurenomads' if his wife does not want to play that's her problem if she over reacts and wants to split the relationship was broken anyway.Ya think?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Futurenomads' We would rather play with a guy in a long term marriage, He is not going to approach your wife, he has his own. Sure. Because he clearly values marital boundaries, trust and fidelity.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I disagree with the many of the comments here and on this subject generally. I simply don't think it's that black and white and it may serve us well to remember how easy it is to stand in judgement.Consider that it's fair to say that the people on this forum are all 'into sex' - failed libido is generally not a problem and those of us in swinging couples have the best of both worlds. I don't think it's fair to crucify someone just because their personal circumstances are not ideal for an openly sexual relationship.As an example, two of our vanilla friends have chosen not to have children and have a care free life and free of the usual things that can impact sex in a relationship. They have been together about 8 years and are happily married and very much in love. But they rarely have sex - she has no libido. He is (by all accounts) a very attentive lover and she climaxes easily and multiple times per session (jammy moo). His sex drive is very very high and so he becomes sad, depressed, unfulfilled and frustrated that he can't be intimate with his wife. They have talked openly and honestly about her lack of libido. He has not strayed. I think he should talk to her about allowing him to take a lover or paid services but he thinks she couldn't cope with that (her not believing you can love one person but have sex with another) and knowing her for some 20 years, I agree with his assessment.So his choices are either to meet his sexual needs, relieve his tensions and avoid his bouts of sexual depression by seeking encounters without her consent/knowledge; continue in a largely sexless marriage where everything else is awesome and 'suck it up' or leave his lovely marriage in the hopes he can find someone who is more his sexual equal but where the other awesome factors may be absent.Of course the ideal would be (in my view), that she would consent to him taking a lover - but she wouldn't. I wouldn't lose respect for him or blame him or hate him if he chose to stray. He has chosen to live an unhappy sexual existence and accepted that he will have bouts os sexual depression and I think that is awful.Like it not, sex can be a very important aspect in a relationship - it can be as damaging as rewarding across a range of emotions.So I think it serves us all to stop and remember that life is not black and white - sometimes, there is no 'right' choice.Just my thoughts.Mrs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Futurenomads' Its only play sex. We would rather play with a guy in a long term marriage, He is not going to approach your wife, he has his own. He is going to be more discreet He is going to be safer because he is not playing the field He definitely doesn't want to take anything home Weather he has told his wife that's his business. Many on here are too quick to judge others, if his wife does not want to play that's her problem if she over reacts and wants to split the relationship was broken anyway. I am really starting to wonder what planet you guys live on
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RHP User
11 years ago
Where did your angry posts go?!My point is ....If you choose to sleep with cheaters, you probably shouldn't chastise them in the forums ..something you've made a habit of. That, i find hypocritical.Mr S
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'Futurenomads' Its only play sex. We would rather play with a guy in a long term marriage, He is not going to approach your wife, he has his own. He is going to be more discreet He is going to be safer because he is not playing the field He definitely doesn't want to take anything home Weather he has told his wife that's his business. Many on here are too quick to judge others, if his wife does not want to play that's her problem if she over reacts and wants to split the relationship was broken anyway. I am really starting to wonder what planet you guys live on Sounds like you live on a different planet to the one we live on
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'Futurenomads' Its only play sex. We would rather play with a guy in a long term marriage, He is not going to approach your wife, he has his own. He is going to be more discreet He is going to be safer because he is not playing the field He definitely doesn't want to take anything home Weather he has told his wife that's his business. Many on here are too quick to judge others, if his wife does not want to play that's her problem if she over reacts and wants to split the relationship was broken anyway. I am really starting to wonder what planet you guys live on Sounds like you live on a different planet to the one we live on
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sweetgem
11 years ago
If you read my posts/comments carefully, you would find that I am mainly against people who choose to cheat behind their partners/wives' back and then BLAME their other halves for why they cheat!!! It's the BLAMING act that I am against! Not their cheating act! That's my main point!!! Who cares if men wanna cheat, but don't BLAME women for their behaviour/conduct, that's gutless and selfish!!! We are all grown up adults, do whatever you want, but never blame others to make one feels better or less guilty!!! Are you a cheater too, that's why you feel the need to attack me??? :-) Remember Mr S, whatever I do and say is my own business, I didn't ask for your opinion!!!
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