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Message do's and dont's
April 05 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
You have answered most of your own question selfless but it starts with your profile.I doubt that any woman will respond without first reading your profile....yours does not say much, so start with making it more interesting....there has been heaps of advice here about that. I agree with sextmlf,no babes,no huns, use the profile name until the woman messages back with her name.Personalizing always wins points,remembering someones name indicates you haven't sent the same message to a hundred other women. Mention what in particular you liked about her profile, enough to message her.Time and effort spent are always worthwhile if you want to be taken seriously and stand out from the crowd.Good luck x hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
I forgot to add,most women are guests,guests are unable to view restricted photos,However, they can if you allow ,view private photos, if you dont want your face in the public domain put a face pic in a private gallery.Women always want to see your face,all faces are different,cocks in pics on the other hand....not so different.
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RHP User
13 years ago
to me..just shows smacks of desperation !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I totally agree with your Do list Selfless - but would add beyond all - keep it real and let an element of oneself shine through in the message. To me thats more important than anything else - do that and let the rest follow naturally.Totally agree with SexyMylf - too often, i think, in the online space we can forget about the social politeness of human conversation and ignore the importance of personalisation and the implicit comfort it brings with it. This is all too important when we have so few senses working for us in online communications.I haven't looked at your profile, but i would go with Hesione's call on this on - from reading some of her other posts, she seems to have pretty good judgement.2b :)Just Chatting - All 20-12
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RHP User
13 years ago
no...... dont be any of those things...and dont be a 'try hard'...........just read the profile you are responding to, and describe how you feel you fit....not in explicit terms...but like an adult........and dont, please dont send pics of your fkin willy....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I couldn't have said it better myself Hesione, the whole cock pic thing, I swear I am in serious danger of becoming totally desensitized to cocks... you all have one, sending me a pic of your cock just lets me know that you are one!! Also the whole personalisation and introduction thing, tell me a little about yourself, as above, I know you have a cock and would like to use it... Have had some really good original ones pitched at me, they do make me look twice even if the person doesn't visually tickle my fancy, and they usually result in a pretty immediate response whether that be a yes keep in contact, or a Thanks, but no thank you. A considerate, respectful and well written message gives me the impression that the person will also be considerate and respectful, and not a total waste of my time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just sent your cock shots, and say wanna root baby? How can I resist? No really..trust me on this guys I cant help myself After all I am an old girl gagging for it, so after, you try the other twenty women on RHP try that approach on me. Its sure to work , you can trust me, my hymen is still in tact Read the Profile FIRST may save you sending a message. spelling and grammar are not a problem with dyslexics like me, but the wan two have some hot fun, wit a hot girl...gets me all the time try , Woman instead of girl try anything but FUN in your profile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Do Send Dont expect a reply then stalk , google thier picture , find out where they live, look through thier windows and follow them around buy some gaff tape , cable ties and some pvc piping... remeber to have the wood chipper at the ready Have a nice Easter Oh i think i ran over the Easter bunny he is under my car in about 7 pieces not pretty
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RHP User
13 years ago
I appreciate the fact that people seem to be responding as if I was seeking help but I was more just throwing it out there after seeing a few 'whiny bitch' messages about girls not replying. I do agree, my profile is light on in the details department, used to have an essay there but some people don't want to read through war and peace. P.s. Crap didn't realise everyone could see my phone number :-O
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow11' Do Send Dont expect a reply then stalk , google thier picture , find out where they live, look through thier windows and follow them around buy some gaff tape , cable ties and some pvc piping... remeber to have the wood chipper at the ready Have a nice Easter Oh i think i ran over the Easter bunny he is under my car in about 7 pieces not pretty Made my day!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Gotta agree with the ladies here! Stop with the cock pics i too am sick to death of seeing them - yes you have one but i wanna see a face shot - its a physcial thing primarily right? Am i attracted to you? let me seeeeeee you!!!!!!! And dont send me a message saying 'hi how are you' seriously what do you want me to say??? 'good' - then what? faaark like getting blood from a stone. yeah its about sex but i have clearly stated in my profile that i want to get to know someone a little first...(i know not everyones cuppa tea but...) 'just ask me anything, what do you want to know' - you tell me!! do i have to be the grown up and carry the conversation? Selfless i much prefer war & peace to a grunt in a profile - I need to know more than you have a cock and are willing to use it - stimulate my mind, then my body will follow :) Sex is bloody hard work sometimes! lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
rofl, pmsl and lol.... selfless lover, thanks for the laugh. You asked the question, and we all put our two cents worth in... if you don't need the help, then someone who does will see the post and get the help they desire.. anyway I'll call you and we can discuss if you like... lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Love it! - I don't think I have ever seen a more succinct "How To" list for getting an AVO against oneself :)Hope you are not referring to the cute easter bunny i have seen dotted around RHP - the one with her own sexy cotton tail! 2b :)Ready for easter bunny games - 20-12
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RHP User
13 years ago
SexyMylf and Saskia, I look forward to your calls and sms's day and night, ever escalating in frequency when I don't initially respond. Thats actually my ideal form of foreplay Saskia, isnt it funny how women can be overwhelmed by photos of genitals but men could spend their entire life looking and never become desensitised. Well boobs more than bits for me but we are visual creatures us men and love to look. I registered my mobile to receive notifications when I got messages, didnt realise that I also put it on my profile but all fixed now and hopefully too many bunny boilers didnt jot it down......I much prefer my rabbit fricasseed
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes it is funny selfless how the two genders differ in that respect (generally anyway, there will of course always be an exception to the rule). I don't think I am bi, I really do love willies, just don't have to stare at them all day...they can be rather funny looking (have always thought uncut looked a little like a dugong lol) - in saying that, I do not have a preference when it comes to cut/uncut end result is usually the same if its done right! Anyway getting a little sidetracked there... I would much rather see female genitalia, I do find it beautiful, very sensual and arousing. Even though I prefer to do the deed with men. Just wondering if other ladies out there feel the same way? PS. I do acknowledge perhaps this is something that I need to explore further...hmmm PS. My apologies if this is getting a little skewed from the original topic, have just been wondering about it lately.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Saskia72' Yes it is funny selfless how the two genders differ in that respect (generally anyway, there will of course always be an exception to the rule). I don't think I am bi, I really do love willies, just don't have to stare at them all day...they can be rather funny looking (have always thought uncut looked a little like a dugong lol) - in saying that, I do not have a preference when it comes to cut/uncut end result is usually the same if its done right! Anyway getting a little sidetracked there... I would much rather see female genitalia, I do find it beautiful, very sensual and arousing. Even though I prefer to do the deed with men. Just wondering if other ladies out there feel the same way? PS. I do acknowledge perhaps this is something that I need to explore further...hmmm PS. My apologies if this is getting a little skewed from the original topic, have just been wondering about it lately.A damn sexy woman confessing her dreaming of a female on female encounter...why are you apologising, guys dream about hearing this stuff! hehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'selflesslover' SexyMylf and Saskia, I look forward to your calls and sms's day and night, ever escalating in frequency when I don't initially respond. Thats actually my ideal form of foreplay Saskia, isnt it funny how women can be overwhelmed by photos of genitals but men could spend their entire life looking and never become desensitised. Well boobs more than bits for me but we are visual creatures us men and love to look. I registered my mobile to receive notifications when I got messages, didnt realise that I also put it on my profile but all fixed now and hopefully too many bunny boilers didnt jot it down......I much prefer my rabbit fricasseed Ahh so its kind of like the foreplay you have when youre not having foreplay? (to quote an old advertising slogan) Oh it sounds like heaps of fun to me. Perhaps we could just leave voicemail back and forth and maybe get off on that too to take it to that next level Oh well, I do have nice boobs btw but it if you dont answer your phone then I guess its all going to be just a visual thing indefinetely for you isnt it?And Im with saskia on the cock shots, some shots are better than others, same as some cocks are better than others. We are also visual creatures too and love to look at guns and abs and bums and eyes and faces and hair; all visual things in my opinion Im sorry but I cant boil or fricasee or poach or roast or bake or fry any wascally wabbits cos i just find them all too cute and fluffy and cant bear to think of them in any cooking utensil at all. Contrary to poplular belief im not a bunny boiler, ive never been able to cook a bunny in my life. I prefer to call it "researching" someone he he. Oh boo, you must have written down my number wrong as I do not have a single message ;-) What you mean you cant cook a rabbit? I'm a vego and even I cook the little critters. Doing the native fauna a favour as they are a pest. I "research" people at times too, lets hope I dont get caught abusing government systems one day or i could in a bit of trouble haha
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
If the girls were 100% honest they will tell you and any other guy that if the guy is a spunk and has a killer smile and abs you can bounce a 20 cent piece off? He will get the reply EVERY time no matter what is in his message...No matter how many typo's he makes and even if can't spell "suk me nutz babie"! . Alot of the females on here are only here to get the attention they wouldn't get in real life and ignore all messages as she thinks that she is hotter than what she is! She thinks that because the women far outnumber the men that she has the right NOT to reply to a message or open the message even though there are "Quick Replies" put in place by RHP...and even though she hasn't spent a cent to be on this site but guys fork out their hard earned cash to meet people and have fun or just make some new friends! Now, before all you girls with PMS or going through Menopause have a go at me...I am saying "alot" not all women! We, the women of the Forums know who are the genuine ones and who aren't on here... . My honest opinion is if a woman on here doesn't have a certain percentage of replying to messages then her profile should be closed down until she pays a membership of some kind! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
If a guy who messages has not taken the time to read your profile, or write a message intended for you then why are you obliged to respond. Paying or not paying for your membership is irrelevant. Flirts are much the same. 'Please message me I'm keen' gets about the same reaction as would a guy who asked the barman to tell me that he thought I was cute and would I please buy him a drink. By the way Funloving I'm sure you were only joking but it's not great for women themselves to reinforce the 'if a woman disagrees with you she must be hormonal' stereotype. Bx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If the girls were 100% honest they will tell you and any other guy that if the guy is a spunk and has a killer smile and abs you can bounce a 20 cent piece off? He will get the reply EVERY time no matter what is in his message...No matter how many typo's he makes and even if can't spell "suk me nutz babie"! . Alot of the females on here are only here to get the attention they wouldn't get in real life and ignore all messages as she thinks that she is hotter than what she is! She thinks that because the women far outnumber the men that she has the right NOT to reply to a message or open the message even though there are "Quick Replies" put in place by RHP...and even though she hasn't spent a cent to be on this site but guys fork out their hard earned cash to meet people and have fun or just make some new friends! Now, before all you girls with PMS or going through Menopause have a go at me...I am saying "alot" not all women! We, the women of the Forums know who are the genuine ones and who aren't on here... . My honest opinion is if a woman on here doesn't have a certain percentage of replying to messages then her profile should be closed down until she pays a membership of some kind! Hugs...xFunlovingx just wanted to add a little to this comment by 'funloving'... ....nice post toothe men far out numbering the women scenario is a funny one for me, it's a constant factor too and will never change.there's obviously a lot of pressure on guys to please the pants off the ladies straight off the bat.... and fair enough, you have options. i understand you get inundated with cock shots and one liners and so on.......... but there's nice guys out there too that maybe dyslexic or shy... messaging is a very limited way of getting to know someone, especially when it hasn't been given a chance to develop.... words in msg form can sometimes get lost in translation i thinkdo you think our judgement can be clouded, because of preconceived thoughtsour thoughts can get in the way sometimes, for both men and women..... *just me musing* signed 'good intentions'
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RHP User
13 years ago
Funloving! - totalled loved your post. Really fresh and honest. TY. I totally agree that female members should aim to reply more - but i think it also due to the RHP Guest privileges settings.To me, if female members messaged more men initially - it could lead to a higher average quality of M2F messages.Since many female members are quests this means they have, I believe, 1 free message a week - I think female quests should have a higher quota set.In return - male guests should get 1 free message a week. (Note to RHP Pple: I promise to only use it for good ;) )2b :)Working for the people - 20-12
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RHP User
13 years ago
I really enjoyed your wander ;)And I'm totally with you all the way on seeing female genitalia's intrinsic beauty - each and every facet....and they are even more delicious in person.....let me tell you ;)PS Yes! i think you should...2b :)Admiring - 20-12
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RHP User
13 years ago
no girls seem keen on me whatever i write, im about to give up
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've turned down insanely gorgeous guys because they were looking for someone other than the person I know I am. Why waste time just because someone has a pretty face? I despise any guy who calls me "babe" or "hun". Especially when they're half my age!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think I'm slightly different to the other girls posting here. I actually like cock pictures. However guys, please don't take this as an invitation to message me pics of your cocks - I already get a lot of that thanks. I'm a paid up member so I'll message you if I'm interested in seeing your cock or fucking you.And while I try to reply to all my messages, sometimes there are just too many and it's like a full time job getting back to everyone. I reply to guys who have bothered to read my profile, or even just my user name - I had one guy message me saying "Great Eyes" when my username is GREY Eyes and I have a boob pic as my profile picture. I was like, WTF, what do I even say to this guy? Then you get these other guys who are like decades outside my age range and still message. Or the ones who live across the country sending a flirt asking me to message them?? Again, I try to be polite but after a while it's pretty annoying.
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
Usually because they:a) haven't read the profileb) send boring messagesc) haven't read the profiled) don't answer the questions I ask them ande) haven't read the profileI also hate being called "hun" or "babe" (especially if the person has never spoken to me before). I don't expect submissions for a literary award, but all the guys seems to use the same words to describe themselves: easy-going, fun, fit, out-doorsie, blah blah blah. You read one and you have read them all.I include "tips" in our profile for those wanting to message us (but so far nobody has followed them):- Generic profiles (especially the RHP-generated ones) wont get you anywhere here. - If you can't be more specific than "fun people" (in your 'looking for' section) then you wont have much luck with us. - Whilst MS appreciates people who don't beat-around-the-bush, straight-up requests for sex without ackowledging that there is more to us than our sex organs will not be successful. I once had a guy complain that is was worse than applying for a job. Well, I'm sorry but my time is limited and if I'm going to go to the effort of meeting somebody then I at least want to be sure we have something to talk about!Cheers,MS Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' I've turned down insanely gorgeous guys because they were looking for someone other than the person I know I am. Why waste time just because someone has a pretty face? I despise any guy who calls me "babe" or "hun". Especially when they're half my age!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I include "tips" in our profile for those wanting to message us (but so far nobody has followed them): end quote. Perhaps you should supply a cut and paste Pro Forma version for them to cut and paste....lolCheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If the girls were 100% honest they will tell you and any other guy that if the guy is a spunk and has a killer smile and abs you can bounce a 20 cent piece off? He will get the reply EVERY time no matter what is in his message...No matter how many typo's he makes and even if can't spell "suk me nutz babie"! . Alot of the females on here are only here to get the attention they wouldn't get in real life and ignore all messages as she thinks that she is hotter than what she is! She thinks that because the women far outnumber the men that she has the right NOT to reply to a message or open the message even though there are "Quick Replies" put in place by RHP...and even though she hasn't spent a cent to be on this site but guys fork out their hard earned cash to meet people and have fun or just make some new friends! Now, before all you girls with PMS or going through Menopause have a go at me...I am saying "alot" not all women! We, the women of the Forums know who are the genuine ones and who aren't on here... . My honest opinion is if a woman on here doesn't have a certain percentage of replying to messages then her profile should be closed down until she pays a membership of some kind! Hugs...xFunlovingx just wanted to add a little to this comment by 'funloving'... ....nice post toothe men far out numbering the women scenario is a funny one for me, it's a constant factor too and will never change.there's obviously a lot of pressure on guys to please the pants off the ladies straight off the bat.... and fair enough, you have options. i understand you get inundated with cock shots and one liners and so on.......... but there's nice guys out there too that maybe dyslexic or shy... messaging is a very limited way of getting to know someone, especially when it hasn't been given a chance to develop.... words in msg form can sometimes get lost in translation i thinkdo you think our judgement can be clouded, because of preconceived thoughtsour thoughts can get in the way sometimes, for both men and women..... *just me musing* signed 'good intentions' I am one of the shy guys and a little dyslexic.do my best with spelling and grammer but I never know what to say in a message but lucky for me, most never get replied too.i surf profiles a lot and use the message and flirt system to know avail and have been blocked several times just for looking at the profile.To me it just seems like being a single male in here , we are judge with out even speaking two words. (just just how i think )even trying to say hello in a chat room can be hard in here.
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