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Meeting Swingles

August 20 2015

In a former post discussing the definition(s) of swinging, someone suggested that swinging singles could be called "swingles". I would say in this case, a "swingle" would not be just a single person who happens to have a number of partners in a particular time period (which nearly everyone would qualify at some point in their lives), but someone who is more involved in the swinging scene and/or open to a bigger range of partners (perhaps couples) and/or activities. But definitions aside, my question is as follows: I have met quite a few swinging couples. However, basically all of them have only started swinging many many years into a committed relationship, often after having/raising children. That of course makes sense, as it takes a strong relationship to be successful in those other areas. But then I wonder, how many couples have met and developed a successful committed (ie not necessarily exclusive) relationship when BOTH parties were already involved in the swinging lifestyle as singles? If any, did you set aside swinging (at least temporarily) to focus on each other, or did you manage to develop your relationship while still having extra-curricular activites (together or apart)? Given that (in my experience) there are very few single women (and often none) attending events that allow for single men, how did you actually meet?

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Taby_DK

9 years ago

We met on RHP as singles almost 4 years ago now. I (female) had been a 'swingle' for 2 years before we met and I loved and still do love everything about the scene. I'd attended a few events and played with a few couples as a single girl and had pretty much decided I was going to stay single for the rest of my life (cause I was having so much fun and doubted I'd find someone who was keen to swing with me as a couple without issues) until.... a certain cheeky charmer came along and swept me off my feet ;) Mr had attended a swingers party as a single and played with a couple or two before he met me, but as you know it's more difficult for single men to get their foot in the door swinging wise so I had/have quite a bit more experience than he does lol When we first started seeing each other we went through a 9 month period where we were simply playmates and only played with each other, this was mainly due to the fact I lived in Hervey Bay at the time and Mr was located on the Gold Coast and we had limited time together and generally only seen each other for one weekend every coupe of months. It wasn't until one weekend when I was visiting Mr on the GC that we decided to visit Chateau Vino together and we pretty much jumped in head first together and did pretty much everything that night so if either of us was going to have issues with seeing each other have sex with other people we would have known that night and probably never have ended up as a couple just continued on a playmates or went our separate ways. But as neither of us had any jealousy issues that night and we had one of the most wild, kinky nights ever that night we decided then and there (that very night) we were now together as a couple and we have been as a couple ever since. Recently however our business has taken off and as a result our work life is now crazy and has impacted our swinging life. We do still try to swing a couple of time per year and are in the process of getting our business to a stage where we can hire a manager for the business so Mr doesn't have to do so much work so we can swing more :D So I would say we are a good example of 2 'swingles' who got together decided we could make it work as swinger and haven't looked back :) Taby xx

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RHP User

9 years ago

Thank you muchly Taby for your detailed contribution. I hope it continues to work out for both of you.

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