Melbourne swingers

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Allow single men. The Shed has open nights (couples,mingle men, women) but the men far outnumber the women. As a woman it can be intimidating or as n my case, I'm considered a bitch because I will speak my mind and be abrupt and call men out on their behaviour. Your best option will be to establish a FWB or FB relationship and have someone to go with! Parties can be confronting for the uninitiated! As a 'couple' you would have access to all public parties and may even go to some private parties if you're interested. Goodluck Mary xx

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  DynamicCouple36

  9 years ago

  Based on our experience (in Melbourne) over the past 3 years, we are able to comment as follows:- 1.There are several “swingers clubs” in an around Melbourne that allow “single” males in on a regular basis (you may find them advertised in the events section on RHP). They generally always charge a much higher “admission fee” for the “single” males than they do for couples and or single females. For example one club charges $70 for a couple but $350 for a “single” male. Another house based swingers club/party (in the SE suburbs) charges $30 for a couple and $80 for a “single” male. Females are the “bait” used to lure the paying males into the establishment, with the hopes of getting some action. The swingers clubs are in it for one thing, and that is to make money. 2.As the clubs are there to make money, and due to the fact that they make a lot more $ off the “single” males, they generally (at least those that we have been to) allow a high number of “single” males in by %/ratio to females/couples. At the house party/club in the SE subs, we counted 38 “single” males to just 4 couples. 2 of the couples were the hosts, and so that left just us and a couple we know from RHP. The result of this was that the “single” males spent considerable time “hovering” around us, as we sat chatting with the couple that we knew. We made it very clear that neither of us would be playing (for obvious reasons) and it was not long before the “single” males, realizing that they would not be getting any action, became aggro and started demanding their money back from the hosts. 3.Paying an “admission fee” only guarantees you entry into the venue. It does not guarantee you a grope. It does not guarantee you a BJ. It does not guarantee you sex. 4.Be prepared for “stiff” competition. We counted 57 “single” males, to just a handful of couples, at a club we used to go to. It was obvious, due to the high ratios, that the majority of the “single” males would not be getting any action (for the $100 they had paid to get in) and that was when things started to become unpleasant, and the males resorted to following the women to the toilets, hiding in the shadows and groping/soliciting them when they walked past (happened to us several times in one evening). The result of this was that we, and a number of other couples that we know, simply stopped going to the club on those nights that “single” males were allowed in, or simply stopped (in our case) going to the club completely. The last Saturday of every month was couples night only, and we tried that a few times. It was not long before management was left with a club filled with “single” males, and realizing that the “bait” (goose that laid the golden egg) had been chased away, management had to review their policy with regards the ratio of “single” males to females and settle for making a little less money. 5.There are clubs/parties that cater for those women who enjoy several men at one time (gang bangs) but be prepared to stand in a queue to get ones “piece of meat” . 6.Private parties are generally the way to go. You may find some advertised in the events section of RHP. Some will be paid parties whilst others will be free. Some will allow “single” males , in varying numbers, whilst others will be couples only. We have been to 4 paid, private parties (over the past 3 years) , that had only 1-3 single males per 15 couples. We attended 2 private “free” parties (invite only) that were for couples only, the first being on NYE 2014 and the 2nd on NYE 2015. We found them to be a lot more intimate as we knew the other couples, having met them before, and so for us, those kinds of parties are the preferred option. And there was never any pressure to play. 7.In order to increase your chances of success, at a swingers club/party, it is important that you do not have an attitude of expectancy or entitlement. It would be advantageous to be well groomed, pay meticulous attention to personal hygiene and to approach couples in a respectful and polite manner, engaging them in intelligent conversation as opposed to “How R U, hot body, wanna fuck?” . Be tactful, be gentle. 8.We have moved away from the swingers club / paid party scene completely, as money at those venues is the driving factor and we prefer something that is more sensual, personal and well controlled/vetted. You might find that you have more “success” if you approach couples on here, who may be looking to experience a MFM. It all depends on what your priorities and needs are, and of course why you are in on all of this in the first place. Is it all about your pleasure and an “easy root” or are you after something more?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  ok thanks for your help I might try and find a fwb to go with seems like the easiest way any ladies interested ?

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  DynamicCouple36

  9 years ago

  It's poor swingers etiquette to find a woman, solely as a means to get into a swingers club/party and to then, once through the doors, revert to a single male. That will get you booted out as soon as people notice you are now playing as a single - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  And then some :) I've been to nearly all "commercial" parties allowing single men in Vic, short of a those with a stricter physique requirement. I was like you (the OP) a year ago, a first timer, and going to these parties is a case of "jumping in the deep end". But if you're respectful and conversational, you will put yourself above many other men and make connections, and more also likely to be able to play on the night. Some parties I won't return to, one has become my favourite and I never miss it. And each party varies between nights, so I've been to all at least twice. Eventually you will find the ones that most suit your liking, and interests. I've had private encounters with single couples, but I can't vouch for private invite only gatherings of other groups. But even if I managed to go to a party with 1-3 single men and 15 couples, I'm guessing I would probably feel like an odd one out. Yes it costs to go to many parties, but so do other life opportunities. I've been speed dating etc and paid similar amounts. As can sharing a meal and a motel room. I now have female friends indicating an interest to go to parties with me. But what we are both looking for (a range of singles and couples, even/low prices to cover costs, no pressure), I have no such places to take them. So as a single or with a friend, unless you want to start your own events, you will have to deal with what is on offer, or just stay home.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  so i'm not welcome then even with a partner makes one feel really unwelcome I should probably stay away then

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  MsJonesy

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'hornygs' so i'm not welcome then even with a partner makes one feel really unwelcome I should probably stay away then I think the point that was being is that some men get a chick to help get them into the club, then split from them. Some have even paid escorts to ensure they can get in the door. If you attend with an fb, fwb, close friend, partner.... you get the drift.... then you would be fine.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  My FB and I are currently looking for a good swingers party in Melbourne.... hope to see you somewhere there hornygsQuoting 'hornygs' so i'm not welcome then even with a partner makes one feel really unwelcome I should probably stay away then My FB and I are currently looking for a good swingers party in Melbourne, I've never been before.... hope to see you somewhere hornygs ;)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Kissk and Dynamic couple have succinctly pointed out, plainly speaking don't use the chick you are going with to simply get into an event. As a 'couple' you'd be always welcome! When you get into an event act like a 'couple' and not as a horny single bloke! We have seen men behave that way, and it is obvious and people will steer clear of you! Also, treat your 'date' with care and courtesy at swingers parties, that speaks volumes about you as a person! I've been at the receiving end of a 'date' not treating me as I would like - I dont hesitate to walk away! Be aware, if your date leaves a function early, you have to as well, you don't get to stay at the event! MY EXPERIENCE has been that all swingers events I've attended are friendly places, you may have sex with others or you may have sex only with your 'date'. What people won't tolerate is behaviour that is rude, arrogant or signs of entitlement! Goodluck, Mary xx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' It's poor swingers etiquette to find a woman, solely as a means to get into a swingers club/party and to then, once through the doors, revert to a single male. That will get you booted out as soon as people notice you are now playing as a single - Posted from rhpmobile We've seen a few pay rent for an hour ,,,, once entry is given the paid employee leaves and soon after the single male gets evicted.A really cool plan for stupid single males. One has to ask ,,, why would a committed married couple put up with it? "etiquette" was mentioned ,,, this post demonstrates a lack of it. It's no wonder that genuine couples stay away from parties that charge high prices for single male entrance ,,,, the single male thinks he's owed something!!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I think it's a bit rude that some are judging me when you have never met me or even spoken to me ever I understand that there have been a few single males that have acted like dickheads in the past that's fair enough but it is unfair to assume we are all going to act lie that. If show up with a lady partner I would treat her with respect and look after her as if she was my wife for the whole night and I don't drink or do drugs so think next time before you judge someone

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Traum246' It's no wonder that genuine couples stay away from parties that charge high prices for single male entrance ,,,, the single male thinks he's owed something!! True-ish... For the record, I never think I'm owed anything at a party. But I'm happy to pay for "play parties". The play parties I really like, do still have a reasonable (but not excessive) entry. I know now which ones are well hosted and well vetted. But the couples that go actually want that kind of activity (extra men), and they are certainly genuine couples. They just have different interests. Also, from my talks, some of them have found singles to be easier to get along with, for various reasons. So every type of party will attract some and repel others. There's no "perfect" party which will cater to the likes of all individuals/couples.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  And not a comment on you as a person! I was making statements about my experiences and things to avoid to help you transition into the swingers lifestyle as a single man :) Mary xx

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