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Meet vs Date

July 31 2014

I want to know if you consider your first meeting a date or just a meet. My personal definitions are... A Date: taking someone out in public for coffee/drink/meal/movie or whatever with the aim of getting to know someone. A Meet: turning up to meet someone to find out if there is any attraction and to find out if they are shagable or then leading to a date if you would like to get to know them. I see the term 'date' thrown around on here a lot but I have not really been on what I would consider many dates at all.

Comments

  • cougar4fun

    cougar4fun

    10 years ago

    Movie, dinner, drinks to find out about someone else and get to know them on a personal level (mental more than physical).....date. Meet to chat and see if you click and or have a sexual attraction.....meet.

  • cougar4fun

    cougar4fun

    10 years ago

    Are always meets....I am married, I don't date.

  • Violetincredible

    Violetincredible

    10 years ago

    To me a date is something you go on with someone you know really well just because you really want to hang out with them/together... A meet is more like when you first organise to meet them - wherever that may be- and has many similarities to a job interview on both sides :/ Xxviolet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A date would be more to find out if you do click. A meet would be to see if you do date.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Much more of a carnivore. But my answer to your question, if I met them through RHP, I call them all meets. They end up as a date but the idea is just to catch up for an hour or two first.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    To me the first contact is a meet. I must do it differently as my first catch up is usually over a coffee or drink. It seems a bit too clinical just to meet, interview each other, exchange wish lists and tick boxes. I prefer a more social approach so there is relaxing of personal barriers I see what they are really like and vice versa. If it all looks good, the second occasion may be similar in format but more familiar in spirit so we are then comfortable in progressing. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Meet/date... Meh... You can call it whatever you want, all I want is to spend 5 mins to 5hours with you to see if there's enough attraction to see you again... After that I'd call it a date, just don't be late late for dinner... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I would never consider anyone on this site as a date....To me, a date is where there may be potential progression for a loving relationship, family ties and sexual loyaltyand trust..,.. A meet is about 'checking out the total ppackage quickly,and sharing thoughts based on possible sex encounters. There is only hope of sexual attraction and a fun night..,... BTW....Why do so many men ruin having even a meet up by being rude and pushy in their 2nd or 3rd messages..?? "So when r u free to fuck' I believe common courtesy, manners and respect is just as important on messages, meets, and dates...Does anyone else share or oppose this view...? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • TheLuckyOne

    TheLuckyOne

    10 years ago

    I always call a first "meet" a "coffee date" as it saves explaining the difference.....

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' To me the first contact is a meet. I must do it differently as my first catch up is usually over a coffee or drink. It seems a bit too clinical just to meet, interview each other, exchange wish lists and tick boxes. I prefer a more social approach so there is relaxing of personal barriers I see what they are really like and vice versa. If it all looks good, the second occasion may be similar in format but more familiar in spirit so we are then comfortable in progressing. - Posted from rhpmobile Where is the like button?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I hate to nit pick SN,but how does that differ from meeting someone over coffee,a meal,or a drink? xQ...PS I no longer meet anyone as the whole internet hook up,dating thingy just died not work for me....xQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'm definitely a weirdo..... As I would've thought you'd sort through wish lists, box ticking, etc before you see each other in the flesh... Let's face it....there's no point investing into organising the time, place etc especially in my line of work if you're not already mostly on the same page.... But.... Looks like I'm getting it all wrong.... :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    They all dates to me. A coffee date, dinner date, etc. A meet is just a first blind date isn't it?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If I really had to define, I'd call it a date if was interested (romantically or sexuallly) in the person and a meet if I wasn't. But I also agree with Meeka. I say "It's a date!" to friends without any second thought.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    if you are meeting a guy for sex it a meet not a date an i all way just meet a guy i do not date

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    So you are not dating.......... you are just hanging out. So what does that mean? You are just bonking? You are have no romantic feelings about each other at all and never will? What a increasingly dull world we live in when nobody is prepared to even go on a date!!!

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    10 years ago

    Does that mean we've been dating? ☺️ Lol x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I interact with people on here...and on the phone.... Call me what you will.....but there seems to be a massive focus on face to face exchanges....probably my head going stupid but can someone puhlease explain to me the difference between a conversation on the phone and a conversation face to face??? If you talk about the same stuff on the phone as you do face to face is there truly a necessity to meet?? Think I maybe needing some Mozart time lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' So you are not dating.......... you are just hanging out. So what does that mean? Dating: Sexual potential, perhaps romantic potential. Bonking! Meeting: Platonic friendship. Yes, hanging out. I'm not a fan of calling a sexual encounter a meet. For something that involves intimacy (for me anyway), it sounds too clinical too me. I don't think I had heard any encounter described as a "meet" before I moved here. (Meeting, yes.)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Does that mean we've been dating? ☺️ Lol x Only if the coffee with Lovinit counts as a threesome... Was it good for you too, honey?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Either way your gunna know if you want to go out again . - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Ditto to what you said - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I like dates but the randomness of on-line meets/dates makes it difficult. Don't know about others but I generally leave after one drink. However I love dates... If we hit it off Drinks, Dinner, more drinks & home... makes for an amazing time & chemistry builds... Unless you cant keep your hands off them from the first minute then One drink & home.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Gotta love the "I'd never date anyone I from rhp" line... A "date" probably carries a personal/romantic undertone with it, so I understand that couples don't date extras... For a single like me... I usually call it a date... Lurk: it's not that conversation is nesisarily any different face to face v phone... But it's definitely more electrically charged by the physical proximity... Hp xo Because you're worth it...

  • Circe

    Circe

    10 years ago

    Meet = quick coffee, see if you want to bonk... Date= dinner, drinks, chatting, flirting, getting to know each other... It's extended foreplay, part of the dance...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    By the time I arrange to meet this person, I am hopefully already on the same page because Ive made a effort to get to know them via other communication. I like to meet for a drink, dinner etc, but I always open to meeting for something a little different, like a picnic or to ice skating or a gallery. I have found these meets to be very successful as it does not feel like you are sitting opposite someone being interviewed. Its relaxing and natural and for me really makes up my mind that I wish to go further with this person as we are usually doing something fun. I have even been known to meet a date for the first time at the football. And I also treat these first "meets" as a date.I go all out to do the girl thing and look very nice . If it is a good meet or date - I prefer this word too, then a meeting of minds could be happening with a meeting of the bodies later on :-)

  • Languid

    Languid

    10 years ago

    There is a world of difference between the two. Meat is good for protein whereas dates are good for fibre. Also explaining the difference in the context of the male anatomy meat is at the front whereas the date is at the back. Must be Friday lunchtime.

  • ruby_blossum

    ruby_blossum

    10 years ago

    To me.... a meet is to see if there is that spark. A coffee or a drink. If there is that spark...then further intimate meets will follow....probably with out the coffee or drink. A Date, is when you have met the person AND there is that spark and you want more than just a Meet. @sir_stir.....I learnt long ago, that idle chat on the phone means nothing. It is too easy to create false impressions and fantasy. Its only when you are face to face with the other person...looking at them eye to eye and you know they may be interested in you (not the footy or porn on the tele)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    More like the bloody Encyclopedia Brittanica :-) xQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Whatever its called, it is just to establish whether you like each other enough to take it further. I dont answer messages from guys who say on their profiles "No chatting/texting, meet to play only." What if you instantly cant stand each other? Are some men so on for a root that they would actually enjoy being with someone they didnt like? I did once meet a guy for a "sleepover' who I hadnt met but talked to on the phone many times and we had a real connection We ended up seeing each other a few times after that and kept that connection going. But I hadnt felt that before, it was a one off thing. Usually I like to meet for a coffee or drink and have been lucky enough to meet some great lads, oh, theres definitely something in Perths water.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Ahhh yes here it is in volume F.... Why is it under the sub heading of fear??? :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    False evidence appearing real....xQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Yep that's why I use Facebook for my research bahaha :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    10 years ago

    I sometimes like to meet and then date - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I like to meet first and yes see if there is a spark, and take it from there. I'm not interested in wham bam thankyou mam. That's why I have toys.