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Meeting RHP 'friends'

August 10 2012

As other regular chatters are quite aware, I spend a lot of time in chat and enjoying speaking to a lot of people from the eastern states. I am on the last leg back to Perth after being over east for six days, and I wanted to kind of reflect on it within a forum for people to see.   I have meet quite a few of the people that I have chatted to over the past 8-9 months in chat, and at each place I visited I was treated with such a kindness and hospitality. If I needed help to get somewhere on public transport, do washing, enjoy a nice meal together or even a greek coffee---and always a chat window open to comfortably spend ridiculous amounts of time on chat at their house too! Its like the know what I would want- a smoke, a cup of tea and “oh anything going on in chat? Has rah rah got her pandas out?” hehe   I did not come on holiday PURELY for RHP catch ups, but as I travelled I met with several of these regular chatters and it was quite exciting, and quite comfortable at the same time. Yes, I did meet up and have sex with (at least) one regular chatter here, but that will not change the way I see the friendship(s) we have. But what was the most important to me was the emotional support that I did find from visiting these people. This is really what I wanted to write in the forums about. The fact these were, really, strangers that I may recognise off their web cams, yet were inviting me into their house and the level of trust is quite amazing (not that I had any luggage space to steal anything from you guys anyway, don’t worry about counting silver). And, in turn, they were relying on me being the same from their own experiences from seeing me in chat.   I spend too much time on bloody chat, and ‘REAL LIFE’ friends who do not or will not know what RHP is have given me shit in the past. I do like to meet people that I talk to and am definatley not one to pike out, and I guess with the amount of time we do spend on here it was a given that I would be taken care of the way I was.   I guess I am asking you all, how do you regular chatters out there, and you know who you are, what do you think about the amount of time spent on here, and how the friendships that can be made here will compare to the friendships you may have with people at your workplace, facebook, oasis active… ???   I mean, do you even consider people you regulary chat to as “friends?” considering you don’t really know shit all about them except they have nice tits? I guess if you did, you sure as hell wouldn’t be willing to meet up face to face with them in the first place?   Could you, given the time, money and the whole concern of children were taken out of equation, have done a holiday like this? Would you be willing and look forward to meeting them? I guess I am saying this because I built on friendships I already had and can kind of ‘fit’ a chatters RHP and real life together when I see them in chat now in the future.   We are all here because we enjoy sex. Yes, that’s a bit of a given. I kind of was a bit worried that it was a presumption that I was coming to have sex. But the fact these people I visited (and you know who you are) and the people I wanted to visit ARE regular chatters it was a different dynamic. I felt like it was as if these people do see a lot MORE of me literally and metaphorically than others in my life and it made the holiday I have had a much more fulfilling and enjoyable. This is one of the good perks of RHP I have found- that there are people here that you can relate to on lots of different levels and you have a good old laugh. I consider these friendships extremely valuable to me in a different way that other friendships in my life are. I don’t know if this is just because I am exhausted, or I am just thinking about it too much, but I value RHP as a platform to meet these crazy sex fuelled people who can sit there for three hours talking with you. No pressure, no expectations- and just because I may have been nervous when meeting these people it did not last for very long at all because I did various amounts of time spent talking about everything and anything.   I could travel to new places knowing I had a warm bed and good company. Not only this- I had a place where I could talk about bloody anything and I knew I wouldn’t be judged- and I really enjoyed some stimulating intellectual artistic and sexual discussions I have had over the past 6 days. I moved from place to place and although people may speculate what may happen between myself and others, I have been not been treated with any disrespect for doing this- moreso, the people I have met become eager to meet the ‘next one’! Maybe because I had bridged the distance and made the effort, they wanted to actually meet face to face and that makes me feel good inside.   And is something that I couldn’t of done without RHP and all the internet credit and hours and hours of bus and train cam chatting. This holiday would not have been half as fun or reflective as it has and I have to thank RHP for that! : )

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  • shucksta

    shucksta

    12 years ago

    Why didn't you come to Canberra!!I know it's winter...and, yes...I know it's Canberra :-)Ms Mocha Darlink, I agree with sentiiments expressed ...a reminder to get out and metaphorically sniff the daisies (no, settle down Miss Daisy of Echuca).XX Shuck(next trip...Sydney)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Let me introduce myself, I am Meeka. :) I have been in chat a few times but it isn't really my thing although I once was on the forums everyday. I have also met some fabulous people through RHP forums, some that I consider to be very close friends indeed. In fact there is a group that I chat to most days of the week on FB, etc. I have met maybe 25 - 30 people from RHP just as people I have chatted too so lets meet as friends kind of thing. Well most of them have been women too! Foxy ladies they are as well. I have travelled to other cities and met up with groups of people at the same time.... you can imagine the conversations!! It's easier to be more open and direct with people on the inernet as they are outside of your everyday life and you have that anonymity and as a result you often form close bonds with people, some you may never even meet. Well you obviously know already. As for the time you spend on chat, or other social media,... sometimes I feel like I am at a party every night talking to loads of people and socialising & flirting... but yes, you can't forget that it isn't real life. Meeka xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Some great life long friends off the net, but they are all women. Reason being is that I meet them just for friends, not sex so we end up with a normal friendship. I have been all over the world and meet up with lots of people , but only a few stick as friends for years.   This is because my life is mostly off-line and I do already have a lot of mates that take up my time along with my family and all the stuff I have to do off-line.   chat on line is not something I do, tried it and was bored shitless in a few seconds.   Forums on the other hand well... here I am again   but I have made a some lovely friends off the Forums that I catch up with now and again for coffee and as the group increases we get to increase our laughter and friendships.   We have the luxury of being our true sexual selves with people we meet of RHP.   But its not something I would tell any of my other friends about, they would not be so pleased and I would shock them and make them feel uncomfortable. I respect their views so keep my other side for RHP mates. it makes my life a lot easier

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I think you need to be careful, OP, about your online RHP life trespassing too far into offline reality. It sounds like the lines are becoming more than a little blurred.I haven't had sex with everyone that I've talked to and/or met off here, as I'm not purely here for that reason alone. I joined more out of curiosity to see what it was all about and after a while was overwhelmed when I realised that I wasn't as much of a pervert as I thought I was. I can't help but admire the people who I've talked to that are so open about expressing their sexuality, as well as being upfront about sexual health and safety, which still doesn't have the exposure that it needs in society. I'm able to talk about issues openly, as well as raise personal topics with people here who I know will understand my way of thinking more than my 'vanilla' friends do.What you have to know though, that with people you talk to and meet online, whether on RHP or otherwise, is that they present to the online world a side of them (or even an invented side of them) that they want to project. You see only that side when you talk to them, have coffee with them or bed them. It's only when you spend most of your time with those people that you would see their true selves. It's in spending so much time with your 'real friends' have you been able to experience the shit that they've given you in the past (and I'm truly sorry to hear that), because you are seeing all facets of their personality.Don't make the mistake in thinking that the person you meet from online is the person in their entirety.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    City_kitty wrote; Don't make the mistake in thinking that the person you meet from online is the person in their entirety.Well done for making this point. It also applies offline too. But it's also why soooo mannny people don't trust each other. Insular and cold. While being careful and a little weary is probably a good idea, I wish more people would open up just a little to new people. I admire the OP for what she did on her RHP tour of Australia.Something my non RHP friends don't get, is that I'm not here just looking for sex. Actually finding someone satisfying to have sex with is probably just as hard here as offline. I'm here to interact with people in a normal way. Only, adult topics are not regarded as taboo. Most of my meets have just been lovely people to have a drink with. After 5 years my RHP sex count is less than a handful i think. So many misconceptions..help.. I've lost control of my formatting..This interface can be so frustrating..

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    And now it turns out it's formatted the way I expected.. Sort of..~rolls eyes~

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  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'Let me introduce myself, I am Meeka. :) I have been in chat a few times but it isn't really my thing although I once was on the forums everyday. I have also met some fabulous people through RHP forums, some that I consider to be very close friends indeed. In fact there is a group that I chat to most days of the week on FB, etc. I have met maybe 25 - 30 people from RHP just as people I have chatted too so lets meet as friends kind of thing. Well most of them have been women too! Foxy ladies they are as well. I have travelled to other cities and met up with groups of people at the same time.... you can imagine the conversations!! It's easier to be more open and direct with people on the inernet as they are outside of your everyday life and you have that anonymity and as a result you often form close bonds with people, some you may never even meet. Well you obviously know already. As for the time you spend on chat, or other social media,... sometimes I feel like I am at a party every night talking to loads of people and socialising & flirting... but yes, you can't forget that it isn't real life. Meeka xx I agree with Meeka, it is easier to be more open and direct with people you have met on a site like this. I have met many people from here (mainly the Forums) and they are always there when I am feeling down and out as much as I am there for them when their mojo has gone on vacation lol! A few of us met for lunch back in May when Meeka came down to Melbourne and it was the funniest day I had ever had...looking back...there is no way we could/would have talked about half the things we spoke about had we started our friendships on the "outside"! I think that Tena Ladies sales were up that day lol. . I have made many "friends" from websites over the years and although most I have lost contact with (some sites close and life gets in the way)..the happy memories and the laughter will always remain with me. Also on the other end of the scale, I have met a few people that I would never want to meet again...they are so different to how they appear online! SO DIFFERENT! . Keep those happy memories with you and I am glad you had such a great time! As much as you are a real person sitting on your side of the computer...so is everyone else! xox Hugs...xFunlovingx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Great post OP. I used to spend a lot of time in chat many years ago. Not RHP but the friends I made and eventually married one of them have remained dear to me for well over 10 years.   The group of friends I had made were far away in Canada and USA. I went over for a holiday and stayed with several of them. They opened up their homes, families and lives to me with such hospitality it was almost overwhelming.   One of my friends organised a surprise BBQ in Canada and most of the people I knew from this particular chat room travelled from all over the USA and Canada to attend that night. It was amazing. Unfortunately he passed away soon after that amazing visit.   Another of those chat friends moved to Australia from Canada and we were happily married for several years.   I have to say that 99% of my "genuine" chat "friends" were true to who they portrayed themselves to be online. This day and age many of us live insular lives due to different reasons, one being working long hours. Meeting people online is much easier than standing at a bar being hit on by drunks. At least you get a feel for who your online friends are before meeting in person.   Obviously there are the creeps that lie, but hey they exist in real life too!   I have also made a couple of very close friends from RHP who are now an integral part of my life. Wouldn't have it any other way.   SFxx

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  • jensta

    jensta

    12 years ago

    ... I have met many here in Melbourne and Interstate what has been online friends are now Real life Friends ... Male & Female I guess its like turning fantasies into reality ... xxx

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  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    12 years ago

    Amen to that Jensta!! Quoting 'jensta' ... I have met many here in Melbourne and Interstate what has been online friends are now Real life Friends ... Male & Female I guess its like turning fantasies into reality ... xxx

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