Messages - the next step

June 13 2015

Well guys and girls.Your profile has been refined and nailed.You have had some interest The flirts and intros have been done.Things are on track for a meet or hookup soon. And now, a dilemma we all face. How often should i message? Dont want to inundate them and scare them offDont want to message too little, it might say that i'm not very interested.It's a balancing act that is different for every person. Should I add some dirty talk?Should I put some mush into the message? Couples I have noted, have different rules to advoid unwanted emotions occuring and throwing their relationship into turmoil. Do you have your own rules?

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    We don't want a play by play of your day.... Think that's about it really.... We are very strong and the only emotions involved for us are the ones being expressed on the night/day.... We love hearing about all the wicked ways you want to have fun with us ... 😝 not daily, but definitely a couple of times before we get to play it out... I don't mind if you're shy...but not radio silence.... Frustrating!! Love random delicious messages too.... 😉 Engaging in sexy word play is half the fun....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think ongoing relationships need to be maintained through communication. some couples want to communicate with me every 2 or 3 days. Others probably once a fortnight. I always send out one message every single fortnight to all of my friends using a relationship statement designed to maintain a friendship. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    I usually have only one active message. My rule is if that message doesnt come back i wait. Days, weeks. If it doesn't come back then l presume the other party is happy with the situation. If and when the message comes back, if it has a question i will answer straight away and if not, a judgment call of when to reply, perhaps based on how long it took to reply to me. I rarely send a second message if the other one did jot come back. I do not chase anyone..........anymore.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I've only recently joined back on here, so have no basis for comment currently. However, when I was on here a few years ago, I didn't have any 'rules'. If I read someone's profile thinking they interest me, I would send a message. If I received a message, and it interested me, I would reply straight away. So I had a few people whom I would end up messaging 10 times a day. And some more like once a week. I did however, have the same 'one active message' policy as you have. If they didn't respond, i didn't chase... So it depends on them, their interest levels, time availability, etc. And it depends on yours. I see no reason in questioning the regularity of a message. And as far as the content, in regards to flirting/mushy talk/fantasies/etc, I've just always been myself. If I feel like flirting, i'll flirt. If I feel like being a jokester, I will. There is no secret code to this, but I find just doing what pleases you works best. Not every one will like/love you. But the ones who are on the same wavelength, are the ones who are so happy/excited/lustful to get to know you, they aren't caring how often messages are being sent...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Don't you guys exchange numbers before/after meeting? Messaging on RHP seems a little sillywilly

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Slickz' Don't you guys exchange numbers before/after meeting? Messaging on RHP seems a little sillywilly Until after I meet them, and after I decide I want to see them again. Just seems a little safer to keep communication contained here or on kik until I'm ready to take the plunge. I like Annie's one active message rule.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Put your phone number out there too often, the thing rings 24/7. Guys probably dont have that problem but a booty call at 3am...........So I just use the message system on pie. Nothing else. That way, only one thing to check when you want to check. I have a phone for play meets in case of hold ups etc but careful with the number and it's only switched on for meets.Simplicity makes for a simple life.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I like to actually talk on the phone before a meet.you can only tell so much about a person when typing/texting. But an actual conversation and hearing their voice and how they speak, the tone, the confidence, so many things I will find from talking to them first.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Rules??? they are just something to break, and after two years as a guest I can not send messages and found it is easier to just wait for them to message me. Then I have a rule, treat me like a human and I may reply.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Slickz' Don't you guys exchange numbers before/after meeting? Messaging on RHP seems a little sillywilly I don't give my number out. I message on Wickr or here. I can get a feel of the other person's personality with the way the messages go. Back to OP, I don't generally have a "rule" for messages. If the conversation is flowing, then, it flows.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Any_Whichway' Put your phone number out there too often, the thing rings 24/7. Guys probably dont have that problem but a booty call at 3am...........So I just use the message system on pie. Nothing else. That way, only one thing to check when you want to check. I have a phone for play meets in case of hold ups etc but careful with the number and it's only switched on for meets.Simplicity makes for a simple life. Definitely no 3am booty calls! hahaha. Fair enough.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Don't play stupid games like not answering for a couple of days to "keep them keen" It's not hard to work out if your playing games, just be straight up and grown up.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Slickz' Quoting 'Any_Whichway' Put your phone number out there too often, the thing rings 24/7. Guys probably dont have that problem but a booty call at 3am...........So I just use the message system on pie. Nothing else. That way, only one thing to check when you want to check. I have a phone for play meets in case of hold ups etc but careful with the number and it's only switched on for meets.Simplicity makes for a simple life. Definitely no 3am booty calls! hahaha. Fair enough. But if it was you calling...........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I will message as the connection appears to be, you can generally sense if the other is up for long chats, short hellos or flirting and if you miss those cues quite often you will miss out on taking things to the next step. I don't give or ask for numbers as I wait for a woman to be comfortable in that herself and ask me for mine or give me theirs. I also agree with keeping messages here on RHP what is the difference from chat elsewhere to here. If things are looking to be taken further my email will be offered, accepted or refused it does not matter.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Have a fear of meeting and they sound like frank spencer or something. 😳

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    :) - Posted from rhpmobile