M46
Meeting Women
June 11 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, after viewing your profile...I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA!!!!
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ArtsyLusttty
13 years ago
That you are "attached"...??Just saying it aloud :)s3d x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its the site..RHP is like that .. so many fakes and time wasters everyone is a suspect
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RHP User
13 years ago
maybe it the 'attached' bit. people are much much more selective here, than in real life, and tend to not commit to those who seem unable to commit themselves.......we find it difficult to see that an attached man playing on his own could be either 'genuine' or 'respectful'.....we think you exclude yourself from those values by playing alone. just our opinion of course..
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RHP User
13 years ago
You're not living in Melbourne
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RHP User
13 years ago
Whoo hoooo !!! Honestly no idea but this a good way to getthe ladies to checkout your profile. Imagine how many hits you will have by the end of the day !!! More than Youtube Whose knows ??? It's just internet "dating" for you !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
In all seriousness i've found exactly the same,i don't struggle with women when i'm out in the real world but it's very hard too project charisma and personality through a computer screen i guess. Good luck in the future tho mate.
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RHP User
13 years ago
but you can be doing everything right and have no success here bud.Tis the nature of the beast.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
And therein lies your answer and as you know in Perth us ladies have a smorgasbord of guys to choose from (thanks to the mining boom) and can hook up without fear of potential complications
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just goes to prove that the ladies actually do read profiles!!!I'd steer a wide berth for that very reason too.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You miss out on almost perfect by a couple of points. "Attached" and "ask me" for smoking and drinking on your profile can be the turn off point for some women.The other point is that you are a guest and not a paid up member. To many women that says you aren't serious or are too broke or too lazy to put in any effort.Good luck anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There's need to be chemistry, an attraction, something in common, a reason to connect.If I don't get that from your profile/forum posts, I won't bother.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There's always the possibility that no-one who has viewed your profile as yet finds you attractive!Attraction and meeting 101..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Phwoar!!! Quoting 'MistressT' The other point is that you are a guest and not a paid up member. To many women that says you aren't serious or are too broke or too lazy to put in any effort. Good luck anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are attached,you are a guest,most women who are single want single men.Most women are guests,they have only one message a week,you cant message them and I assume you are therefore waiting to be contacted. There are many more women than men on this site and even if the women are paid up members, most don't need to initiate contact and don't respond to flirts. So OP,my advice is, at least pay for some level of membership ,that will mean you can be far more proactive. Nice pic,good advertising it might work.Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
You may be used to being the big fish in a small ond but RHP is a bloody big pond.
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RHP User
13 years ago
in our experience....and we've been here for most of the past decade, in one incarnation or another......attached guys always reveal themselves, even when they claim to be long term singles. theres problems with contacting you, with you hosting, being available for times other than play, women dont usually want daytime trysts, or visits in seedy motels, and then there's the watch and phone watching....and wedding bands.....and 'no love bite' rules......and 'please dont wear perfume' or 'here, wear this, you'll like it' scents that are his wife's favorites.......etc etc etc..........its something that you really cant hide for long.............
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting ..."Attached" and "ask me" for smoking and drinking on your profile can be the turn off point for some women....'we find it difficult to see that an attached man playing on his own could be either 'genuine' or 'respectful'.....we think you exclude yourself from those values by playing alone.' ....Sorry, but I don't want the complications of someone attached, the questions of how will he treat me? ... if he lies to his partner? ... Hey it's up to you in your relationship, that's your business ... but not with me ...Then there's smoking? drinking? ... Just too many profiles to look at to have to 2nd guess ...?On the odd occasion a female needs or decides to do a search ... then 'ask me' excludes your profile from their non-smoking criteria ... how many people don't update their profiles, only to their own detriment?If you are a guest then how do you approach? ... you just get lost in the mountain of flirts ... ?In my experience an email approach with a difference ... fun and confidence wins every time ... their profile certainly gets a good look over ...L x x x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen'There's always the possibility that no-one who has viewed your profile as yet finds you attractive! Attraction and meeting 101..Apollo, how many times have I told you, please don't bring logic into the forums, it upsets and confuses most members!
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RHP User
13 years ago
My wife and I have both single profiles and a couple profile, what is so hard for people to understand that an open relationship means complete trust in your partner.So many women on here have what I believe, a profile that is asking for exactly what I am offering, good wholesome fun, safe and respectful, no strings etc...As for being a paying member, this site has been a joke from when I started swinging, I had premium plus for 6 months, without even a glance at my original profile, as far as I am concerned, I got ripped off, plus I can still message via our couple profile.I wanted to portray myself as an honest guy, my wife knows all I do on here, I keep nothing from her and vice versa.The site doesn't give a trying to quit option for smoking and also, I only rarely drink alcohol, which also is not an option available on the site.Please don't judje me without giving me a chance.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nice profile. The only thing I would add is maybe ditch the I am very good at pleasuring a woman- that's up to each woman that's with you regardless of what others have said :) Not everyone is compatibleORMaybe you rock the sack for all but I just wouldn't in a tall poppy syndrome society :) I would reword it to something like you enjoy putting in a lot of effort to pleasuring the woman you are with.Cass xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'multiples_xxx'Nice profile. The only thing I would add is maybe ditch the I am very good at pleasuring a woman- that's up to each woman that's with you regardless of what others have said :) Not everyone is compatible OR Maybe you rock the sack for all but I just wouldn't in a tall poppy syndrome society :) I would reword it to something like you enjoy putting in a lot of effort to pleasuring the woman you are with. Cass xxxAlways under promise and over deliver! Bragging is an instant turn off for me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' So ladies.... given the advice you've offered..... do you think most guys in here would then.... lie.... about being attached, just to solve the potential issue the author of this topic thinks he has?!Yep. But they're delightfully easy to weed out - (and can provide endless minutes of fun messing with their heads!!)Not that I'd do that to someone who has clearly lied about their marital status.... Not at all...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am a cheeky and fun loving guy, looking for like minded women to are looking for fun times without the head games. You can't find fun times with a woman without head games! Everyone knows this, so you're already out.I am a an affectionate and easy going guy. I am very good at pleasuring women and pride myself on leaving them satisfied with the experience. I am highly respectful and non pushy, you are in full control of what happens and when. It is all about mutual fun.Maybe you need to actually put your PERSONALITY into your profile. You're a good looking guy, you don't actually need a wanky studio headshot. You look like a real estate agent there. You don't need to suck ass to get what you want. I think you should put what you WANT TO SAY ABOUT YOURSELF. Not what you think women want to hear. Stop trying to be an everyman.You might also like to put "My wife and I are such-and-such profile, her solo profile is such-and-such, open relationship, we love each other very much, and turns out we both like to fuck. A LOT."RA
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'RandomAgent' I am a cheeky and fun loving guy, looking for like minded women to are looking for fun times without the head games. You can't find fun times with a woman without head games! Everyone knows this, so you're already out.I am a (typo. these chicks are grammar nazis) an affectionate and easy going(when was the last time you saw "head case"?) guy. I am very good at pleasuring women (So is a dildo. And cake.) and pride (Pride is a sin) myself on leaving (you LEAVE!?) them satisfied with the experience. (what are you, an airline?) I am highly respectful (Fuck that) and non pushy, (Fuck that! You're the prize, push all you want) you are in full control of what happens (Some women are here because they want to be controlled, tied up, spanked, and fucked caveman style by a man with power and passion!) and when. (They're always late anyway, you might as well set the schedule) It is all about mutual fun. (Aww)Maybe you need to actually put your PERSONALITY into your profile. You're a good looking guy, you don't actually need a wanky studio headshot. You look like a real estate agent there. You don't need to suck ass to get what you want. I think you should put what you WANT TO SAY ABOUT YOURSELF. Not what you think women want to hear. Stop trying to be an everyman. Your profile doesn't say much to inspire me but thanks for the flirt.You might also like to put "My wife and I are such-and-such profile, her solo profile is such-and-such, open relationship, we love each other very much, and turns out we both like to fuck. A LOT."RA
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mate: calm down.. I am genuine too... and I dont do well here either.. well.... Well..... I am a genuine arse hole... disrespectful, heretic, jaded, biased, racist, politically incorrect, distrusting, hairy creature with missing teeth, hairy back, non anti perspiant wearing caveman... NOW,, HONESTLY mate... If I cant get laid here.. how the hell do YOU expect to??? Look at you?? a wimpy looking Metro sexual with a poor excuse of facial hair, AND poor sence of dress!! *grins* Good luck fella... cavey :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
One thing that always makes me shake my head and wonder why they bothered is when people ask for an opinion or advice and then get defensive when they read the replies. My reply was a critique of your profile and not a personal attack.On re-reading your original post I wonder whether you are asking a question or just having a whinge. It makes no difference anyway because, as I and a few others have pointed out, your profile says attached and not many women or couples want to play with an attached man.Just stating the facts.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ok first of all Im always amazed when people post a forum, requesting feedback on a given situation or profile feedback ( as you have done) and then react negatively because they do not like what a wise outside observer has to say...yet you put it out there by posting the forum in the first place..........um why post then ??? But anyway Firstly only two people know what goes on in a marriage and that is the two people concerned, its is no one's business but yours and hers and if you are in a open relationship that is purely your concern...you have at least had the decency to post that on your profile ...so many dont..so kudos there However the bottom line, in your original post, you state: I don't understand what I am doing wrong on this site that women on here don't believe that I am genuine and respectful. Well your not doing anything wrong, however like it or not the majority of women will steer clear of you because you are married..most single people wish to meet other single people...with perhaps the view of a possible long term situation developing instead of a one nite stand...as you are partnered, most women ,as stated by other posters, arent able to commit to day time meets and are perhaps are adverse to quick trysts in hotel rooms, rushed scenarios etc , quick shags where you wont stay the nite because you have to get home etc etc.. Many single women will not appreciate being stood up because the Mrs has put demands on you or changed her mind, single women dont like it when you clock watch and mobile phone check..and single women dont like playing second fiddle...and in this day and age..we only have your word for the fact that your Mrs is ok with it all...but a single takes a bigger risk when hooking up with you because your wife, may be the Psycho mad bitch from Hell and who needs that in their lives....bottom line married/partnered men are complications that most women just dont need And as I stated previously, your in Perth - there are a shitload of single men in Perth at present, so you are little (attached) fish in a big pond...and there are a lot of cashed up single guys in Perth willing to show a gal a good time, instead of just having a romp for a hour or so Your a guest, therefore most women will view you as a tight ass and uncommitted to your cause..it is what it is You either smoke or you dont smoke - trying to quit means you still smoke and for some women , a definite turnoff, so best if you make a firm decision on where you stand on this issue instead of using the wimpy "Ask Me" option If you think this site is a joke..then shut up shop and go elsewhere...good luck with that...think the other sites are any different ???? You got some excellent feedback from long term posters on here...instead of justifying yourself ( yes you have every rite to do that but remember you came to a public forum with a problem and we offered up some advice...the question to ask yourself here is ..are you man enough to take it on board ??...) So how about sitting back and reviewing all that been written Yep you have been judged - but you came asking for it..and heres the truth - we are all judged based on what we write here...your judging me rite now based on this post...yet you know nothing of me, except what I chose to reveal...and that could be bullshit for all you (or anyone) knows You judge people within 30 seconds of meeting them, it is human nature...but whether your judgement is correct or not...ah thats another forum within itself.... Good luck with it all
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RHP User
13 years ago
But yeah bottom line..what wise Mistress T said
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RHP User
13 years ago
If its working for you guys offline, then just hook up offline. Why would you want to pay when you do not really need an internet profile to get laid. Me, well I am an old lady ,and would just feel a tad odd going to a bar full ofspunky hot guys. They would just be mortified to be seen trying to hook up with the old chick,and I would have to wait till the beer goggle effect hit. So fear not all you good looking hot people, just go forth and pick up offline. It may cost you a drink or dinner or some conversation or some effort or some...ohhhh wait. forget all that just join, then fudgeover the married part, and welcome to the world of just add moisture and your in like flin The odds are against anyone with a dick. anyone with the pussy has the power on RHP you can be as ugly as a hat full of arseholes , so long as you are female and have a pulse( and even then thats debatable) some one will stick it to ya... good luck hon, girld your loins its bumpy ride
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Cat505
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'So ladies.... given the advice you've offered..... do you think most guys in here would then.... lie.... about being attached, just to solve the potential issue the author of this topic thinks he has?! My view is.... your profile is like an advertisement.... and if that ad isnt 'working'.... you have a few options: - 1. make it better (he's partly done that by asking for opinions) 2. change your criteria/target market 3. change your standards (I wont... but many others will, just to get obvious "results") 4. determine more realistic outcomes from being in here, as opposed to in the real-world where you have more face-to-face opportunity to exercise those elements that make you, what is attractive to others. DG hmmm...I just found out they do lie about status............. I won't play with attached/married guys... as they are already proving the are not genuine and/or respectful... as they are already dis respecting their wives and lying their heads off.. hmm what else are they lying about... ? my opinion.. your life...........
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RHP User
13 years ago
1. You asked people to judge by 1. having a profile and 2. asking for opinions on it.2. I don't think he acted negatively to the criticism. he just sounds generally frustrated and more neutral to me.3. I think the point you are missing SCF is if you want to portray yourself as honest you need to be open to your candi-dates (pun intended) as well as yourselves. :) 4. How is anyone going to understand your open relationship if you don't explain it in your profile? All the best.Cass xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'S3ductr3ss' That you are "attached"...??Just saying it aloud :)s3d x It's not because he is attached, most women on here would simply ignore him to get to his girl anyway.My advice champ, lop off the tackle, nick over to thailand for the nip and tuck bit, give yourself a bit of time to recover and you'll be half way there to attracting all the female attention you desire
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thankyou all for you much appreciated feed back, I have know altered my profile following some of your advice, Please feel free to have a look once unlocked and see if I have it right. My partner thinks it is fine.Thanks again
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RHP User
13 years ago
attached is a turn-off and ASK re smoking means you smoke, or you smell of smoke, or your clothes smell of smoke. This is an instant turn-off, to us anyway. And you say you are respectful. B-A-W-A-W-A-W-A-W-A-W-A. So does every man on this site. They are respectful, considerate. What a CROCK of shit is that. We get emails from guys all the time spruiking how good they are at this, and at that. Oh, and another thing, I certainly DO NOT believe that you have a couples profile, nor that your wife has one. Your talk is cheap. And there are so many fakes on here, pfffft, you'd be lucky to hook up with someone decent.Now, if you are fair dinkum then 1) pay some money so you can send a message or two and 2) prove that you have a couple's profile. Sorry to be so blunt honey, but you did ask for some advice. hugs and kisses, Andy sends them too but the poor dear is in bed with the flu. Mel
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RHP User
13 years ago
I bet you are just a single guy faking a couple profile in a desperate and decietful bid to get laid, by the way I have had a few ladies interested in meeting since adjusting my profile. I am not on this forum to advertise for my couple profile, so if you want to know it message me. We get inundated on our couple profile daily with men, women and couples who want to meet.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry hun, I seemed to have ruffled your feathers. Dear, dear. Please accept my apologies. Mel xo. Hey mate, Andy here, great to hear you are getting some action, but I think we'll pass on contacting you. We don't meet with smokers. Quoting 'SexyCheekyFun' I bet you are just a single guy faking a couple profile in a desperate and decietful bid to get laid, by the way I have had a few ladies interested in meeting since adjusting my profile. I am not on this forum to advertise for my couple profile, so if you want to know it message me. We get inundated on our couple profile daily with men, women and couples who want to meet.
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RHP User
13 years ago
"....we find it difficult to see that an attached man playing on his own could be either 'genuine' or 'respectful'..." im not sure if many of us are on here looking for a long term relationship, i am attached, and yes, it means i'm a bit like a leper on here and i have worked that out and accept it.... but it doesnt mean us attached guys wont be anything but genuine and respectful to those short term/casual "trysts" that we are lucky enough to enter into. I have met with the wife of a married couple on here, it was ideal, here hubby new but he was away on business.... i am sure she found me both genuine and respectful. my situation was a fit for their situation.....it may not happen for a while but that's the drawback of being attached and looking.........so your problem is definitely cos ur "attached" , you just have to accept that you wont get many bites..... at the clubs, no-one cares because its in the "here and now"
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess the attached bit like others said could be a worry.That is all I have to say about your profile.Would I be able to get some advice on my profile to see if it is okay and whatnot. Feel free to criticize.
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RHP User
13 years ago
a lot of woman on here that are time wasters and then you get the one attached only looking for singles. So for a man its cheating and a woman its ok because most men will fuck almost anything.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Was going to rant on about open relationships but I think I will just start a thread. BTW- Attached is a turn on for me (as long as it's consensual).....at least someone puts up with you, I wonder about some single people lol! (jokes) seriously though I love meeting truly open minded people that are able to understand, appreciate and relate to couple's in an open relationship.Cass xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Stuart89, All I can say about your profile, is that your profile is aimed at maybe a narrow spectrum of RHP users, maybe try to appeal to a broader amount of users, look carefully at others profiles and see what they are looking for.
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RHP User
13 years ago
The 'attached' thing might have something to do with it. A lot of women would view that as having no respect for the woman you're with so why would we/they want to be with that type of man???
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chevtrek
13 years ago
I know what he means ( sexycheekyfun) as I am now single and still have more fun at the clubs or couples yet, on the site I dont get to play much. It just seems strange that a woman comes on here for fun and says no or later and thats that. As for respect well the fact she is honest gives her a 100 points in fact its refreshing to find an honest woman. I am on afew dating sites and seem to be used for booty call- fine but that should be on here as i am trying to find a partner to cuddle and so on. theres my pennies worth .com
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RHP User
13 years ago
Many truths here but MsVelvetBlue has the best point, more hits than YouTube! Love it :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would love to have met up with you but not looking for a man who has a wife on the side.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would love to met up with you you approached me, but having a wife on the side put me off!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Youre very lucky that you get inundated with contact daily because I can't even find your couples profile! In WA there are only 3 couples profiles where the guy is 33. And of those 3 the guys are all very different heights and different faces. I don't know all these people are contacting you!
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RHP User
13 years ago
i have missed the "attached " bit too....not the end of the world....but yes, it does take off points....one can never be sure, if your wife truly allows you, to play alone...or she doesn't know.....and nobody wants to be the reason for another's heartache....p.s. i am not assuming, by all means, that you are not genuine....just saying, that being attached can complicate things....
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mexicans
13 years ago
The "attached " word keeps coming up , but if in an open relationship , why cant people read passed the attached bit . At least saying "attached " is being honest .
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SexyCheekyFun' Hi Stuart89, All I can say about your profile, is that your profile is aimed at maybe a narrow spectrum of RHP users, maybe try to appeal to a broader amount of users, look carefully at others profiles and see what they are looking for. Thanks for the advice mate. I will work on constructing my profile to appeal to a broader range of users. I will work hard on over the next few days. I appreciate your advice.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Saskia72' You're not living in Melbourne I am living in Melbourne. :D
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