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Men's orgasms.....

September 13 2015

Apologies if this has been posted before... please don't roll your eyes at me if it has lol!!! Having recently come out of a 15 year relationship, I decided to play the field a bit and see what was out there... I have been with three guys and had sex with two.. One had trouble getting it up so nothing ended up happening, the other two came without me even realizing it was happening! My ex used to have what seemed like very long and delicious orgasms (he would give me a run for his money lol)... I was surprised with how short these guys orgasms were, and the fact that I didn't really know till it was practically over.. There was a lot of fun had, don't get me wrong... however perhaps l was a bit spoilt with my ex, and it's not that common for guys to have long orgasms?? Just thinking about the two similar experiences I have had in a row has me wondering... Bearing in mind it's been a very long time since I had been with another man.....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    If they were younger they may not have been able to last as long let alone, hold their orgasm in. Either way both should be looked at as a compliment to you!! If he can last longer, he is savouring the moment with you, If he can't get it up, your beauty makes him nervous, if he cums quick, you are good at your craft ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    tend to last for only 10 seconds, depends on the sex its self though. Anymore than 10 and i get all twitchy and shivery, Which I like, But its rare.

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    9 years ago

    You had a couple of sharpshooters! If they come and you don't know about it, there's an issue... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    9 years ago

    I've found that's the norm, men seem to cum easily and quickly and mostly quietly.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    You can usually tell theyve hit the jackpot when they stop. But seriously Beelicious, youve gone from making love with a long term partner, to having a bit of fun with guys you dont know so well. Totally different ball game with knowing someones body intimately really. They probably werent as verbal with letting you know that they were close. So when they came you thought it was a quick orgasm for them. Some are verbal and some are quiet.They could even be a little shy the first time and hold back. Everyone is different but they all reached their destination. So thats the main thing.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Missb72' I've found that's the norm, men seem to cum easily and quickly and mostly quietly. I've found that's the norm for most men too.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Enjoy the ride, I've been where you are and it's a lot of fun ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    9 years ago

    There has to be noise involved - I'm a screamer!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Ya gotta have a bit of noise from your fella's. hearing them moan and groan at the final hurdle is a turn on.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    Sounds to me like your ex understood the difference between orgasm, and ejaculation..... and the new guys don't - Posted from rhpmobile

  • TallBaldSexy

    TallBaldSexy

    9 years ago

    I'm a moaning all the way........who cares about the neighbours, even the ones across the street

  • Enjoylifealways

    Enjoylifealways

    9 years ago

    My hubby and the last man I was with apart from him lasted a long time and you defiantly know they have cum. They had long delicious orgasms . My hubby can last longer than me ;)

  • Funjam1

    Funjam1

    9 years ago

    For me it's a long build up , I have to make sure my partner has cum before me. But when I do cum , loud and long . So if I have a partner who is quick to cum , it's going to be a while before I do . Guys who cum quick with no noise , are sexually immature . It's about the journey , not the destination .

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    to be reserved the first time or 3. All sex has a learning curve. As you go through the curve inhibitions and reservations disappear and the moans and groans will be free to flow. Just one of the negatives of one night stands. Annie

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    9 years ago

    One night stand or not, when I'm about to cum the person I'm with at the time will very definitely know about it!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    There are announcements. .......and there are announcments. I dont get the operatic notes out till i know my audience. Perhaps saves a pillow over me head to muffle an unexpected high note

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Clearly wise beyond your years!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Thanks for your comments every one... very helpful and insightful! Gave me a good chuckle 'Whateverway'!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Sharing is caring. More often than not I will orgasm every time. It seems to have gotten better as I get older. I feel myself building up and hold onto it. Then once my partner in crime is finishec I literally let loose. My legs are the dead giveaway. They shake like no tomorrow. My penis becomes super hard and super sensitive and my muscles restrict causing me to grip tightly whatever is in my hands, usually hair... But wow. I couldnt do any of that silently.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    i tend to moan loud as I orgasm which turns into a lions roar lol It wasn't until I had 3sums and group sex that I learnt it's not the norm for other guys - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Enjoylifealways

    Enjoylifealways

    9 years ago

    I got one of the wham bam boys :( I new he cum but it didn't take long and he did it twice and couldn't get out the door fast enough .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    With the couples I have played with the guys involved didn't seem to cum quickly. I'm thinking the quickest any of them came was probably 20 mins into it. With me, I probably take too long. I know my ex used to get frustrated with me as I really needed to go through all the motions to have an orgasm, whereas she mostly just wanted a quickie. Some times I wondered if she was really the man and I was the women in the bedroom as the stereotypes didn't align with us. It all comes down to the person you are partnering with I suppose. My ex seemed to only ever want quickies, whereas I love a marathon, so logic tells me we were incompatible. As someone else said, I would take it as a compliment if they came early, the pleasure was too great for them :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    One guy I had the mis-fortune of sleeping with used to say "cop this" every time he came. Not a fan of silent men, but god I wished he would shut up.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'richardsam33' With the couples I have played with the guys involved didn't seem to cum quickly. I'm thinking the quickest any of them came was probably 20 mins into it. With me, I probably take too long. I know my ex used to get frustrated with me as I really needed to go through all the motions to have an orgasm, whereas she mostly just wanted a quickie. Some times I wondered if she was really the man and I was the women in the bedroom as the stereotypes didn't align with us. It all comes down to the person you are partnering with I suppose. My ex seemed to only ever want quickies, whereas I love a marathon, so logic tells me we were incompatible. As someone else said, I would take it as a compliment if they came early, the pleasure was too great for them :) I think you could get another bit of self praise in there... if you tried just a little harder.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I think you could get another bit of self praise in there... if you tried just a little harder. I prefer to let other people blow my trumpet

  • davek75

    davek75

    9 years ago

    For my first input on the forum. I really think woman loose sight on how other worldly it feels inside them. It takes a lot of will power to stay in control ladies! Sometimes it changes on the day, I know there as been times with the first thrust I'm struggling for control. In the perfect world I'd stay in control until my lover was more than satisfied. As for the quiet orgasms if I feel that I haven't satisfied her then yes I will be quiet and hide in the corner of the room.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    That'd be why you warned them about stretch marks around their mouth.... right?!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Years of keeping quiet so as not to wake children also meant I was a silent cummer. It took a long time for me to find my voice after divorce.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    You know, I was reading through this and the common thread is that we are all different. I've been with women who climax as they are entered, (she was embarrassed and actually apologised for cumming too quickly - I on the other hand LOVED it lol) and others who find it incredibly difficult to cum, and everything in between. Personally I would cum within about a minute (especially after she has pleasured me with her mouth or hand) But I control myself to maximise her pleasure. One favourite technique is to change things around, swap positions or eat her between fucking...... As for my thoughts, I suppose the natural characteristic (from when we descended from apes) is for the male to cum quickly to impregnate the female. As we have evolved further sex is now more so for pleasure than procreation, so technique and mutual pleasure is far more important, as is love making..... So Bee, enjoy the ride, enjoy the variation, the discovery, the exploration....... that's what make it exciting eh???

  • social_suicide

    social_suicide

    9 years ago

    So I can take 3 to 4 hours or more for an orgasm but when it arrives it only 30secs.....lots of it depending.....but to go more than 30secs I think is an Herculean effort......is the time that it takes or the length of the orgasm that's important??. I can't imagine a guy cumming for 60secs or more more twice in night. If that's what your ex did than he is blessed.

  • QLDtwo4fun

    QLDtwo4fun

    9 years ago

    I don't think a sample of three is sufficient to draw any conclusions. Try adding some experienced swingers.

  • bianca_dd

    bianca_dd

    9 years ago

    they manage without a problem so stuff their problem my greatest concern is finding men to give me orgasms lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I know personally for me there are a few different factors. 1:core/pelvic floor muscles . If they are weak it can my ability to hold back and control my release. 2:it can be an excitement things. If im anxious ,nervous or overwhelmed by their beauty it definitely changes my lasting time. So I work on all of that now - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I've trained myself to come on demand. For the most part I can but not perfect. I think simultaneous orgasms are the ultimate during penetration. Ultimately I try to make my sexual partner as comfortable with me as possible so if she can come during penetration and in particular missionary position, she will tell me when she is getting close. I love nothing better than looking my partner in the eyes as we both come together. When she tells me she is going to come, I ask her to look me in the eyes as we both come together. Then I will kiss her as we glow in the aftermath and talk about how amazing it was. She says, 'Oh my god, Im coming' and Im saying something similar with full eye contact. I guess as a man, being a visually sexual creature this is why I find watching her come so erotic. I'm far from perfect and to time it right sometimes I may have to tell her 'don't move an inch' to prevent me from coming solo. I only need 30 seconds or so and can start again. Generally this is after she has given me an oral just before penetration or is kissing my neck with little butterfly kisess (don't do it, I will come). This is ideally how it will happen but far from the reality. I've had many women come silently minutes after penetration and when I ask them if they are getting close, I get 'Ive already come'. Now I just feel like a pumper and the moments kind of lost if she cant have multiples. I also wonder if she is still enjoying it? For me communication is key but this takes a little confidence. I've never had an issue with that with my meetings from this site. Thanks, Jacky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    As many have said, it may just depend on age, experience, and nerves. I, myself, am in my mid 20's but have "trained" myself to extend the orgasm feeling for as long as I can. I'd hope that when I orgasm - the gal most certainly knows it's happening hahaha. Perhaps in general, younger guys don't have as much control as more experienced guys - I'm not sure. Perhaps it is as you say - just an unlucky run :p Just my thoughts :)