M36
Message read... But no reply?
October 05 2012
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uneventful
12 years ago
Unfortunately my dear man ... is the life of the internet .. and the lack of manners and decorum of some members .. It doesn't take that much out of anyone's life to send a two Minuit reply .. but some just cannot be bothered ..
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RHP User
12 years ago
The answer is .....later, I'm might reply later! Maybe the answer WAS no. A silent NO! Maybe the message was not worth answering.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have to make yourself stand out, yes they may read your message but if it does nothing for them although it would be polite to reply they have no reason to do so. The fact is there is probably at least 10 or 20 guys to every "female" on here so the chances of getting a reply are low at best to start with
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RHP User
12 years ago
Old after a while, but what the hell?? Ok youngin, listen up. The dynamics of sites such as this and others irrespective of intention(which means be it for sex or a relationship) is that it gives people a wider range of choice. It gives us exposure to more than just our local pickup points in other words. Therefore, also increasing the requirement to be selective, very selective. After all if you we're buying a car, do you buy the first one you see in your local car dealer, when you have a range of search engines on the net to search for your dream car at less expense?? I thought not. Discard your expectations, as it will lead to disappointment. Oh, and just one more thing, us guys outnumber the females by about 3:1. If they don't like something about your message or your profile you're not going to get a reply.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I recommend you search the forums using advanced search if need be - you'll see this question has been asked and answered a number of times. It usually provokes divided opinion. My view - I have no obligation to reply to anyone, and silence is a reply anyway ... it means no thanks.
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RHP User
12 years ago
jake_1 :-D I agree with your statement ;D
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RHP User
12 years ago
one or all of the following....lazy,just not into you,inundated with soo many messages their heads are spinning,think that no reply is better than an outright rejection or they might not be who they say they are ....in other words FAKE
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RHP User
12 years ago
Welcome to the life of the Swingers sites. They are all the same and this is quite paramount, you just have to go "Oh well" and move on.
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Hanna_ybbn
12 years ago
Ok, just like Hardtruckin said really AND - a lot, yes A LOT of people send messages saying 'I liked your profile, would you like to chat sometime?'Obviously the profile was not read. That's where my logic kicks in and time-management skills too - they get filed into the trash folder Ok, get over it, there's plenty of others out there! Hann xxxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like the others this is one of the most popular topics. Its just human behaviour in general. Best thing is don't expect anything from others and stick to your own path. The positive thing is at least you're having a go and its better to try with no result than be left wondering what if.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I personally forget to reply sometimes but not through rudeness just genuinely self distracted that by the time I get back to it I feel completely rude and really am not sure what to say half the time. The ones I do not reply to on purpose are the out right ridiculous 'come suck me off now baby', I mean if your going to waste a message at least make it something worth while to read or heck use some imagination.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mate it's all part of the fun on RHP. As Dennis Leary says, "life sucks......get a fucking helmet" that always makes me feel better :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Such as this , seem to be that "real world" manners are not required. It takes me probably 10/15 sec to hit a "no thank you" template reply and if someone has spent time on their message , I'll add a personal note. (Moronic lewd messages are ignored though) I think its just a courteous thing. I don't understand why it seems to be an accepted practice to just ignore people on here. Yeah yeah I know you're all "so popular" you couldn't possibly reply to them all. Phht! Sjf , sorry honey that's the way it is on here. Do try and make your messages stand out as others have suggested :) Minxy x
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Almost_Ready
12 years ago
Hair pulling! Its in your profile under fettish, just drop that & your responses will increase by at least 21.3%... I mean seriously ... I did that when i was in primary school!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find that some times I don't know what to say in reply, there has been a message left with a statement rather than a question. Half of the time I say to myself what the hell am I supposed to reply to that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jake_1' You have to make yourself stand out, yes they may read your message but if it does nothing for them although it would be polite to reply they have no reason to do so. The fact is there is probably at least 10 or 20 guys to every "female" on here so the chances of getting a reply are low at best to start withmake it worth replying to. saying "hi how are you tonight" never gets a reply out of me. I'm one of those read but not replying types.
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RHP User
12 years ago
What I don't understand is getting a flirt, message or a couple replies and then nothing. The person has shown an interest and then goes away? Do you pursue that person? Did you say something that accidentally offend them? Humour can be hard to show in this medium and personally I dislike using smilie faces, I do if I'm being cheeky so the recipient gets where I'm coming from but otherwise it feels like I'm insulting the other persons intelligence by pointing out I was making a joke. Yes I'm a newbie to this site, but if I've started a conversation with someone, its because i want to know more about them. If i don't like what I'm hearing, I'll just say that i enjoy the chat but it's not going any further. It's not that hard.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For whatever the reason they have for not getting back to you, it's simply is what it is. Inundation of emails from guys that don't compel them to reply. They've said next, and so should you.
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
not sure if you do but make sure you read the couples/single ladies profile well to see if they are actually looking for single guys.. alot of profiles will mention no single guys or similliar .. im pretty sure alot of these will just ignore you if you contact them. also , alot of profiles get dozens of single guys contacting them , its alot of work replying to all of them as you can imagine.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I replied to all of your messages. Cant see them now it was that long ago. But it would have been interesting to see the content of them so mees could make a more formulated answer as to why you are having this problem.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is a bit frustrating but that's the nature of the beast unfortunately. It's all been said already but I will say this, in my opinion the first message should just be a friendly hello and go from there. But that doesn't seem popular, but then if you get straight to the point of why you're contacting them you're viewed as a sleazy so and so. How does one stand out if there is nothing to base your message on other than some sexual preferences and stuff all else? There is one profile in particular that was fantastic though, it said everything that needed to be in a profile which would allow a guy to really sink his teeth into a message. I'd like to mention her by name so others get a clue but out of respect I won't.
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71'What I don't understand is getting a flirt, message or a couple replies and then nothing. The person has shown an interest and then goes away? Do you pursue that person? Did you say something that accidentally offend them? Humour can be hard to show in this medium and personally I dislike using smilie faces, I do if I'm being cheeky so the recipient gets where I'm coming from but otherwise it feels like I'm insulting the other persons intelligence by pointing out I was making a joke. Yes I'm a newbie to this site, but if I've started a conversation with someone, its because i want to know more about them. If i don't like what I'm hearing, I'll just say that i enjoy the chat but it's not going any further. It's not that hard. your not alone with that one . We have received many winks and messages and 99% of the time when we reply we never hear of them again lol .. Im pretty sure there are many reasons why, could be that they were on the piss and horny sent dozens of flirts then forgot the nxt day lol i know weve done that to .. but, it does leave us wondering if we should keep trying to contact them? or just wait and see if they flirt again ? lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women on here are vastly outnumbered here guys. So a message like how are you? Is not only going to blend in with the other 300 odd other messages that ask the same question, but it WILL be treated,, not MIGHT, WILL be treated with the same amount of thought as you've put INTO writing it. Hence why you're not getting replies.
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Splicey
12 years ago
I don't always reply to flirts, but I always try to reply to PMs. Sometimes though I will read them quickly and not be able to reply for days, maybe even a week :(I think you need a thicker skin though if you're going to be upset when someone doesn't reply to a first contact PM.I'm picky and busy, so if the profile isn't up to scratch I don't even bother. It's difficult though as I like a good looking man, but due to the nature of the site not many people have their faces in their profiles. I'm sure I'm missing out on some good meat MrsSplicey
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RHP User
12 years ago
The intranet lol bud if your original you'll get that same response every time, Or lack there of. Your best bet, call them out! Make it stand out! Compliments never go astray either.. Good luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
The ones that shit us the most are couples that contact us first.....we send off a reply then NOTHING. We had that three times this week actually. I asked one couple after six days of having our headshots why they didn't have the decency to reply and they seemed to get a little huffy with us then blocked us........wtf! We didn't contact them they contacted us!We are well and truly over this site......just seems 95% are rude, inconsiderate time wasting wannabies!We reply to EVERY single message no matter how far outside our age range or what state they are in we ALWAYS reply......how hard can it be!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe they saw your face shot and changed their minds?? But here's the thing, if they stop messaging, and don't have the respect to reply with something for you, what else have they been ermmm withholding from you?? And would you really want to play with them?? It's also better to find out their ignorant, stuck up biatch's at the message stage then to turn up to a meet and have wasted more time don't you think??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hardtruckin........we totally understand if people find us ugly freaks and we dont have a problem at all if people tell us straight out that that is the case. The problem is they dont have the decency to let us know that......it takes 10 seconds to say "sorry we are not interested" We would must rather have a rejection than being ignored and have no idea where we stand with someone.It just seems like the right thing to do.And we must correct our first statement.....we dont blame the site, it is pretty good, its just the 95% of the people here. Thank god for the 5%......its the only thing that keeps us coming back. We have met some great people and had some pretty sexy times
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RHP User
12 years ago
The focus should always be on the sexy times you've had, and they should always outweight the bad. Yes it's disappointing for you that people don't reply, but don't sweat that sort of stuff, when there's more sexy times ahead to be had.
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RHP User
12 years ago
assuming that the message sent is asking for ( meet shag or what ever )i have sent message just to compliment some ones photo's, not looking to meet them at all , just a simple compliment and i would say it's about 5 % who say thank you in a rely messageManners is not used by many on the interent
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