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Men (and boys ) of RHP

March 25 2014

There may be other threads that have touched on this subject previously but I am going there again with the intentions of trying to get through! Guys of RHP. Does it ever occur to you to talk in person to the one you are reaching out to! Why do you endlessly text even when asked not to! What is wrong with verbal communication, are you dumbstruck? Can you only converse with your finger tips? Heaven knows, I have used more technology and machines than most of you put together! I am no gadget virgin. Someone once delivered a pizza to where I work and said it looked like the deck of a space ship. Please, stop bugging us with messages, talk to us with your vocal chords, let us hear the sincerity (or lack of) in your voices.

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  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    11 years ago

    As far as I'm concerned modern technology is no form of communication when initially starting to chat to someone. I still have a fax machine, I prefer a fax to an email in my business. We are given a voice for a reason so I prefer to use it. You can tell so much in such a short time by talking to someone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I Hate typing . It's not long before I ask for a phone number so that I can use the gift of voice . Words flow more freely from my mouth than from my fingertips . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If they txt they control the conversation, they can think between replies and carefully steer the conversation they way they want. If they actually talk, as in verbalise, they have to think quick and some can't do that, especially if they are trying to hide something! And of course it is safer to text, it can be done anywhere out of sight. But if you are talking of the phone the wife my ask who you are talking to .... lol Mooks

  • Violetincredible

    Violetincredible

    11 years ago

    I only do text and much prefer it that way unless its prearranged and I know the person really well. I hate it when people call and expect me to talk whenever they feel like it. Xxviolet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Could sound like micky mouse. And I don't ever meet unless I have had a phone talk. And never send anything that may get you in trouble if there is a kid,or wife on the other end of that phone. Or even a work phone I have known of Places where work phones are shared.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Could sound like micky mouse. And I don't ever meet unless I have had a phone talk. And never send anything that may get you in trouble if there is a kid,or wife on the other end of that phone. Or even a work phone I have known of Places where work phones are shared.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Could sound like micky mouse. And I don't ever meet unless I have had a phone talk. And never send anything that may get you in trouble if there is a kid,or wife on the other end of that phone. Or even a work phone I have known of Places where work phones are shared.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Rhp wouldn't even hook up a mike to this set up so we could play some music for any who may listen, hardly let us all have a voice for reason, just got to type, you sexy sophisticated cougar da lady. I yelled from the roof top, listen did you hear it? Mado Mado Tara xx

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Some guys are guilty of TOO MUCH calling..... to me... text is a way to (occasionally) speak directly to the creative side of someones brain, because written messages are perceived slightly differently to audible ones. But theres always a place for both. Personally, Id rather speak to someone while theyre WITH me. DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    not sad, true unfortunately for the majority

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Violetincredible' I only do text and much prefer it that way unless its prearranged and I know the person really well. I hate it when people call and expect me to talk whenever they feel like it. Unexpected phone calls can come at the most inappropriate times. At least with texting you can continue on with what you are doing and reply when you can. And as DG said, I'd rather speak to someone while they are with me!

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Tennis texting bores the absolute crap out of me. After a while I have to say...phone chat?? Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    maybe some men get nervous, and a little shy at times, maybe?? I mean, guys have the same feelings and emotions as us women do, I know I get nervous sometimes and probably a little shy....so why can't men have those same emotions too. I mean, some men on here after a while must loose their confidence with the competition on here and the statistics they way they are...meaning 200 men to one woman (taking a guess). Not all guys have that cocky confidence or ego driven as some on here...yeah?? So texting for them is easier..I assume?? Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    text too. Although I hate too many of those also. My preference is to meet asap so I know sooner rather than later if we click. I don't like wasting people's time, I don't have time to waste mine. It is usually sexual crap about how good they are anyway, I can do without the bullshit, the proof is in the pudding!

  • lovman8

    lovman8

    11 years ago

    I prefer talking to texting but find texting is great way to see if a call is convenient . And I agree that some phone contact is a good way of checking if we are both interested in taking it to an actual meeting. So cougar whats your number???

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' maybe some men get nervous, and a little shy at times, maybe?? I mean, guys have the same feelings and emotions as us women do, I know I get nervous sometimes and probably a little shy....so why can't men have those same emotions too. I mean, some men on here after a while must loose their confidence with the competition on here and the statistics they way they are...meaning 200 men to one woman (taking a guess). Not all guys have that cocky confidence or ego driven as some on here...yeah?? So texting for them is easier..I assume?? Foxy You ladies on here are all-woman so sexy, that defies the odds. Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Personally, I don't like phone calls. I never get privacy to talk. Yes my partner knows I'm here, but my kids don't. And those little munchkins track me like a sniffer dog. Text lets me continue a conversation as I can, and then I would meet face to face in a public place. I just feel like an idiot on the phone, unable to have a conversation without those body language prompts we all use. Each to their own I guess. If it works for me, it won't work for someone else.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    i think that at the beginning it is probably more appropriate to message each other as it saves any awkward pauses on the phone since you may not be that comfortable yet. i also think it is more convenient for both parties as neither side is forced to drop what they are doing to have a proper conversation (as in it doesn't interfere too much with each persons lives) That being said, once a level of comfortableness is established and conversation is flowing, i would expect conversations to begin taking place verbally on the phone, it adds a level of personability (?) to the conversations and you can begin to understand the other person more. (keeping in mind, im referring to the odd conversation here and there.... texting would still be, and always will be appropriate and more convenient) IMO of course :) Jarrad x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I don't really like tennis texting... unless i know them well (otherwise people think too much about what to type) Once I was scrubbed in theatre, a nurse answered my phone for me and took a message.... for a booty call... and then proceeded to read out the message :/Not so cool lol. Pre-arranged calls always (for me).

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'ktulu100' I don't really like tennis texting... unless i know them well (otherwise people think too much about what to type) Once I was scrubbed in theatre, a nurse answered my phone for me and took a message.... for a booty call... and then proceeded to read out the message :/Not so cool lol. Pre-arranged calls always (for me). It would have been cool if you had the nurse ring her back and explain why she was calling. I bet your team stirred the shit right to the end, what nick name did you cop for that fuck up? Mado Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I want to hear a voice.....you can tell so much not just from words,but from the tone and intonations....I understand that some research would indicate that the deeper the voice the higher the level of testosterone.....beware of the thin thready voice:-) :-) xxQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Forums these days always seem to be: "why do men always do this" or "why are women always like that" I think it's far more likely, that 1/ the person who posted this thread is a woman who prefers talking to texting, 2/ she converses with men who just on average (law of probabilities) prefer to text more than her, so then 3/ she has made a connection between men wanting too text more than talk This could have just as easily been posted by a man with the same feedback saying, "why do all woman text not talk" I would much prefer pulling the sexual (male/female) context out of it...ie., "what is wrong with some people....they only want to text not talk etc".. I hate the boys lining up on one side of the room and the girls on the other like a school disco. EVERYONE is individual, and surely that's why we are on RHP rather than some vanilla/conventional/Disney forum? My 10 cents worth....hate the boys versus girls stuff....thought that had been left at primary school :-) S

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have slight hearing loss and it can be difficult for me to hear on the phone and I have trouble following what is being said to me, which makes conversing difficult and makes me sound stupid. I do understand why people want to talk though, it's a screening method for some people. Another reason for texting is that it is easier to be discreet, it's too easy to be overheard by children, clients or workmates. None of whom need to know! Lastly, my Hubby gets enjoyment from sneaking my phone and reading my texts. I wouldn't want to deny him of the opportunity to share ;P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If I have the opportunity to talk to someone, I will always text first and ask if it is okay to call. I love talking, though, as it tests your verbal dexterity as you struggle for witty innuendo. You tend to be able to "get away" with far mor on text, as you can use a smilie face to soften a statement. In a telephone conversation, while you can use your voice, you would very seldom use the same remarks as you would Ina text.. In many cases that would be audacious and even arrogant. For me, however, a good chat beats the hell out of one hundred messages... Judge

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    Txting is the best way to over think things, get things so out of proportion, where words are twisted around and friendships can be lost and shattered.... I was once a txt addict... But really its a waste of time and energy.... I have so many other important things to do with my time, and if you want to contact me, phone me and speak to me or face time me...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Totally disagree I don't want them to call me at all / txting is the only way I want it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Stufu1969' Forums these days always seem to be: "why do men always do this" or "why are women always like that" I think it's far more likely, that 1/ the person who posted this thread is a woman who prefers talking to texting, 2/ she converses with men who just on average (law of probabilities) prefer to text more than her, so then 3/ she has made a connection between men wanting too text more than talk This could have just as easily been posted by a man with the same feedback saying, "why do all woman text not talk" I would much prefer pulling the sexual (male/female) context out of it...ie., "what is wrong with some people....they only want to text not talk etc".. I hate the boys lining up on one side of the room and the girls on the other like a school disco. EVERYONE is individual, and surely that's why we are on RHP rather than some vanilla/conventional/Disney forum? My 10 cents worth....hate the boys versus girls stuff....thought that had been left at primary school :-) S and show me your good bits , that's all you guys are good for anyway Lady T keeping the gender war alive and well

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I don't have a problem with phone calls....just text me first!! Don't expect me to drop my life because you are hot and horny. I cringe at a spontaneous phone call. I don't want my kids and friends overhearing things they don't need to know about. and like others have posted, I like my husband reading my text if he wants to.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Thanks for the input from you all, and MADO, yes I bloody well heard you shouting,why didn't you just text me? All jokes aside, a couple of texts initially is fine, but when it runs into 6' 7' 8 plus, that's it for me. If a guy is shy, he can say so. If it is inconvenient to talk at a particular time, he can make an arranged time to call ( away from his nosey family ). Methinks that some people just like text affairs. DCB, the tired old button pusher.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If you are even remotely serious the more personal forms of communication are a necessity and need to be practiced early on. I absolutely would seek a phone number from a lady within 2 days max if I liked what I was reading. And giving me your number is an invitation to call unless stated otherwise in my book.. - Posted from rhpmobile