M57 F55

Meet now play later or meet and play

August 13 2014

Hi all, We would like to get some feedback from other couples on their experiences with this. As we are immersing ourselves in this adventure, we are currently running with the "meet now play later" model. This is primarily due to our newbiness plus we want to take the time (after the meeting) to discuss our thoughts prior to making a decision to proceed. We have been happy with this approach so far, however, it can be problematic when attempting to arrange a meet and greet with a couple that may be 100 or 200 km away. In these situations it's a big commitment on one or both parties to travel for the meetup. Once we have more experience under our collective belts, we will no doubt have more confidence and trust in our abilities to determine good play partners for us on the night of the meet and greet. The logistics of the longer range meet ups would clearly benefit from a more streamlined and flexible approach. How have you found these scenarios? DJandTJ

Comments

RHP User

10 years ago

It is all about communication with each other and being aware of whether each of you is comfortable with the vibe you get from the meet. You may decide that all is going well on the night but just take the time to check in with each other. - Posted from rhpmobile

reply

like
2playonly

10 years ago

Each to their own. But we are meet now play now. Time is a premium to us. Generally we like the people or we don't. - Posted from rhpmobile

reply

like
Paradisepair

10 years ago

And it paid off - yes lots of driving but it's worth staying 'cautious' when you're just starting out. What we've discovered though is that we don't set up 'meets' with anyone who's not already doing something for both of us - and so after a while the 'meet first' part became option once we realised that our selectiveness was paying off. If I had a timemachine - maybe we'd be a bit more open to Skype chats - so that there's already a connection before we hopped in the car for a big drive. One thing we have changed is not really driving any more than 100km one way. We used to do 200 but it's too much. Yes that's limited 'the pool' but that's ok, it's worth it.

reply

like
QLDtwo4fun

10 years ago

We usually try to organise meetings at a venue where you can play, if everyone wants to. There are a number of reasons we have come to this as a modes operandi. Time - We aren't interested in meeting to see if we want to meet. Safety - There is no pressure to play at clubs or parties, at somebody's home there can be. Selection process - People who are genuinely interested in swinging are usually happy to meet at a play venue, so we have sorted out the players from the wantabees. Second chance - Even if the people your meeting don't work out, you may still get lucky at a club or party. Just know what you want, and work out your signals to communicate discretely so you are both on the same page at any meeting, and willing to give things a go.

reply

like
glennannie

10 years ago

Quoting '2playonly' Each to their own. But we are meet now play now. Time is a premium to us. Generally we like the people or we don't. - Posted from rhpmobile This is our approach as well. In saying that neither of us takes one for the team ,everyone has to be happy.

reply

like
RHP User

10 years ago

I like to meet in the party situation where there is no pressure to play. Sometimes you go to meet one person and make other friends along the way. - Posted from rhpmobile

reply

like
RHP User

10 years ago

Does anyone have a process whereby you will meet now play later when the other couple is local but will meet and play same night if the other couple is at a distance?

reply

like

Meet now play later or meet and play

Comments

Tags

Boards

Forum help