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Men only- Finding Mrs Right

July 28 2015

Following on from my topic the other week in which I asked the women here, how many sites do they need to be on in their search for the playmates and a recent discussion I had with my FWB, I am asking what type of site that they would think they would search and find for their next foray into a long term relationship. Her thinking was that she would not think it possible that she would find anyone suitable on a sex site such as RHP.My side of the discussion was based on the fact that if you had gone through the selection process, found a playmate that ticked all your boxes, loved all the sex acts that you did, loved experimenting, found them great in and out of the bed, why would you not consider them for a long term relationship? Or would you prefer finding Mrs Vanilla, ditch any history and links to your foray into a sex site and just hope she likes sex in the manner that you would like? Hoping she might like to indulge in anal sex, deep throat you and swallow the big load? Perhaps take the risk and train her to be what you like without the history that she may have had with the dozens of guys in here? And god forbid, perhaps mention that you might like to try a threesome with her cute friend? Now I have split the topic into men and womens so as responses dont get skewed by the opposite sex's responses. So be yourself. Pretend you are in SMB and speak your thoughts. I know the topic has been done before but thought I'd take the split approach. Repeat, MEN only post here

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RHP User

9 years ago

is that people seem to use a different criteria to search for their mrs/mr right....why I don't know; as I'd have thought everyone would start off at the same level of potential dependant on context. But for me; you've already described it in your op Annie...if I want to hang around with them outside the bedroom as much as in and everything easy and not fuelling any anxieties or insecurities then I'm all for having a long term relationship with them....I'd be mad not to... Once again though context dependant would see that if said partner was married or similar well then that's just not possible unless it's a consented poly relationship. But for most I assume most wouldn't be poly and that the sex has an expiry date at some point.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Pops head in and flashes a boob... Because I can 😜

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RHP User

9 years ago

I see nipple people 😍😍 What?? It's supposed to be nippy?? Oh dear....oh well 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

9 years ago

Female badass......

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madotara69

9 years ago

I found Mrs Right and walked in hand in hand with her, well not sure where our hands were but.... Mado Mado Tara xx

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RHP User

9 years ago

The thing is. The people on here are no different to the people who aren't. Rhp is an adult dating site so people - which means people are going to be upfront on this site and then reserved on their other 6 sites/apps. This is why I am only on RHP, I can't handle that paradox. Now back to your question - for myself, RHP isn't the best site to find a relationship. I am male and I am 25, I am better off using Tinder or OKcupid. Far too much competition and i am not one to adjust my image or personality to improve my chances. Also the idea of messaging X amount of people to get X/10 amount of replies seems a little exhausting. If I was female - there would be a lot of weeding, but you are garranteed to find some gems in here.

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RHP User

9 years ago

I believe there are many potential Mrs Rights and you have to make it work. Many people who you could potentially live happily ever after with just whether you work hard enough to make it work. You can find her anywhere too, really comes down to your frame of mind and absolutely depends on timing. One year it wouldn't work but the next after life experience and changes you could be a perfect match. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

.... if an interesting physical relationship ticks the boxes for your true 'fit' ... then it stands to reason that they are prequalified here .... being overly prequalified may be an issue to some ... the rest of us say yum ;) ... but I doubt whether you'd get away with asking on Vanilla dating.com do you ... oral, anal, other ... as a man, without being crucified just outside town.

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RHP User

9 years ago

I can't add to your response. My attitude in a nutshell. I found one of these Mrs Rights once, but it wasn't the right time... - Posted from rhpmobile

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TallBaldSexy

9 years ago

i just like to fuck!

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RHP User

9 years ago

I need a partner to accept me the way I am. If I have non-vanilla interests (perhaps recently discovered), and specific (but vanilla) lifestyle choices, it would be rare to deliberately or accidentally find a suitable match on regular dating sites, which I do still search on occasionally. And in general, I would like my partner to have an open mind which extends to all areas of life. So as well as exploring various fantasies of my own, helping with other people's fantasies, spending time with any Miss Right Now's that I happen to be lucky enough to find, my ultimate goal is to find love (again). Yes, on what many label as a "sex site". It is certainly possible for a Miss Right "Now" to become a Miss Right "for a much longer time". In general though, I think that many women are scared off "relationships" because they fear it will inhibit their freedom and flexibility. In my opinion, a relationship should enhance and broaden your life experiences, not limit them. The right guy will give the lady any freedoms she needs, while she is still willing to be committed to maintaining the relationship with you.

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RHP User

9 years ago

all this vanilla many seem to preach of and speak about.apart from not having the need to talk about sexual experiences and kinks - 24/7I can't see many differences.the majority i have met are not the vanilla they are portrayed to beto me it seems some rhper's think they have joined some exclusive club membershipjust my observation of the forum- and i just don't agree or recognise it!

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AnnieWhichway

9 years ago

I am not putting down or bashing the "Vanilla" sites. Nothing wrong with them. And any of us here could go to one and perhaps enjoy the experience. And vice versa whereas a person with no kinks can come to RHP and engage in whatever level of sex they are happy with. And seek a normal relationship. And they may or may not be pissed that i start my sentences with an And whenever it suits.... i dont think I'm in an exclusive rhp club but well aware that the vanilla sites do not cater for certain genre of people and those seeking certain kinks and fetishes. Last time i checked not many have options for me or those seeking me. Havnt seen any selection boxes for couple swapping, gang bangs, hotwives - should i go on. Just because you may not be seeking those options does not make it the same as those others. But the added bonus being if you do not seek those extras, you can still get a great fuck on here. Even bigger bonus you may be able to sidestep the several social dates to get that fuck. Just my observation. Annie xx

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RHP User

9 years ago

To be honest she could be just about anywhere. Don't know if I'd say Mrs right but more Mrs really happy and comfortable to be around. I must say the only difference I have found seeking her on this site apposed to vanilla site is I got far more responses from the vanilla sites. But this vanilla thing bugs me a bit. I know some freaky girls on vanilla sites that would be right at home here but it is not for them. I have found it amusing here the talk of vanilla when lets face it so much is vanilla these days. I think if you do find the one some compromise is needed sexually for we all have fetishes others are not into.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Hunting for miss right is a sign of desperation, and a waste of good rooting time so I don't use this or any other site to look for someone. People just happen, you bump into them as you do your thing. The online dating game adds an uncomfortable level of expectation, they end up bullshitting you before you even meet, trying to impress so you wont bail. Its fake and pointless and I am so over it. So much easier just to meet someone somewhere by pure chance, talk, spill all the dirty secrets, at the end of the night she is still talking and you are still interested. If she is still by your side in the morning then its a score and maybe she will want to do it again, and with luck so do you. Is she vanilla or deviant it really does not mater as you have already worked out you get along. You may not even have had sex yet, she may not even know the size of your cock or that you like country music and motorbikes. I know its very old fashioned, but the online dating game takes all the fun out of meeting people. So vanilla or sex site, i am only there to find people that want to play and I will find friends and lovers the way its always been done, by pure random luck.

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RHP User

9 years ago

I'm not here for Mrs Right, I don't want a Mrs Right, I would like Mrs Wrong, very, very, wrong.

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