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Men....do you have a biological clock?
February 04 2013
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GezWouldGo
12 years ago
The only clock I've got is the alarm. And it sounds bloody rude at 5.10 in the morning !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Fascinating topic, and neatly articulated (I'm jealous).I always thought of the purely biological aspect of the biological clock - that at some point, for women, having children would become biologically impossible (and less predictable and safe before that). But then as my circle moved into 'the zone', the emotional and cultural elements have come out more strongly. For some women, there seems to be a deep 'need' to have children, at an emotional level'. For others, I think (outside looking in), its more to do with cultural norms (really) or at least that's how it appears.But, to your questions:1) do some women give off the "mother of your children" vibes? Yes. And more than vibes - they're explicit. Others are more subtle, or less "mothering" but still quite maternal.2) is it something that you feel you want to experience with someone you truly love deeply?I have (had offspring in a long term stable relationship), and I have to confess it was more "part of the package", than my own strong desire to do so (I wouldn't, for a millisecond, consider undoing it) and it is certainly the reserve of only those in a very stable, committed relationship (and even then, that may not be enough).3) or is it a way of making you feel like "the man" by spreading your seed? This question is almost beyond my comprehension. There are enough other ways for me to boost my fragile ego and demonstrate my manliness in this world without ruining the lives of others (mothers, children) to do it.4) is it a power thing where you get to control someone by taking away their financial independence and making them homebound with kids?Again, mind-boggling. Do people really think like this? If so, I'm glad I don't know them. In any case, I'm attracted to strong, independent women.And to the opening question... do men have a biological clock.Well, "biologically", not really - a 90-yo's semen is still dangerous, but it's quality does decrease over time, just not as markedly as women's fertility.Emotionally? Maybe... I'd almost call it the reverse. It's a more a biological countdown. Until it goes off, they aren't emotionally ready. At least, that's my observation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
poonwouldgo - LOL.... I hear ya. It's the only clock I hear these days too! Messolonghi Great answer, thank you. To quote part of a private message I received from a friend: "In my opinion some women give off more "motherly" or caring vibes as you put it than others. .................... I think also your shape and form also gives out cues that could be interpreted as caring and motherly. Remember I said I thought you had a waist to hip ratio close to the ideal which turned out to be close to spot on. That is an unconcious trigger in men to signify health and fertility. Put that together with a guy(s) who are predisposed toward "nesting" and you may be getting the responses you have suggested." I didn't know about this formula (.7%) until you mentioned it and it was fun working it out with a tape measure....LOL So I guess it's not all in my head and there is some natural selection going on here either consciously or unconsciously. SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
is the only biological clock that matters to men. Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, there was a time when everything in a skirt was the potential mother of my next child. It wasn't really an internal clock that brought that to an end, it was the doctor's scalpel.
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RHP User
12 years ago
to be immortal,and so far the only chance we have.Perhaps it is also a little narcisistic ,the desire for a mini me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So my question is: - do some women give off the "mother of your children" vibes? ...well the mother of my children did... and my wife does now, but age kinda ruins that one........ - is it something that you feel you want to experience with someone you truely love deeply? its probably the one thing that we wish we could share, but wont...so we make up for that by being the best partner the other has ever had... - or is it a way of making you feel like "the man" by spreading your seed? .... no..theres no feeling like the 'man'.... its much too important a thing for it to be about that...this is 'creating life'....and holding your newborn is an incredibly emotional, poignant moment...it makes you feel.....humbled.....and real..... - is it a power thing where you get to control someone by taking away their financial independence and making them homebound with kids? ...i cant answer this....as its a question thats so..... off....no one thinks like this, do they? really?
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madotara69
12 years ago
Use the Rhythm technique, guaranteed to have a few kids. hehe
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' So my question is: - do some women give off the "mother of your children" vibes? ...well the mother of my children did... and my wife does now, but age kinda ruins that one........ - is it something that you feel you want to experience with someone you truely love deeply? its probably the one thing that we wish we could share, but wont...so we make up for that by being the best partner the other has ever had... - or is it a way of making you feel like "the man" by spreading your seed? .... no..theres no feeling like the 'man'.... its much too important a thing for it to be about that...this is 'creating life'....and holding your newborn is an incredibly emotional, poignant moment...it makes you feel.....humbled.....and real..... - is it a power thing where you get to control someone by taking away their financial independence and making them homebound with kids? ...i cant answer this....as its a question thats so..... off....no one thinks like this, do they? really? Nice reply Mike. Shel is a very lucky lady The last question is really a red herring. It came to me when thinking of the movie Barefoot and Pregnant in the Kitchen (I think that was the title - a real oldie). There are some cultures that still consider that women are for bearing children and domestic housework and to be subserviant and are not allowed to make decisions for themselves. Unfortunately this attitude does still exist in some 3rd world countries.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But there are actually man out there who run around willy nilly creating babies with several different women, and this is aside from the ones who have a family, get divorced and then start another family(nothing wrong with that). I don't believe for most it would be an attempt to see how many women they can impregnate, more just a lazy attitude towards birth control, accidents and not really giving a crap as long as they get their leg over. But for god sakes if you aren't in love with the person and don't see yourself sticking around to bring up a child let the woman know, then she can make a truly informed choice as to whether or not she wants to have the child... for those of you who don't agree with termination, sorry, just tired of seeing totally dysfunctional families who don't take good care of their kids. As with pets, a child is for life...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Saskia72'But there are actually man out there who run around willy nilly creating babies with several different women, and this is aside from the ones who have a family, get divorced and then start another family(nothing wrong with that). I don't believe for most it would be an attempt to see how many women they can impregnate, more just a lazy attitude towards birth control, accidents and not really giving a crap as long as they get their leg over. But for god sakes if you aren't in love with the person and don't see yourself sticking around to bring up a child let the woman know, then she can make a truly informed choice as to whether or not she wants to have the child... for those of you who don't agree with termination, sorry, just tired of seeing totally dysfunctional families who don't take good care of their kids. As with pets, a child is for life... but do we really call males like this 'men'.... i wouldnt.... i cant imagine having kids.....and not being connected to them in the most profound of ways...... why are some men this way? have they not grown up?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I haven't even worn a watch for over twenty years!! Sorry OP, I can't help with this one. I decided along time ago not to have children and the parental urge has never struck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...inasmuch as I never went through a "I've *got* to have kids" phase. I was happy to have them, though, and wouldn't change it for the world.However, I'm done breeding. There's no way in hell I'd even consider having another.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Awesome interesting topic OP..- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
And I was curious what answers you would get
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' sitting down, popcorn in hand...watching this tread!Awesome interesting topic OP.. Moving over to the couch too! It's more comfy ..... SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well looks like the biological clock has timed out on this one! SFxx
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