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Meeting alone
May 27 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meet them in person to spot the bullshit, ask questions and their answers & body language. Anyone can lie in-front of a keyboard. It's so competitive for males on here - telling the truth can be not optimum for getting desired results. Other than that there are a few tests you can do before meeting, 1. For spotting someone married or in a relationshipAsk to meet with little notice 2. For spotting the (sexually) strange or incompatibleInsinuate you are up for anything and ask what they'd like to do 3. Personality compatibilityMessage, message & message. Get to know them. You learn from experience.
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RHP User
10 years ago
well you may have to use your other senses ? Intuition ! Gut ! Touch hmmm yeah beats tasting the shit its easy to spot you can usually smell it when its right under your nose . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Say "I'll be about 15 minutes late, is that ok?" If they don't respond, you'll know they have no intention of turning up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with Slickz that sometimes telling the truth won't get the desired results for some individuals, so you'll always get some people who lie. I thought my my bullshit radar was pretty good, but I got well and truly conned by someone when I first joined RHP. It is a case of learning by experience I guess. The overwhelming majority of people I've met here have been awesome, and genuinely have been who they portrayed themselves to be in their profiles, but there's always a chance of running into someone who isn't unfortunately.
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RHP User
10 years ago
They keep checking their phone, and will say something like "I might get a call from my sister/brother/mate as they are looking for a lift into the city". This is so they dont stay too long and arouse suspicions with the other half. I know...it happened to me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My BS detector is alerted when there are contradiction. Ask a question, then follow up questions. Their tone, behavior should show either uncomfortable, contradictory or reluctance to elaborate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Isn't it a much better use of time..... to screen a potential meet.... before.... you decide to meet them to start the process of seeing if they're worth meeting?!!! * ALWAYS have a phone discussion.* IF someone refuses their phone..... I pass. We're all adults in here (even if some people don't act like logical, rational adults) so talking like real adults shouldn't pose a problem. My opinion is that if it does pose a problem, they're just not being honest about something... and say NEXT!!!* Asking a raft of questions can be rather boring, and disjointed, and won't aid in developing interest or a connection. I don't feel its as much about asking questions, as engaging in banter. I feel that if you can have a conversation which flows reasonably well, over say a 20 minute phone call, then, its likely that 20 minutes face to face over a drink will be similarly ok. (set the plans first that its just a drinks meet)... * If you feel you need to ask questions to get conversation going, questions about a persons availability can often give an indication as to their circumstances, commitments and any limitations of knowing them. If you must ask a list of questions, Id suggest questions around what someone has going on in their life will tell you about their commitments, possible relationships, sincerity of opportunity to met, and what the outcome of any meet may be. The advantage if that approach is it gives you natural things to talk about for that 20 minutes. 2c
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RHP User
10 years ago
I look at my phone a lot as I'm quite awkward in a social setting....lol Just ask my wife 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hello everyone... firstly can I just say this has been very educational for me to read all the different views/ opinions that everyone has on the many topics/questions that arise... I'm new to the site and this is my first ever post as shadeylady's question has caught my attention...am very very interested in knowing what everyone else's responses will be especially to have both men and women, young and old willing to share from their own experiences. Keep up the good vibe people n I'll be listening tentatively. ; ) P.S: wifey doesn't know I'm here...All she knows is I'm planning another surprise for her. This could be a good experience or a bad one depending on her reaction...but one thing's for sure, I'm gonna do whatever it takes for her to enjoy this as that is my main focus and motivation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Picking the married/attached who are pretending to be single can be pretty easy ( unless they are fifo workers) the attached only seem to message back during working hours and generally not over the weekends. Plus they will suggest meeting during the day, and push to meet quickly.have no face pic in their private gallery but will offer to send you one to your email. Easy to pick 'em.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Say "I'll be about 15 minutes late, is that ok?" If they don't respond, you'll know they have no intention of turning up. Someone must have told you about a 'no show' since it is hard to believe that you would know of it from personal experience, Meander.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Honestly? I learned that from Mischeviouslad.
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RHP User
10 years ago
what is the worst scenario - you meet up in a public place - you lose a precious hr of your time.all this carry on- If someone cant put their phone on silent or vibrate and give me their full attentionI"m out of there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'xoJulesox' what is the worst scenario - you meet up in a public place - you lose a precious hr of your time.all this carry on- If someone cant put their phone on silent or vibrate and give me their full attentionI"m out of there. Ditto.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can never have a fool proof way of detecting BS. There are those that have been selling the fly covered shit all their lives, you will be lapping up buckets of the stuff and will only find out when you meet by chance someone else that has suffered indigestion from what is being feed to you. Others couldn't sell bullshit to a pregnant dung beetle. On the most part there is a little bit of brown on everyone. That fish they caught the other day is always bigger. Their expertise between the sheets is always better than reality. Why they were the victim at the end of every relationship, when its all their fault. Why their wife does not understand them, is exactly what she does understand. Ask anyone here in the forums. Do you BS? the answer is invariably BS. Does the BS matter if you are going for tea and scones, does the BS matter if you hit it off and need to be pried apart after four days of non stop lust. Does the BS matter if it takes 4 years of love to spot the first fly and realize you are neck deep in shit. If you hit it off you can have the BS detector screaming in your ear, you will just ignore it. For the right someone we will cover BS with our own BS just to make is smell better while you lap it up. You can sit at home wary and avoid the BS or you can go out and enjoy the tea and scones while happily exchanging BS about how much you hate BS and why you never BS. Who knows you may like their brand of BS and have a great time together. Its not the BS that should worry you it whether they are arseholes or not. That is easy to spot, just listen to how they speak about others. Arseholes generally always see the bad in others and terrible at knowing they do. I would rather swim in a sea of bullshit than spend a moment with an arsehole.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was stood up, but I was on my iPhone reading the forums so I didn't mind!
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