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"Mindblowing" sex: what makes it such?
February 28 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
definitely all of what you said, a combination of lead up connection, I need a guy to be able to 'talk the talk' as well as 'walk the walk'. On a purely physical level, once the build up has me ready to jump his bones, then I need him to be present if that makes sense, and to let himself go. I do and I need my partner to not hold back. I love kissing, the first kiss and first touch of the body yum, I love that. Oral giving and receiving is very important, but again, it has to have passion behind it. I like to be dominated, even through text prior to meeting, I like to be controlled lol encounters can be all oral, one long term partner, I can't remember ever doing anything else, but it's off the planet good for both of us. Good oral skills and fingering make me squirt and I'm not satisfied if it's just once, I'm greedy but a guy who is experienced with it, can repeat over and over, before I turn to him, then I get more turned on lol and get there again, a win win With penetration, I hate the guy being on top, unless he heaves me up in the air and we do that slow in and out, watching, you know, that's hot. Otherwise, banging me from behind, something about the dominance and control that I love, but also the feel of it, it feels amazing. And for some strange reason, I like being squeezed into a small space with a tall guy, in a car or whatever, bodies seem to connect better, I don't know, just like it Giving oral though is what I love, it gets me off, I drool thinking of the first contact. That's only scratching the surface but don't want to write a novel. There's all the fantasies but won't start on them
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RHP User
9 years ago
sometimes its the connection / how well you know someone that makes it mind blowing other times you can be strangers but there's just this in explainable knowledge of what each other wants and it its just .. ahhh :) regardless of either situation taking time is always always a good thing!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think it's just the alignment of the stars and my hormone levels... I had a lover for a while who kind of irritated me a little, but damn...! The sexual chemistry we had was explosive. One night he came over and we chatted in my kitchen while I made him some tea, while I was finishing up he came and stood right behind me and wrapped his arms around my waist and bit into the spot where my neck meets my shoulder..... I don't know what happened but it was like it flipped a switch in me.... I won't go into all the things we did in between the kitchen and my bed, but I ended up having one of the best sexual experiences of my life. When I climaxed I thought I might die from the overwhelming pleasure of it.... Was it based on connection? No. It was based on good sexual chemistry, a weak spot on my neck and the amazing thing that happens sometimes when two bodies are totally in tune with each other.
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RHP User
9 years ago
for me it's about balance.... Like a damn good coffee...balancing the bitter and the sweet.... And there's never going to be a one size fits all rule... ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
9 years ago
I think for me, what elevates sex to a level that makes my scalp tingle, my feet turn chilly cold (as blood is diverted to other more important areas, ahem!) and my legs cramp up, is the feeling that the man loves me and that it isn't just a mechanical you-please-me-and-I'll-please-you-back mutual arrangement. Sadly, the last time I had such transcendental sex was too long ago. When he stood behind me, took over my brush and combed my hair, my scalp was on tingling overdrive! I felt as if my entire head was on fireworks! My ears became ultra sensitive, and I could hardly breathe as I felt wave upon wave of tingles descend from my head. And then when he bent down to kiss the nape of my neck and nibble on my earlobes, oh my gosh... I could've orgasm'd there and then! I kinda just flopped backwards into his arms. As we kissed, he would touch me all over. That touch communicated, "I want you!" Undressing slowly whilst looking into each other's eyes or whilst still kissing. Kissing ardently whilst having sex. Ah... I've just unravelled the mystery of why I fell so hard for Mr Dream Boat... he replicated a lot of the moves that reminded me so much of this other guy in my past, but without the love bit of course. He reminded me of how awesome love-fuelled sex used to be for me. No good ol' Wham! Bam! or FWB or whatever you choose to call it ever came close. Love-making that involves the heart... that is what makes for mind-blowing sex for me. I think I'm going to retreat back into celibacy once more because anything less than that is simply not satisfying enough for me. I'm close to the point where I'd rather starve than stuff myself with junk food.
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RHP User
9 years ago
The connection The touch The intimacy The time invested a nice comfortable bed or bath or swimming pool...or secluded spot in a garden
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd use it every time! It all comes down to chemistry for me! If that chemical attraction isn't there to start with, I can't manufacture it, it won't happen! It's a look, a wink, the right thing said, being in the moment! Critical to mind blowing sex is getting me out of my own head space to start with! You can do that, well there'll be fireworks 😉 Mary xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Unfortunately there is a big perception, and I reckon to a fair degree it's accurate, that women in generate want their 'perfect man' to also be well endowed and if he's not, that wrecks the whole deal much of the time. Then the rest of what's on offer, regardless of how amazing, is mostly meaningless. All that '50 shades' type of stuff. Perhaps that a taboo thing to talk about. 8-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Once theres a connection, I love a bit of role play. From tradies to rental inspectors to photo studios.....the build up during the scenario is almost unbearable.
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
You will know if you have had it... It's raw, its real and emotional. I have had it a few times now. Something I will never forget. When two bodies join as one, (mind, body and soul connect), it's called "Soul Sex". It's exquisite pleasure, all on its own. Time stops. It just is. You'll know, no questions asked. 😍 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I disagree with you there. His cock size has nothing at all to do with sex being mind blowing. I for one AM NOT into big dicks (the literal or metaphorical kind). Most people here have responded to the OPs question with there needing to be a mental connection, a spark, a feeling, the universe aligning, this happened well before they see or feel his dick :) Mary xx
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
The foreplay, the teasing, the warmth, the caress, the escalating intensity, the crescendo of sweet pleasure.... ......but enough about masturbation.... 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
9 years ago
I'm afraid for me, I'll be blatant and frank - size does matter. I have been in relationships before where the men were appallingly sma... well, to be more politically correct, not well-endowed at all. I was not prejudiced and allowed them a fair go. Whilst they tried to do it with gusto, here are my brutally frank observations : - If the rod is small, the issue is severely compounded if the abdominal girth is huge. A small dick and a huge belly just does not work out, I'm sorry. It's like an obstacle against another obstacle... how do you ever get to reach the destination?! This combination really almost makes me cry... and not in a good way. - Stubbies just can't be as satisfying as truncheons. I have lost my interest several times in the middle of it and simply endured it. I just cannot get excited over it, sorry. - So many sexual positions are out of the question if we're working with small tools. The doggy is out. Deepstick is out. And when I do the cowgirl, I fade out and think of opportunity costs. I know that size is not something that can be changed, just like height. Different strokes for different folks. Since I've learnt my preferences, I've decided not to waste anyone's time. Unfortunately, like Hotwives commented, I've felt the connection and spark with guys before only to discover later on that it wasn't baggy pants that hid the lack of a bulge. I stayed faithful throughout the relationship but I was severely deprived and terribly unhappy sexually but because dick size really isn't a man's fault, I pretended to be happy and faked all my orgasms just to make him happy. That was the first time I seriously disputed the cliche that size doesn't matter. *"Average" is, I suppose, 6-7 inches. "Small" would be under 6 inches. The "small"s I came across were possibly 4 inches or under.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It just happens. There are times when the tensions get so hot you can't wait to rip off each other's clothes . At other times it takes a lot longer. As long as it happens , that's the main thing.
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me, a true connection can make the most tamest basic (vanilla??) sex not only mind blowing but explosive. It also helps if there's been a lot of communication beforehand and the time taken to know each other as good friends at the very least. Teasing beforehand to the lead up can also build things up and add to it. Being in touch with what you want and being open to try or share new experiences adds to it too. Being in tune with someone to know exactly which buttons to push.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well I'm happy to report after being on here for about a year, my view on size has changed considerably. There was a time, I'm ashamed to admit, that I'd hit the back arrow if the endowment wasn't under 7". Like I said, ashamed to admit that because now I have a VERY different opinion. I do still like size, I can't lie, it does excite me and I have a fuck buddy who is huge, but has lots of other attributes, that's not the only reason he turns me on. But by chance, I met a string of buddies who weren't large. My first reaction was to be honest, god, don't know how this is gonna go, but wow, they are amazing and I love every part of them, and that translates to how I lose myself in the moment when I, well you know, no need to go further with that, but it matters zero, if that makes sense. They turn me on, they're great lovers, the whole size thing doesn't even enter my head. On the reverse of that, I have had some that are awesome because of their size, obviously with other defining attributes, but the sex was different. If a guy plans on fucking me over the bonnet lol, been a while, could use one of them about now then size is a bonus, definitely. So don't despair about size, please, hone your craft lol and we just won't care
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RHP User
9 years ago
The sexual chemistry when all u think of all day is him and what u would like to do with your lover. When your eyes meet as he walks through the door and all u want to do is rip of his clothes.... Kissing him passionately. Throwing him on the sofa straddling him undoing his shirt slowly... Eyes burning through him with such passion and desire. No words spoken... Just more breathless kisses making u both aroused...u get the picture lol Hours and hours of passionate sex are things that make me go hmmmm Miss B 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
When you kiss there are fireworks. !! The foreplay is amassing that keeps on going on and on into the land of the big O over and over again ! and then you finally have sex it's that intense at the end of it your eyes are rolling into the back of your head your blacking out , you can't see! it takes you a good 20 minuets to regain focus after you just about to black out or black out .
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RHP User
9 years ago
Connection and chemistry - so hard to define, but inescapable. Someone who gets me - knows how to get under my skin - and loves getting me off. Someone who is willing to step up, and smile as I try to follow. Or lets me take the lead. Someone whose intention is heightening mutual pleasure - rather than trying to just get off. Variation of techniques - moves hips, rather than just piston styleThe little things - moving hair out of my mouth / half heard whispers / leaning in an sucking my neck / slowing down and running their hands through my hair / pulling back and sliding their cock where they're about to fuck me again ....
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RHP User
9 years ago
If I could say I've ever had mind blowing sex? MissBrunette - I've been like that many times, and then had fabulous sex...... But I don't think I've ever had off the charts/can't believe it/what I wouldn't give for that again sex? Is that bad? I love sex a lot and think about it all the time - like all the time! Maybe I'm too stuck in my head?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thats not true, although there are a few profiles on her stating that they want well endowed men. Ive had one that was over 10 inches...lovely to look at but tricky to manoeuvre in some situations, shall we say. I prefer a nice average size penis. Some of the most mind blowing orgasms Ive had didnt even include penetration, so its not all about the cock. It would be like guys saying they only wanted big boobs ............ Id be redundant!
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PurePeony
9 years ago
... and kokoflamingo, I think once you've experienced a 3-4" stubbie, you ladies might sing a different tune. Believe you me, it's traumatic. :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have once. The guy in question was one of the nicest guys Ive ever met, we had a fling then kept up as friends. He got married and had 2 kids, still looks great and I saw him last time I was back in Scotland. He knew he was small, but we still had lots of fun in the bedroom. It was because of the awesome person that he was that I didnt really care about the size of his dick. But its a different story on here where its very casual and most people are looking for no strings sex. It depends on your relationship with the owner of the dick. Since a lot of people dont seek relationships on here, I think thats why dick size is an issue. They want fun and a big cock to play with? But it comes down to personal preference and to be honest, average is great for me. I like BJs but thinking you might choke to death takes the fun out of it for me somewhat!
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PurePeony
9 years ago
That's an astute observation! Due to the nature of this site and the intentions, yes, stuff like size matters. LOL! People are picky because if it's sex you're after, your specifications shall pertain to what makes you think will make a great sexual encounter. It's kinda like you don't need a KitchenAid mixer to bake cakes and breads but if you are seeking perfect cakes and breads and you're going to make money out of it, then you might get picky about your mixers. Hehehe... In a real relationship based on love... now, that is a different scenario altogether.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Think I projected that wrongly...... For me, to have mindblowing sex, an average cock works best. If I had to choose between huge or small, I would take smaller. Probably in a minority, but thats just me
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do know what you mean and yes, been there, and it wasn't great. One encounter I had to stop, almost as it was beginning, but that was extreme, his lack of size I mean. Practically nothing poor guy, but he didn't tell me until the clothes were coming off 'I have a little problem' well that just pissed me off that he hadn't told me earlier. I was nice and tried to carry on but nothing to hang on to even so always check now before meeting a guy. Very small, same with very large, can be problematic, particularly without disclosure. I was referring to more average size and like I said, still love a big dick, pussy twinges 😘
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not relationship but pure sexual pleasure, if he knows how to work your nerve endings and get you to orgasm over and over, trust me, you won't give a shit 😯
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RHP User
9 years ago
...mind blowing sex does not make. As the owner of "more than average", I'd agree that there needs to be the connection. Doesn't matter how he touches, teases, follows her body's cues. No mutual mental connection, not mind blowing. Maybe good, just not exceptional. (Definition: Aus average 6", US average 5.6" That's length not girth ;) ) - Posted from rhpmobile
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