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Message v's Text
September 27 2017
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RHP User
7 years ago
... a theory about this. You alluded to it in your thread title OP. I've noticed that when my profile shows me as being online, all I get are 'Hi, how are you' or just plain 'Hi' messages. My theory is that the person sending the message assumes I'm on line and will respond immediately, and start chatting the way you would when using text, messenger or kik etc. Thing is, just because my profile says I'm online, doesn't mean I'm sitting in front of the computer/iPad etc. I log on in the morning and check out what's happened in the forums overnight, and then most times I don't look at RHP again until later that evening. But my profile is still showing as me being on line that whole time. Thoughts?
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RHP User
7 years ago
...us guys occasionally suffer from the same lack of verbosity syndrome! If someone can't take the time nor has the intellect to construct a few lines of introductory text then chances are they will be about as a exciting as a bowl of luke warm milk toast. ElkeM a simple solution is to go into your settings here and shut off the part that let's others know if you are on or off-line at the time. It also eliminates date and time stamping. Of course it could be that the ''rocket scientists'' that send a message out that says ''High how r u'' have already helped make the process of elimination muck easier for us all. CM....who abhors text speak in any language!
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Supernova
7 years ago
But many have probably become that way, after sending out dozens and dozens of well crafted, articulated and respectful messages, and never ever get a response.... Some probably just play the numbers games and send out a shitload of simple messages instead of a few fleshed-out ones. As a guy, Many times, even a well thought-out message gets a simple "hi" response back (yes, MANY girls RESPOND with just a 'hi', which is even worse - here's a person who has read a carefully planned message and 'hi' was all she could give in return!) At the end of the day it can be annoying to get a message that is so lacklustre, regardless of who is sending it out. Just make some effort or simply don't bother I guess?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Your a premium member, do you practice what you preach?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I used to be fine with it when I was just doing hookups, but still fished for more from them in those first few messages. Now, I lose interest fast. I'm actually finding a general overall lack of respect. Adding to your comment, the request for my pg, when all of me is shown in public, most of the time, without me having seen them naked. Yeah nah next 😇
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry to hijack your thread but I just got antsy about a guy visiting Perth, because I felt like a last minute inclusion, but forgot that I bloody hit on him. God sake, I'm so sorry, you must have been laughing your ass off over that one. Just goes to show though how jaded and defensive/mistrusting I am atm time to take a break I think. So embarrassed. Sorry to hijack but there's no bloody edit button 😕
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RHP User
7 years ago
Them "Hi"Me "Hi"Them "How you doin'?"Me "I'm doin' good, how you doin'?" Silence.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
We have had our fair share of unimaginative and lame "one liner" messages. For us it shows either lack of intellect, or simply pure laziness and or disrespect, especially if it is obvious that the senders has not bothered to actually read through our profile wording first and has instead chosen to simply send a message " hot pix" or "Hi - wanna fuck". Perhaps it's a combination of all of the above and then also a a good dose of expectations and entitlement thrown in? They assume that just because this is a so called "sex site" that it is acceptable to say such things in an opening line? Our response tends to go along the lines of " Is that your standard lame opening line? Is that all you can come up with ? Do you walk up to people in the supermarket and say such things? If not , then what makes you think that it s acceptable to say them in here?" If they respond with a barrage of abuse, then we block them. If they don't respond, then we forget about them within 30 seconds and move on.
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Sawadee
7 years ago
I can't think of any female I know who doesn't say Hi... and I know a lot ? In fact it seems to me women use hi so much more than men.. Personally ' I say hello followed by the ladies name , but that's me. I don't suppose g'day or how u going would be acceptable either.. ? I'm sure there's much more to a man than hi ' if you just take the time to say hi back ?
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LoveMaiden
7 years ago
That's a good point you raise about 'showing' your online when you aren't engaged in the site. I still think more than a Hi is warranted!!! thanks for comments! x
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LoveMaiden
7 years ago
No thanks and believe it or not....I'm glad there is a guy out there that thinks in a similar fashion and i'm sure there's many more out there too. The brain is one of the largest sex organs, so i believe in using it. Thanks for your input!!
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LoveMaiden
7 years ago
I'm not too sure what you mean by 'do i practice what i preach' Yes !!! I do not send a message to any member with just Hi in it. For me, there's got to be a reason, or something in their profile which has 'sparked' my interest and that's why i contact people. I don't just randomly choose any guy, I"m a little more discerning..
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'jayme2' I can't think of any female I know who doesn't say Hi... and I know a lot ? In fact it seems to me women use hi so much more than men.. Personally ' I say hello followed by the ladies name , but that's me. I don't suppose g'day or how u going would be acceptable either.. ? I'm sure there's much more to a man than hi ' if you just take the time to say hi back ? Ive done just that. Replied with a hi..... And the l usually get a "how r u" Then I reply "I'm good. U?" and so it goes on and on and on. A normal convo woukd fake weeks. The deal breaker is when they answer my question and don't include a question. Then there is no reason to respond.! They can't say I'm rude then.Does one presume they would be just as boring in bed? Or should l presume that maybe fucking is the one thing they are good at. Because their communications skills are stuffed.
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RHP User
7 years ago
"Can I see your pg?" Drives me nuts too! Unless I've been chatting to someone for a bit already, in which case it's a fair enough request. I tend to open my pg's fairly early on in the piece, anyway. But most of the time, I get that request after I've (politely) responded in the negative to a message. Just face pics in my pg's, as well as some older profile pics anyway. Nothing more salacious than what's already on display lol. I actually got berated the other day by some guy, who questioned why I had 21 pics in my pg's when I'm only on the site for the forums? Cracked me up. My life, my profile, my membership, dude. I can do what the hell I want with them. To his credit though, at least it showed that he'd read my profile 😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
One my recent messages sent out was answered with "A". Just the letter A. Not sure if they started typing then accidentally send it, or because I asked for a response and that was technically a response. Needless to say, I didn't reply with further information :P
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for the tip, but people knowing or thinking I'm online doesn't bother me enough to make me want to change my settings. Same with the date, time stamp thing. And honestly, the one liners don't bother me all that much either, they're easy to ignore. My situation is different to most people in that I'm not actively looking, and my profile makes that clear. If people still want to send me a message, that's their prerogative. Just as it's mine to choose not to respond.
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
Im not that picky or judgemental.. if someone messages or texts I'll give them the time of day.. they may just be shy or something.. the fact they contacted is enough for me to give them the chance to chat and I'll judge them then on how they are.. im not childish enough to do otherwise. Unless they really dont tickle my fancy on other things like looks etc and in that case then I'll politely say sorry im not interested.. and i dont fuck just anyone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
7 years ago
My profile states I'm not looking for anyone atm and only here for forum in all caps. Requested not to send flirts or messages. So what did I get today? Lol. Invites for sex. Total disregard for my request. One guy even sent me message to be his partner this weekend so he can attend a swinger's party. seems like I'm the ticket to his fantasy party. I feel special. 😪
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Seachange
7 years ago
When I was actively looking, I just am not turned on by the bland insipid chat lines. When I was a paid up member, I would read their is profile a couple of times to see if they were what I'm after or vice versa. Dont want to my time and messages by casting the net afar and randomly. Having said that, I rarely contacted any man when was a member. Was not that interested with many men as their profiles were boring and many totally sleazy. And when their profiles were empty but have numerous naked and cock pics, well that just dried my love juices up in an instant. 😒😟
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Seachange
7 years ago
I forgot to say I do write them a proper message, perhaps something about their profile or hot pic that inspired me to spill the digital ink their way.
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RHP User
7 years ago
been guilty of sending hi messages but important to note some time went into selecting the smiley to put after it 😀
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Tall74nHard9
7 years ago
has piqued my interest I will always read their profile and send an appropraite message / flirt. If someone has put the effort into putting up a reasonable profile with most everything filled in and worded, I find it simply a respectable thing to do to give up a good message to them. Depending on how they word their own profile I will normally say 'Hi' or Hello' followed by their profile name, and follow with a (hopefully) well written construct to hopefully pique their interest too. I generally try to show that I have actually read their profile by referencing some information of theirs, as well as putting down my own thoughts. There have been instances where the initial information has been scant, but I will always try to expand by some degree. Tall
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RHP User
7 years ago
The absolute cracker for me is the first sentence (of their first message) sounding exasperated or relieved they'd finished reading my long profile spiel or short story lol What they might not realise is that first sentence can make or break your first impression. If I see "Wow, just got through your novel" or similar, I think well don't let me take up any more of your time 😇
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RHP User
7 years ago
Just rereading your comment re exchanging short messages, conversation not getting anywhere, funny stuff 😀 Well I think I take the trophy for the slowest reply time. I replied to a message today that was sent to me 2 years ago 😂 You know how occasionally one will slip through the cracks, well that must have happened. I randomly viewed his prifile, checked message history and saw his message. I messaged, apologised, said I was interested and joked about how I'd understand if he took 2 years to reply back lol I didn't have to wait 2 years 😊
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bonefide
7 years ago
Hotstepper85 nail it all down in one.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I generally always start a message with good morning/afternoon or evening depending on time of day. I make sure I have read their profile and put some thought into my messages. I find most of them never get read and those that do very rarely get a reply. Not sure what else I can do.
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RHP User
7 years ago
hi Lovemaiden - nice thread.I'll admit, I am guilty of both, as I have recently joined and am working on what women prefer here.I have said Hi, and I have also taken the time to introduce myself. Alhough typically I have old school values and prefer to introduce based on a peron's profile information. Equally when women have messaged me here I have received both. I agree wtih you though, I generlly think "hi" is lazy. And it also shows a lack of curiosity and creativity. First impressions count! Must make them cut through. We shouldn't fall into the immediacy and open technology trap of being slack
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hello all , short time viewer first time poster. I don't have any insightful input , just seized upon the pause in proceeding to interject my introduction. I like to say hello as opposed to hi , also prefer to say thank you instead of thanks, don't know why it just reads better imo thank you . N
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi and welcome to the halfway hotel 👍
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RHP User
7 years ago
New sheets please 😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’d prefer a genuine and honest question as an opener. Doesn’t matter how subtle or blunt lol. Inspire me - get me thinking about who it is on the other end of that message! “Hi” is a one way street. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Did you squirt on the old ones again 😃😜
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RHP User
7 years ago
Tell me if this is better. Hey there sexy lady,tell me do you enjoy slow sensual massage ? I'd love to give you a nice slow massage followed by my favourite,guess what that might be ?
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