M40 F41
Medical excuses
April 19 2016
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
There either is no female at all , or the male of the alleged couples profile is playing around without the females knowledge. Happens a lot on here . Best way to get around this is to either chat with them BOTH on the phone or get them to send you a verification style photo with them both together and holding a piece of paper with your unique code on it . That way before you go to the trouble of hooking up, you know you are dealing with a real couple - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Probably a single male pretending to be a couple. It's worse than a single male pretending to be a single male........and there is plenty of those around here
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Use skype. If the male declines to use skype then move on. Having the excuse of being technologically ignorant is not an excuse, if the male comes up with any excuse like this tell him to "you tube it", remember that you can skype on a phone as well. Give him the benefit of doubt up until he refuses skype or kik ( conference call ). We have cancelled for the "medical reason", which was very real but managed to meet at a later date. Also medical reason may be a polite way of saying the Mrs is having her periods?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Personally, I'd be a little suspicious of only one member of a couple being present when the other member had no interaction at all. We'd be suggesting that maybe we meet when the female has recovered her medical issues. Ms Yang
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
You have been deceived. No point dwelling on it now, just change the way you connect with people and make sure you talk to both prior to meeting them. I would go further and say if only the male of the supposed couple turns up to an arranged meeting, you don't play unless you can talk to the wife/partner on the phone then and there to confirm she is okay with it. If he flusters about and doesn't make this happen, walk away. Should you feel violated...well they are your feelings, we can't tell you how to feel. But you are clearly upset by it. Tightening up the protocols as per our suggestions will help make sure you are not in the same position again.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Talk to the wife on the phone. Legitimate couples always let the women chat.I would never meet a couple without speaking to both.And if one half of a couple fell ill, they would generally cancel or postpone it. Rare that a husband would still go to a meet if his wife wasnt feeling well. Selfish... Or single So if you guys are still happy to see a guy on his own, go for it. But you dont owe anyone anything in a first meet,so if it doesnt feel right, question and if youre still uncertain, walk away.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, pretty much echo what's already been said here. The partner doesn't know in my opinion. In just about every case where a couple contacts me, it's the male. Most times, they tell me that, but I also get them come up with every excuse in the book if they don't and I ask them. I also have a lot of couples looking at my profile late at night, wee hours, and always assume it's the male, or who knows, maybe not a couple at all. I do however sometimes chat with couples from the Eastern States mostly, wishing they were closer, sometimes they're genuine. If I were hooking up with a couple, it would shit me if deception was start of the process. I don't judge people who, for whatever reason, need to look outside their relationship, but using fake profiles or the guise of a woman being in the equation, gives you a bad feeling about them from the beginning. To be honest, I'm sick to death of having to second guess who's genuine and who's not. It shouldn't be difficult but it always is. IMHO you have definitely been played. If they're showing as a couple, I'd want to meet the wife, and see public pictures of both of them on the profile beforehand. Difficult for you being in a smaller town rural town anyway, without having to deal with that. There's always a few who make it hard for everyone else
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RHP User
9 years ago
...all the way to the nearest hospital and when he's admitted, they'll give him a Doctor's Certificate explaining his condition and time away upon discharge. No need for lame or limping excuses! He can give that to his wife... problem solved! Next question?
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Probably a single male pretending to be a couple. It's worse than a single male pretending to be a single male........and there is plenty of those around here I'm speechless... Life as we know it, has just become way more complicated! So... the fakers are now not only faking it. The fakers are now faking the fake-it's so the entire fakery is completely faked up?
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Did both profile names include the words "pantsonfire"? lol You've been had by one of the most common cold in RHP I'm afraid. Sadly, the reality for you might ge to get your man (assuming he exists lol) to do the talking and turn the tables - Posted from rhpmobile
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225Special
9 years ago
We always make contact with the female by letting her talk with Mrs225 on the phone or in the chat room with the cam turned on. This sometimes leads to a preview of what could happen on a date...
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RHP User
9 years ago
But if I read this right , you did agree to meet knowing it was with him and not her. That's fine if you were willing to go ahead and everyone was on the same wavelength . But if the man had you think the meet was with him and his wife as a couple, then he turned up alone , then he's a low life and you have every right to feel violated. From now on , trust your built in lie detector , and tell him to go jump..
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RHP User
9 years ago
...to speak to the female of the couple before I agree to meet. Nearly got duped into meeting the male of a couple (most likely a single male or playing without his partner's knowledge) on his own. He had pictures of his wife in his private gallery but his wife was never available to chat, he gave me every excuse under the sun. Luckily I got suspicious and never ended up meeting him. Sorry this happened to you....I can imagine how you must feel.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks everyone for the replies. First person was our ice breaker in this lifestyle. Being in the small rural place we are in its fairly hard to find others in this lifestyle so we took I guess what we coud. Now we have played more its like ok thats not right. Would it be appropriate for me to contact both partners and show them the messages? Facebook and google are my stalker friends in this situatuon. Those that said verified profiles head towards. Hubby and I verified ours as we saw this as a thing a few weeks ago and now only look at profiles that other swinger friends recommend and/or are verified. Hubby just said to add as well, that we have tried to get the male of the 'couple' to talk to him not me and all are very much against that
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Probably a single male pretending to be a couple. It's worse than a single male pretending to be a single male........and there is plenty of those around here I'm speechless... Life as we know it, has just become way more complicated! So... the fakers are now not only faking it. The fakers are now faking the fake-it's so the entire fakery is completely faked up? haha that's gold
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'hers_and_his' Thanks everyone for the replies. First person was our ice breaker in this lifestyle. Being in the small rural place we are in its fairly hard to find others in this lifestyle so we took I guess what we coud. Now we have played more its like ok thats not right. Would it be appropriate for me to contact both partners and show them the messages? Facebook and google are my stalker friends in this situatuon. Those that said verified profiles head towards. Hubby and I verified ours as we saw this as a thing a few weeks ago and now only look at profiles that other swinger friends recommend and/or are verified. Hubby just said to add as well, that we have tried to get the male of the 'couple' to talk to him not me and all are very much against that You do sound very nice and you're obviously genuine and have the right intentions here, but I consider it a gross invasion of privacy to be searching for information on people all over the internet and I wouldn't want that in return. Yes, that information is searchable, but I would never do that. I'm well aware there are people here on the forum who do that a lot it seems, but I think there's a line in the sand we need to draw. Discretion to me extends to staying out of their personal life, which in my view includes other websites. That's their life, their business. Image searches are starting to become popular, I'm not against that, but other searching, isn't that a bit invasive?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Dynamic duo has it in one - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Any male that turned up with an excuse about an absent wife would be told in no uncertain terms to f__k off, likely with a helping foot up up the butt on the way, Always let the ladys chat first eliminates all sorts of bs and false expectations.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can understand when you're newbies trying to work out how everything works. It's like most things in life , you do something once , get bitten , then know not to go there again. I wouldn't feel bad about that. Put it down to experience. Yes '. I would definitely want to talk to the wife , if not possible just move on. You come across as a nice couple so I don't think you would have any trouble finding another genuine couple . Sometimes it's a numbers game. Good luck Amos...
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RHP User
9 years ago
i often have "couple" profiles contact me and then he explains that "she" is not interested!! I love the block feature.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I understand. I only know of their FB profiles as they came up in my facebook feed for people you may know. Being a techy, that only happens when you have NIL people in common when you have been searched first. Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'hers_and_his' Thanks everyone for the replies. First person was our ice breaker in this lifestyle. Being in the small rural place we are in its fairly hard to find others in this lifestyle so we took I guess what we coud. Now we have played more its like ok thats not right. Would it be appropriate for me to contact both partners and show them the messages? Facebook and google are my stalker friends in this situatuon. Those that said verified profiles head towards. Hubby and I verified ours as we saw this as a thing a few weeks ago and now only look at profiles that other swinger friends recommend and/or are verified. Hubby just said to add as well, that we have tried to get the male of the 'couple' to talk to him not me and all are very much against that You do sound very nice and you're obviously genuine and have the right intentions here, but I consider it a gross invasion of privacy to be searching for information on people all over the internet and I wouldn't want that in return. Yes, that information is searchable, but I would never do that. I'm well aware there are people here on the forum who do that a lot it seems, but I think there's a line in the sand we need to draw. Discretion to me extends to staying out of their personal life, which in my view includes other websites. That's their life, their business. Image searches are starting to become popular, I'm not against that, but other searching, isn't that a bit invasive?
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RHP User
9 years ago
fair enough and your situation in a smaller town is so different, I imagine extremely challenging trying to find people, finding them at all difficult enough, but then narrowing down to genuine honest ones who you are interested in? That must be really hard, seemingly impossible at times. I'm in the city but still get frustrated with the huge amount of non genuine and/or dishonest people on here. I feel for you and hope you manage to find some of the gems
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